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my mom divorced my dad when i was like 3 or 4 and after that, i got to see him like 2 times a year. once on my b-day and once in summer when he takes me sumwhere. i really enjoyed spending time w/ my dad. i love my dad. sure, he made sum mistakes but i can tell he changed. but my mom and my gma hates him... and alwayz said mean stuff when he came to see me...it really hurt that i was the only 1 that really loved him still. he's still my dad.then my only gpa left died. then along came my mom's bf (now husband) who moved in w/ us when they weren't married yet. he was there a year or so b4 they got married. he seemed nice...i tried getting along w/ him but he was such a &%%#&!! he and my mom lectured my dad everytime he came to visit me and take me sumwhere. then after a few times, he never came over again...he just called or send me a card on my b-day...that didn't last long cuz he got lectured on the phone too...i never heard from my dad again.i knew he married sum1 else already, but it feels like he forgot about me and it hurts.. then my mom got married to my current step dad..then i alwayz hear them saying bad stuff about my dad whenever they receive the child support check from my dad...i cried so much the 1st time my dad didn't see me on my b-day or call to talk to me. i was heart broken and started feeling hatred towards my step dad. its been more than 3 years since he took away my time w/ my dad. and i still hate him...ppl dun understand y i hate my step dad so much...imagine if they were in my place..i lost my dad twice...then the worst thing is, i talked to my mom about how i feel. she yelled at me and said, "u don't care about me and MY life?!"...then she wants me to call my step dad "dad". i said i didn't want to cuz i have a dad and no 1 could replace him. she told me to forget about him and got in an argument. she got upset w/ me and she said she never liked my dad's attitude and she told me in my face that i was an accident. she started crying and walked away and my step dad comes in and says "now look what u've done" and walks away after my mom...i was hurt so much that i couldn't sleep. my eyes were bursting into tears and i couldn't think nemore...when i noticed, i had a craft knife in my hand and blood on my left wrist. it was only a minor cut, but i was still shocked in what i just did.i just forgot about everything and sat on my bed....then i just started having hatred against my step dad even more. cuz i can never forgive him for taking my dad away from me and taking my mom away from me. she was the only person in my family that i told everything to... i hate him. i can't stand him talking to me, i can't stand his actions and i can't even stand him being in the same house as me...i want to get out of this house...i wish i can start over and change everything...i just dunno what to do...cuz every now and then, fights, arguments and just little disagreements upset me so much that i start to cry all the time...i really need help...i dunno what to do....for once, i'm serious and concerned about what to do....i need help...
-salami (link)
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I know that I will never be able to experience the same pain as you (for my parents are not divorced) but you still can't blame your step dad and mom for their actions. I treat my ex-boyfriend like crap, and being in your step dad's position probably isn't so reassuring in his case. I have to admit that I wasn't too happy finding that my ex-boyfriend had found a new girl and both of them probably want to completely forget about your real father. I think that it would be best if you didn't mention your dad around them anymore because your it probably brings back too many bad memories for your mom and your step dad is probably just protecting your mom; however, you should get in touch with your dad as soon as you get out of highschool. 2 more years isn't too far away. I would write a better note but my mom is yelling at me right now and I g2g to a volleyball tournie. I love you asami! don't forget that.
~Joce
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i've had quite a few pets in my life nyaaaaa. o sry....kinda went chaotic....newayz, out of all the pets i had, i miss my rats. they died about 2 years ago and i dunno....for sum reason, i still feel like i'm missing sumthin...kinda miss them being there cuz they were the most sweetest little rats i have seen in my life. i have a little humpy dog but she hates me.... she chases after me and bites my heels!! ahhh! and she bit me so many times, i lost count of how many scars she gave me. yes, i love my dog...but i miss my rats... my dog also grew up w/ them...so its kinda sad....i've been thinking about getting another pet rat but my mom would prolly disagree and so will my stupid step dad i wish i never had. nyaaaaaaaaaaaaa. my little cute fuzziez...r gone...BEEN gone.. i dunno y but i miss them all of a sudden than ne other pets i had... nanja...
*~the clone~* (link)
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Don't worry. We all lose loved ones in our lives and some times we just need to let them go; however, you can always get new rats once you get old enough to move out of your house. If you would like to be closer to animals such as rats, I would suggest getting a part-time job at a pet shop over the summer. I hope you feel better about losing your rats, I'm very sorry.
-Joce
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Please tell me what you think of the song. It is alternative/pop so please tell me, i need a song for an audition and i might sing this
This is who i am, This is who i wanna be
I can be an eagle soaring through the breeze,
I can be a mermaid swimming in the seas,
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be,
And i won't change just for you, cuz i need to be me
Chorus
You always look at me like i'm who they say
And trying to tell me to be this way,
Did you ever think i may be too much
to do a certain dance (a certain touch)
This is who i am this is who i wanna be,
I'm not a supermodel,
I'm not your barbie doll,
Don't expect from me
A beautiful fantisy,
Cuz i'm already beautiful,
Inside my soul
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be
Chorus
Guitar solo
In the mirror is where she comes face to face with her fears
Her own reflections now fatal after all these years,
All of her life she has tried to be something besides herself,
Now she's someone else with regret
Thanks a bunch!
Lizzy (link)
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it's great!!! :D I love it!
however, this part
"I'm not a supermodel,
I'm not your barbie doll,
Don't expect from me
A beautiful fantisy,
Cuz i'm already beautiful,
Inside my soul
But this is who i am, This is who i wanna be"
sounds a little self centered. You don't have to change it, it just kind of bothered me. I hope I gave enough constructive criticism... ^^;;
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I've liked a certain guy for over a year. I know that he used to like me, but I don't know if he still does. Whenever I get a friend to ask him, he won't answer them. But he always stares at me, which is really confusing, because it's in a good way. Like, he'll smile as he looks at me. But his friend said that he doesn't like me that way. I know that I should just get over him, but it isn't that easy. There's no other guys like him.. He's the only nice, sweet, and funny guy at my school who isn't taken. It's all so confusing. (link)
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I am going to assume that you are still in highschool because you are infatuated with a boy. I'm sorry to tell you this, but there are many fish in the sea and even if you do hook up with him; most relationships don't last after highschool. I'm sure that he isn't the only nice, sweet, and funny guy at school but if that seems to be the case to you, then maybe you should consider making guy-friends outside of school also. Maybe get some of your outside school friends to try and hook you up with someone, or maybe even go to a festival where there will be people with the same interests as you. Expand your horizon; I'm sure that you will get over your crush as soon as you start meeting more guys.
~Joce
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dear, any one
one of my friend is a gay/lisbaian
person i dont think its tht bad but it goes alout against my religion is it wrong of me not to care even tho my religon says that they will not go to heaven at least thts wat my mom says but im 16 and 16 a very confussing age
*The confussed 16 year old* (link)
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If I were in a more happy go lucky mood I would normally say "still be friends with your friend because she is what she is and can't help that" but I have to take your religion into concideration because that seems to be the biggest issue that's bothering you at the moment.
I do not believe that it is a sin to not care whether or not your friends are homosexual, but as long as YOU are not a lesbian, I think that it would be just fine. It would be more of a sin if you abandoned a friend just because of what they were than to keep your friend who happened to be unsanctified.
~Joce
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i hate my life its a whirling twirling sprial of doom i dont know wat to do my life is filled with gloom my friend likes vodo i hate it i hate me i dont no wat to do they say to slit your wrist i say i used to i wrote this before to day wat dose it mean besides the fact i wanna die but i also want to help people but i cant if im dead but i wanna die... (link)
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If there's one thing that I've ever learned in my godforsaken life it's that death is not the answer to any mean whatsoever. If your friend likes voodoo ("vodo" I'm going to assume that's voodoo... if not then I probably sound stupid so please excuse me) you don't have to participate in it. Just tell her that you don't like it. Trust me, you don't want to die and normally you can tell when you have trouble cutting yourself. Even though it may seem to you like the world is spinning down a deep pit of despair, you're going to have to do something about it. Don't rely on other people to get yourself out of your depression, you're going to have to do that on your own. Think positive, smile even when you want to frown. Act happy even if you want to cry and you will start to fool people. Maybe even yourself.
~Joce
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Dont do what I do.
I don't cut myself, or physically hurt myself because that would be a watse of a good knife. I rot away from the inside so slowley and painfully, hacking my arm apart wouldn't make any difference. The people who want to be my friends, and say hi to me at school, don't really know what their doing, or getting themselves into. I don't want to be harsh but they can't be my friends, because none of them seem to notice that anythings wrong. One friend, just ONE person, seems to be able to look into my eyes and know somethings up. I don't even hang around with her that often. But theres been times when shes passed me on my way to class, and grabbed my arm and gone "There's something up isn't there?"
That person i cherish, even though they probably don't realise it. I spend everyday withsome people, and they never seem to notice.
I should be thankful for the people who care, but if one day i lashed out and hit them, screamed at them, hurt them..........wouldn't they just walk away? If you're friend smacked you round the face and called you shit, wouldn't you just turn around and go find someone else to hang around with? If you think you would still be there for that person, you need to think long and hard. I don't know anyone who would be able to tolerate something like that.
I won't kill myself, cos then I'll be just a statistic in the world. I don't want to be another number. That would be worse than staying in this world. And I dont want strangers sympathy. I don't want people seeing reports in the newspaper of my death and saying "poor kid." I don't want it.
This is my mind speaking. These are the things going round in my head at this moment in time.I love my family and my friends to death. I don't want to hurt them. I don't want them to worry. I don't want them to cry like I'm doing right now.
Some days I feel like crying, somtimes I'm too drained to do anything. Today i laid in my room and stared into space for ages. I don't know what I was doing. I don't even know whether i was thinking. I was in a daze, and I couldn't control it.
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I know that you said that you don't want strangers' support, but I'm going to suport you anyways because you're obviously not feeling too good. What happened, I may never come to know but I always say "put the bad things in you past behind you and never look back." You have so much potential in the world; go out there and make a difference. Go touch someone's heart, smile even if you want to frown, do sports, act happy even if you arent and soon you will fool the world. You may even fool yourself. Show love and effection to the world and the world will show love and effection back.
~Joce
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Hey guys! Sup?! I need to make a new screen name for AIM... any1 got ideas 4 me?
I'm a girl.
I'm 12
Write Back ASAP (link)
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what about happyQTgurl8889
~Joce
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My sister has been using my advicenator thing to ask questions, my mom saw them and thought that i wrote the questions. they were suicidal things and sexual questions. She also jus wrote one about the ratings, you don't have to answer that though.
Liz (link)
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Tell your mother the truth. Tell her about your sister being the ones who posted the comments and questions. She may be able to help your sister through her problems and maybe get her some suport
-Joce
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I'm a 16 year old girl and I've been really good friends with this one guy for about 4 years now. But we've only been friends. Just a few days ago he started hitting on me. I still want to be just friends with him and I've already told him that I just want to be friends, but I don't think that he GETS IT. What should I do? He's a really good friend, but nothing more than just a friend. (link)
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Tell him to back off. If he is truly a good friend, he will understand
~Joce
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My friend just commited suicide (link)
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I'm very sorry to hear that. Just make sure that you continue to live on knowing that you probably couldn't have done anything to prevent this. Don't be depressed and commit suicide also, because suicide isn't the answer.Your friend ruined their life but must have lived a fairly satisfying one in order to have friends such as yourself. Let us have a moment of silence in honor of your friend's death.
~Joce
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I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and now I just found out that he's gay. Do you know if he could be lying to just make me jealous or grossed out? I don't know what his intentions are... (link)
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Well, you could perhaps face the fact that your exboyfriend really IS gay and might want a change after breaking up with you. He might want to completely erase all his bad memories about his past and turn his life around by doing completely the opposite of what he had done before. Just accept him for who he is and know that he is doing what he enjoys.
If he isn't gay then just ignore it. He might just want to get attention from you knowing that most girls like guys who they can't get. That is the irony of how many minds work.
~Joce
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I want men to die... is this normal? (link)
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Although it may not be the most normal thing in the world, I also want men to die. We think the same but hey! "Great minds think alike!" ^__^
-Joce
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Do you know of any exercises which can be done to tone your thighs which can easily be done a home? (link)
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Do leg-lifts where you lay on your side as a fish would and lift up the leg closer to the cieling up into the air while keeping the other on the ground. Return your leg back to your side without letting either leg touch one another and lift it again in the same motion. Do this continually until you start to feel slight pain in your muscles. Also, you can do wall-sits where you pretend to "sit" on a wall while keeping your legs at a 90 degree angle
~Joce
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I have a friend, well I guess you would call her a friend, who one minute she'll be all buddy buddy with me and the next minute she'll get mad at me or give me dirty looks or even start cussing me out for no reason at all. I know what your gonna say, she's not really a friend but that's not my question my question is how do I get her off my back withouttryin to kill me or something.
-sick of it (link)
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Wow, i'm sry u have a friend like that. I know how it feels like to have a friend who is nice one minute, then suddenly hates u and won't talk with u for a few days. The best thing to do would be to try and sit the person down, and if u really value their friendship, and if ur ties are strong enough, tell them that their behavior is really hurting you, and that if they don't stop, you won't hang around with them anymore (if u feel that it's that extreme of course). If she gets the message, then hopefully u 2 can continue to be friends, and have fun together. If she gets pissed, i would recommend just walking away and not looking back. Relationships like that just aren't worth it. U shouldn't have to go through that pain, just to be a friend with her.
-AJ
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Okay, I do one thing wrong and where does it get me? IN A HOLE. WHERE NONE OF MY FRIENDS LIKE ME! I have 1 friend now. Her name is Ellie. See, I did one mistake to Sabrina. Now she is mad at me. Then all of her best friends which happen to be mine too hate me. (Sabrina, Amanda, Bella, Monica, Rosalie, and Samantha) What can I do to get my friends to like me again? (link)
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If you friends have suddenly turned on you then they probably weren't your true friends in the first place. They might not be the best people to hang around if they literally "hate" you. You might want to consider making new friends with a different group of people or do something really nice to your "friends" in order to make up for all your bad deeds.
~Joce
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All right, here's the picture. I'm a boy in 8th grade. Last year, I was a bit of a pervert and got a huge rep as one. That all changed over summer break. However, no one realizes that, and so my rep still stands. That is the only reason I cant get a girlfriend. And for some reason, I feel a need for the companionship, and not on the level of just friends. What should I do? (link)
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You can always tranfer into a different school in the same district as you and make new friends from scratch.
~Joce
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Ok me and this guy have been talkin on msn messenger for about a mounth or two (don't worry i kno his little sis) And we have no clue what each other look like now he wants me to go and meet him @ the bowling alley His sis says that he's kool and all and that i should start to date him and i don't kno what to say or do! I mean we both seem to like each other. Should i go with him, or just keep talkin on messenger?
Love,
!!Plz Help!! (link)
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Well, it sounds like you found a guy that you might really like. And if u do like him in such a way, then there is no reason why u shouldn't go on a date with him. BUT, the fact of the matter is that u don't noe who he really is, so instead of goin on a date alone, go to the bowling alley with friends, and meet him there. This way, u can still meet the guy, but u always have ur friends to back u up, just in case he doesn't turn out to be the guy u thought he was. After doing a few of those kind of dates, and u feel like u truly know him, go ahead and do as u please with ur new bf :-)
-AJ
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should i ask my mother if i can have sex or not?
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No, sex is something that you should have to ask if you can do or not. If you have to ask if you can have sex, then you are probably under aged and not prepared so it would be completely unnecessary to ask. It's your buisness, not hers.
~Joce
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I have a crush on a guy who I call him jerry he doesnt like it what should I do.Should I say hi Should I tell him. (link)
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You shouldn't tell him that you like him, and you shouldn't cal him Jerry if he doesn't like it. If you do things that he doesn't want you to do, then chaces are that he thinks that you are annoying. I know that this may sound harsh, but you should stop doing the things that you're doing and start flirting with him. Only then will you be able to see how he feels. If he shows effection back, THEN you should tell him that you like him. Otherwise, you're just going to end up embarassing yourself
~Joce
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