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Q: my boyfriend and i are in love and we are perfect for eachother, we have so much in common and we agree on everthing.. well almost everything

the only thing we don't see eye to eye on is sex.
we both want to have it, we've been waiting a long time for eachother until we were both ready and everything. the only problem is i want him to use a condom and he refuses. he claims he can't keep the erection if he uses one. i want to protect myself from possible std's (he's had 7 partners in the past and obviously does'nt use protection) and from pregnacy because at this point in my life i am in no way ready to have a baby. his swares he doesn't have any diseses and claims he'll pull out ebfore he ejaculates.

what should i do?? thans so much

dont do it, stick with what you said ..
if he really wont do it with a condom then he doesnt really care about what your saying and he should.. and if he does really care about you, he will use a condom

tell him

NO GLOVE; NO LOVE
=]

Q: Recently my boyfriend and I had sex and he felt like he was hitting something hard. Then i put my finger in my vaginia and i felt something hard to. And the next day when i went to wipe there was a bit of blood. What could this be that he is hitting

it may have been your cervix certain times of the month its lower then usually, its happened to me before.. if it hurt? and it felt like almost a wall was in the way it was probably your cervix im not sure about the blood he may have hit it to hard or something..

Q: what are things you can/cannot bring on an airplane?

you can bring a carry on bag,
that has activities to do
like an ipod, book .. ext

you cant bring,
food, drinks, bombs

Q: ughh, you know what i mean. do you know any medication for this? please && thank you.

hahaa i don't think your talking about your car?
if you are then the person below me answered it if your not.... witch i dont think you are hahaha

heres a web site

http://firstaid.webmd.com/flatulence_gas_treatment_firstaid.htm

Q: 14/f.
There's red bumps like all around and on my vag, and i haven't had sex or anything, and when i shave, like they bleed. wtf is ittt.

its called razor burn .. you get them from shaving.. try using more shaving creme and lotion after shaving and make sure you use a clean new razor everytime and if there bleeding.. dont go so hard over them it will just make them worse

Q: What stores in Socal sell indie clothes for guys like band tees and striped shirts?

hot topic, pacsun, zumiez any urban stores go to a mall, theres got to be a lot if them there

Q: I can't really find anything online about this. But is it possible for the penis to keep getting bigger around age 17? I've had sex a lot with him and for the past six months, it feels like he's going in a lot deeper and it hurts to get it in [even if we have foreplay/lube] I get sore after sex and I walk a little funky now.. I thought it was because of bloating [due to periods] but it's been months and I'm no longer bloated. So is it just me?

it depends on when he ht puberty some guys are still growing in there early 20's because they hit puberty late

Q: I'm going to a sweet sixteen tomorrow and I dont know anyone (except for the bday girl)!!! what do i doo?! I know i should be outgoing and all... but i dont want to be like weird about it...

yahh. help please!?!

well im sure the birthday girl will introduce you to some people, and if not then the only thing you really can do is be outgoing and just say hi to people or maybe while your friend is talking with people go up to her and her friends and just jump into there conversation causally.. and make friends

Q: I get 28 at my ribcage and 30 at my bust. However there are no bra sizes that are 28. The lowest they go is 30 and that's already hard to find! I wear a 34A but I think it's too small.

if you go to this website it tells you what size you are, just type in your measurements, and if you want to try another one to make sure go to google.com and type in " bra size calculators" a lot of them come up.

http://www.85b.org/bra_calc.php

hope that helped.

Q: i have literially all of the symtoms of pregnancy yet i havtn had sex and never have.I got fingered 2 weeks ago i really dont know what to do iv missed nearly 2 periods. If i was pregnant then i would deffinatly have an obortion without my parents knowing but what are the effects of this? also do you taske a pill for it? and its over with?

if you have never had sex..... your not pregnant!

Q: OKay so i know this is a stupid question but i just wanna ask to make sure

So i was giving a h/j today and the guy jacked himself off while i got undressed (it was dry.. he had not came yet)

well he started to finger me afterward but he did not go in the hole... just like around it and stuff

so is there any way i could be pregnant..like with precum or anything.... like what are the chances?

btw i have never had sex or anything if that helps=\

your fine, theres like the smallest chance ever

Q: hey, thank you for your comment, but if you look at the dates, my last period was on the 16th may, i have taken a pregnancy on the 21st June, is it possible that i can be pregnant although its over a month and its still come out negative, i really dont know if i have done the test to early, or if i should 'listen' to the test as a negtive. the dates and the test just dont make sense :s

well you said your periods are regular right? well calculate when your last period was suppose to be.. if you took a pregnancy test after that day and it came out negative.. then your probably not pregnant.. if you took one before that day take another one.. . and if your still worried just go to the doctors

Q: I am quiet late on my period,the date of the 1st day of my last period was on the 16th May, i am regualar, i took a pregnancy test on the 21st june and its come out negative.is there a possibilty that i can be pregnant or have i done the test to early.plz someone help me, feeling a bit alone and confused at the minute.thank you for reading this

you could be, take another test if it comes out negative, it could just be because your stressing about it, stress can delay your period.. call your doctor if your really worried about it

Q: me and my gf are both virgins? can we get stds if we are gonna have sex for the first time since you only get it through another infected person and your body does not "make" it.

just to be clear,,i have got a lot of ramblings and redundant answers which I don't want.so I'm gonna make it clear now.

1)we have NOT had any previous partners(dont' answer stuff like,,,she may not be telling the truth,,etc etc.i don't care about that,i just want to know if two virgins having sex can get stds)

2)we have NOT had any previous oral sex partners

3)we have NOT had any form of intimacy with other ppl,like kissing,heavy petting,anal sex...just bottomline: we both are in our first love.

4)we have not used any drugs,needles,etc.and assume we do not have HIV in our body,from mosquitoes,,we are perfectly CLEAN.

5)yes i know to be a 100 percent safe,use a condom,but for now..i would like to know the answer to the question.

6)i know you can get pregnant without a condom.

thanks guys

from what you have described, you both are fine and no you cant get any stds from each other

Q: this guy i really care about and he cares for me
well. my boyfriend.
he lets me go at my own pace. he never pushes me to do things
but we've been talking about me giving him a handjob
and he wasnt being pushy really
he kept saying that i dont have to and that its up to me
so i finally agreed to give him one next week
and he was really really happy and kept saying how much it meant to him that id make a sacrifice for his happiness
well i dont do these things
and now i feel really uncomfortable about it
but i feel like if i tell him i changed me mind he'll be dissapointed in me

and i feel like i cant talk to my friends because theyre just going to say dont do it if he cares about you he'll understand

and he wont make me do anything he'll just be sooo dissapointed
he always does things for me
not physically, but to make sure im okay

i dont know what to do
please dont tell me that im not ready if im having second thoughts

i just

i need help
i think if i knew how to give one properly i wouldnt be as nervous
he offered to teach me (is that lame)
i researched some things online
but everything looks so complicated lol

any help would be appreciated!

don't worry! its not complicated at all your thinking about it to much when your actually in the position where your doing it, it comes naturally but as for your guy offering to show you, thats not lame he just want to show you what he likes, if you think your ready and you love and trust this guy then go with your instinct on if you should do it or not.

Q: 20\f
i would like to know if theres any risk in doing the girl on top of man position(riding) during sex???

i've heared that it could cause harm to the penis if the girl rides too wildly.. is it true???

also is it pleasurable o have sex in that position???
my bf wants to try it out thats y

its perfectly fine, no harm is done to the guy or girl! and yes its very pleasurable in that position, its in m opinion the best position

good luck!

Q: Im 19 years old and still a virgin and kinda want to stay like that but then again dont want to cause i want to enjoy my life What you think i sholud do ?`

of you dont have a steady boyfriend there your in love with you shouldnt have sex. Losing your virginity isn't something you should have to think about if you want to or not.. you just have an instinct that your ready or not so if you have to think about it.. your probably are not ready, and you dont have to have sex to enjoy your life

Q: I need help getting in the mood for sex. I usually just have sex whenever my boyfriend wants to, and so I want to start WANTING and craving the sex. Any idea?? Any help would be appreciated. I just need help getting in the mood I suppose.

Thanks.

you could try masturbating before or foreplay. If you have sex often you could be tired of it, if you wait a few days im sure you would start craving it.

Q: Does anybody know of any good movie makers that are free? I have Windows Movie Maker 2, but it constantly freezes & I can't get anything done. Please answer only if you know of any :] Thanks.

i looked on google for any link to movie makers but im pretty sure there isn't any good ones that are free, nowadays you have to pay for everything so i think the only way your going to get a good movie maker is buying one, or getting one off line but having to still pay for it, sorry !

6-16-08
jeeze i was just letting you no seeing how nobody was answering your question you dont have to reply back with such an additude, i was trying to help

Q: if you give head, and you've been eattin out are you still are virgin?

also, im a 14/f and me and my boyfriend are having sex soon for the first time. im pretty excited, but is there anything i should know.
dont tell me im to young, ill be mad :/

your still a virgin till his penis enters your vagina.. theres not much to really tell you except to relax and it might hurt a lot the first time depending on the girl