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Can you have spiders living in your ears? Or bugs of any kind?

Basically, during the day my head feels pretty normal, the occasional pain, ear pop, etc. But when I go to sleep at night and I put my ear to the pillow, I can hear my ear make little popping noises, crackling, even. ALmost like rice krispies. After a little while I can still hear the noises, but I notice that it feels like something is about to come out of my ear, as if whatever it is is somehow not attatched anywhere in my ear/head. At times it really scares me.

Does anyone else feel/hear these things?
Is it possible for spiders or some kind of bug to be in my head?
And is this normal? Should I go get it checked out.

I would go get that check out
It did happen to someone i know
& they had what you had...when she went to doctors she found out some spiders, 3 baby ones has been living in her ears DO NOT PANIC because it happens but it isnt a COMMON THING so dont worry.....please don't freak out or anything because it could be some fluid , water in your ears but definatley go see a doctor.
x
Im not going to lie to you and say that its nothing because i'm honest but there is something wrong

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Know i know this is sounds wierd but i think that the guy that i like, likes my BFF. He always laughs at her jokes and they talk alot. At lunch he tends to steer twords her. But he also doesn't tell her his secrets. But he tells me his deepest secrets, but he won't tell me who he likes.
But i feel like "unconfident" around him, when him and her are around eachother. Like an example is at lunch i can't really talk to him because i have this mind set that he likes her.

I guess what i want to know is if i THINK he likes her, should i flirt more and make him like me? Or.... Leave him alone and let her "have" him? Or... What else is there???

P.S. Did i forget to mention she ALSO LIKES HIM!!! Omg. help if you can PLEASE!!!

First off, let your friend know that you like him too.If i was you two you either vow that you WONT go out with him or you either vow that the other one WOULD be happy if he did like one of you
Boys can get in the way of friendships and i think you should talk to her about that and she dosnt want her or yourself to get hurt.
Well, I'm not a braniac but if he is telling you secrets he could see you more as a trusted friend but from what you told me...there is a chance that HE could like her.
Don't tell him how you feel because it isnt fair on your friend.I'd just talk to him & ask him who he likes you know how we are! we badger people but just ask him.
You MUST tell your friend how you feel and that noone should get hurt and both of you make a descion on if one of you were to go out with him ot not.I'd presonally not do that because if my friend went out with him i wouldn't be happy.I wouldnt be angry at her, but i might become jelous and harsh so i'd talk to her about that and just ask him who he likes....
Don't feel unconfident....because you dont know how he feels just be yourself and be HAPPY because THERE IS A CHANCE HE COULD LIKE YOU!!
Please rememeber he isn't owned by YOU or your FRIEND.So don't get all possessive and jealous..
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me and my best friend are celebrating our "anniversary." we've been friends for ten years now i want to make her something kinda special, any ideas?

Hey thats really nice!!


Maybe a photo album of you to with some nice sayings and stuff
A burnt cd with songs that mean something or some really good ones that you both like
A best friend bracelt or make one and put her name on it
forever friends bear and chain (i live in uk so im not sure if they do that in the usa)
A song or poem you wrote for her
if your very very creative get a big,plain jewelley box, decorate it and put some small photos of you to inside...then put some small jewllery in it..
just some random ideas
or get something presonalised online or something like a mug?or t-shirt
xxx

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ok so last summer i met a new friend. turns out her brother was a guy that i used to go to middle school with. so i went to a party nd he was there nd we were like staring at eachother at all times. so i started dancing with a few guys and he noticed and started dancing with some girls. a while after i noticed he was coming my way i was sitting by the way, then once he was close i stood up and walked away i have no idea why i did this but yeah i seemed like a totoal retart. a few days after he imed me i guess his sister gave me my sn. we bacame real good friends, after some time we like had nothing to talk about nd our conversations were akward. i told his sister that i liked him alot nd yes she went and told him after that things got even more weird because i was too shy to even say hi. so we slowly stopped talking after a while at all. its like we dont even know eachother. ok so one day he asked me to go to this party his friends were having and i couldnt go because my mom wouldnt let me 4 sum reason. but i told him i had other plans that night. and said "im not gonna let down a real friend for someone whos temporary". = [ now i regret that. ok so that day he hooked up with some girl and they've been on and off now he says he loves her but i really dont think so i juss think he says it because she says she loves him. and one day i was walking down his block and they were both their i hadnt noticed they were their till i was really close and i noticed he started makeing out with her so i would be jealous. so i dont know should i juss let him go out of my life or is their still a posibility he still likes me?

He probarbly IS using her to get to you, but he may have SMALL feelings for her but it is obvious he has STRONGER feelings for you but ask yourself this what kind of person uses other people for their own personal gain? Would you like to be with someone like that?Yes he likes you but is it worth it?Will he treat you or do something mean like that to you without you even realising?

I wouldn't want to be with someone who uses people?
Just my opinion but you don't have to like it
x & hearts

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Has anyone done the Special K Challenge? How did it work for you? Thanks!

Hey my sister did that & it works!!

You have a special k bowl for breakfast and lunch and then have a full healthy meal, with NO snacking in between...i don't know EXACTLY how you get slimmer on the waist & hips but it defitantly works.You have to do it for two weeks to see any difference and continue it on

hope i helped
xx && hearts

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I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish)

Ok the same happened with my bro.

Your parents are right.
For years you've lived with them.Your parrents pay for ALL the bills.ALL the food.ALL the clothes.ALL the birthdays,christmas presents and they have been doing it FOR years..and you couldn't work and there for could not contirubte but now that your taking responsibility, getting money you need to start giving some money for your parents, it's not fair you get money but your parents still pay for your food,your clothes,your electricity.They've done everything.
But i would compromise.Maybe you could give them a third, or less. Or you could buy half the food for home.It's rent!But if you do want to save up for something like a new top you can do that but no compromise will be made over a top but if it was an educational college fund, a house something big like that - thats where the compromise would be made.
I'm not saying it fair because if that was me {and it will be in 2 yrs time!}if would feel really angry , unfair etc but your parents have a done a lot , years work.Isn't time to give something back..its rent...if you were staying anywhere else you'd have to pay.Just because they're your flesh and blood dosnt mean you get it easy.Have a talk, compromise or tell them that you'll give the money but ask them if they could wait until you get a better wage.Its worth asking.
hope i helped.

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should i match eyeshadow to my clothes or to my eye color?


also, i have BRIGHT green eyes. what color eye shadows will really make my eyes pop? i love bright colored eyeshadow.

Thanks!

Use colours which matcg your eyes completley
I use barry m makeup it REALLY REALLY works itsbrilliant....
i have blue eyes and i know their colours really vary
theres like different shades of blue, green , yellowes etc!!!

Always use colours which go with your eye because if your wearing clothes say orange....you won't want to put that on your eyes it wouldnt look very nice at all
use all shades of greens for you
and also what makes eyes stand out if use bright colour eye liners but put it on your eye lids, i do that and people always comment on it..you should definatley try it!!!
Use greens,blues,greys and silvers!!!

go on to this site, they even have celeb reviews on the make up

http://www.barrym.co.uk/

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im 15 and my bf is 15 and his penis is not that big hes a bit insecure about it whats the average size for his age?

things very....
im sure there isnt an exact adverage because everyone is different....
just make him feel good about himself and that things grow in time
I am not a complete expertee in this area but what i do know is that everyone varies and that no matter what you should be there to comfort him..
besides you are his girlfriend and if you like him for who he his...it dosn't matter

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ps - try reasearching about it!

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im 14 and my bf is almost 16 weve been together for about 6 months i like him a lot and he's been pushing me to do more like touch his penis and give him a blowjob im not sure if i want to do that yet and im nervous if i do that hell want to have sex i like him a lot but im not sure if im ready yet what should i do?

Ok Ok

You neeed to listen to me

-First point if you DO have sexual intercourse with this boy it is AGAINST the law ok? and he will get done for it and be put into prison

You obviously are not ready.If you were you wouldnt have the doubts..do you really "love" him is it the same love your parents have/had ??
YOU SHOULD:
Tell him you arent ready..there are so many risks you could sexual transmitted diseases, get pregnant as well and if he dosnt accept this..then he obviously isnt the person you thought he was.Even if you were ready you are underage.You have your whole life ahead of you for all of this and you want it to be special ..you love him ok but rethink where the realationship will go...... im not saying it wont work out but what if he dosnt accept your choice and that your not ready. he SHOUD NOOOT allow any pressure or persuading..
Just tell him you are not ready for that yet
Me personally would dump him if he pressurised me or pushed me , its obviously not the person i fell in love with
boys get very hormonal and it is natural to think like this and is he wanting lust dirty sex or passionate i love you sex?
theres a difference
tell him
and see what he feels















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im 13 and i have a brother 3 years older and he can be a slob he room is messy and leaves the lounge in a mess sometimes and he burps and farts a lot and he jokes about it i find it a bit gross and sometimes he walks around the house in his
underpants y-fronts so i just go back in my room for awhile till hes dressed ive told my mum she lets him go sometimes how do i get him to be tidier and clean up after himself and not walk around in his underpants?

Thats a tricky one there are some ways you can try....
first off tell him how you find his habits disgusting
Sometimes it takes a bit of cunning and planning and jokes to get people to stop stuff.
How about inviting your friends around, maybe have sleep overs and see if it would change his mind a bit.....you never know he might actually be a bit tider if guests were around or if he developed a crush.

How about you going into his room, taking it into your own hands clean up the room , set clothes out for him...its a bit of weird plan but trust me i have been there and things like this can really really work.
Tell him he is really not tidy and he wont ever get a girl being the way he is
Tell your mum more that you really dont like it and keep telling her.
Hope I helpeed
x

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14/f
ok my best friend moved away and shes coming back to visit tomorrow. ill call her lisa. and im really looking foward to seeing lisa and everything, but recently she and my other best friend (ill call her beth) have started to talk again (they were friends before she moved, but they didnt talk after she moved) and they talk frequently over the computer and stuff and im totally fine with that. no problem at all. but lisa told beth that she was coming, and now i guess beth assumes that we're all hanging out. and im fine with that because i know lisa would like to see her a little bit since she told beth she was coming.

and i dont have a problem with us like going to see a movie or something. but i do have a problem with all of us hanging out more than once or twice for a long period of time. because for as long as i can remember, when i get into a group of three, im always the odd man out and the other two girls kind of leave me out and sometimes gang up on me. and im worried thats going to happen while lisa is here. and shes coming for a week and if something like that happens then ill probably get mad and things will be screwed up.

so my question is how do i tell beth (the friend that lives here) my situation with out hurting her feelings or having her think that she cant see lisa or whatever. because beth has a weird personality and gets mad at the littlest things. so what should i do?

thank you for reading my very long question :D
lynn

hey, you cant just go and say to her you feel left out yet when she hasnt even arrived and you dont know how the week will go..
If it goes peachy keen that is fine
but if they do leave you out dont lick their bums and suck up to them and act like everythings just fine when it isnt..you tell beth or lisa ..but it would be a wiser idea to tell the person who is closest to you, they will understand more or the person that you have known longer...and besides not off all that ganging up on you in a week is a bit far out but anyway if you do feel left out tell them

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I'm putting together a notebook with meaningful quotes and sayings. What are your favorite quotes and sayings? It could be about anything: love, life, death, happiness, sadness, friendship, etc. They can be from movies, books, famous people, songs, etc. Thanks!

Now I now you're not my fairy tale and dreams are meant for sleeping and wishes on a star just don't come true


“The best vitamin for making friends: B1”


If you loved her why did you let her go?

I hate that I love you

Float like a butterfly high in the sky

I am beautiful in every single way, yes words can't bring me down

Love like you've never been hurt

Sticks and stones can break my bones and words will never hurt me

And I know you're shining down on me from heaven
Like so many friends we've lost along the way, And I know eventually we'll be together. One sweet day


Not all scars show, not all wounds heal
Sometimes you can't always see
The pain someone feels


When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there

True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. False friends are like leaves, found everywhere


A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have”

twinkle twinkle twinkle little start how i wonder what you are

dance like noones watching

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.



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ok well i used to be a terrific dancer.. and i got burned out so i took a 3 yr break and im doing it again.. but im a lil rusty. i go to this very excellent dance school but my question is.. if i work hard n practice can i become good again?

once you learn to ride a bike you never forget
You feel your rusty but i gurantee it is still there
You can practice to freshen up timing and find new moves to help defintly but you havnt lost the mojo!
If you practice the routines and make up you own you will get better
A good way to get better is to record your own routine and put it on youtube and see the comments people make, put your video links on myspace,fascebook,bebo,msn everywhere!

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I'm 15, turning 16 soon. I weigh 115 and im 5'5". When ever my dad sees me he always makes a suggestion like, you shouldn't eat that, you're just getting fatter and fatter. And if i ask for money for new jeans, he says, we'll stop gaining weight so you can fit back into them. I wear a size 0, and i'm growing, what does he expect? How am i suppose to cope with this? It's been bothering me so much lately. My sister, whose 20, is like anorexic skinny. She's my height but doesn't even reach 100 pounds. And my dad always compares me to her. What am i suppose to do?!

Your dad definatley has a problem with your weight but what he is saying to you dosnt necessarily mean what he truly feels about your weight.You are definatley NOTfat at all, if you put weight on, it would still look good because size 0 is sooo slim...is your mum around?You need a female to lean on to, maybe an older female or one of your sisters friend or a teacher.
I think you need firstly need to take a look at yourself because you cannot be fat.And you need to beleive that you are fine the way you are, and tell that to your dad.Dont let someone break you down like that stay strong.I think you should find someone to talk to or confront your dad and ask him why he is being like this towards you..if you and your sister are natuarlly size 0 that is fine but if your not, i'd put the weight on because it can be unhealthy..
Or even talk to your sister and tell her how much it is bothering you.Your dad definatley has a problem.

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how do you protect only one page on piczo.

got to organizer which is at the top of your piczo website page or under neath your tab/adress bar.

Then on the right hand side it has the names of your pages find the name of your page say it's called "About me" and click on organzier underneath it.

then it will locate you to a different page.
On the left hand side it should say "edit page privacy" then click on which one you want

xxHope I helpedxx
{ mariahxxcarey.piczo.com}

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I need a song thats about a girl who is still in love with a boy who broke up with her which is stopping her from going any further with another guy.

Thanks

All I can think of is

"We belong together" by Mariah Carey

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whats the best love song you know?
Not a crummy old one but one that kids would listen to today

"Joyride" Mariah Carey
"Loving you" leona lewis
alica keys and usher "my boo"

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my boyfriend and i were thinking that we should have a song that's "our song". i've been thinking about what it could be, but i keep drawing a blank. do you have any suggestions? it should be a love song and it would be nice if it's r&b. if you think a song could be a song to remind us about each other, i would love it.


thanks.

I could write you a LIST but I will give you one and the music to go with it from youtube.
The reason why I am going to give you this particular one is because it is REALLY beautiful and R n B/soul

Joyride {by mariah carey}
You should read the comments under the video
http://youtube.com/watch?v=oiFsZlAXRMU

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i cantt think of a new screen namee. i want one with my name in it, my name is gina.
any ideasss?

Okey dokey

PwincezzGina
Babiie G-G
LookeyItsGina

G {dot}ina
g{I}n{A}
gorgous-gina
HunnieLykGina

Or what culture/country you from mayb for example
I{x}R{x}I{x}S{x}H{x}U{x}N{x}N{x}I{x}E

Jaw-DroppinGina
GotDemFellaz Gina
BeingGina
GiinaGal
BOOMTINGZZ{g}ina
got it goin on gxixnxa
Gg noez what it is
gee gee feelin cra ziie
IshDatGurlGg

MeetYoGenie Gina {guranteed to make yo wishes cum true}terms and conditions apply.Please read lable after purchase

Geniie Giina
Blissfully Herr
Herr Name iz Ginna Reppin {YOUR COUNTRY GOES HERE}

Maybe a lyric or poem etc
and fill your name in it lyk
"Gi-na Gi-na she reminds me of a west side story

Or what school ? example
GinaBleshingdemtrueppl @ yoUR SCHOOL HERE

hold{dem}true{ppl}tyt

HoPE i helped

sadie
xxx

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hey 13/f

all my fiends that i hang out with have all kissed a guy at some stage i feel really left out and stuff sometimes and they treat me like a baby..i just want to get it over and done with but want to like the guy as well
Please help me!!!
thanx mwa

You are only 13 for a strart, there is loads of time to grow up, heck I am fourteen and havnt had kiss yet and I am ok with that.
Dont give in to peer pressure just do what YOU want to do.
Dont waste your 1st kiss on someone you dont LOVE make sure its with someone you truly feel like "Hey, I really really like this person and I am fine around them"

your friends obviously arent as sensible as you and I think that you are doing the right thing, like not having a kiss or going out to get a kiss.

there must be someone who likes you and this is what is goes back to.Boys are that age can be only be interested in one thing and because they do not know what love is and there are girls out there who just want to kiss,they are going to go for the easiest girls that just dont care {no disrespect to your friends}instead of mature, with-it girls like you.
It is ok to be shy around a boy that you may like and what do you mean you dont do anything with them, you shouldnt be doing anything with them.
All of my friends have kissed and stuff but i havnt and I am fine.As long as your yourself there will be a special someone for you but you dont need one right now.
Dont feel like you just have to get it over and done with. it is a special thing and dont waste it because you feel left out.What will it achieve, 10 mins of fame and excitement with your mates and that is that and why follow your mates.
Kissing at young age leads to doing things more at a young age..what if your mates had sex?You'd want to feel you'd have to do it too?
Just do what you want to do.
:)

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