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visiting friend.
14/f
ok my best friend moved away and shes coming back to visit tomorrow. ill call her lisa. and im really looking foward to seeing lisa and everything, but recently she and my other best friend (ill call her beth) have started to talk again (they were friends before she moved, but they didnt talk after she moved) and they talk frequently over the computer and stuff and im totally fine with that. no problem at all. but lisa told beth that she was coming, and now i guess beth assumes that we're all hanging out. and im fine with that because i know lisa would like to see her a little bit since she told beth she was coming.
and i dont have a problem with us like going to see a movie or something. but i do have a problem with all of us hanging out more than once or twice for a long period of time. because for as long as i can remember, when i get into a group of three, im always the odd man out and the other two girls kind of leave me out and sometimes gang up on me. and im worried thats going to happen while lisa is here. and shes coming for a week and if something like that happens then ill probably get mad and things will be screwed up.
so my question is how do i tell beth (the friend that lives here) my situation with out hurting her feelings or having her think that she cant see lisa or whatever. because beth has a weird personality and gets mad at the littlest things. so what should i do?
thank you for reading my very long question :D
lynn <3
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Okay, well.. it seems like you friend Beth just wants to hang out with her for a bit. So you can all hang out together, but dont feel like your going to be the third wheel, because after all you are the one who had talked to her while she moved away.
If you really want to get time alone with your friend than just invite her over, invite her to go somewhere, or spend the night. You DONT have to invite Beth to come too!
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I would confront them about it if it starts happening and if they dont stop whatever their doing I would leave and call lisa or (the person closet to you)about the situation and work it out somehow, but dont tell them before she gets there
ok i hoped i helped and you can always come to my advice column and ill answer any questions you have ok -KrystalBT4T-
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Well, why don't you tell Beth that it has been a long while since you have met with Lisa and you just want to have some time on your with her to catch up, why don't you spend a few days with Lisa and Beth can have some time with her.
Just be gentle, if anything tell Lisa not Beth. I hope tings turn out well for you - good luck.
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hey, you cant just go and say to her you feel left out yet when she hasnt even arrived and you dont know how the week will go..
If it goes peachy keen that is fine
but if they do leave you out dont lick their bums and suck up to them and act like everythings just fine when it isnt..you tell beth or lisa ..but it would be a wiser idea to tell the person who is closest to you, they will understand more or the person that you have known longer...and besides not off all that ganging up on you in a week is a bit far out but anyway if you do feel left out tell them
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Just say you make me feel left out. They'll understand, and I doubt telling them YOUR feelings are hurt will hurt their feelings.
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