HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
XOXO
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my mom gave me the option of not entering high school. i really want to do that because i dont think high school is for me. i dont want a GED either.
what do i tell my friends? what will i do until im old enough to do anything (work)? (link)
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First off, I am going to say what every single other reply has said. That high school is very important, and that it will be harder to do things out in the real world without a GED, but it is possible. Though I'm not really for not going to highschool, you would still be able to get a job,and maybe an appartment.
Of course, the job will probably be minimum wage, and you will have to work very hard for a small appartment ((or to live with your parents and save)) but it is still possible. I know some adults with jobs in things like factories, and though they're not proud jobs, they make okay amounts of money, and they've got houses, cars, ect.
I would really reccomend at least trying high school, you are really going to miss school once you have to start working, and living on your own.
To tell your friends.. tell them the truth, or if you cant.. tell them you need to stay home and work. If you're too young to work in your area, try babysitting, cleaning your house, or other houses.. maybe work on improving a skill for when you can work ((you'll need all the skills you can get!!))
Good luck, and make sure you listen to all the advice given!
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my friends and family say im fat and they always tease me about it when im only 103 lbs and am 5'3. I dont think Im fat but everyone else does. What do I do? (link)
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you obviously feel comfortable with your own weight, so don't worry about what other people say!! That's a very healthy weight for your height, too!! Actually, I'm pretty sure that's considered thin. I don't know why they'd tease you and say that, but really, tell them to stop saying things like that. And really, dont let them get to you!!
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Okay, when I'm friends with guys, I can ramble on and on and be myself and not selfconcious or anything. It's just so normal. But when I end up going out with a guy, it's completely different! I don't know what to talk about and I feel so self concious and it's like I've become this awkward shy person. Knowing the fact that htis guy is my boyfriend changes things for me in a way that I don't kow. Anyone know how to help me get over this?!??! (link)
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Just think of the boyfriend as a friend, still. Most people have this problem, just remember, he's more like a BEST guy friend, lol. Make sure you still try to hve fun, and just really think of him as one of your other guy friends who you play around with and everything.
REmember, he's not expecting you to be all mature and everything, he shouldn't expect you to change, and he most likely went out with you because he liked how you acted when you were friends.
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For my science research project I wanted to work with animals that live completly or partically in water (like fish, snails & maybe small crabs) because I love working with living things. I want to create an expirement by using them as the subects. Thing is, I have no idea what I want to do. I don't want to test water pollution because it's been done hundreds of times & it's somewhat cruel. Any idea's would be appericiated. Thanks :) (link)
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hmm.
i would reccomend trying to see how they live in different environments. maybe put one tank in the dark, and one light. that way, if you see anything bad happening, you can put the fish back in the light tank.. or maybe try a different food on each tank?
very simple stuff.. but yea, haha.
good luck!
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Okay I personally am a dark person. I love vampires and reading musty books and listening to goth music and I like wearing the color black. Now heres the problem my mom won't let me buy black clothes and I don't know what to do. She won't let me get black nail polish or let me wear eyeliner but I really want to. What should I do? Also my room is really disgusting. In the morning I have very very very very light pink walls and in the evening it looks coffee with creme curtains how do I make it look more gothic or punk. I really want to show my mom that I'm not a normal kid and that she can't change it. (link)
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well, you could put up some posters, drawings are also very good. also, make up posters with quotes you like, and lyrics to some of your favorite songs.
take things very slow at a time, with the clothing and everything. she'll be more used to everything if you do it this way.
good luck
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so i lost the game of female compition about 2 weeks sgo.... my friend got the guy i liked. unfortunetly she blabs alot about other guys still! shes so lucky, and i am sitting here envious in green. how could i get over her b/f, he is also a friend of mine, why couldn't he choose me!? other guys wouldnt even cross my mind if he was with me. (link)
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it's not really fair what she's doing, I mean talking about other guys, but you can still be there for this guy. make sure you still are the same person with him as you are before. there's always the future, and maybe he'll really see what you were trying to show him before, that you really like him.
just make sure you're still there for your friend, too, no fighting, especially if the boyfriend knew, that might just get very awkward.
good luck!
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Hi my name is Oscar and i need to ask you a question.... At what age do teens/preteens start to develop chest and muscle (males). And what do I have to do to get more muscle and get a bigger chest?
Thanks. (link)
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should be around fourteen or fifteen.
You coudl do things like lifting weights, swimming ((this one's great, very healthy)) or maybe running, which would get your endurance up as you run more.
Basically good diet and exercise. =)
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okay theres this girl i sit next to in history, shees already a friend but the thing is im crazy about her we dont really het to talk out of class because her friends are always inturupting us whenever werre alone, we do e-mail each other alot and occasionally have long conversations on the phone but i really like to talk to her in person so is ther anything i can say/do to toher in history class to get closer to her closer to her? (link)
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this is amazingly cute =)
I would reccomend just speaking up. If her friends come over while you're talking, remember, she's got the right to talk to her friends, but you were talking too!!
Talking on the phone is very good, too. =)
Make sure you tell LOTS of jokes, developing inside jokes are good too, it's sort of a way to bond with her. =)
If you need anymore help, write me!!
Kat
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14/f/143 lb
Ya, I'm fat. But that's because there's nothing to do! I live miles away from a swimming pool, I'm not into sports like basketball or softball, I get bored of stupid little execises like situps and stretchs that are supposed to work your muscles. I can't get interested in doing anything physical although I know I need to lose weight badly because I look HORRIBLE. But what is there to do? NOTHING holds my attention! (link)
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I would reccomend exercising with a friend, that always makes things so much more fun!! Maybe even make it a competition on who can excercise//lose ((if needed)) more, and eat healthier. You wont want to slack, because most likely, you'll want to impress your friend!!
Also, think about other sports that aren't as common.. maybe learn something like gymnastics, or take a dance lesson.
Good luck! =)
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what does "rolling fat" mean?
like "i rolled fat like oprah and made summer the best." (link)
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That's like saying 'I lost my weight like Oprah and made summer good'
it means you lose the weight =D
Hope I helped!
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I'm a columnist on here and have been for about a year or so. I've noticed hundreds of questions dealing with depression. While I understand that it seems to be more common in teenagers now, why is it that it is mostly girls? Is it the way they are raised? Is it imprinted in DNA? I'm interested in the psychological aspect of it and hope to major in it someday, but I've looked it up everywhere online and can't find a reliable source. Anyone know the causes of this or where to find it? Thanks. (link)
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Well, it could be the hormones, but guys have that, too. Girls are more open about that kind of thing, too.
Over all, I think it's because of all the things girls have to worry about today, looks, whether people like them, drama, ect. It's really stressful, and can definately bring on depression.
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i am usually depressed & never happy ! im always crying & NEVER in a good mood . i think about suicide WAY to much . sometimes i think its my only option . help me please (link)
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I agree withthe other answers, and theres are so many things I could write in here, because I know how to deal with these feelings and help make them stop.
Please, email me at
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
don't worry, I'm not looking to make a friend or anything out of that if you're worried about emailing ((sorry, that sounds mean, I'm willing to make a friend, I just don't want you to think that that's why I'll do this)) I can help you if you elaborate and all.
Really, don't be shy, I'll do all in my power to help you, because you shouldn't go through life sad!
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Okay, I was listening to There's A Good Reason These Tables Are Numbered, Honey, You Just Haven't Thought Of It Yet, and at the end, there's this part where it says when no one's sizing you up. I was wondering what does that mean? Thanks in advance!
Eden, Xx_Seether_Addict_xX (link)
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It's kind of metaphorical, kind of literal.
"And I know, and I know, it just dosen't feel like a night out with no one sizing you up"
It means the person is used to others judging him/her.
Tell me if this wasn't clear enough..
Keep listening to that panic! at the disco..only the best group everr!
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Hey, my boyfriend and I just broke up after 2 years. He doesn't really care anymore, yet i'm still torn after the whole thing, so i need songs to make me feel better.
What are good break-up songs (that aren't slow) that'll make me feel better? (link)
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Many things from Kelly Clarkson's first cd,
Call me when you're sober-evanescence
Everything I'm not-The Veronicas
Umm..sorry I'm drawing a blank!!
lol
But good luck!
And I'm sorry about what happened =/
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why is so bad to pop your pimples??? (link)
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It's bad to pop them for a few reasons ((and I'm pretty sure I'll be missing some))
It spreads bacteria across your face
It causes scarring
They wont clear up for a while if you do it the wrong way
Scabbing happens, which eventually leads to scarring.
IF you want to pop it, wash your face, and find a hot compress. The pressure/heat will make it pop on it's own, and the only good time to pop it, is when you see it beginning to come to a head on it's own.
Good luck!
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I have a friend that needs major help.
He has a girlfriend and they're always off and on.
Whenever she breaks up with him he breaks down and gets drunk or high.
Recently she broke up with him and he almost committed suicide and was put in an asylum for 3 days.
He's only 14 years old. He doesn't listen to anyone when he's with her. He doesn't realize that there's other people that care about him.
And no I don't like him, we used to really good friends. He was my best guy friend, and I barely talk to him anymore. I miss the old him.
How am I supposed keep him fromhurting himself or potentially killing him self if sh breaks up with him. (link)
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OKay, you need to really need to sit him down and explain how important this is!! Cry to him if you need to, but he needs to see that what he's going through is un needed.
Maybe have HIM break up with her??
Get all the people who care about him to talk to him, maybe just not all together, it would seem too much like an intervention, and might be too overwhelming.
Have you tried talking to his girlfriend?? Explain what she's doing to him.
If he really wont listen, you probably wont like this idea, but you should tell an adult, because it's not being mean to him by telling, it's showing you care, and if he gets proper help, he'll see that!!
Please, feel free to email me xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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okay, well, im sooo against abortions. the reasons most people have abortions are because they are:
-retarted
-the parent's too young
-they cant support the baby
all of which are NOT the babies fault in any way, so why kill it? its like killing any other human being!! what can i do to get this to stop? (link)
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I wont put my personal opinion in this, because I know this is a hot topic, and there are so many people on this website, but try to join a website//sign a petition, or join your local activist group. Encourage your friends to join too.
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Is there a code that I can get that I can put on my myspace that allows me to hide my top 8? However, I have tried some before and I want it to still say, view my freinds, just not show my friends on my page.
Can you give me the code, or the website that has the code?
Thanks a bunch! I will rate (link)
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Yes, there is a code.
go to
whateverlife.com
go to hide your..
Good luck!
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i know that in africa and places with little tribes girl marry young, like at 13yrs old, is this when they start having children too? just wondering i know its a totally random question. (link)
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I've seen a documentary on this, and with the one I've seen, yes that is possible, and in some areas, common. This is when they are coming of adults, so they are treated as adults.
Hope this helped!
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Our one year is coming up soon also so is our birthdays...what should I do for our one year&& what should I get him? Another thing what else do I do for his birthday? I tried to get him tickets to the Pistons game cuz I know he loves them...but they're all sold out, what now? (link)
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For your 1 year, do something very unique or possibly even childish. Something that's always fun to do, in my opinion is going ot the beach, or a nearby lake. Depends how old you are, though.
Also , I've always had a problem on what to buy guys for their birthdays, but I usually do something like making a collage for them. The sports idea was really good!! Try to talk to his friends to see if they say anything about what he may want. Maybe a cd he'd want? Or, maybe a comedic gift??
Good luck, I hope this was helpful in some way!
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