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I am divorced and my son spends most of his time with his mother. I asked my son if he wanted to go to a Mets game with me (we both love baseball). At first he said yes, then a few days later he asked me if one of his friends could come along. My problem: I don't get to spend a lot of time with my son, and I was looking forward to the game as a chance for us to spend time together. I know that if his friend comes along I will feel like a "fifth wheel". My son spends a lot of time with his friends, and I don't think it is necessary for him to bring his friend along. What should I do? (link)
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You're right, you DO need some one on one time with your son, but at his age he isn't thinking about quality relationships with family members. He is thinking about the awesome time he could have with his friend. Tell him that you really want this to be about the two of you, and tell him why. All kids want reassurence that Dad loves them, is proud, and thinks they are cool. You could always suggest another activity that his friend could join in on next time.
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my boyfriend asked me if i wanted sex i said 13 was way to young to have sex and i wasn't ready! he said that that was ok and he could wait! but my friend said when she got drunk at a party the had sex! shes's apoliged and i've forgiven her! but i asked max ( my boyfriend) if he had cheated on me and he said NO WHO WOULD GIVE U THAT IDEA!! i'm really heard and wanna explain i no and dump him but i want to to it in a way which will heard him like he heard me! i no thats sounds meen but my best mate! how could he!! what should i do? be crule? our just leave? (link)
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I know you don't have a lot of experience with this topic but what they did was truely terrible. I know it's hard to cut ties, but that has been proven time and time again as the best thing to do in order to keep your self respect in this situation. I simpley wouldn't speak to either one of them again. Your friend is perhaps even more to blame here, she should have put you first. If you can keep from reacting violently (I doubt I could) them move on and leave them as part of your past.
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K my bff is 14 f just like me. Like a week ago we were talking my friend seemed upset. I asked her what was wrong and she asked if I could see a lump though her bra. I said no, but I can sorta see it if i look she said she had a golf ball sie lump on her brest and is freking out, I don't know what to do she won't tell anyone and I think it would be akward for me to anyone help! (link)
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Her breast could just be developing (lumps occur during this time). Cancer is highly unlikely but it could also be a cyst that need to be checked and removed. Tell her to make a doctors appointment, there is nothing to be afraid of.
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Im 17 and i have had my Period 6 Years. This is the Second time i have missed my Period the first time was when i first started. I usually start around the 21 and last month i didnt. And it hasnt started yet. Im not sexually active any more. So i havent had sex in a good 9 months. Should i just wait. And see if i ever start? (link)
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Lots of things can make you irregular, like nutrition and stress. Clearly you can't be pregnant so just make sure you are eating right and keeping your life as stress free as possib;e. If you miss another one, it could be a symptom of an illness so I would check with my doctor. One miss period isn't anything to be concerned about though.
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Hi, I keep getting notices in my email that say there is a question in my inbox, or someone answered my questions, and when I come to the advicenators site, it also says that I do have questions and answers waiting for me. But then I check it and there's nothing there, even though it says that there's "Inbox (1)" or something like that.
What's going on? Just a glitch or something?
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I was wondering this myself, because the same was happening to me. It does make some sense that it could have been deleted because one girl kept emailing me and saying some not-so-nice things. Who knows.
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OH I cant stand my nails, they are kind of crooked. You cant tell by looking from the top. But if you look at them as if I was pointing at you you can se the tip looks all crooked. Why are my nails like that?! And how can I fix them? Is it nutrition problems? And how can I fix them?I have searched the internet like crazy but found nothing. PLease help me.
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I have that too, it is 99% genetic and 1% due to a possible injury. In terms of nutrition, a high protein diet will make you nails grow faster/stronger, but not more straight. If it really bothers you, try acrylics or silk wraps at the salon to cover them up.
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Okay, well, this July, I'm babysitting a 10-11 year old girl named Maggie. She's a cute kid, but there is one problem. She's completely hyper all the time. She gets nervous alot and really easily.
I just wanted to know if ya'll had any ideas for fun, quiet, easy-clean up games that will keep her situated for a while.
This is a FULL day job, twice a week, $50 a day. I know that seems a lot, but trust me, she's worth it.
ANYTHING that would help me with this will help me because I really need the money.
Thanks a ton in advance.
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It might be best to engage her in high energy activities earlier in the day (playground, pool, sport-type games) to burn off some of that energy and wear her out for some quiet time later. Otherwise you have a situation where she is "ready to go" and wants to jump around and play actively but you are trying to get her to be quiet. For activities to do after the energey time is over; try bored games, movies, books, and such. Who knows? She might be ready for a nap by then!
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hi,
well i hadnt got my periods for quiet some time.. and i was then told to take the home pregnancy test.. i did that..and the result was negative.. i actually landed up getting my periods after 15days ...
all i wanted to know is.... should i try the test again after my periods are over...
and what time should i take it..i had taken the first test early morning..coz ive heard the early morning urine is the best... well can i take it any time of the day or so? do lemme know..
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There is no reason to take another test considering that not only did you get your period but the test that you took was negative. In case you need to again sometime in the future, morning urine is slightly more concetrated but it really doesn't make much of a difference. The only thing that DOES make a difference is to wait to take the test until a few days after your missed period, anything earlier is too soon and the hormones might not yet be detectable.
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im having revival at my church all this week. i forgot to ask off from work, and im the type of person that hates to inconvenience people. i got someone to work for me monday. my only two days are today and friday. today, im supost to be training a new girl(about the 5th one theyve had me train),so, their definetely gonig to be inconvenienced. plus, tomorrow,i have a family graduation party to go to. i just feel bad asking for the whole week off, and inconveniencing them. any ideas on what i can say?
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You could just call out the days that you need off, you don't owe them an excuse, it really isn't their business. A simple message saying "I'm sorry but I won't be able to make it in today due to personal reasons/business I have to take care of" is more than sufficient. If they press you for info- simple say it's personal. As long as you are not someone who constantly calls out then there shouldn't be a problem at all. Don't worry about having someone work for you, that isn't your responsibility.
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My parents will no longer let me hang out with one of my friends. I don't even see why. She's very respectful and nice. They just don't like her for some reason. How can I make them let me hang out with her again? She's a really good friend and I don't want to lose her. I will rate any1 who helps. So please help. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Why don't you talk to your parents and ask them exactly why they don't want you to be friends with her anymore. They might now tell you if it's a reason that isn't appropriate to discuss with their child, but I know it'll help to some degree. They might know something you don't.
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How do you decide whether its love or lust?
Or seven years over 7 months?
I'm caught between a long standing relationship and a hot crush?
What should i do ?
How can I decide?
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You don't have to decide if it's love, if it is love then you just know, there wouldn't be any doubt in your mind.
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It is pretty much impossible for me to empathize/understand people who believe in God and religion. I am fully against both of them, for a long list of reasons that I don't need to go in to. The deal is, people tell me I'm being sacreligous/a heretic/going to hell, but I can't understand where they're coming from AT ALL. To me evangelists and deeply religous people just seem like pitiful, misguided puppets of a nonexistent power. It tends to screw up my relationships with people.... Any advice? (link)
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Yeah, simpley don't get into discussions with people about religion if you value their friendship. If they are pushing the issue, tell them that you don't agree but but would rather not discuss the subject when nothing can be accomplished by it.
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You’re right, but he was surrounded by his friends, and the other club is less then 2 minutes away from where we were. I’m sorry that you got the impression that I am a bad girlfriend just because I looked out for my best friend (South Africa isn’t the safest place at night). And yes I don’t know why he left me, because you just don’t brake up with someone you have been with for over a year and shared almost every thing with over something like this. (link)
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Your friend ought to be able to take care of herself, she isn't your child that you have to babysit. It think it's completely obvious why your boyfriend broke up with you, it was a shitty thing to do to leave him at his celebration.
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Dear Columnists,
I need help really bad. Last weekend I was at a sleepover with me and my 2 other friends. They are my best friends. I was talking to my -ex and he said that he liked my friend...(one of the ones that was sleeping over)They went out for a while and I cried the whole time. She broke up with him because she felt bad ad that she did want this kid to Jepordise our friendship. She is giving me time but I feel inside as I never want them to get back together...Even though I am being selfish. I still love him! We have been off and on for a little. What should I do?
Srry it was SO long.
I rate 5's for good answers!
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What kind of friend would do this to you? Ex's are always off limits, no matter what. Tell your friend how you feel about this, and a true friend would put you first.
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Is there anywhere else I can get indoor tanning bed lotion/moisturizer other than at the tanning salon itself? If so, where? Thanks. (link)
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The stuff the sell at the salon is overpriced and nothing more then glorified body lotion. All you need is a lotion to apply beforehand to keep your skin from drying out in the heat/light. ANY thick lotion will be fine.
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So, I have this friend and she's been going out with this guy for like 3 years. No joke! They've been together for 3 looooong years now. She was like super duperly in love with him. Like, he was the only thing she could talk about whenever I hung out with her. Now....they just broke up. and she's completely devastated. She's been crying for like days now. I saw her this morning and she looked terrible. She is like, totally distraught over this. I'm wondering what I can do to help her through this. She's like, my best friend. Please help. (link)
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Just be there for her to talk too, spend time with her, and do girl stuff with her. When a serious relationship ends, everyone goes through this. It's so hard but she will heal in time.
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hey im 15/f. I was wondering what exactly weight smart does. I heard it speeds up your metabolism. I want to know if it really does work? Does it help you loose weight. Please dont give me the speach on me being too young. I just want to know what it does exactly.. does it burn fat what? I'll rate 5s! (link)
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It isn't a diet pill, just a vitamen with the nutrients needed by your body to metabolism fat. Of course, you still won't metabolism fat if you are eating too much of it or not exercising. It's safe because it's just a regular vitamen suppliment. It really isn't going to make any difference in your weight loss, it's just marketed that way.
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Ok I know smoking is bad for you and that I shouldn't do it. Im a 15/f and been smoking for I would say bout 2 maybe 3 yrs. I have tried to quit before and I can't.Now I'm trying to lose weight and I have heard it helps keep off the pounds. Is it true?(please don't lie so I will quit I want a honest answer.) (link)
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I smoked for years too, and I just resently quit. The ONLY thing I have tried that actually works is the nicotine gum. It really does work, and I can't sing it's praises enough. Smoking raises your metabolism, but not really all that much, we're talking the difference of less then a pound. The problem is, when most people quit they find themselves eating more to alliviate that oral void that used to be filled by smoking. If you don't eat any extra while you quit, and maybe add some excersise to your day, you'll loose weight just fine. Good Luck.
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If you were to ask 10 people in the United States if they went to college, probably 8 or 9 would say yes. What do you think it is like in the following countries?
-Argentina
-Chile
-Brazil
-Venezuela
-Spain
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Attend college at all, or graduate? An actual college, or some sort of after high school education? There are a lot of questions here. I want to point out that far fewer then 8 or 9 out of 10 Americans have ever even attended college, much less graduated. That is a just plain wrong statistic.
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Hey, I'm 17 and have been with my bf for just over 6 months...about a month ago he asked me to move in with him, and i really want to but i dont no how to ask my parents cus i dont think they will approve... how do i tell them that i think its the right thing to do??? (link)
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If you have to ask your parents, then you are too young. Period. If you aren't old enough or finacial secure enough to support yourself and move out alone if need be, then you aren't ready.
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