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Q: I am always "wet" down there, even when Im not turned on. I always feel like I should wad a lil bit of tiolet paper in my underwear so that it doesnt get all over my underwear and harden. What can be causing this? Its really gross and unatractive.
Are you a guy or a girl?? Because i kinda need to know that. If your a girl, its just discharge, every girl goes through it. And you can wear pantyliners for it. If your a guy... i dunno.

Q: I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone tonight and just casually he guessed what his gift was and he didn’t sound all that pleased. What makes it worse is that he asked if he had guessed right and I blurted out No, just because I was scared and upset!

I’m a little panicked. I thought I had a good idea but he sounded really unimpressed…

I’m totally lost as to what to do now! Should I try and get something else? Or just go with it and admitted I didn’t tell the truth?!
Hmm well I wouldn't buy him a new gift. Its not that big of an deal if he doesnt like his gift. He shouldnt care if you got him something. If he likes you for you, he wont care what the gift is. So if he does care.. i would think that he isnt worth it.

Q: i have a friend that i work with and he is white (im black) and i really like him and im not racist but ive never really liked somebody like him before and nobody really knows but my best friend and shes a little understanding but the guy i like he drinks and smokes and gets into stuff like that and it scares me and i still like him? am i crazy? and i dont even know if he likes me like that cuz we just been friends and i dont want him to know i like him unless he likes me back cuz i dont take rejection too well... what should i do?
Okay. I understand, its easy to have crushes on the bad guys :) Anywho... dont care what your family thinks, or the school thinks, if you like him, then you should like him, it doesnt matter if your black and hes white. Maybe get that best friend of yours to ask him if he likes you, or ask his best friend. Or.. ask him out. It cant be THAT bad if he says no.

Q: okay for a while (long while actually) ive had this white sticky, weird stuff in my underwear... its been about a year or so maybe less... and i havnt had my period yet... idk what to do? and what is it?? ill rate 5!
I had the same thing, don't worry. Its just discharge. It happens to all girls before they get their periods and during the time they dont have their periods during the cycle. Some girls wait a while after first getting the discharge before they get their period, some girls dont wait long at all. Its just your body doing its own thing. Dont worry about it.

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Booooooyyyyys. Lol. Just get eyecontact, if the guy responds go for it and say hi, ask him what his name is, how old he is, ect. Touch his arm softly to give him the impression that you like him, and giggle if he says something funny. Just flirt and be yourself.

Q: ok so im still young and im allowed to start wearing makeup.. i wanna know know tips that will help me look pretty and not slutty and is good for a 13 year old.. i have pretty pale skin but not that pale. i have blue eyes and light brown hair. thx i really need some help cause i have no idea how to wera makeup.. omg please dont ask me to ask my mom lol
Do you like neutral makeup that will just pop out all your good features? ALWAYS wear mascara. Mascara is like amazing. I suggest either black or brown. You want to go for brown/tan eye shadow, it will bring out the blue in your eyes, apparently. Lips.. you want something with a little color, but not something that will be too bold. I suggest lig gloss. Something like Lip Smackers, or just normal Bonne Belle. They are great for younger teens, like us. :) Plus, they have great flavors. And their cheap. For eyeliner, use a black or a brown. Don't over do it, put it on pretty lightly. Do you want to wear concealer and foundation? Go for the closest shade you can get to your skin tone. Make sure your concealer isnt just for under eyes, so if you break out you can cover up the zits. For foundation.. my friend says dream matte mousse is good.

Have fun

Q: Does anyone know a good acne face wash that is really good and makes all the acne go away quick? i dont have a lot of it but i really want something strong and make it go away in like up to 5 days or a week. thanks so much
i rate 5's
Well, nothing cheap makes the acne go away that quick. But Proactive has a great line, it starts to work in about a week. Plus they have a lot of extras you can buy, like foundation and concealer that help acne go away. They also have things like moisturizers and body wash. But if you want a normal kind that you can buy at the store, i like clean & clear. But everyones face is different.

Q: I have a really, really big website that I work really hard on, and it gets over 1,000 visits a day. I spend a lot of time writing the site, and researching for it, and sometimes I even spend money buying newspaper articles for my research. I do it because I like it but I DON'T like it when people plagiarize my site! I will spend a long time making a page just right and then someone will copy what I wrote and put it on their site without even saying where the info was from!

I have a page on my site explaining that if you're going to copy from me, at least put a link to me, but people don't listen. Just today I had to write another email to someone complaining because they had ripped off my site. Most times people agree to remove the stolen information or to put up a link, but sometimes they won't do anything and then I don't know what to do. Is there anything at all that I can do to prevent this from happening? It really makes me angry to see my hard work posted somewhere else without attribution.
That suckssss. Hey whats your site? I could visit it and then tell you how great it is! Haha. To stop people from copying your work... Well, if you really want to, you could sue them. But i dont suggest it. Just tell them that you could sue them, if you really wanted to, and its really rude of them. Hopefully they'll get the hint.. and stop.

Q: Hey Yall! =]

Like, I had a question. Don't think I'm retarded or anything, but..

@ Subway, when you order bacon, shouldn't it be like put in the microwave and then put on your sandwich? I know it's precooked, but like yeahh. Just wondering, because I had a SERIOUS problem @ Subway tonight, =] Yeahh, thanks. lol.

NAIMEE ♥
Well, since it is precooked, it doesnt exactly matter if you put it in the microwave or not, it wont killl you.

Q: I have a uncle (48) who came to visit me(female 25). I was showing him around my condo and he would not enter my bedroom area. what does this mean. this confused me! Could you help me to understand why he did that? Thank You Gems
Ew thats weird. Haha. Well maybe he just found it awkward, and didnt want to go through with it. If not, i'd be worried.

Q: I'm a university student living away from home and I've just returned to my family home for the Christmas period. I brought home a bag of presents, but it appears that one present slipped out from where it was stored before I brought it home (I don't think I've lost it, just left it behind).

The gift in question should have been half the present I'd be giving to my elder sister. Should I buy something else, or would it be acceptable to give her the remaining half when I next see her, around the 8th of January? As it's half of the present she'd still have something from me under the tree on Christmas day, but I feel bad for being disorganised and wonder if I should get her another token thing so that it doesn't appear that I've been much less generous to her than to my other sisters on Christmas Day. On the other hand, I'm sure she'd understand and I will see her relatively soon after Christmas as she lives much nearer to me than the rest of my family. Any thoughts?
Well, i say, dont waste your money on buying another thing. Just tell her what happened and give it to her next time you see her. She should understand.

Q: ok i have diabtes (type 1, im not overweight or anything) and im a little shy about it well i mean i dont like telling ppl about it. only my close friends know about it and some other people who i didnt want to find out about having it. my friends think that its stupid that i dont tell people and they say if they had it they would have no problem telling ppl. but they dont have it so they dont know. its easier to say then do. are they right, should i not be so shy about it?
btw i have had it for about 2 years
Oh, well if you dont want to tell people, dont. You shouldnt tell people anything you dont want them to know. Its that simple.

Q: i know it's not necessarily sex, but i didn't know what to put it under.
well, when i try to put on tampons, i get it in a little, but it doesn't go in anymore..
and also, when they teach you how to put tampons in (or, the pictures), it shows the plastic applicator going into the vagina. but i see the plastic part in the garbage can all the time (because my mom) and it's never covered in blood.. i don't know. i'm confused. people have showed me sites to help me, but it doesn't really necessarily help.
Okay. Well... the blood doesnt come out that much on the applicator, so thats why you dont see it. You put the tampon in your vagina. You probably cant get it in anymore because you are scared and not pushing hard enough. Just give it another try. Oh, and the applicator does not stay in the vagina.

Q: theres this guy and hes a freshman and im a 8th grader and weve been talking for 4 months not boyfriend and girlfriend tho cause we dont wanna go threw all the breaking up stuff. but hes fingered me 3 times and we made out alot but i dont wanna go any farther i wouldnt mind maybe giving him head i just dont wanna have sex. is there anyway when were "hooking up" to make sure nothing goes too farr?
Just tell him you dont want to, plain and simple as that.

Q: I had the worst day. I found out this morning that one of my friends died in her sleep at her parents. I hadnt talked to her in a long time so I felt a lot of guilt. I also had to phone another friend who had a falling out with her 6 months ago and she felt so guilty she spent the whole day crying.
The funeral is on wednesday morning and I can't go because I have to work. So I spent 40 dollars to have a bouquet of flowers delivered to the funeral.
I also stubbed my toe, slammed my finger in a door, and got my period today. I don't have a bf to comfort me and all my other friends are too upset over the death of our friend to talk to me. Is there something that I could do to make myself feel better about this situation? I thought that by getting the flowers I would feel better but I only feel worse. And how can I get undepressed? It's right before Xmas and I don't want to ruin the holidays for my family.
Wow. First of all, sorry to hear your friend died.

Well, to get over it, you need time and fun. After a few days or weeks, go out and party (or do whatever you do to have fun.)

Dont feel guilty. Its not your fault she died. You didnt know she was going to die, so you couldnt have known to talk to her. And its not your fault you have work and cant make it to the funeral.

Q: Well my name is Michael and my girlfriend refuses to call me that. She only calls me Mike. She also hates it when others call me Michael and corrects them with "Umm it's Mike not Michael." Even my mother. But she says it with more respect talking to my mom. Does this seem werid or overly possesive to anyone? Or should I just go with it?
That sounds very weird and sort of possessive, but i suggest that if you like her, go with it. Or maybe very politely say "they can call me michael if they want". So she gets the point, but be nice.

Q: well theres this boy i think he likes me but im not sure we always talk on the phone abd stuff
he always joking around and stuff to!

how can u tell when he likes you??
Well.. does he look at you a lot? Is it obvious he's flirting with you? Flirt with him, girl and he should flirt back a lot if he likes you.

Q: ok here goes right well me and my bf have been going out for 2 months and next time i see him we would be togthere for 3 months because hes going away on holiday anyway...we have decided that we want to have sex and hes coming to my house soon and that when we are gonna do it!but..im really really scared of pregnancy, we r gonna use a condom but im still scared im 14 and hes 17 and i love him but i cant say anything to my mum for the pill and my periods arent regular so i wouldnt know if i was pregnant so..what do i do i really wanna do it with him i know its right but what can i do about pregnancy and all that stuff help!!!!!!!! ill rate high xxx
Hmm. I say, make him put on two comdoms. Haha, i know, it sounds stupid, but its more protection. And i would say use the pill and a condom, but you cant ask your mom, so thats out.

Q: i want to loose a little weight before christmas, even if its a couple of pounds!! i know i can do it but i need a few more excercises to do.
do you know any websites with excercise demos or pictures?
for all body parts plz

I RATE
Okay, I dont know any sites for this, but i'll try to explain these as best as i can.

Arms- Sit on a chair, get a grip on the edge (front) of the chair. Bend your knees like your sitting, then lower yourself slightly. Try to keep your buttocks as close to the edge as you can, without touching it. Hold for as long as you want, make it worth it. Then lower yourself and raise yourself (sort of like pull ups/push ups.

Thighs- The lunge is easy, you just stand up straight then drop your buttocks basically, bending your knees. Another one is when you lay on the floor, back and head flat on the floor. Lift your legs straight up, making an L with your body. Then drop your right leg slowly, stopping it about 6 inches from the floor. Then raise it back up into the L shape. Do that as many times as you want, make it worth it, at least 15, then switch legs.

Stomach- crunches get the top abs, but thats mainly it. But there is the two way crunch. Lie on your back with your knees bent, feet on the floor. Raise your legs to your knees are above your hips and your calves are parallel to the floor. Put your hands lightly behind your head, then pull your bellybutton into your spine. Exhale, squeeze your abs as you lift your hips slightly off the floor, bring your knees to your chest, lifting your head and shoulders a few inches from the floor. Inhale as you lower. Then there is the plank, put your hands and knees on the floor. Drop your hips and walk forwards so your knees, hips, head, and shoulders are in a diagonal line. Flatten lower abs by pulling in your belly botton, but dont curve your spine. Hold that for 60 seconds. Then lower abs to stabalize your pelvis and spine. Slowly lift your right knee, then your left, and straighten your legs behind you. You should be on your toes and hands (sorta like a push up) forming a diagonal line. Keep your torso stable, continue pulling bellybutton in while breathing normally. Hold for 15 seconds, add 5 more seconds each day you do it.

Butt- Stand tall with your feet hip width apart and toes forwards, arms hanging at the sides, abs contracted. Step as far back as you comfortably can with your left foot, bending both knees so your right knee aligns over right ankle. Your left knee should be lowered to the floor, without touching it. Keep your left heel lifted. Return to standing position by squeezing your butt and puching off of your left foot, repeat same leg 15 times, slowly. Then switch legs.

TADA! That was a lot.

Q: I need to get my upper lip waxed... but the thing is, what happens if you get it waxed a couple of times and then you stop waxing it? Will it grow back even worst? I DO NOT want to just leave it. If waxing isn't that good of an idea, what other options do I have to make it unnoticeable?
Okay, I read on the internet that it doesnt grow back thicker. So your safe on that. But I think that if you do wax, you will want to wax it again when you see it again.

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