I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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ok so i used that veet bladelss cream all up and down my legs, and it's all fine except my inner thighs where it's got little red bumps and it stings pretty bad. well i put some heavy lotion actually it's shea butter i think, so it feels a wee bit better, but does anyone have any ideas of anything else i should do to make it better?
please help me! (link)
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Put a little toothpaste on it at first it will sting but do that for a few days and if it doesnt get the sting out and get rid of it then heat up some baby oil and with a q-tip and that will get rid of it for sure.
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17/f. I was really depressed when I was younger, I considered killing myself multiple times and running away, but if course I did not and eventually got over it. I never told anyone and no one ever knew. Anyway, then when I was 16, I'm not really sure I was depressed but I honestly cAn't remember one thing from my sophmore year, it was all just a blur. Now, for the past month I've been sad a lot and I cry really really easily. So I was wondering can depression come back? (link)
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Depression can definitly come back its one of those things that comes and goes through your life and it doesnt really go away once you have it but to make it not really cause you pain doctors often have remideies such as antibiotics or even just talking to someone will make you feel better so ya go see a doctor and see if he/she can help you out and if not then whenever you feel depressed talk to someone about it and trust me it will make you feel better. Good luck :D
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16/f
A couple of months ago i slept with a mate of mine, after we did it he stopped talking to me for a couple of weeks when we were at school.
He got expelled. We started talking again, when he said he loved me. But then out of the blue he gets a girlfriend. I know its wrong but he asks to sleep with me and i agree, even though i know i am the second girl. Its asthough i cannot say no to him. i love him. what should i do? (link)
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K well first of all its wrong to sleep with him while he has a gf so next time he asks you to sleep with him put yourself in his gf's shoes and think of how you would feel if you found out your bf who you loved a lot was cheating on you and if you do this i can promise you that your not gonna feel like being around him and you should guys like this are players they play with your feelings and then just throw you out of there lives so ya i suggest staying away from him and eventually you will stop loving him.
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I really want to get my bikini line waxed. I am really sick of razor burn! The only thing i have a problem with is the pain factor. Does it hurt bad? (link)
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The first time it honestly does hurt but after a few times it doesnt hurt as much but ya it will diffently hurt the first time but dont worry just keeping telling yourself its worth it and also that it will be over soon. Good luck :D
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How do i get my cat to walk on a leash? (link)
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It gonna be hard at first but just take it out everyday put the leash on and walk a few steps infront of it and it will eventually start to follow if it doesnt then just keep trying and try to convince it to follow you and im sure it will start or you could take it to pet training.
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Hi! 19/f
I applied to a movie theater some time ago, and they called me yesterday for an interview. My interview is tomorrow, and I have no idea what to wear. I was thinking of wearing a cardigan, nice jeans, heels and a black shirt but I don't know if that's okay or not. I really need help because I don't really have anything business-y and I don't want to make a bad impression with my attire.
Any ideas? (link)
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I think the cardigan, nice jeans, heels and a black shirt is good enough because its just a movie theater and you dont want to dress up too much otherwise it looks overdone so ya thats good and also dont go heavy on the makeup or jewelery either. Good luck and i hope you get the job :D
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18/f/5'2/128-130lbs
Hi there,
I think I'm undereating sometimes, but at other times I think I'm overeating. I have a food journal, and I'm really calorie conscious.
So I was wondering how many calories I should be consuming if I exercise 4-5 days a week at about an hour to an hour and a half. I'd say I do moderate exercise.
Thank you! (link)
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about 1500-1800 calories a day it doesnt matter really how much you exercise per day you cant overeat or it wont balance out you can lose weight eating what you want but just in moderation for example pick a day of the week to treat yourself perferably saturday or sunday and that will motivate to stick to your diet and exercise and then on that day have a treat maybe have a burger or ice cream which wont do anything trust me it works ive been doing it for a few months and ive lost 14 pounds in just 2 and a half months.
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19/f so there's this guy in my class i liked him and i thought he liked me, but he didn't. He smiled and talked to me in class and on facebook, so i misinterpreted it, especially when he gave me his business card since he's a fitness trainer at this gym. And i called him so many times, and then i texted him and he told me he had a girlfriend. so basically i s talked him like a moron. And now he gives me death stares all the time. And now i feel bad, and i can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard i try. I want to say sorry to him and that i want to start over and be friends. Should i apologize? like to his face? please help thanks! (link)
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K well you have nothing to apologize for he did kinda give you false hopes and lead you on he should have told you from the starting that he had a gf so you wouldnt have thought of him that way. Anyways just get a piece of paper and pen and write down all the things you like and dont like about him and then look at it if you have more things you like about him then go through the list and look at everything and if that really seems important and if that really matters if that doesnt work then keep yourself busy by reading, drawing, baking even and just find a new crush at school or something and once your grounding is over hang out with friends and eventually you will forget him i know right now it seems impossible but trust me nothing is impossible if you try. Good luck :D
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hi....my skin of my face has acne(blackhead,bloch)i hate these...what should i do to improving my face? (link)
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You should go to your doctor and ask for an appointment with a dermatologist they will be able to tell you what will work for your skin and what wont and i promise you that in less than a few months your skin will clear up if not in a few weeks after using products that your dermatologist recommends.
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im 14/f and have a male friend who is "emo" he cuts the lot, but deep down i think he is only doing it for attention, truely there is nothing wrong with his life, although he thinks he is fat but thats about it.
He wants to kill himself, and hates when im happy around him, he makes me say horrible things to make him happy.
i dont know what to do!
also he is sharing a razor with two ther chicks in my grade....im scared they are going to get sick.
is their ANYWAY i can help them
:)thanks (link)
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K you need to tell his parents or a counsellor at school or even tell your parents so they can talk to his parents because this is dangerous and eventually if he isnt stopped he will hurt himself more than now so ya tell an adult and dont worry about him not liking you or hating you afterwards because he might for a little bit but eventually he will thank you for helping him.
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Me and my friend have recently purchased a pet, we decided to share it, she has it one week i have it the other.
im worried if we were to fight the pet is going to be in the middle.
does this normally work.
anyone have any experience with this.. can u give me advice??? (link)
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Personally i havent been through this but ive had friends go through this and it doesnt turn out good ever sharing things especially a living breathing animal is not good for your friendship or the pet itself because eventually problems will arise i think you should return the pet or find a different home or find some way to make sure this works out like if you were to get in a fight that you have to still take care of the pet but give eachother a turn as well basically you guys should sit down and just discuss this and if you cant come to an agreement then returning or finding a different home for it would be best.
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Just yesterday i was playing on my computer trying to zone out from my problems and my sisters. Well anyways i'm juast asking for tips to help me out because i cant use my computer anymore and i need to zone out instead of remaining depressed like i have been for a while. I would tell people about my depression but i am very shy and i dont really like to talk. I need any tips to zone out and i will rate high for them............................. please help me out im going crazy!!! (link)
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I know its hard to take to people about personal things but honestly you will feel so much better once you get your problems off your chest but if you dont want to then i guess the best way to relax or zone out would be to just keep yourself calm and by that i mean just sit down put on some music loud and scream and just get all your frustration out then just take a shower get a good night's sleep and then when you wake up just think about how these problems can be solved and if that doesnt work then you really should talk to your parents or a school counsellor or even your friends or siblings or you can just write down your problems on advicenators and we will try to help you out in the best way we can.
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about 3 months ago, i was diagnosed with leaukemia=[. the doctor told me that i am gonna die after my 8th month. is he allowed to tell me this? he just flat out said... " in about 8 months your gonna die ", he made me my mom my dad and my brother cry. so anyways.... can he tell me this... and can i like sue him for it?
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Ya he can tell you because hes a doctor and his job is to tell you whats wrong with you i mean he could have used different words to make is sound nicer but he didnt do anything wrong you cant sue him for being mean about it because it was probably the only way he thought of telling you its not easy telling someone that there going to die so my answer is basically no you cant sue him because you dont have a case him telling you your diagnosis is his job therefore you cant blame him in any way. BTW im really sorry if this sounds mean but it wasnt meant to be and im also sorry for what your going through i hope you can fight through this. :D
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Did you all know that prank phone calls are illegal???I didnt and i made a call last week and unfortunately it was a LAWYER!!!Im in deep shit and he is pressing charges and i could go to Y.D.C. and im hoping to god that he drops the charges otherwise im FUCKED!!!but i could really use some tips to hepl me out in my case to calm the lawyer down so i dont get in as deep as i am right now. (link)
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Wow k i didnt know they were illegal but i know your not suppose to do them anyways i suggest calling the lawyer back and telling him that your just a kid and that you made a mistake and you were just trying to have fun but it just went to far and that your really sorry and just try to convince him to drop the charges and if it doesnt work then tell your parents if you havent already and let them handle it i mean sure you'll get in a lot of trouble but its better then having charges pressed upon you which could end up on your record for good im not trying to scare you or anything but this is a big deal and you need to tell an adult if you havent already.
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I need to find newspaper articles from 8 weeks ago. But since I recycled all of them, where would I go to get them? I believe libraries have them, but I need to cut out and use the actual article. Help? (link)
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Check out the online websites of the newspaper they always have them and you can find all the articles there.
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Lets assume you are seventeen, and youve been going out with your boyfriend for a while, who has been your best friend for 4 years. And you know you are ready and its the right thing to lose your virginity to him. You are completely prepared and use protection (both condom and birth control.) Do you think although you're ready, seventeen is still too young to have sex? (link)
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I think its too young i honestly think you should wait until after marriage because theres a lot of girls your age who end up having sex with guys that seem perfect but things change when they get pregnant so i dont think you should but again your life your choice but just think about the consequences before you do anything. I hope i helped :D
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17/f.
There's this guy whom I've known since 8th grade. We are really close, but no one really knows because we primarily talk online since we never see each other in school. He used to like me for a long time in 8th grade, but I didn't like him like that, but we've stayed really close friends.
For years though, we've been playing the question game, and it's gotten really intense. I've never thought of it as more than a game since we've never done anything in person or via webcam / pictures. I think I may have recently developed a tiny crush on him though, and this is bad for a couple reasons.
1. We are going to be hanging out this upcoming weekend and I don't want my hormones to get the best of me and end up getting hurt. (I've never had a boyfriend or done anything, not even first kiss, so I'm very vulnerable.) At the same time, I want to get hurt and get it out of my system.
2. We're going to prom together.
We've both admitted, in so many words, that we would like something to happen, but I feel like it's wrong to hook up without a relationship. He definitely does not have feelings for me, and he's not a shallow guy. We're both just hormonal teenagers, you know?
What is your opinion? I'm just very confused. I THINK I like him but I'm afraid of getting into a relationship with him and ruining absolutely positively everything we've built up. I don't want it to become awkward when we hang out or on prom night, so is there anything I can do to prevent awkwardness when we see each other in person? Should I not go past first base on either night? I'm just so confused about how I feel about him and what I want / don't want to happen! :( And I don't want to tell him I like him because he's gotten hurt loads of times before and he has no idea I might have feelings for him. (link)
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Well i guess you could hook up just to see what its like but i think you should talk to him before and tell him that you wanna be friends even if things dont work out and i guess mention that you just want to try hooking up but if things dont work out you guys can just go back to being friends. Good luck i hope this helped :D
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13/f
okayy...well today i got a txt message from my friend telling me that the guy i kinda like likes me back..a while back he asked her for my # but i told her not to give it to him cuz i was kinda nervous..but now i REALLY wanna talk to him over spring break but i dont have his number...should i ask him for it..or what....any suggestions on what i should do?? (link)
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Well you have a few choices you could either give him your number, ask him for his number or have a friend give your number but i think the best thing to do would be to talk to him and just have a casual convo and then give him your number and ask if you can have his so that you guys could maybe hang out during the break. Good luck :D and have an awesome spring break :D
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Hey okay so lately ive been so confused..
Ive been going out with my bf about 5 almost 6months now and lately I just don't feel bothered anymore.
Its like I get a text and im like ugh" or "meh"
I hate feeling like this I really do and I don't know what brought it on.
Like when we text i feel really disinterested but when I see him its different its like I forget all about it?
Hes the sweetest guy ive ever gone out with yet at the moment I seem to be pushing him away and closing myself off!
He sugested taking my shopping and then to dinner after last night and its almost like im feeling mad at him for being so nice to me..
I know if I break up with him il be throwing away one of the best things to ever happen to me but I don't know how to stop feeling like this? :(
Also things are really bad with my guy best friend..
we have barely been talking and its killing me.
He gets on well with my bf so I know its not that he doesnt like him or anything like that.
but its like whenever we text hes seems so disinterested and im dragging a convo out of him..
im always the one to initiate convos and it seems im making all the effort its really upsetting me I miss him so much..
I said it to him last night I asked him did I do anything to upset him and he said no of course not.
So I asked him straight out whats going on things aren't the same.
So then he said it was me the one who was talking less(which isnt true because ive been the one trying)he said things have changed since I started dating my bf and then said id changed.
that killed me.
He started going on about growing up and things changing and maturity..
Ugh. sorry if this seems like one big long mumble.
basicly ive two problems and ive no idea what to do about either
I miss my bestfriend ive told him it seems like he wants to move on and just forget our friendship (thats the vibe I got) but I can't do that ive known him since I was 6.
Then my bf...My feelings are all over the place at the moment does anyone have annnyy advice or has been in this sort of situation? :S
any advice apreciated
sorry this is long! (link)
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Well this is really a hard situation and i think the best thing to do is break up with your bf if the interest and feelings just arent there because its almost like punishing yourself by being with someone who just isnt the one you know and i know its gonna feel all sucky because your getting rid of this guy who seems really sweet and all but i mean would you rather have a bf who you truly want to spend time with and who you get totally excited and happy around and if that isnt happening with this guy then move on and as for your best friend maybe after the breakup if you decide to can just sit down and talk about whats going on and just clear things up and continue your friendship and if he feels its you who needs to change then make the small changes and keep the friendship going because it would suck to throw away such a long and good friendship. I hope i helped good luck :D
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My boyfriend broke up with me 7 days ago because i was to clingy and he felt like he had "had enough of me " for a while .He went on vacation for 4-5 days and didnt speak a word to me.He came back 2 nights ago and we hungout the night before,and last night..because he asked to hangout with my friend (a guy) and i was there because he's like my best friend.We got along good and talked out our problems and agreed to be reallly goood friends.Ofcourse I still like him,but if he doesn't want any more then friends is better than nothing.We had no reason to "hate eachother" and whatnot because our break up wasn't a nasty one.Last night,he had his brother call me to see where me and my friends were.They came to the party we were at and ended up coming back to my house after with me,my friend,my ex boyfriend and his two brothers.Normally i'd think my ex boyfriend wouldn't wanna come back to my house,seeing as though it was sooo late already but he really wanted to go.We were all laying in my bed,but i was trying not to lay on my ex but we were all squished so we were close.He was rubbing my hip for a few minutes,so then i got up and went to the bathroom.He got up and knocked on the door to ask if i was okay.Then he went in my sisters room to lay down since she wasn't home and the other bed had no more room and he asked me to come lay with him.He held me and we watched tv.Then he went in for more (because when we were going out we did that often) we kissed/made out and he kept trying for more but I told him "no" and that we aren't going out and we can't do that and i told him that we should maybe start "talking" again but take it really slow.And he said " no,forget this ever happend" and continued to lay there then tried to go in for more AGAIN,and i said the same thing and he said he'd "think about it" but then people came in my room to sleep with us and we just slept next to eachother (like we used to ) and he left.He texted me 20 mins later and said" hey im really sorry about last night ,i was really drunk" and i said " i was to,don't worry about it i guess.." because I wanna act like i dont care and not be clingy and annoying like i would normally do.and then i just didnt respond after a few texts.we had such a good relationship and it feels weird just being friends and if we are friends,it's gonna be hard to get over him because he became close with my good guy friend (my best friends boyfriend) and im always with them.I'm trying to play my cards right and just not text him first,not be all over him and smoother him and see how things pan out.But i need help! (link)
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K well first of its good you didnt let things go to far in bed that night because you would have felt worse after that but i think what you need to do is go out and just find someone new and if seeing this guy all the time because of mutal friends is the problem maybe just not hang out with those friends for a little while and just do your own thing with your girl friends and who knows maybe you'll find some new guy friends and stuff just by going out and hanging out and stuff im sure it will be easier to be around your ex once you kinda just move on and convince yourself that hes just not a part of your life anymore and im sure it will be hard at first but trust me things will get better eventually. I hope this helped good luck :D
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