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should i apologize?
19/f so there's this guy in my class i liked him and i thought he liked me, but he didn't. He smiled and talked to me in class and on facebook, so i misinterpreted it, especially when he gave me his business card since he's a fitness trainer at this gym. And i called him so many times, and then i texted him and he told me he had a girlfriend. so basically i s talked him like a moron. And now he gives me death stares all the time. And now i feel bad, and i can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard i try. I want to say sorry to him and that i want to start over and be friends. Should i apologize? like to his face? please help thanks!
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Dear Should I apologize,
You have no reason to feel bad in the first place. Unless you're leaving out information and you did some harm to him physically, or crossed physical boundaries, waited in the bushes outside his home, told people you were his girlfriend etc. you have nothing to feel bad about. You called him repeatedly, and when he told you his status, you stopped contacting him. Kudos to you. A real stalker would not be that intelligent.
You misinterpreted his intentions-it happens, especially when it involves something we want. I think he is the one who owes the apology. After your third call, you should have received a text at the least telling you he had a girl THEN. It was rude for him to wait so long to give you this necessary bit of information.
Should you apologize? I don't think so. Moving on is enough to create closure to this situation. Remember, he has a girlfriend. Would you want a woman who was attracted to your man to become his friend? Probably not. Respect his situation - it will elevate you and show that you have class.
Trust me, a man who waits that long to tell another woman he is already involved is seeking trouble and attention. You deserve better than that anyway.
Take care,
Deeply Setting
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When it comes to misunderstandings it is always best to put everything out on the table and try to start over. You have basically said you made a complete fool of yourself, so what's the worst that could happen from trying to backtrack and apologize?
Anyone could have made this mistake. Don't beat yourself up over it. More than likely his girlfriend found out about you and got pissed. Either that, or he had feelings for you too and now he is feeling guilty for any mixed signals he may have given you.
Either way, next time you see or talk to him, just tell him upfront that you are sorry if you offended him, and you're deeply embarrassed for giving him the wrong opinion about you. After that, it's best to just drop it. You can still be friendly in class, but I would drop the facebook and text messaging.
Good luck, and I am sorry for your mishap.
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K well you have nothing to apologize for he did kinda give you false hopes and lead you on he should have told you from the starting that he had a gf so you wouldnt have thought of him that way. Anyways just get a piece of paper and pen and write down all the things you like and dont like about him and then look at it if you have more things you like about him then go through the list and look at everything and if that really seems important and if that really matters if that doesnt work then keep yourself busy by reading, drawing, baking even and just find a new crush at school or something and once your grounding is over hang out with friends and eventually you will forget him i know right now it seems impossible but trust me nothing is impossible if you try. Good luck :D
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