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big ex boyfriend issues
My boyfriend broke up with me 7 days ago because i was to clingy and he felt like he had "had enough of me " for a while .He went on vacation for 4-5 days and didnt speak a word to me.He came back 2 nights ago and we hungout the night before,and last night..because he asked to hangout with my friend (a guy) and i was there because he's like my best friend.We got along good and talked out our problems and agreed to be reallly goood friends.Ofcourse I still like him,but if he doesn't want any more then friends is better than nothing.We had no reason to "hate eachother" and whatnot because our break up wasn't a nasty one.Last night,he had his brother call me to see where me and my friends were.They came to the party we were at and ended up coming back to my house after with me,my friend,my ex boyfriend and his two brothers.Normally i'd think my ex boyfriend wouldn't wanna come back to my house,seeing as though it was sooo late already but he really wanted to go.We were all laying in my bed,but i was trying not to lay on my ex but we were all squished so we were close.He was rubbing my hip for a few minutes,so then i got up and went to the bathroom.He got up and knocked on the door to ask if i was okay.Then he went in my sisters room to lay down since she wasn't home and the other bed had no more room and he asked me to come lay with him.He held me and we watched tv.Then he went in for more (because when we were going out we did that often) we kissed/made out and he kept trying for more but I told him "no" and that we aren't going out and we can't do that and i told him that we should maybe start "talking" again but take it really slow.And he said " no,forget this ever happend" and continued to lay there then tried to go in for more AGAIN,and i said the same thing and he said he'd "think about it" but then people came in my room to sleep with us and we just slept next to eachother (like we used to ) and he left.He texted me 20 mins later and said" hey im really sorry about last night ,i was really drunk" and i said " i was to,don't worry about it i guess.." because I wanna act like i dont care and not be clingy and annoying like i would normally do.and then i just didnt respond after a few texts.we had such a good relationship and it feels weird just being friends and if we are friends,it's gonna be hard to get over him because he became close with my good guy friend (my best friends boyfriend) and im always with them.I'm trying to play my cards right and just not text him first,not be all over him and smoother him and see how things pan out.But i need help!
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I feel that you did the right thing and two thumbs up to you for it... Many other females would have fail prey to his advances especially if they held any feelings for him... The other advice giver is right you need to move on... Maybe he'll come back maybe not... And you are doing the right thing not calling him all the time and not over texting him.. Because that would only push him farther and farther away from you... And since you're alone right now work on yourself.. Because you stated that you were clingy and what turns a man off the most is a clingy possesive women.. And what's good is you understand your flaws and everything you did wrong... And that better you as a person to stay in a healthy relation next time that will LAST. Hey this guy may come back... Maybe more time away he'll realize he really do still care for you or.. Maybe he want maybe he'll just move on because your relatonship could have been over before he even told you so... And when guys move on OH THEY MOVE ON! So hang out with your friends go shoping have fun enjoy the fact that you're young beautiful and it's millions of guys who will want you... Know that and always keep that in mind... Don't spend your days lying in bed thinking what if... Because if it was really meant to be you would have stayed togeather or he will eventually return... The best of luck to you and always...
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K well first of its good you didnt let things go to far in bed that night because you would have felt worse after that but i think what you need to do is go out and just find someone new and if seeing this guy all the time because of mutal friends is the problem maybe just not hang out with those friends for a little while and just do your own thing with your girl friends and who knows maybe you'll find some new guy friends and stuff just by going out and hanging out and stuff im sure it will be easier to be around your ex once you kinda just move on and convince yourself that hes just not a part of your life anymore and im sure it will be hard at first but trust me things will get better eventually. I hope this helped good luck :D
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