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I'm a 14/f and i haven't had a bf in like over a year!i think i might be giving off the wrong vibe to guys but i'm not a les.I'm supposedly the prettiest out of my friends and i like guys but they dont seem to like me!Help please! (link)
I don't understand why you should be stressing out about this. It doesn't mean it's you, It's probably just the boys. But make sure you're not a demanding girlfriend, or you don't drown your bf out, or whatever. In the meantime, concentrate on your needs and have a good time with your friends. Hope I helped.


13/f, my grandmother used to be okay, never used to get into my way, always feeding us, and helping us. I went to this award banquet, and she didn't like what I was wearing. When she described what I should wear, it was a wedding dress. I explained that for this occasion, you just wear simple things, but she didn't listen. I went the way I looked anyhow. Everyone who passed us, she would say, you see how that person has that... and other what nonsense. She said how my breasts were sticking out. Bra or no bra, of course it would show, I have breasts, wouldn't the shape and size of it show? Now for graduation, she's forcing to dress up in some wedding gown thing. My mom had to tell her no. My grandmother thinks that I'm dressing the wrong way. What's her problem? (link)
Your Grandma was raised differently than you were and it sounds like she's trying to help you out, whether or not she really is. Maybe, to aviod argument, you should try to wear things that she will accept more easily around her. Grandmothers are pretty stubborn. Hope I helped!


I am in a play for school and its called "Poetry Coffee House". I need to wear a costume thats like from that period where they went to coffee houses and read poetry and snapped for applause. also when they talked like(this is a line in the play): Hey chaz, what you folks are gonna' see tonight is like.... alot.
I dont think we are supposed to dress like hippies but all our director said so far is the boys should wear barrets. please help i desperatly need it! (link)
Sorry, I'm probably late, but you will want to go for an artistic look... like, long pants, black shirt and a scarf? Hope I helped.


My family is all going to go to Wisconsin next Thursday-Sunday. I do not want to go and neither does my mom. We would both go if my dad let us stay in a hotel, but he said that it is too much money. My grandfather (My grandfather is who we are going there to see.) keep his house at 95 degrees and I'm not joking. There aren't even enough beds in his house! He can't hear a word that I say and I'm have strep right now so, I'm not going to talk any louder than I normally do. I really do not want to go up to Wisconsin (Mom said that she's staying here) so, how do I convince my dad to not make me go?

I rate 5's for anyone who tries (link)
Sorry, this is a toughie. But sometimes you do things because it would make other people happy. I was just staying at my grandma's and I literally had to sleep in a lawn chair with blankets on it. But my grandma was really happy that I was there. Sometimes you just have to do things for people, as much as you'll kill me for saying it.


I want to do my room over. I want it to be kinda funky/retro. People I need ideas of how to decorate my room! I'm 14 and female by the way. I will rate soo high if you give me items AND store names and even websites!!!! (link)
You can get all sorts of things everywhere. I'm trying to do the same thing for my room. A lava lamp is always fun. You will want to get interesting colors and shapes to put in your room, like on a table or a wall. I went to Claire's and got a jewelry holder that looks like a guitar and has some swirls and things poking out of it. Just remember to center on your interests in your room. Hope I helped!


how do you rate a columnists?ill rate 5s after you tell me how (link)
Okay, if I remember right... you can go into your question (You may have to sign in and go to "Your questions") and there will be a button that says "Rate this columnist" or something like that. It will explain for you what to do after that. Hope I helped you!


ok so im going to babysit this one family and i want to make a good impression so shell call me back... what should i do?

thanks i rate 5's (link)
Bring something for the kids to do like a game or a craft. Parents ejoy it when you don't let the kids tear the whole house apart and especially when you don't leave the mess for them to clean up. Be polite to the parents and fun for the kids. Hope I helped!


Hi. I have a kitten (named Shadow) who's 2 months old. She used to be very fluffy, but as of late she's been losing fur. We know it's not shedding for several reasons (we don't see fur all over the place, or have it on us after holding her, etc.) We thought it might have been soap from giving her a flea bath, or maybe something else that got on her. We have five other cats, one of them as young as she, and they're all fine. They eat the same food, drink the same water, and since Shadow is still pretty young, she doesn't go anywhere out of our yard when outside. Does anyone know anything that might be causing her fur to thin, but not spread to the other cats? (link)
I couldn't tell you exactly what it is, but sometimes when a cat is ill, they will start losing fur. If you don't think so... maybe it's hot out? Or maybe your cat is washing itself too much. That can happen too. If you're worried about it, go see a vet or ask someone at the animal shelter. Hope I helped!


I'm a beginner I guess.
I'll love any good websites that improve a singing voice, warm ups, breathing tips, throat remedies..
And if you have any tips yourself.. :]
I'll also like to know what songs are easy to start with. Someone suggested songs from Wicked?
Thanks :] (link)
Breathing tip: remember to breathe. I'm serious. It's not pretty when someone doesn't breathe and they faint right there on the stage. It can happen. Remember to breathe deep while you can. But as for singing... Sing as much as you can and you will improve. Sing different styles and different speeds. The songs don't matter. But don't be shy about it. I know everyone wants to hear your awesome voice. Hope I helped!


Does anybody know any ways to learn your lines? like any unique ways or anything?


Hev (link)
Believe me, I have had to deal with this. A person will learn their lines best depending on what kind of a learner they are. I find it best to learn a small section at a time and say that section along with the next section. If it's a play, learn every act individually. It also is a good thing if you at least know where your cues end (or what the other person is talking about before your line.) It's hard work, but it's worth it. Hope I helped!


Hi! Well, lately my eye (bottom right of right eye) has been twitching, so I was wondering if anyone might know what's causing it and how I can stop it. Thanks. (link)
This is called a tic. Maybe you haven't had enough sleep or you have been staring at a computer screen too long. Maybe you have had too much stress lately.


i want to decorate my room in black and light pink, in the cheapest way possible. I want it to be girly and stylish looking. What should I do? Please post pictures, advice, tips.. Thanks so much..ill rate 5's! (link)
Things for your room don't have to be from an expensive store. You can even go to Wal-Mart and pick up some material or pillows. Paint is the cheapest way to change a room.


OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me. (link)
He didn't cheat on you if you weren't married or engaged. He's allowed to have other girlfriends. IT sounds like he still likes you and wants to be around you. Hope it works out!


Me and my bf have been dating for 6 years and everytime he takes me out to a romanctic place and we come back home he always tries to have sex with me. I tell him sometimes I want to wait til im married. He says he understands and all but then he tries it again in a week. I mean I don't blame him for being horny but I gave him a handjob once but it was like a couple months ago. Now for some reason everytime I see him this month he seems to get depressed everytime. I ask him whats wrong and he says nothing. We still kiss and stuff but I feel like Im doing something wrong. So I gave him another handjob and have been but he still seems depressed.
Is there anything I can do to get him alittle more happier?
and don't think about saying hes gay or something (link)
DO NOT LET HIM MAKE YOU HAVE SEX BECAUSE YOU FEEL SORRY FOR HIM! You shouldn't have to step down, HE should step UP, if you know what I mean. Never let him make you do what you don't want to do.
Hope I helped!


i bought a jean about a month ago and its really light colored jean, and it didnt look too good on me and i was wondering if i can dye my jean in darker shades..

where can i buy the dye and i would really appriciate it if you can give me specific name of the brand.

and is there a website that have ideas for decorating a boring jean?

i rate high and if u mock me in any sort then i report and get you banned (link)
I didn't know you could get people banned. Anyway, if you are willing to, you could Have your friends sign it in permenant marker. There's a special material paint you can get at Walmart that will stay on fabrics. A good way to spice up jeans is with a scarf on the hips or as a belt.


Is magic real? Can you really hypnotize people? I saw this thing on tv where this guy made this girl float..sounds totally not real but if you saw it you would probably believe it. But anyways, is it actually real? (link)
Magic is not real, Most of the time it is just a simple illusion that we can't see. But hypnotism is real.


I swear I'm not trying to brag, I'm 13 and only like 70 pounds, I sit in front of my computer all day, I eat a bunch of crap food, I go to McDonalds all the time, but you can still see my spine through the front. How can I gain weight? I rate high usually, but smartass answers will just result in me asking "Why do you suck so much?" as one of those personal questions. (link)
Some people have a high metabolism. You'll probably stay skinny. It will help if you get some excercise regularly. If you do that, you will gain weight, in a good way. Muscle. You will also feel better about yourself. Go for a run every morning, bike, skate, swim. Excercise doesn't have to be boring and tough.


today my brother held my arm so tight i have a bruise, yesterday he hit me over the head with a phone, and the day before he repeaditly hit me with a key board. other times he punches and hits me, i tell my parents and they never do anything. yet when i do something to him i get in trouble immediatly. it isnt fair and it hurts me that he practically abuses me and that my parents dont care. what should i do?
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Depending on how old your brother is, I think that you should report him to the authorities. Don't worry about getting him in trouble, NO PERSON HAS THE RIGHT TO TREAT YOU THAT WAY. You do whatever you can to stop him hurting you. Maybe your parents have to SEE him hurt you in order to believe. Do something about it, not hit back, but tell someone. The councilor will help you.


With the money I get for my birthdy next month I plan to buy some sort of MP3 player. I have been researching it on google. I have come to, two different MP3 players I might consider buying. Zen Micro 4GB or the iPod Mini 4GB. My boyfriend has a iPod mini but I don't know if that is what I want because I'm always hearing people complain about them including my b/f. So before buying either of these do any of you know any pros or cons of either products? any help will be very appreciated. Also of there is any thing tha you feel is better than these products let me know (link)
I have never heard of the zen, but if you go to
www.apple.com , there is a page with the ipod on it. There are ads and things. Hope I helped!


15/f
i have a friend, and anytime we are hanging out alone or with other GIRL friends..shes normal and acts herself. but whenever we're hanging out with guys..she acts like a complete idiot, saying stupid things, acting stupid...just making herself out to be the stupidest girl ever!! and shes not stupid at all. after a party last night me and another friend told her and she was just like "you guys do it too and i don't care what people think" we do act dumb sometimes but we never take it a far as she does and after seeing her act so stupid- we will never do it again. she does it to get attention from guys and she gets it but its totally negative attention. its funny for a while, but then it gets annoying and everyone knos shes putting on an act. how do we get her to realize what shes doing is annoying and looking bad on herself? (link)
Don't be nasty to her, but if enough peolpe tell her what they think, or if she gets shocked enough (Like the boy she is doing it for telling her she doesn't like it) She will hopefully stop. Whatever you do, don't scream at her that she's an idiot. If all else fails, take it slow, drop hints until she gets it.




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