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Dear Colomnists,
I have a question. I want to go ice skating with my friend today but my mom doesn't wana go....what can i do to make her say yes?? (link)
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you can ask your friends mom to go with you. or hey, maybe you can go without parents.
if you still want your mom to go, say something like "mom we havent gone ice skating in a long time" or something..why is it necessary that she goes?
please rate high. im the only person who attempted to answer this question
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. But whenever we greet each other, we don't hug or kiss. We just say "hey." However, he is affectionate when we are watching a movie or something. But I want him to kiss, or atleast hug me when we greet each other. How do I get him to do this? I don't want to be the first one to do it .. because it might be akward, and he'd probably think "what was that for?" Help? (link)
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believe it or not, girls can make the first move. please dont be like every other girl expecting the guy to start doing something instead of you. he may not even realize that somethings missing when you greet eachother, which is why its up to YOU to kiss him first. just open your arms, walk to him, hug him, look at him, kiss him. he will be happy, not shocked. if he says anything about it, then hes just weird.
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alot has been going on around me. i'm really depressed. well last night i thought of cutting but i dont have the guts to do it. so instead with a pin i carved an X into my wrist. i feel so addicted i did it again this morning. i keep having these suicidal thoughts and i dont know whats wrong. my life is a mess. and i dont know what to do help? (link)
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let me explain what cutting does.
cutting leaves scars. people who see them will know that you have cut before and they wont want to get to know you because you seem negative and depressed. not only that, but every time that YOU look at the scars you will probably regret it -maybe not now or tomorrow, but you will- and get even more negative and depressed and resort to more cutting...its a never ending cycle. so basically if you dont want to explain what those red marks on your arms are every time you meet someone, then i would suggest stopping.
why did you even think "well im so depressed...maybe hurting myself will help". how can more pain help depression? it CANT. and if your parents or teachers find out they will try to put you in some organization or program to help you and you wont feel comfortable.
cutting will also always be on your mind. everywhere you go youll be thinking "i hope he didnt see the cuts.." or "does she know??" so stop now before it gets serious because if it does, you probably will become suicidal and kill yourself [all because you couldnt handle middle school or high school or whatever you're in].
please stop right now. you dont know what your getting yourself into. cutting affects both you physically and mentally in negative ways.
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Well my best friend since 1st grade (im in 8th by the way! Well she has always been the goody goody type like when she goes out with guys all she does is the basics (kiss), well just this year she went out with a guy named mark and she didnt know this but he loved to go all the way just on the first date. so she goes on the first date and then goes back to his house. she didnt exspect to you know do anything. Well then they start kissing and little before u know he has hind down her pants and she didnt say anything cause she is "shy" well all through that night they were so close to haveing sex, she gave a blowjob and a handjob, but his dad came home so they didnt go any further. And I might sound over protected but to go all that way in one night i mean who knows what there gonna do. I am worried only because she was a mistake when she was born, so wouldnt you think she would be careful and not have sex?? should i talk to her about it?? or what???
please help
sincerelly,
lost at thought (link)
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yes. tell her that "oh my effing god. you are in 8th grade and youre already doing stuff with this guy? and on the FIRST DATE?! i thought you had better morals than that..who would stick their hand down someones pants on a first date??" -of course, if you arent the "angry" type, then dont say it quite like that, but get that point across-. dont call her a slut or anything like that...but tell her that she couldve gotten an STD from that guy if he didnt use a condom! and that sex is only intended for people in LOVE. in 8th grade, you are not in love...and on the first date you are not in love. because i can almost guarantee that if she suddenly decides "you know..i kinda dont wanna have sex anymore.." that he'll break up with her in a heartbeat. then she'll start CRYING and CUTTING and all this other crap because "he was perfect! he was THE one, you dont understand..omg i loved him so much how could he??" and if a baby comes along, will he really be responsible and help out? i dont think so. she is acting very immature for someone becoming "sexually active".
oh..and by the way..she may have had fun with this guy, but when she gets married, do you think shell be proud that instead of sharing that 1st special moment with her husband, she used it in 8th grade? come ON.
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Im gay and I dont know how to tell my family. I overheard that my dad will kill someone in the family if he found out they were gay. I feel horrible. I know that my whole family would hate me. I already messed everything up with half of my friends. If any of my friends find out im gay no one will want to be near me. They'll hate me. Half of my friends already hate me from something a while ago. I feel horrible. I told one of my friends and they told me that they will always be my friend. I love her so much. I dont want to lose my friends. How do I tell them? (link)
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let me start off saying that if you're a girl, then it is usually -at least where i come from- more accepted to be gay than a guy being gay. and yes girls can be gay, for everyone who says they cant. =) well anyways, i would start off by telling your dad that youre going through some changes and that youre confused about your future, relationships, school, etc. this will probably loosen him up. then simply say that you arent sure if girls attract you. DONT say that guys DO attract you, just that girls dont. -i am assuming that you are a guy-. if he asks why, say that "well like i said, ive been confused about life lately..." or something like that. if he asks "well do you like guys?" then say "im not really sure." see how he reacts. if he gets angry and starts threatening you in any way, then i would suggest not telling him until you move out. otherwise, youre safe to tell him in the future when you claim to "not be confused anymore". i hope i helped..
OH, and about your friends, i would suggest only telling your close friends -like the girl that you already told- that youre gay. otherwise rumors spread, gossip starts, and people start making fun. and we dont want that.
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I'm the co-captain for my middle school's cheer squad. There are 3 girls specificly that talk bad about, make fun of, and put all the other girls down. They won't listen to anything I say and if I make a descision they don't like they simply to not do what they are supposed to. They act like they rule the squad. I've had many complaints about these girls hurting other teamates feelings and talked to my captain about this but those 3 girls are her best friends and since she doesn't wanna have to yell at them about it she ignores the problem. Our coach is very self-absorbed and won't listen to anything I try to tell her. All she says is "You're the Co-Captain, figure it out" And I can't change those girls attitudes on my own, they just won't listen to me. Does anyone know how I can solve this? (link)
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what you need to do is actually confront the captain in an unyielding fashion -if that makes sense-. you need to tell her again that she needs to speak to those cheerleaders about it or you will get the principal involved (or any other important staff member). dont take any of the captain's "well theyre my best friends and they would hate me" crap. say "i dont care. they are harassing the other members of the squad and thats making them not look forward to practice." you could even say -if your good at lieing- "well the girls getting made fun of are my friends too." you need to be harsh about it and dont let her convince you to back off. stick with it. and really get the principal involved if it doesnt stop.
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Hey all. Well, I took an entrance exam for this program called the Science & Tech program to get into this good High School (Eleanor Roosevelt High School- in Maryland). This program is pretty competitive because a lot of people apply (somewhere in the thousands) aroung the county and only about 10-15 percent get accepted-250 people or so. I was wondering if my grades are good enough (Math Science Soc. Studies Lang. Arts Only grades counted):
7th grade 8th grade:
Math: B A B A A
Science: A C B A A
Soc. Studies:A B A A A
Lang. Arts: A A B A A
Please tell me if or if not these grades are good enough. Thanks!
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well..it depends on if those classes are higher level or honors level or something like that or just on-level -meaning everyone else took them too-. i would say that your language arts and social studies grades are very good, your math could use a little improvement, and that you need to focus more on science. it also depends on what the other kids got. so if your grades were the highest in your classes, then yes you will probably -in my opinion- get accepted.
and just so you know...i really don't think colleges care what high school you went to. so dont cry for weeks if you arent accepted or start cutting or anything like that -lol- because colleges care about what your grades in high school are and what classes you took, NOT the high school you went to. so DONT stress about it.
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I've like this guy for a few months now and we're still just friends. one of my friends heard that he likes me but I'm not sure if he does or not. what are some signs that shows that he's interested? (link)
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if he likes being with you, if he talks to you all the time...but a way to find out is by asking him, "hey i heard that you liked me..is that true?" and if he says yes then he likes you. =)
so yeah.
oh and by the way, to all the people who use "♥", thats very overused and kind of lame.
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Okay, well..my b/f is grounded from the computer and hes been calling me..well, just to talk. and he called me one night, and my phone was about to die..so i had to go..and he got on his sisters sn today and said he'll call me later..so i went upstairs and charged my phone..it took forever..so i just went to the basement and watched skeleton key with my family..and wen the movie was over..it was 9:30 (to late to call him) and i went upstairs, i had 5 missed calls!! all from him, and he doesnt call me very much at all..just wen he tells me he will..and he just wanted to talk! he told me ealier today..omg i feel so bad..idk what he is thinking..he knows im not ignoring him..but please..just guys..advice!! and pleasse dont be smart wit your answers! thanks..i rate- (link)
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hey. this is a VERY weird question. your boyfriend has a right to want to talk to you, doesnt he? and he doesnt have to let you know when hes going to. dont feel bad about it, just call him tomorrow and say that you were busy. i dont understand why you are so worried.
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my bf and i started going out on dec 31. i went to my bestfriend's house later on that day to have a sleepover, but my bestfriend got mad cause he called my cellphone and she started asking me why i gave him my number. then she started calling me a whore and slut because i went out with "19652" guys (i only went out with 4 including my current bf). then, she asked me why i didn't tell her that i liked him and she started to accuse me of pretending to like him when i liked him months ago (i never tell her who i like because she would always give me an attitude). then i had to hang up on him. the next day, i didn't get to talk to my bf cause i knew my bestfriend would get mad. i finally talked to him online when i got home, but he didn't sound as happy or close as he used to. he used to joke around, but he barely even talks now.
why does my best friend get so angry whenever i like a guy?
is my bf just being shy, uncomfortable, or is he mad or something? (link)
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i think that your best friend is jealous. maybe she hasnt had a boyfriend lately. or maybe she knows that once you get a boyfriend you wont be spending as much time with her as you used to.
and your boyfriend is probably upset because he found out about your best friend not liking him. it isnt your fault that your best friend doesnt want you to have a boyfriend. but because of that, it will be hard to decide on what to do with your time because your best friend will get even madder if you choose your boyfriend over her.
so yeah.
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okay well im 14 and my boyfriend is 16. we've messed around and stuff but we havent had sex. the other night he told me that his step mom was talking to him and said that he should be careful because my parents could say that he has been doing stuff to me and he could get in big trouble. is that true? i thought the only law was anyone 18 cant do anything sexual with anyone under 18. i dont want to get him introuble so i want to know if what his mom said was true. i rate 5's (link)
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His step-mom is very mistaken. The law says that a person over 18 and a person younger than 18 can not have any physical/sexual contact. Since neither of you are over 18, you are not breaking the law.
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there is this thing at my school called Beginning Algebra and Geometry and also Pre-algebra. I am in pre al but i have a 98 average and i took this test to see if i could get moved up to BAG, but i didnt. i got half the ?s wrong within 10 ?s and i have been stressing about it because ireally wanted to be in it and i have been trying to prove to my teacher that i need to be in that class, but it is becoming unhealthy i think. i have gotten 3 100s on tests and quizes since then so i probably have a 99 average. can you help me to stop stressing? or at least to deal?
Sarah (link)
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hey micaela. or "sarah" *wink wink*. dont stress about what kind of math your in. it does not matter. it matters if your in honors classes, not advanced, you know what i mean? like even if you stay in BAG or whatever your in, you still have TONS -and i mean tons- of opportunities at pope or walton..i mean..high school....to take honors math. and it might actually be for the best. maybe later you'll be too busy with other classes to worry about algebra 2 or something and you would be glad you were only in honors geometry. i hope you understand what i said..it was a tad confusing.
ps: micaela, mom wants you to empty the dishwasher
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Hi my parents found out I look at porn and they said they knew it was normal and stuff. Does this mean I should stop watching it? (link)
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uhh
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about how many 3-5 songs could a 512MB mp3 player hold? (link)
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about 120 songs that are 4 minutes long, but usually you have more than that because most songs are only 3 to 3 and a half minutes long.
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Hello!
I am a British nanny. I've always wanted to go to America, but I can't afford it. However, I have just thought - how about I worked over there as a nanny?! (I would live-in)
It may sound crazy, but I am looking for a bit of help now. Does anyone know of any kind of nanny or job agencies that would make it safe and reassure both me and the parents that both parties are reliable?
If you are American (and had (a) child/ren), would you hire a British nanny? (Assuming, of course, you were assured of her reliability et cetera)
Also, I would have no clue where to go in America. I want somewhere alive, but not excessively BUSY - not like New York! I live in the middle of three fields of sheep, I don't want too much of a culture shock :P So can anyone recommend a quieter city? Or if not, at least a nice area where I'm not likely to get shot for stepping up the wrong street? Oh, and sorry to sound greedy, but a richer area where I'd be more likely to get a better salary? My pay at the moment is awful and I am trying to save up for a house, laptop and all sorts! :)
Thank you! (link)
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HI! first of all i want to say that i love british people..haha well anyways. im 15 and when i was 11 and younger my sister and i had a nanny. she did not work for any company and she lived with us, and of course we paid her.
basically try to put yourself in newspaper ads, online, or in phone books or something. i dont remember how we ever met our old nanny, im sorry. but when i had one i lived in el paso, texas, and TONS of families in that city have nannies. so try going somewhere in the southwest area like new mexico and west texas and you'll find many families interested in hiring you.
hope i helped!
ps-remember that an interview will probably take place and that at first the parents will keep an eye on you to make sure you are right for them. =)
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Last saturday I went on a "date" with my guy friend Jake. After we went out to eat, we sat in his car for a few minutes and just talked. I've never hugged him, or anything. But we were sitting there, and I put my head down to pick something up when he touched my hair and said, I love your hair. you look so beautiful with it. After that I was like, omgosh he's the best guy ever! Is this normal? Like just from him touching my hair and telling me I look beautiful - like I think I'm really starting to like him.
Sorry if this sounds cheesy. (link)
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since youve never done something like this with him before [im assuming], you should see what hes like romantically. the fact that he touched your hair triggered something that made you feel totally different about him. this is normal. =)
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i smoke and it's not because of my friends! my friends dont know.im only 13 and im addicted!PLz HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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to quit smoking requires self control, persistence, and confidence.
-who buys the drugs for you? tell him/her to stop doing it no matter what because you are trying to stop the habit.
-whenever you really want to smoke, burn a cigarette. if that doesnt work, drink a glass of water instead.
-when you go out dont bring enough money with you to buy cigarettes.
hope i helped.
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Ok. I'm turning 14 and this year i want to have a really fun birthday party. My birthday is in the winter and so i couldn't do anything outside. I have a pretty large basement where the party would be. What are some good party ideas other than spin the bottle. Are there any kind of themes i could have and what are some decorations and food that i could get? I also have a pool table if that could do anything for the party. What is some good music that people like? And what else can i do so my party isin't boring. (What could i do for my party so people have something to do) (link)
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Party ideas and Activities: watch movies, play board games, play video games, have pillow fights, jump on a trampolene
Themes: halloween/scary, a certain color maybe
Decorations: balloons, confetti
Food: pizza [different toppings], popcorn, candy, chips, crackers, ice cream, brownies, milkshakes, coke floats, coke [different kinds]
Music: up beat songs [including the black eyed peas, ciara, 50 cent, rhianna (she sings pon de replay), etc], rock [greenday, kelly clarkson, click 5]
Individual songs: Switch [by Will Smith], Sugar [by Trick Daddy]
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so i do about 50 cruches each night and in the morning when i wake up my stomach seems flatter but throughout the day it gets bigger again.. it gets so annyoing.. it still gets bigger even if i do 100 crunches each night.. whats wrong? (link)
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you cant just think about how many crunches you do. you need to change your diet, too. try avoiding carbs, fats, and sweets for 2 weeks and see how you get.
ps-i read somewhere that to get great abs in like 2 months or less you need to do 3 sets of 10-30 crunches daily so if youre doing less than 10 per set try to increase it to at least 20.
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What would you do if you hated life but then all of a sudden your "friends" decided to hate you. ALL OF THEM? (link)
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hm. try to think about what you may have done to make your friends upset. you could have talked about them behind their back, or been mean to them. whatever the reason is approach them and ask them why theyre mad at you. no matter what the reason is, say that youre sorry so that theyll forgive you.
ps-dont hate life! thinking about the bad things takes time away from the good things.
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