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Q: after having sex, the next day if your stomach hurts and you feel fatter and bloated what does that mean? because i have been feel this way for about 5 days. i dont remember anything when i was having sex because i was drunk and someone took advatage over me. and it was my first time. im really scared about this.

if he was really doing it hard, it could just be from that, i didnt have sex for like 8 months and then i did and the guy was to rough and i ached everywhere on my body for a bout a week .. so just rest and see if that helps any thats what i did

Q: 16/female

How long should you wait after hooking up with a guy and not recieving a phone call before deciding if he's used you or not? Sorry if that was a little confusing to understand, but it's been a week now and im not sure if i should just forget about him and move on, i really just can't stop thinking about him and i know after having sex the guy should at least call if he cares about the girl at all right? i mean if he dosent.. does that mean he has no feelings for her whatsoever?

im pretty sure theres like a 3 day rule... even if hes busy if he was a nice caring guy he would at least call once by now..

i say move on
he sounds like a dick

Q: 17/F So, here I am trying to learn how to play. I'm trying to teach myself and I need some helpful videos to watch. I want to get into learning songs. Could someone link me to some well known songs that an absolute begginer should be able to play? Thank you.

i dont know any videos
but heres a site that helped me learn chords
http://www.chordbook.com/guitarchords.php

and this is the easiest song i could thing of, only two chords and theres more on this site

http://www.guitarnoise.com/lesson/horse-with-no-name/

hope that helped
goodluck

Q: im now a 10th greader in school and it seams like im always getting mad at something or someone and it end's up as me not talking or me hitting the wall... i was wondering what i can do so that i dont get as mad in school?

try bringing a stress ball with you, and when you get angry just squeeze it, it does work.

Q: me and my boyfriend have been having sex for quite some time now.
but i've never given him a hand job...its not like he cares or anything, but i just feel like where we've been having sex that i shouldn't feel weird about it.

its just odd to me to touch a guys penis.
and even weirder to have to stroke him.

idk.
i really want to.
but how can i go into it?
& not make myself look like an idiot.

i was worried about that to, but as soon as you touch it, its like you no what to do with it and you can have hem show you what he likes and if your really worried about it you can go to google.com and type in 'how to give a guy a handjob' and it will come up in wikihow

Q: So last night i got fingered for the first time.. it didn't really feel good it almost hurt more than anything.. and it hurts to pee.. is that normal for the first time?

hm, its pretty normal, he just may have been doing it a bit hard for your first time

Q: I'm going to the beach with my sisters, mom, and boyfriend for the day, and don't really know what to do. My boyfriend and I can only hold hands, so no romantic stuff really. But any ideas on games or anything different to do at the beach? So far we've got:

-Swimming in the ocean
-Digging a hole
-Looking for sand crabs
-Photo shoot, haha
-Going running

But we can't really think of anything else. Anything really creative or weird? :P Also, money's kinda tight, so no boardwalk. Hah.

go tanning, laying out in the sun

Q: Well I feel that i'm an incy-vincy wee bit overweight but my folks make a big deal out of it.And because of this i'm deppresed and dont eat most of the time.Then my mom tells me that i should eat and work(u know house chores and stuff)at the same time.I'm 15 year old girl and alredy have so many problems and i need to loose weight fast so that my folks stop bugging me.

diets
exercise

thats really the only way to do it
you can go to google and type in diet plan
and try to find one that works best with your age and weight

hope that helped.

Q: My friend has lied to me so much. I don't even trust her anymore. So we were gonna tell each other who we like and she said she would tell me if I told her first. So I did. She lied to me and told me she liked another guy. She doesn't know that I know she lied to me. I found out and I can't exactly tell her I found out because of how I did find out. And she likes the same guy as me. I wouldn't care at all if she likes the same guy, big deal. But the thing is, she lied to me. And she told her other friend who I like and that she does too. They were talking about me and I always talked about him. Like how he talks to me and stuff and that she thinks I'm lying about that. I don't know what to tell her or what to say. Please help me! I'm so confused of what to say to her, it makes me really mad. Thanks and sorry it was so long.

well she kinda sounds like, a person you don't want to be friends with. Call her out about ask her why she lied and then told everyone your secret when your suppose to be best friends. Tell her how it made you feel, that she really upset you and she shouldn't have done that maybe she will apologize and see her wrong, if not then she sounds like a waste of air.

Q: Ok I need a site where I can watch Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix online. I googled it and found some sites, but none of them ended up working in the end. Does anyone know of any good sites that will work? And please MAKE SURE they work hahah! I am so bored! Oh, and full-screen would be nicer, but if not, that's ok. Thank you!

the best site ever: http://watch-movies.net/

Q: I was told that once I began my period that I could come in and get my Depo Provera shot. I had very light pink/brown discharge and a day later I noticed that it seemed somewhat red. The next day it was still red, but light and there was a clot. I asked the nurse if this was my period and she said that it sounded like it was so I went in and got my Depo shot. The very next day I noticed that I had light pink/brown discharge and my "period" stopped. I was wondering if this was normal with a Depo shot, if that was really my period and if it wasn't, was it okay for me to get that shot. Also, I was wondering how long after the shot should I wait to have sex?

your first period is usually like that, brown and red im sure it was your period as for how long you should wait i would ask your doctor, i imagine a few weeks

Q: hi all.... m in india and its summer season here... and summer in india means really hot summere.... well the prob is that i get pimples on my back and sometimes on the chest too... it just dosnt looks nice wen i have to remove shirt in front of anubody if i have to... like wen i go to swimming.... i feel bad bout it... any advice to tackle the prob??????????
ps ... m a male,, 19 year old

most acne products where on not just your face but back and chest you could try proactive, or seeing a dermatologist

Q: I am 13 years old and have no babysitting experince but, my parents took my phone away and said have have to babysit to get it back. But since i have never done it before i wnt to know what goes on the flyer and what doesnt?

hm i would say, something like

(YOUR NAME)
then say something about how your responsible
i wouldnt tell them you have no experience though ha
but say the ages of children you can watch since you have no experience they should probably be above at least 3 years an older, make sure you leave your number and anything else you think you should put on

hope that helped, goodluck

Q: My parents are divorced and my mum is remarried, my stepdad recently said some terrible things to be. What happened was; my mum and stepdad had an argument, when my mum went upstairs she left me and my brother in the firing line of his anger. I have recently seen a councellour for other reasons, and he said some hurtful things like; Everything that ever goes wrong in this family is your (me and my brothers) fault, then everytime your mum gets upset its your(me) fault! and "councelling at your age" Deal with it!"
Know I can't even look him in the eye and I got really upset at school yesterday and It is really getting to me, I want some advice on how to get over it. Thanks for your time!

im going through something similar with my step dad, what i do to get over it is just go take a walk and listen to music. Also talk to your mom and tell her and see if she can talk to him about it..every time my step dad gets pissed off im the first person he yells and screams at, and i yell and scream back lol that gets rid of some of the anger but just tell him that he shouldnt be talking to you like that and tell your councilor

Q: this may be a dumb Q but... When a girl does it for the first time she bleeds. right? but when, right after, later, how does that work...if Ima do it...should i bring a pad???

sorry if its a dumb q.

some bleed, some don't
all depends on the girl,

bring one if it will calm your nerves about it

Q: Oh kay so my boyfriend wants to like have sex with me and shit-i mean he already fingered me and i gave him a BJ but i don't know if i should have sex with him i am only 13 and i don't want it to get around my school! HELP!!

only do it if you think your ready
if your not, dont do it just because your boyfriend wants to you have to be ready to

as for it getting around the school, if you dont say anything and he doesnt say anything then.. nobody should find out but if you tell someone or he tells someone.. then your screwed

Q: i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and he wants to have sex but i dont and he sead ''if we dont then we have to stop going out'' but truely love him and we have been going out for 2 years but if we did have sex he it would be rape right cuz i'ma minnor and thats why i dont want to and i told him that but he still wants to i would have sex but it's illegal so i dont know what to do should i have sex or not (keeping in mind we love each other)????
-Bryona

if he loves you like you say; he will wait

goodluck!

Q: is it true that a male can be 10.5 in????

it could be, but most arnt..

owch !

Q: Oh kay.. lol.
well, im 14/female.

sooo, i lost my virginity to this guy back in march, he was 17 at the time. well, me and him before we had sex had hooked up numerous times, but after we had sex, he like just stoped talking to me.... ! it hurt ause i did give him my virginity and he was a freaking dick about it, but w.e i got over it.

then not so long ago i found out by my friend that he has done that to alot of virgins, hit it and quit it :/

anywaysss. i dont hold grudges, so when he said sorry about a month after we had sex i accepted it.

we talked from time to time very briefly. and then after i while we never talked! and just yesterday he wrote me a message out of no where.

what do you think he wants from me? (:
thanks for tha help.

ohhh, and we only had sex once but he is exstreamlyyy sexy, ahah. if he wants to do it again should i?

obviously he wants some ass;
only do it if thats all you want to, because if you do it and are expecting a relationship your just setting yourself up for disappointment, but theres nothing wrong with hoooookups as long as you both no the seriousness of what your doing