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i guess it goes in this category ..
Oh kay.. lol.
well, im 14/female.
sooo, i lost my virginity to this guy back in march, he was 17 at the time. well, me and him before we had sex had hooked up numerous times, but after we had sex, he like just stoped talking to me.... ! it hurt ause i did give him my virginity and he was a freaking dick about it, but w.e i got over it.
then not so long ago i found out by my friend that he has done that to alot of virgins, hit it and quit it :/
anywaysss. i dont hold grudges, so when he said sorry about a month after we had sex i accepted it.
we talked from time to time very briefly. and then after i while we never talked! and just yesterday he wrote me a message out of no where.
what do you think he wants from me? (:
thanks for tha help.
ohhh, and we only had sex once but he is exstreamlyyy sexy, ahah. if he wants to do it again should i?
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obviously he wants some ass;
only do it if thats all you want to, because if you do it and are expecting a relationship your just setting yourself up for disappointment, but theres nothing wrong with hoooookups as long as you both no the seriousness of what your doing
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Well hun, I know what he wants from you.
&& thats sex.
He thinks that since he got it from you once he can get it from you again.
And again, and again.
I know because its happened to me.
I was 14 when I lost my virginity; he was 18.
We had sex about 6 times and then he freaked out and we stopped talking. Were kinda cool now where like we randomly talk but its still not the same.
I hated him for a long time because he made me feel special and I gave him my virginity and I still have feelings for him a year and like a month later..
What im trying to say is that I dont think your really over him because everytime he talks to you you still get that special feeling..
Thats why if he asks to hangout and have sex your gonna really wanna do it.
&& its really up to you.
If it were anyother guy other than the guy who took your virginity I would say go for it and have sex because friends with benefits are fun.
But since its that guy its gonna bring back all those emotions. && its gonna be really hard.
I hope the best for you.
Im here to talk and listen anytime.
I hope I helped.
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He's 17, you are 14. I'm not judging the age different here, I'm just saying that people of different ages think differently.
All guys want sex, enjoy sex, and live for sex. It is very possible that your friend just wants you for sex, infact...it's very likely.
Another unlikely possibility might be that he feels bad about what he did, and wants to catch up with you to repair your relationship...which would be a very mature and considerate act for a boy of such a young age. It is very unlikely.
In my opinion, if you want to have sex with him, just do it. Sex can be fun. As long as you don't fall in love with him and expect more in the relationship. Friends with benefits can be fun, but it often ends badly.
You can learn a lot from an older guy with more experience, and hey, it might inhance your sex life in the future. Just DON'T GET EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED.
And please, use a condom.
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As some others have mentioned, a lot of guys around that age would use a girl your age for sex. What your friend told you should be a flashing red light for you: he has "hit and quit" a lot of virgins. You cannot see yourself as the exception, no matter how hard it is to accept. You are just another girl to him...in guy talk, that would go something like, just another booty call.
Regarding the whole age thing, although some older guys use older girls just for sex, the fact is that this kid is 17- most guys that age ONLY want one thing. Raging hormones + self discovery = want sex all the time. While it's natural and perfectly normal, it is unacceptable for this guy to be using you, as if you are an object. You might not want to hear this, but you are VERY young. I understand that you are growing, and learning a lot about yourself now, but you really are only 14. We were all that age, as the saying goes, but seriously, you have a long ways to go (as annoying as it may be to hear).
Now, back to your question...if he wants it again, what should you do? Say no, and do not give in. Point blank. He obviously only wants one thing. After a while you never talked, because talking is not what matters to him. Again, sex is on his mind, and you, as a female, are an object he may very well want to use in order to get his way. Now, do you want to be used again? No. So, be strong, and understand that the answer is NO.
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To be brutally honest, most older guys are typically only be interested in younger girls for sex (or at least some type of sexual activities).
Every guy wants to be your first; they want to be able to say: "Yeah buddy I took her virginity".
I know not all guys are like this, but quite honestly, a lot of them are. Even guys your own age.
Hell, I actually know a guy (I stay as far away from him as possible) who for over a year now has been trying to get me to have sex with him. He tried doing the same to my friend. Well, we have a mutual friend, who once she did, he ditched.
And he actually keeps track, he's 19 and he's chucked 87 girls. It's pretty disguisting.
I honestly really think he'll just want a bootycall, but hey, maybe I'm wrong. I don't know this guy, but from the sounds of it, chances are I'm not.
Whatever happens, don't have sex with him again. He used you & hurt you, and you should find someone who deserves you, and won't do that.
Good luck & message me if you need anything else :)
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A woman has to have dignity. He did something terrible to you. That's nothing to play around with, and he obviously hasn't taken it seriously. I know you accepted he said sorry, and I don't think people should hold grudges because it will only make things worse. But, you have to show him your place. You have to realize that he will probably do it again, and the reason that he is writing to you is because he wants to do it again, and you are only going to hurt more. Show him that you have self-worth and make it very difficult for him.
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He wants ass from you, nothing more.
Don't give it to him if you have any dignity whatsoever.
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in my opinion.. he MAYBE feels bad.. i couldnt say though.. i think you should make him respect you.. dont give it up again because he's sexy... otherwise he'll keep getting what he wants at your emotions' cost. if you dont respect yourself others wont respect you.. and males especially. he might even think of you as a booty call.. good luck and hope i helped! (you're worth more than what he' making you seem as)
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okayyyyyy.
well. first off. you're fourteen, he's seventeen.
most seventeen year olds would use a fourteen year old for sex, or play them, or as you said, "hit it and quit it"
but some wouldn't, but obviously yours did.
anyway.
NO. you should NOT have sex with him again, even if he did apologize. how do you know he won't do it all over again?
he probably wants you to have sex with him again.
but maybe, oddly, he wants to be friends but i doubt that, seriously.
just try and avoid him.
you two could be friends, but no hooking up.
it'll give you a bad rep & give you a low self esteem.
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