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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I haven't missed any periods & im not sexually active. I have done sexual things like 2 months ago, but no sex. Since then, i have gotten all of my periods & they were perfectly normal. I've been really stressed & worried because it's inching near the end of the school year & summer's starting soon. Why do you think my period is brown & light?
its normal. Stress causes your period to be abnormal sometimes. Are you athletic too? because athletes tend to have abnormal periods too. It could also be because of your health. Are you getting sick? are you eating healthy? underweight?
If you're that worried, go to the doctor or gynecologist and get it checked out.
Help me... I want to kiss my boyfriend so bad, but I barely see him outside of school and I dont want to rush it cuz weve only been together for a few weeks... But I'm anxious to have my first kiss and I really really like him a lot and hes my BF but I don't know how to kiss him at school cuz all my friends would laugh at me and rumors would spread... and I dont know if he's ready... my friend was teasing us and asked him when we were gonna kiss and he didnt answer.. what does that meannn????? any advice????
don't rush it. don't pressure him into doing anything he isn't ready for yet. maybe you're ready for your first kiss, but maybe he isn't yet. You just gotta be patient. Trust me, it will be a lot better if you wait until he wants it too. Talk to him about it and bring the topic up. See what he says and ask questions. Ask him why he hasn't made a move yet, if he's scared or what? Let it come naturally
I've had the same hair style for years now, and I'm looking for a way to spice it up.
Here's a (kinda bad) picture of me.
I have long auburn hair that is naturally slightly wavy and straigthens/holds curl pretty well. I have long layers and long side bangs.
Any ideas?
I've considered blonde highlights for summer, do you think this would look good on me?
I'm not sure if I want to go short, but I really love this hairstyle. Do you think I could pull it off?
I appreciate any advice or tips! Thanks!
I definitely think highlights would be a great idea :) Maybe even try some low lights.
Try something crazy too like going blonde or dying your hair a shade darker. I think a dark brown would look good on you!
I like the picture you attached of Jennifer Aniston. I think you could pull off that hairstyle. Try cutting your hair a few inches shorter and part your hair down the middle with some bangs that touch your cheekbones.
hi im going to beach in 2 weeks with my friend and she has no clue ive ever got my period and she hast got hers and shes that kind of person whos shy and stuff im going to the beach with her in 2 weeks but i cant go in the water with my period and im to scared to use a tampon what should i do and also her mom knows i have gotten my period before but im still to shy to tell her mom and also will my period end by the time i go to the beach im just concerned!!!!! thanks so much please answer
It depends on when you get your period. It lasts from 5-8 days. Find out when your last period was and count 28 days from the LAST day you had your period. After you count 28 days from that point, thats when you can expect your next period to begin.
Ok now for the beach part, you have several options.
You can talk to your friend or her mom about this. I know you said you're shy but be brave :) you don't have to say you have your period.. make up another excuse like you're scared of the water and don't want to go swimming, or you sprained your ankle so you can't go swimming. Or you're sick and your doctor said you can't go swimming. And if you do talk to your friend or her mom about this, you should realize that they won't hate you for it.. they will actually be happy that you came to them to talk to them about it, because it says that you trust them and are comfortable enough to tell them anything. Treat her mom as if she was your own mother. Don't be shy, be brave :)
another option is to be brave and try tampons. I'm guessing you're pretty young. Well let me tell you a story. I'm 18 and guess what? I started using tampons recently!! I got my period when I was 13 and ever since a few months ago, i've been so scared to try tampons too. I used to get really sick to my stomach whenever I thought about them. I didn't like the idea of something being inside of my body. It felt uncomfortable and hurt. And guess what? it WILL feel that way at first because your body is not used to it. But one day, I decided that it was time for me to be brave and try it. I kept on trying until I finally figured out how to do it :) It took me 5 years to get brave and use tampons. So don't worry if it takes you a few times. Let me just offer you this- its SOOOO much easier if you do it NOW rather than 5 years from now like me. When I finally learned how to use them correctly, it seemed super easy. I thought "why didn't I do this before??" I regret not being braver 5 years ago. You can do it :) its really easy. Just remember to breathe. breathing helps your relax. in through your nose and out through your mouth, slowly. read the instructions and you'll be just fine :) Inbox me if you have more questions about tampons ok?
Another option you have is to simply not go to the beach. Call your friend and say you have other plans that your parents are making you go to. And ask her if you can go another time (when you don't have your period)
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
Recently, I've been having weird sleeping issues. I'm having trouble, getting restless, and mostly I feel like there's someone or something else in the room with me and I'm a really paranoid person, so I'm also afraid of falling asleep... And my dog acts a bit weird too, like he can't stand being in here. It's kind of freaking me out, and I know it's irrational thinking. Can anyone help me?
Also, I don't know if it helps, but I just got off a perscription drug to help me sleep called xanax, but I went off it because it was making me a bit depressed and miserable... So, could it be because I quit taking the medication?
its most likely the medicine. How long have you been taking it? its probably because your body is so used to the drug, that when you stopped taking it, its just affecting your body and you're not used to it. Its like when alcholocs or smokers suddenly quit their addiction, it has a side effect on them and their body isn't used to it yet. Give it some time and you'll be fine.
Whenever I can't sleep or feel scared, I play my ipod. Either through headphones or outloud speakers. I play my favorite song and it always makes me smile :) Also, I love nature sounds. It makes me so relaxed. So i found a CD called Lifescapes and theres a "song" thats an hour long and pretty much all it is, is a thunderstorm. There's another one with birds and creek flowing. Its so relaxing.
There are some other ways to relax yourself like Aromatherapy, light some candles, take a warm bath or shower, drink some warm milk or tea :)
so i know this is a dumb reason...but my boyfriend broke up with me. I really need something to do to keep my mind off things. I have a part time job and im taking a summer class..I'm staying in town where my college is, and I don't know too many people who are staying around here...any ideas of things to do? i know this is also dumb...but where are good places to meet people my age..about 21..but not at a bar?
I'm a really hands-on type of person so when I get stressed out, I love to make art. Painting, photography, puzzles, drawing, scrapbooking, making jewlery. all of those things just get my hands moving and i start to lose track of time that way and it makes me happy :) put on some music and dance. read. sing. go to a karyoke place. go to coffeeshops that have live bands playing. My absolute favorite thing to do right now is just take my camera with me and drive somewhere randomly. Eventually i'll end up somewhere and i'll just walk outside taking random pictures. I feel so free when I do that and it gives me a chance to have "me" time and its just relaxing for me. Oh and another thing that was already mentioned is going to the gym. Working out causes your endorphins to work which stimulates pleasure. Also there are most likely good looking guys there. If you really want to make a statement, wear a cute outfit, work out, and then go play basketball in the gym and ask to play a game with the guys. Biking is also another good thing. Just explore your environment and things will come to you :) Don't think, just do.
Hey I'm trying to help my friend with something... how can person two look like person one? Mostly the eyes is what shes having trouble with.. I told her maybe she could put her eyeliner on a certain way to look like this girls'?
Person 1 (The girl on the right): http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1855707713539&set=a.1212529114476.33215.1266212531&type=1
Person 2: http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1955607900754&set=a.1955426136210.116320.1559417359&type=1&theater
Any advice would help :)
wow those eyes really are similar haha. Girl number 1 looks like she has some eyeliner or even dark eyeshadow across her top lid, and then has nothing on the bottom. So tell your friend to put on a dark colored eyeshadow and maybe a small line of eyeliner on the top part of the lid. Definitely some mascara on the top, a little on the bottom. And concealer under the eyes to conceal the dark circles.
I been seeing a someone for 6 months but i still keep my options open because he told me he might not want to get married for 2 years and hes 4o. Im 37. Do u think i shouldnt sleep with him and just b friends only. Until i find someone who wants the same things.
nobody can tell you the right answer, because only you know the answer. It's really what your head, heart, and gut is saying to you. If you really love him and want to be with him forever, then by all means stay with him. Nobody on this website truly knows how you feel around him.. the only person who knows that feeling the best is you. You should spend a few days alone and think deeply about this. Go for a long walk or even take a road trip and just drive out of town for a few days to think about how you really feel. Are you happy with him? does he make you feel better about yourself? can you see him being there for you when you need someone the most? Good luck.
...he's nine years older than me and lives 400 miles away.
I've known this man for approximately a year and two months; and for a year and two months, I've had the hugest mothereffin' crush on him. I'm talking full-on I-wish-we-could-just-make-out-already kind of stuff. When we met, I was in a very serious relationship which just recently ended due to some issues I'd rather not discuss, so I'm single and free as a bird.
I find him attractive in every facet, sweet as cherry pie, but still sarcastic and loud enough to keep me interested. He's already admitted he has a 'thing' for me, to the point where I'm pretty sure we could date...if he lived anywhere near me.
And also, the main issue at hand? ...I'm a minor. I'm not talking twelve; I'm a senior in high school, about to move out into the adult world. But still. At the moment, nothing between us could happen, because I know both my parents, family, and friends would not be as accepting. Plus, again, I rarely see him in person at ALL.
I really pray he'll never check this site. Because if so, my secret's out.
But...yeah. How to approach? Do I keep in contact, or should I wait around until the right time? Should I be okay with light flirting, or should I try to engage him in actual conversation about it?
Definitely talk to him about it. Communication is the key in relationships. Without communicating, you both won't understand each other clearly and things will get more complicated. See how he feels about you 2 dating, how serious he is about this etc. Then if I were you, I would not get involved right now. You're still a minor and if you keep this up, it can turn into a big disaster and drama. Once you're 18 though, you can pretty much do what you want legally. Oh and I wouldn't lead him on though. Like since you can't really do anything about this right now, I would tone down the flirting, just so you don't lead him on and he might feel used and hurt. Just be careful...
im going to this college in the fall and my sister is trying to go to the same one. she is older than me. she went to a private college transfered to a community college and is now applying to the same college as me. she didnt get accepted the first time she tried to apply to this university. I really dont want her to go. My mom knows i dont want her to go but she wants her to go. My sister is so annoying to me and when ever i get the spot light or having success she has to try and match up to it. I need advice to this.
There's not much you can really do besides talk to your sister about it. Just be upfront and honest with her about how you feel. If you don't confront her about it, she will never truly understand how you're feeling. If you talk to her about it, you already have a better chance of her understanding your feelings.
But just a heads up... it is her decision. You can't force her not to go to this college. If she wants to go there, then it is her choice. I mean, what if she came up to you and told you "i dont want you going to this college, i dont want you doing this and that".. wouldn't you feel upset because someone is pretty much telling you what to do and how to live your life? Look at this problem from her point of view. Have you ever considered that maybe she admires you? Maybe the reason why she is following you and always trying to "match up" to you is because she see's you as a role model and is inspired to be just like you. I may be wrong.. the only way to really find out is if you talk to her about it. Ask her why she decided to go to this college. Just know that it is ultimately her decision, not yours. If it really bothers you that much, maybe you should switch colleges.. but I think that would be extremely rude, and selfish.
Oh and let me leave you with this last train of thought.. consider this- you are extremely lucky that you at least have someone close like your sister who is there with you. I know some people who are completely alone in this world. They struggle everyday and all they are looking for is someone close to love them. So be grateful you have a family. You have a sister who can be close to you, whereas some people in this world have nobody and nothing. Don't take your sister or family for granted... you're lucky in some peoples eyes..
This summer one of my friends is moving to live with his mom in a different state (His parents are divorced). How can I keep up with him if I don't know his phone number, Email, etc?
ask him for his email or cell number so that way you can keep up with him.
So, I'm 15, 5"4 and 140lbs.
I'm not really fat, but I'm definitely a little chubby. I want to work out, but I don't want my boobs to get smaller. I'm a 34C. If I work out and lose weight, are they going to get smaller?
Thanks.
probably not. Boobs are made of 2 things- muscle and fat. It varies from person to person. Someone who is more athletic probably has boobs that are mainly muscle. If someone is chubbier and overweight, then it could mainly be fat. A way to tell is that if your boobs are "perky" like they don't sag down, then its mostly muscle. If they kinda sag down (don't worry, most boobs sag down because there obviously has to be at least some fat) but if they sag a lot, it could be fat. When you work out, it is really hard to lose fat in your boobs. The only way to really get rid of the fat is by surgery, which you obviously don't want. So basically its hard to lose fat there, but its easier to gain muscle there by doing chest and pectoral muscle exercises.
Simply put.. its hard to lose the weight in that area, but its easy to gain muscle.
Hello, I'm 15
The way my face looks really makes me self conscious. It's red, and when I try to take a good picture of myself my face is all blotchy not clear.
I have enough facial products, and the ones I'm using work alright. I use Cetaphil in the morning,and I use Deep Clean by Neutrogina at night..I try to avoid wearing make up but I do use this compact that's suppose to clear up your complexion. It's by Elf..nothing really works..I'd just like some advice for this. I have pretty fair looking skin..
Does anyone have this problem also? I just want some solutions.
Thanks!
try washing your face 2x a day. morning and night. I use clean and clear deep action wash, because from my personal experience, neutrogina doesn't really help me. but that could just be my skin. then I use Aveeno clear complexion cream. It has salyic acid in it, which means it treats acne and blemishes too. Ever since i've been using this product (for a good 2 months now) my skin hasn't been dry at all :) It really does help and Aveeno is such a good brand because all its ingredients are natural and very good for you. Then I use oxy spot cream at night. I just apply a thin layer (thin layer actually helps it more) over the acne at night and in the morning i wash it off and it really does help. As for the redness, I really havne't suffered with red skin. It could be roseaca (like the other person said). You'll never know unless you go to a dermatologist or doctor and figure it out. Theres some kind of lotion out there that has a green base tint to it. Red and green are complimentary colors, which means if it has a green base, it will tone out the red in your skin and make it more even. You can also buy a powder concealer. but make sure its loose powder because it looks more natural that way, compared to liquid because that can look cakey.
I am 15 and I'm the captain of a club soccer team with one other girl. The girl's mother is not going to let her come back because of the experience her other children had, but I'm pretty desperate for her to come back and she desperately wants to as well. Would it be completely out of line for me to talk to either of her parents? what would I even say?
no its absolutely not out of line if you talk to her parents. The worst that could happen is that they don't change their mind and just say no. Its worth a shot :) Get prepared first though. Prepare a speech or something you want to say. Practice it a few times. Make sure you're relaxed and not scared, this will have a bigger impact on them because they will know you're confident.
You can say things like- I know she is a very good soccer player. there is a reason why she is named captain this year. She's got the talent and the leadership, which is why we need her this year. She can make such a big impact on the team. Without her, it will be extremely difficult for us to succeed this season, and it can also hurt (insert her name) because she won't be able to experience being a captain and gaining that leadership experience. (her name) really deserves this, and i really think you should consider letting her do what she wants. Maybe it's her dream. Its not fair that you're making this decision, when it should be hers. Just because your other children had bad experiences, doesn't mean (her name) will be the same way. Who knows? maybe she is a natural born leader. I think she should make this decision for herself. She's got great potential and I think it would be worth it :)
Make sure you smile too, just so her parents don't think you're upset or "yelling" at them. Be calm and don't get upset if they say no. It is their decision and you can't make them say yes. all you can really do is persuade them. If they are still hesitant about it, just say "think about it".
Good luck and congrats on being captain :)
http://i54.tinypic.com/wv604n.jpg
I love this, and I originally wanted it on my wrist, but now I'm having second thoughts. I would say the back of my shoulder, but I already have one there.
Any suggestions, or do you think it would look good on the inside of my wrist?
maybe on the top part of your foot? having tattoos on your feet is becoming very popular. Also, if its small enough, maybe behind your ear? You know that space between your hairline and your actual ear? you can put it there. Ive seen girls have tattoos there and it looks good, especially when they pull their hair back into a ponytail and it is more exposed that way.
This question probably is best answered by a photographer or someone who is extremely tech savvy. I'm in need of an easy to use likely point and shoot digital camera with a lens that cannot come close or exceed 10" in length.
It cannot be a professional camera and cannot have detachable lenses. This camera needs to be able to take pictures of race cars for personal use which the event allows that will capture them at 200mph from a grandstand without blur. Stop action is what I need as well as regular photos.
How many mega-pixels will I need? I don't want to spend above $200+ because I don't have enough money before race day. Also, this has to a camera security people won't object to hence the lens and other details. It MUST fit into a small case and my pocket per their policy and yes in the past they've confiscated all sorts of things including this.
Also, I tried using single use cameras and it was hit and miss all the time with me never getting the shots I took at the race.
In the past i've used small portable digital cameras from Nikon. One of my favorites is the Coolpix brand.
This one is the Coolpix S630. Its affordable, has high speed capture mode for sports, 7x zoom, lightweight, small. It can be found at typical camera stores like Ritz Camera or even Target.
http://www.digital-photography-school.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/nikon-coolpix-s630.jpg
I used to have the one above, but then I got really interested in photography and using different techniques like messing around with the aperture mode (this allows you to focus on 1 object and make the other stuff around blurry. It looks professional) So I bought a new camera, one that was more professional, yet affordable. So i bought the Nikon coolpix p100 (below)
http://www.letsgodigital.org/images/artikelen/35/nikon-p100.gif
It was a little expensive, it cost me total about 250 dollars. it would have been around 300, but I got a special deal on it. I'm sure if you go to a local camera store and ask for special deals, they can hook you up with one. This camera is absolutely my favorite and totally worth it :) I take it with me everywhere I go. Its small enough to fit in a little camera bag (like a purse size), its lightweight, zooms in 26x, has more modes/options to play with, there is an option to use video (cant hold more than 30 min at a time), the screen can be pulled out and tilted down (so if you are at a concert or something, you can raise the camera high but tilt the screen down so you can see what you're doing). The only bad thing I can really think of is that it was above my price range/budget but let me tell you, it was completely worth it :) I would rather spend a few extra bucks for a really nice camera than to be a cheap head and buy something i'm not very satisfied with :)
good luck and let me know if you need more help! oh and the lens for each camera does not have detachable lens.
Oh and you can also go to a camera store and just ask around what a good camera is and they will for sure help you :) the guy who helped me at my camera store talked to me for an hour just explaining the different types of features and camera types lol.
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ok so I really don't understand why you gave me a 3 rating... whatever... anyways. If they want you to use a cheap point-and-shoot camera to capture a racecar that goes 225 mph... well thats pretty damn hard if you ask me and any professional photographer. There's no way to get a good quality picture of a car racing at 225 mph without a good quality professional expensive camera. If you use a cheap camera for something going that fast, it will look terrible and blurry. Just sayin. Good luck with that...
Can advice people respond to feedback?
there's no "reply" button if thats what you're talking about. But you can edit your answer and at the very end just reply to the feedback. Or if you want to reply to their feedback but in private, then edit your answer and ask for an email or screenname and send them an inbox with the response.
What should I sing for my school talent show?
Worlds greatest- R. Kelly.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LyaNlZaVOpc
:)
I have a friend that I like and I think he likes me too. He shows interest sometimes. My friend says he be looking at me. She thinks he likes me but is waiting for me to make the first move. But another friend said that its bad for a girl to ask a guy out and that if a guy really likes he would ask u out no matter even the fear of rejection wont stop him. Do you think that is true or could he really be scared?
girls can do anything boys can do better.
so if guys can ask out girls, well then, girls can for sure ask out guys. Maybe its not "tradition" but its do-able. Guys love it when girls are confident. So why not make the first move? It sounds like he might be too shy/scared to do anything about it. So pretty muchh, the ball is in your court. You gotta do something about it, otherwise nothing will happen. But hey, to get you motivated, just think- once I ask him out, the ball is in HIS court. Then HE has to do something, and you can just sit there and wait :)
Be brave :)
I just finished my freshman year of college and I have literally made zero friends. In some classes, I met people that I can chat with, but nobody that I'm friendly enough with to hang out with or that will ask me to hang out.
In junior high and high school, I had plenty of friends. I've always been an awkward kid, but sitting next to the same person in a class for a year eventually led to talking and perhaps even making friends. In college, however, classes are huge; every day I sit next to someone new and have NO IDEA how to strike up a conversation. Or how to continue a conversation, for that matter. I don't know what the hell's wrong with me; I've tried striking up conversation before (about the teacher or homework or test in a class), but once they answer my question or ask another, I don't know how to continue the conversation. My brain shuts down and I end up giving a one-word answer and killing the discussion. And it sucks; I know I'm a shy person, but I'm so wild an insane (and even funny) once I'm comfortable with another person - I just don't know how to get to that point.
How do I make friends in college? How can I make friends in a big lecture class? I've tried joining clubs, but surprise surprise, the ones I joined never even met. :\
I really hate to bring this up, but I think you made the wrong college choice, in my personal opinion.
My personality is exactly like yours. I'm really shy to strangers, but i'm crazy and fun around my close friends :) Its kind of hard for me to make friends, but the one's i'm friends with, well they stick around for a long time.
I'm going to be a freshman in college this coming fall and when I visited colleges, I saw a really big college that I was interested in, then I toured a smaller college that I was semi-interested in. I was almost positive that I would go to the bigger school because it was in my hometown and it is one of the best colleges in the nation. But then I realized.. well since its a really big school, there will be many people there. I realized that I'm more myself when i'm around a smaller crowd. If you put me on a stage in front of 1000 people, I will literally stand there in shock. But if you put me in a crowd of 15-20 people, I'm myself. I can socialize better and thats when I realized a smaller college would be perfect for me. Maybe it isn't going to be the best college.. but I would for sure make a ton of friends (friends worth keeping) than at a larger college. Yeah I know education comes first but what's the point in living if you can't share memories with the people closest to you?? I would much rather be with close friends and have fun and make great memories, than to be alone in a huge college and not get many experiences/memories out of it.
So I really hate to break it to you, but maybe you should have chosen a smaller college with a smaller lecture class, that way the people you see will always remain there and you can have a close relationship to them. Maybe its pointless now, but you can always try transferring to a smaller college. If you cant, then just try to be more friendly, and if you see someone more than once, always say Hi and their name. Ask them how their day is and maybe if they want to grab something to eat and chill. Get their numbers too and text or call them to meet up with them. Try getting to be friends with someone part of a group, that way you become friends with them and plus their group which you could be a part of.
good luck!