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My sister is following me!
im going to this college in the fall and my sister is trying to go to the same one. she is older than me. she went to a private college transfered to a community college and is now applying to the same college as me. she didnt get accepted the first time she tried to apply to this university. I really dont want her to go. My mom knows i dont want her to go but she wants her to go. My sister is so annoying to me and when ever i get the spot light or having success she has to try and match up to it. I need advice to this.
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I'm sure its very annoying that your sister has to follow you everywhere, and jump on your bandwagon. Sibling rivalry is the worst. In this case, there may not be much you can do about it.
Think about it this way.
One, she may not even get accepted to this college.
Two, you don't have to spend time with her once you are there. Your parents won't be able to force you to hang out with her. You can make your own friends.
Three, she might realize that this school is not for her if she only did it to follow you.
Lastly, you might like having your sister there when you need her. She is someone who will always have your back and you can always turn to for support, or if you feel homesick.
Try to keep an open mind, and focus on yourself.
Good luck,
-Abby
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There's not much you can really do besides talk to your sister about it. Just be upfront and honest with her about how you feel. If you don't confront her about it, she will never truly understand how you're feeling. If you talk to her about it, you already have a better chance of her understanding your feelings.
But just a heads up... it is her decision. You can't force her not to go to this college. If she wants to go there, then it is her choice. I mean, what if she came up to you and told you "i dont want you going to this college, i dont want you doing this and that".. wouldn't you feel upset because someone is pretty much telling you what to do and how to live your life? Look at this problem from her point of view. Have you ever considered that maybe she admires you? Maybe the reason why she is following you and always trying to "match up" to you is because she see's you as a role model and is inspired to be just like you. I may be wrong.. the only way to really find out is if you talk to her about it. Ask her why she decided to go to this college. Just know that it is ultimately her decision, not yours. If it really bothers you that much, maybe you should switch colleges.. but I think that would be extremely rude, and selfish.
Oh and let me leave you with this last train of thought.. consider this- you are extremely lucky that you at least have someone close like your sister who is there with you. I know some people who are completely alone in this world. They struggle everyday and all they are looking for is someone close to love them. So be grateful you have a family. You have a sister who can be close to you, whereas some people in this world have nobody and nothing. Don't take your sister or family for granted... you're lucky in some peoples eyes..
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