Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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Ok well theres this guy i met about 2 or 3 months ago when i was with my best friend. Well i started talking to him and what not well we were supposed to hang out but never got the chance and he told my friend that he was disappointed that we didnt. well i was on myspace today lookin around and i seen that he put my friend on his top 8..whats the deal with that? i mean he always called me beautiful nd stuff but he put her up there? im not mad it just has me confused because it seems like he really liked me and everyone thought so.. what do you guys think?? (link)
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It doesn't mean anything necessarily if he put her instead of you on his top 8. Maybe he just think she's cool and a good friend. But, you never can tell with boys.
I hope it's just that. Luck
-Teacup
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Well, I'll just let you know what's going on, then I'll tell you the story:
I just started going to a new school last week and met some people. Two of my best friends at that school are named Ginger and Jeff. They used to be boyfriend and girlfriend, but aren't anymore. Ginger still kinda likes him, and Jeff told me that he kinda likes Ginger. I like Jeff, but no ones know.
Well,
At lunch today, Jeff came & sat down by me, & we started talking. Then, this kid named Ralfie comes up & loudly yells "LAURIE [me], DO YOU LIKE JEFF?" & of course, I was like "No..." & Jeff was just sitting there, laughing a bit to himself. Ralfie yells again, "LAURIE!!! DO YOU LIKE JEFF???" & I was like "NOOO!!!" & as he was walking away, he yelled over his shoulder, "YALL SHOULD GO OUT!" I turned back around to Jeff, & he was just sitting there, kinda smiling. & All I said was, "That Ralfie kid is weird." & continued eating my lunch. I turn to where Ralphie & his friends are sitting, & hear "Jeff was probably like 'HELL NO' hahaha".
Then, this girl named Tiffany [who really likes jeff] calls me over to her side of the table & loudly asks "Do you like Jeff?? You can tell me!!" & I look over to Jeff, & he was looking directly at me - hearing the question. & Of course I said "No!!!." I went back over & sat with Jeff. We didn't say anything the rest of the lunch period.
Now, today [when all this happened] Ginger was absent, so she doesn't know about this. If me & Jeff were EVER to go out, I'm not sure how she would take it. So I have a few questions:
1. Does Jeff like me?
2. What did those boys mean by "Jeff was probably like 'HELL NO' "
3. What about Ginger? =[
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By the information you have provided, it is kind of difficult to decipher the entire situation.
I don't know if Jeff likes you, but his looking at you when you were asked if you liked him, shows his interest (but then again who wouldn't want to find out someone likes them).
The boys that you overheard, could have been talking about anything, you may have heard in the middle of something else they were saying. So that's hard to say.
As for your friend Ginger, in all fairness she did tell you she liked Jeff first, so I guess you'd have to see if anyone goes on between them. If Jeff does have feelings for you and he admits it to you, you need to make sure that you let Ginger know. She should be the first to find out everything, well if anything happens, you owe it to her.
For now, all I can say is wait it out...see what happens.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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i'm having trouble deciding what to do. i either want to continue growing my hair out until it gets really long or cut it really short. i want people's opinions on which is a cuter style.
one like this:
http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz/4971/Events/4971/AshleyTisd_Cohen_9182131_400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Tisdale,%20Ashley
or like this:
http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz/3926/Events/3926/NicoleRich_Grani_6640648_400.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Richie,%20Nicole
thanks!
i rate (link)
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it depends on your age...
Nicole's short hair...is more sophisticated and not kiddish
Ashley's hair is a little more fun and on the kid side
Hope this helps.
-Teacup
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14,f, my ex boyfriend, who i still kind of have a thing for, basically told me that he still loves me on AIM. and i was really flattered and all, but he has a girlfriend that he's been going out with for 2 weeks. and a while ago he told me he had a major crush on her, and then one day he asked her out and turns out she liked him too. so now i feel really bad that he's kind of, well, trying to cheat on his girlfriend or whatever by telling me he loves me, well actually i dont know what hes doing by telling me this, and i wouldnt want him to do that to me with some other girl. i really dont know what to say to him and when he wrote me that on aim i just told him i had to go and signed off. havent talked to him since. i really like him but still i would hate him if he told another girl he loved her if he was with me. so i'm basically asking if i should like him or not -- i mean, i really do..i think about him more than anyone and he was always faithful to me when we were together and he was just the perfect boyfriend..but then i broke it off because i wasnt ready to have a steady realtionsip back then but now i am. help??? (link)
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You can like him, as long as you don't start anything while he is dating the other girl. If he tells you he loves you again, ask him what about his girlfriend. Make it clear to him, that you do like him and could handle a serious relationship with him now, but...it's just not the right time as long as he has a girlfriend.
Good luck,
Teacup
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im not so sure how to talk to a guy. im gonna be a sophmore this year and im switching schools. there was no problem at my old school because i knew everybody since Pre-K. but im prob gonna see a guy i like and wanna go talk to him but wont be so sure how to. no scratch all of that. how do i talk to anyone i dont know. im afraid im not gonna have friends too. im not a shy person on friends but i dont know how like the girls are. mean snobs or whatever. i really dont have any prob with girls just guys. at my old school everybody pretty much liked everybody wasnt really any mean person. just like the same. i would like to make new friends though. am i just supposed to go up and say hi and talk to him and be like im new here and what if he is a jerk or something and like does somethin mean or whatever. now at my other school i would just do it but then again i knew him and like what he liked or whatever. i just dont know how to handle new ones. it would be nice if i could like learn how to get him to like walk me to class or sit with me at lunch but... any ways please give me good answers. most of the time they arent that great. thank you to anyone who helps. by the way i start next week. (link)
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Making new friends is always a little difficult and I can't tell you much, because well...who knows if the people are snobs or if they are very nice. I do know that generally, people are eager to meet the new kids in school. So if the people are nice, they will come up to you and try to be friends with you. If they don't, then you'll have to make an effort and try to make conversation with people you think seem approachable.
As for the guy thing, since you are new in school, you can play it up a little "hey, i'm new in school, could you show me where this class is". If they guy is a jerk, then forget him. Why would you try to make a friend in someone who is mean.
Try not to be too nervous and just go with the flow, you're bound to meet new people.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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soo, yeah..theres this boy, named jordan. & like everyone tells me he likes me, i posted a thing awhile ago, with the signs.. asking if he liked me. i had like 15 answers saying he did. Hes really shy though. So like.. idno. I'm not one of those people.. who wait forever for someone. & i know alot of other boys who like me. so i wanna just get him to ask me out or something. im basically going to my friendds party well.. its like half makeout party, & half just hang out with your friends... like, were gonna play seven minutes in heaven & stuff.. & so anyway, i basically,want him to like me after this party. i don't really just want to blurt out i like you in the middle of a party. but im also not shy.. so i'm up for anything =)
what should i do?
should i wait for him to come to me?
[hes never had a girlfriend so hes most deff. shy]
should i like make the first move?
ahh help.! (link)
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You definitely need to make the first move. If he's that shy and he's never had a girlfriend, he's going to fear rejection big time. That's the bad thing about shy guys...it's hard for them. Since, you are not shy and you do like him and you think he likes you too, just go for it. He'll probably appreciate it happening that way.
Hope it works out with your shy one.
-Teacup
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I am having a little problum. I have this boyfriend, who is incredibly sweet and respects me, and I have an ex-boyfriend, who randomly starts ignoring me and only talks to me at night as if im not good enough to waste his cell phone minits. That doesnt sound like much of a problum, exept I barely like my boyfriend at all, and I have been absolutly crazy about the xboyfriend sence January. Frankly, I dont think I deserve my boyfriend, sence he absolutly adores me and showers me in colplements right before I go and talk to the x, who seems to almost intoxicate my mind throughout the entire day. I know it is stuipid I cant let him go, but I just dont have anny idea what to do to get over him and start focusing on my present boyfriend. anny ideas? thanx so much :)
PS: if your anwser is just plain rude, critisizing, and doesnt do the least bit of help, I will just give you a 1. (link)
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If you have already tried to like your boyfriend, and it doesn't happen, you need to break up with him. By the way you are going, you may be capable of cheating on him and if he is being as sweet as he could be, you're going to break his heart. The pain of cheating would be far worse than if you were just to break up with him and let him know that you think he's great, but you don't see your relationship going anywhere. As for your ex, if he doesn't reciprocate any feelings, then you should move on. Find a guy who treats you just as well as your current boyfriend, but that you like as much as your ex.I'm sure he's out there.
Good Luck
-Teacup
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I`m supposed to be the advice GIVER, not RECEIVER. . .right? Then why am i so confused? School is about to start and i am in a class called "Publications" which means i write the school newspaper and do the yearbook. I am NOT a dork . . . i am actually pretty popular. But a lot of people think it`s a pathetic class. should i drop out and be in study hall, or stay in? I`m so confused.
thank you in advance. (link)
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If you do the class, don't let others opinion change you. I didn't get yearbook class in high school (not because it was nerdy but because I heard your grade depended on selling) and I completely regret it. I think I would have had a chance at becoming editor-in-chief and making my senior yearbook ten times better than it was...and hey now..I'll never know.
-Teacup
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I have had this best friend for about a year,and he is a really special guy, and I love him to death. We are reeeaaallly close, but I am going to a different high school than...we go to the same church..but I am so afraid that we wont be as close...We are going to be an hour away from each other. I have neva cared about someone as much as him and only as a friend. I afraid that he will find another best friend. Cuz every year both of us have had otha best friends...ery year...but neva as close as us..and I wont be there wit him in High school...I dont want to loos him...he says that it wont happen and even if he has another Best friend it wont replace me..but Im afraid he cant faithfully promise tha....I am stressing myself out ova it..and I dont know what I should do, or think...help (link)
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Well, you still have church in common. But, the truth is, you both will probably make new best friends, but as long as you two still make plans to talk to each other (whether it be online or on the phone), your friendship will not change. One of my best friends started college, on my last year of high school, and we were 5 hours away, but we spoke online all the time and talked on the phone as well. And hey, we still have an awesome friendship. As long as you both make an effort, nothing will change.
Good Luck!
-teacup
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I am 16 almost 17 in a few months ( female) and i met this guy bryan at a party and we started going out together and meeting up with eachother and sum frends every saturday night. he doesnt go to my school so we would basically spend every sat. nite together. we began to get pretty close and we kissed.. then hooked up.. but the problem is. .he is one year and a few months younger than me.. it doesnt really bother me.. but he is a grade younger than me too. that is mainly the problem.. i defiantely would consider making this a more serious relationship except that he is in a grade younger then me.. i am going to 11th grade and he is going to 10th. it seems like such a big defference bc wen we used to "date" he was still in 9th grade adn i was in tenth. 9th grade seems sooo young ..the problem is not that he is immature or anything.. bc he defiantely is not.. if anything he may know more about a long term relationship than me. I went out with my other bf for 6 months and he had a gf for about 2 yrs on and off.. but more on.. .. they broke up about 2 months before me and him startted talking.. what i was mainly worried about was that people would find out weve been seeing eachother and think that we are going out and that is mainly wats bothering me. he is younger than me and it makes me look bad.. i dont want that reputatiion:"that i go for younger guys" and i no that people always say that i shouldnt care wat other people think, but the reality is that you should.. bc that is wat matters.. its like going around sleeping with guys not caring wat people will say about you.. like if they would say ur a slutt or a whore.. but the truth is that you do have to care wat other ppl think bc if you dont then you will fuck up your reputation and i dont want to do that. we are currently not talking or communicating anymore but i do no this. he is now with his ex gf.. they are bak together but i honestly dont understand why.. like i dont.. she looks like she doesnt shower.. and i gues shes just like somone he nos he can go bak to.. she seriosuly is obssessed with him and even wen they werent together she'd always be hinting things like.. - i want to be wih you- she'd basically be all up on him and i thikn she is his comfort and thats why he went bak to her.. they really probably had sumtihng.. 2yrs.. like damn, i totally understand wow.. but thats not what really bothers me.. i diidnt really like him thattt much to like cry over him bc i was "with him" for like 2 months and thats bc i wanted to have sombody.. and i realizedc i just wanted SOMEBODY.. even if it wasnt him,.. i just wanted somone..my question is .. if an opportunity to be with him or another younger guy than me comes along.. should i take it even if it may fuck up my rep? ( bc i really feel like he would have been such a good bf.. ) but i dno if hes worth my rep ( or if any guy is)
also,my other question is- how do i act around him if i see him one day
like we ended really weirdly... we jsut stopped ccalling eachother and that was the end of it. do i say hi to him? or wat? like if i run into him shoulkd i hugg him? how shuold i act? (link)
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You said that what other people think is really important, and truly it's not. You have 2 years left of high school, after that, you won't see half these people anymore so who cares what they think. As long as they don't hate you, you're fine. There's nothing wrong with dating younger guys, lets just say that your soulmate is younger than you, are you just going to let it pass you by because of what others might be saying about you. If you worry too much what others think about you, you are NEVER going to do anything that you want to do, because you'll worry too much, and really it's a waste of time. Do what you want without worrying what others think, it'll make life more enjoyable.
When you bump into him again, just casually start speaking to him. "Hey, how are you?"...those kind of questions. I don't think you should hug him, but act as if nothing major happened between you two...it'll make it less awkward.
Much Luck.
-Teacup
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College is approaching real soon (in 2 weeks!). I'm excited cuz I'll be living with my best friend and that makes me SO excited! But..there's a huge part of me that is absolutely terrified. Like, more terrified than an average college freshman would be. I'm afraid that the workload and studying will stress me out and take so much time to do, and when I think like that I start paniccing and crying and stuff.
Also I'm a really slow reader (I read 10-20 pages per hour). And someone told me that you have to study 2 hours for every hour in class..I'm taking 12 hours a week, so that means I study for 24 hours?? That's 3 and a half hours a day! But another friend told me that if you pay attention in class, study 3 days before tests and even attempt assignments, you'll pass with flying colors. I don't know who to believe but I really hope what my second friend said is true.
What do you think? (link)
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Hey. Well I haven't started college yet and I am pretty much in the same situation as you. I'm going to be living with my best friend and I have always been very scared about college, I still kind of am.
From what my friends have told me, sometimes you're going to have to choose studying over going to a football game or partying, but you have a more liberating schedule. You don't meet in class every day. When I went to visit my friends during Spring Break, I got to hang out w/ a lot of them, they weren't constantly busy. I honestly think, sometimes you are going to be extremely busy and sometimes it's going to be a little more mellow.
As for studying, start earlier than you would generally, and you should get the stuff down by the time you have your test.
I wish you the best of luck, I hear college is awesome! =]
-Teacup
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so my sevens like all fit me before i leave the house but then during the day they expand like crazy and by the end of it they're all like baggy in the back. ive already washed them in hot water and dried them and it helped but is there any other ways of shrinking them? (link)
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i have no idea about shrinking them, but are you buying jeans/clothes that are stretchy. I personally hate buying stretchy jeans because they end up stretching by the end of the day, so I try to find jeans that don't stretch.
-Teacup
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my arm keeps pulpitating
and its really annoying
how do i get it stop?!
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You mean, it's twitching?
That happens to me. It can be stress or that you are not eating right or something along those lines...it can also be nothing.
I remember when I got a weird twitch...I googled...involuntary twitching and tried to get some info.
But if it's stress or eating habits, make sure you change something.
Hope this helps.
-Teacup
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me and my ex tryed to give it another go, because shes my bestfriend and we really do love eachother, or at least i do, sometimes i doubt how she feels and i dont think thats right. but when we were together she had gone out of town and called me up one day [i hadnt talked to her in 3 days] and the first words out of her mouth were "would you be mad if we broke up?" so i snapped on her because i dont know why she would ask me that. so we ended up breaking up and then i found out while we were together she had been talking to ex and someone else at the same time. she ended up hooking up with someone the day we broke up. so i kinda feel like even though i tell her im not mad i feel like im holding something against her in that matter. and we broke up about 3 weeks ago or so, but we still act as if were together .. and shes in a relationship but still kissing me and the whole nine yards. i dont know if i should let us go or wait to get her back .. what do i do about her ? (link)
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She's stringing you along. If she is in a relationship, she should not be kissing you and if he has no intention on leaving them for you, I don't know why you want to wait. Think of it this way...how would you feel if you were dating her and she had another boy on the side. It's not fair to the other guy, so I think you should just move on and find a girl who won't have another guy on the side and her main priority is you.
You'd be much happier and hey you won't have to try to read between the lines. Much Luck.
-Teacup
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I'm making my boyfriend a going away/I love you cd for when he goes to college in September, so far I have ::
Save Tonight - Eagle Eye Cherry
Here's To The Night - Eve 6
Better Together - Jack Johnson
Universe & You - KT Tunstall
Can't Stop Loving You - Phil Collins
You and I Both - Jason Mraz
I'm Yours - Jason Mraz
Home - Micheal Buble
The Sun and The Moon - Mae
Sweet Summer - Dashboard Confessional
LOVE -
Sleeping To Dream - Jason Mraz
Soco Armetto Lime - Brand New
Unforgetable - Nat King Cole
Fever - Michael Buble
Any suggestions? All would be appreciated. =] (link)
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Hope these aren't to girly for a guy...
Selena-dreaming of you
Faith Hill-Breathe
Michelle Branch-Everywhere
idk if you listen to spanish...but Aventura-un beso
Unchained Melody
Etta James-At last
Frank Sinatra-too marvelous for words; the way you look tonight
Mariah Carey-My all
Matchbox Twenty-if you're gone
I hope some of this works..very cute idea btw =]
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Okay, I have liked this guy for almost 9 months now, and I am almost over him now. The problem is that my heart doesn't want me to give up yet. But I don't know what I should do. (link)
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Listen to your heart. If you don't think you are ready to move on, then see if there's anything there. Does this guy like you back? Find out if he does..if he does...go for it. If he doesn't...then forget about it, and move on.
Good Luck
-Teacup
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Hey..sorry its soo long i hope you can help im the one usually giving advice if you ever need some ask me!
I hav been going out for this guy let's call him Josh for almost 10 months. We hav an amazing relationship and he really is my best friend. We have one problem his ex girlfriend is insane. She is obssesed with him and there is a long story behind that but just to make it short she is jealous and she wants him and her and I got into a big thing. I don't liek to start things and i do stand up for myself but i don't liek having enemies. About 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend started treating me like crap. This is 2 weeks ago: Saturday night we got into a fight because his ex's friends were starting stuff with my friends. I told him that i didn't know if i cood take i anymore. We weren't on the best page. Since it is summer we don't see eachother that much he went to camp before these 2 weeks and now he's on vacation. SO back to Saturday so that happened then on Sunday we talked and he was mad and upset. On monday we were planning to see eachother on tuesday but my friends messed it up. Also on monday we had a long talk about his ex and hwo i feel like he doesn't stand up for me like he should. When our plans got ruined for tuesday i was upset but it seemed like he didn't even care. On tuesday he called me at night and we didn't talk much but i asked him what he did today and he said nothing and that he's been thinkin about alot. I got a little worried. Well anyways Wedneday came n i went to my friends house with him and all my friends.I decided to just forget about everything because he was leaving that friday and i thought it would be the last time i would see him so i wanted it to be good. It somehow came up and he wanted to talk and said that i don't feel like he is really intersting and all that and he simply told me that he was just thinking that the relationship is getting too serious as in commitment wise. I understood because we are still young but how could he tell me he loves me if he doesn't wanna be with me. Well anyways on thursday i found out that on wednesday night he slept at his friends house and he did a camera thing with one ofmy friends theyw ere all joking but he told her to pull her shirt down more so her boobs would show. It's so hard to even write this because he's so not like this. On thursday night i found out earlier that day his ex adn her friends came over to swim with his friends. Just to amek it short on friday i saw him for 2 minutes and i was planning on talking to him about it but he could only stay for like 5 minutes. He was being an ass and he just left and said i love you bye. He's on vacation right now and i don't know what to do when he comes back. Thanx for reading this .What should i do?HE was never liek this before and all of a sudden he was acting liek an ass. I'm confused and i think i will regret iof i break up with him but at the same time i want him to go out with his exand see how diffent it is and realize he needs me but then i feel like i'd look like an idiot if i go back with him if he comes back to me later
please hlp thanx soo much for reading this. I'm 14 and a girl.lol (link)
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Sounds like you are in a bit of a pickle.
Boys are so difficult to decipher and we always want to show them that we are great for them, better than any other girl has treated him. When boys are under the influence of their male friends, they don't necessarily think, which explains his uncommon behavior asking the girl to pull down her shirt further.
You must really like him for all the internal problems putting yourself through. When he comes back, ask him straight out what he wants from the relationship. Does he want to break up because it is too serious? Does he want to take things slower, and still be with you because he cares so much for you that he cannot not be with you? You may like him more than you can even explain, and that's why it makes things so hard.
Don't let him treat you badly, no one deserves that...especially since you have not done anything to merit that. If he keeps acting that way, you may stop liking him, and it's not guaranteed you'll be around forever and then he may lose the best thing in his life.
Let him know that you have always tried your best with your relationship, and that he should do it too...it's only fair.
Ultimately, you should let him decide what he wants. If it doesn't work out...it's his loss.
I hope it all works out girly.
-Teacup
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hi!! i moved from another country to america about 10 years ago and i never really had a boyfriend because my parents were against it since im a european girl and "i dont know nothiing" anyways i finally got a bf and weve been together for a year and my parents actaully accept him...and im 18 by the way...our realtionship is great accept im scared to tell him that my parents dont have the best jobs in the world ..to me its embarressing ive been hiding it for a long time from my friends too...my mother cleans but thats normal for foreign women..and my father does like waxing and stuff and they both work at night so its great in my case ;)...but how do i tell him??? help me..i dont want him to be unattracted to me...and they get paid a lot though.. (link)
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He fell for you and not your parent's income/jobs. So don't worry about it, if you tell him..he'll accept it because it won't matter to him.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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i'm a junior in high school. i really wanna be fluent in french, so im going to go to france for a year. should i do this right out of high school or should i do it right out of college? (link)
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Do it while in college. You can study abroad for a semester. Make sure you find out about these situations as early as possible...everyone wants to do them.
Good Luck.
-Teacup
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13/female. I always figured people could tell if I was happy, mad, sad, confused, or any other emotion because it just seemed obvious to me. If I'm mad my mouth forms a straight line, my eyebrowns go together, and you can just see in my eyes I'm mad. But lately I don't think my emotions are that clear. I guess my first hint was yesterday when my mom started yelling at me that I never tell her how I feel. It's just that it seems stupid saying I feel this way, I feel that way. It's always been this way with me. I just storm to my room and slam the door without a word, giving the world a cold shoulder. See my whole life has been hard. When I was practicly born my dad divorced my mom. Then my mom fell in love, but never married him, and he died of cancer the day after my birthday. Then my aunt died in her sleep on july3, in the same year my moms soon to be hubby died. I didn't even cry, I guess because I figured somebody had to be strong. Then my mom met another guy about a year ago and we found out about 4months ago he died in december. Since then my mom has fell in love 3times, one is still alive but has moved on, the second one doesn't know what to do, the third one is here at this very moment. I'm always getting into trouble over anything. I hate visiting my dad, but I don't know if he realizes it yet. I hate school, everyone knows it. I feel weird with all my moms bfs, none knows why not even me. I read almost all the time wishing I wasn't where I was at. I think to myself all the 'why' questions we all hate. So tell me how can I tell people my feelings?!?!?! How do I realize my moms love life is none of my buisness, and yet it is? How do I learn to love, trust, and express my feelings? How do I tell my dad I can't stand him? Please help me with all of these questions and more.
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It does seem you have had it tough. Especially feeling that you have to be strong for everyone.
I'm no psychic but I would think the reason you don't feel comfortable around your mom's boyfriend is because it has always been an unsteady thing in your life...beginning from your father divorcing your mother. Even though, it is your mother who is involved in these relationships...they DO concern you. If they get married, they then become your step parent, so you see it does concern you. You don't have to like them necessarily, but at least try to get along with them. Remember if they make your mom happy, try to get along with them for her sake.
I hate expressing myself to people as well, because I feel if someone has done something wrong to me, they should realize it and apologize. But, sometimes people are clueless. Even if you feel it is useless to tell people, you have to. Don't be afraid to tell people how you feel, it's important, so don't disregard it.
I am not sure about your father, but it sounds to me like you are holding a grudge. Maybe you should tell him he has hurt you and that because of that your relationship is not strong and it won't be until you can forgive him.
I know you hate school, but if you are planning on going to college and you don't care about your grades, you won't be able to easily escape your horror at home when you turn 18.
Well, I hope this is helpful to you.
Good luck getting everything in order.
-Teacup
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