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expressing feelings (this is very long, prepare yourself)
13/female. I always figured people could tell if I was happy, mad, sad, confused, or any other emotion because it just seemed obvious to me. If I'm mad my mouth forms a straight line, my eyebrowns go together, and you can just see in my eyes I'm mad. But lately I don't think my emotions are that clear. I guess my first hint was yesterday when my mom started yelling at me that I never tell her how I feel. It's just that it seems stupid saying I feel this way, I feel that way. It's always been this way with me. I just storm to my room and slam the door without a word, giving the world a cold shoulder. See my whole life has been hard. When I was practicly born my dad divorced my mom. Then my mom fell in love, but never married him, and he died of cancer the day after my birthday. Then my aunt died in her sleep on july3, in the same year my moms soon to be hubby died. I didn't even cry, I guess because I figured somebody had to be strong. Then my mom met another guy about a year ago and we found out about 4months ago he died in december. Since then my mom has fell in love 3times, one is still alive but has moved on, the second one doesn't know what to do, the third one is here at this very moment. I'm always getting into trouble over anything. I hate visiting my dad, but I don't know if he realizes it yet. I hate school, everyone knows it. I feel weird with all my moms bfs, none knows why not even me. I read almost all the time wishing I wasn't where I was at. I think to myself all the 'why' questions we all hate. So tell me how can I tell people my feelings?!?!?! How do I realize my moms love life is none of my buisness, and yet it is? How do I learn to love, trust, and express my feelings? How do I tell my dad I can't stand him? Please help me with all of these questions and more.
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showing your emotions is very hard. shit happens you need to learn how to forgive. everyone needs a chance or 2. i`m glade that your strong, and u need to be. but your mom doesn`t understand if your not strong for her then she`ll feel even worse. being strong is not easy but neither is realizing that your mom is dating. your mom will always love your dad even if all those tings happen and you need to forgive him and spend sometime with him. Your not giving the world a cold shoulder, your realizing how to show emotion. try writing poems, i do, some of the most deepest poems come from the shit i have been through. example: The death of the heart was taking over as she turned numb, the tear dipped into the gushing heart break of the one she loved, as she sat alone and empty the boy came gripping on to her arm not known theres memories that well be there forever. it was a fearful drag of the one person that she ran to was not there to be found. the scattering rain fell like slow motion, dissy feeling even weaker then before, she feel to the ground and the last thing she said was "its not my fault"
soo try writing somethings down that will help!
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umm ok think of it as wut u feel towards your moms relationships is probably wut she feels since she has lost so many of them...u can probably be feeling the same thing and can open up to each other easier than it seems! about expressing yourself...you have to learn how to express yourself to you first!
you won't be able to tell people how you feel if not even you know how you feel!
ok ive seen the other answers from the columnists below me have been super long but i just summed it all up to this.
if it makes you feel any better my family always brings me down and i dont feel comftrable with my dad because he's never there for me.i feel almost the same like trapped and you can't breathe and feel like is life even worthwhile?...maybe if you trust me we can share and help each other out=]]
well i really hope you figure something out and ill always be here if you need me!
take care
mucho luv~~~
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It does seem you have had it tough. Especially feeling that you have to be strong for everyone.
I'm no psychic but I would think the reason you don't feel comfortable around your mom's boyfriend is because it has always been an unsteady thing in your life...beginning from your father divorcing your mother. Even though, it is your mother who is involved in these relationships...they DO concern you. If they get married, they then become your step parent, so you see it does concern you. You don't have to like them necessarily, but at least try to get along with them. Remember if they make your mom happy, try to get along with them for her sake.
I hate expressing myself to people as well, because I feel if someone has done something wrong to me, they should realize it and apologize. But, sometimes people are clueless. Even if you feel it is useless to tell people, you have to. Don't be afraid to tell people how you feel, it's important, so don't disregard it.
I am not sure about your father, but it sounds to me like you are holding a grudge. Maybe you should tell him he has hurt you and that because of that your relationship is not strong and it won't be until you can forgive him.
I know you hate school, but if you are planning on going to college and you don't care about your grades, you won't be able to easily escape your horror at home when you turn 18.
Well, I hope this is helpful to you.
Good luck getting everything in order.
-Teacup
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