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why are you so stupid?? You pretend to act all smart, but i bet you are a fat old 40 year old man sitting at the computer yelling "No mom!! I hate spaghetti!!" Yeah, good luck with your life??

Hope I helped!!!

lmao. i'm not pretending, so thanks (=

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My friend has a problem ...she cuts herself and nobody can seem to help her ne advise that i could give her to make her stop?

ok. this is a serious thing. i used to cut, and i would hate it when people bugged me about it. they would tell me to stop but it was just so addicting that i couldn't stop no matter what happened. then my friends said it got out of control and told the guidence councilor. and guidence had to take that stuff seriously.. i screamed and cried and threatened.. but they wouldn't let me out and called my mom. that was torture, three hours of that. then they made me go to therapy. which was HORRIBLE because the lady i had seemed ot need it herself. but after that, i don't know something changed in me. like i asked myself "what would happen if i died.. who would i let down?" and i thought of the friends that cared and the people that love me. don't bug her about it, it will just get her mad. tell your guidence councilor. he doesn't have to tell her who told him so your friend won't get mad. but if you descide to let him tell her, be prepared she might get pretty mad and feel betrayed. but trust me she will thank you in the end. make sure you tell a counsilor soon.

hope i helped a little.

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There's a little bump on top of my mouth and it hurts whenever I swallow or eat what can this bump be caused by?

it could just be a cancker sore, those little sores you get on your tounge or side of your mouth that hurt. it's probably nothing big. or you have food that cut into the gum of your mouth and is stuck up there, but i think it's the first one haha. it will probably go away soon. if not, talk to a dentist or a doctor and see what's up. don't worry about it though.

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I'm a girl and I'm 13 if that helps.....

Well see my friend always has boyfriends and her boyfriends are usually gorgeus! I just turned 13 and I had one boyfriend and he just wasn't the person I wanted to date. Other than him I haven't had any other boyfriends. Me and my friends all went to a new school (including the guys from my old school) this year and so this year I'm acting different, more mature. But the guys just don't seem to notice. I try to wear cute clothes and I'm always nice to them and I don't put on a lot of make up because I really don't need to. But I just don't know what to do! My friend isn't super-model pretty or anything she's just "so-so". I'm not overweight or anything and I have a nice tan and well I just don't know why guys don't like me? PLEASE HELP!

hey there (=

well, everyone always asks "what does she have that i don't?" this seems like one of those siduations. ok first off don't think that, because then you will start to put yourself down. you don't need to change your clothes or anything to impress anyone sillyy! boys are a complicated thing. what i have learned is that if you try too hard then it won't work. last year i descided to give up for a while, and when i did and i was myself around everyone and treated everyone like friends, a bunch of guys started liking me. you don't need to wear the coolest clothes or anything to impress the guys. they don't look at clothes anyways really haha. just let your personality shine and mellow out a little bit and everythign will be fine. you are 13, you don't need a boy to make you happy.

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Ok. i only take one bite of my food and i'm already full. i think somethings wrong with me becuz i'm not eating to much because i dont feel hungry and my stomach doesnt growl anymore. and i dont know if i'm anorexic. because i weigh 87 pounds and i am 12 in the 7th grade. i dont know what to do! please help me.

heyy. i have that problem often. i don't get hungry anymore and i lost tramendis weight and i didn't know why! i still kind of don't, but i'm learning how to handle it. if you are active i learned it could affect eatting. but i don't really know what causes it. eat what you can basically. drink milk or blan foods like toast and crackers, or protein. you need to keep it healthy so even when you are not hungry you get good nutrition and your body is still healthy.

i weighed that much when i was your age. i was a skinny little thing. i am 14 now and now 108. it's not a bad thing don't worry. when you hit puberty more, you start to weigh more.. but don't think it's bad! because it's not hahaa. you aren't anorexic, its been happening to everyone lately.

hope i helped a little (=

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i think im ugly!! i hate how i look, very much...i want to look hott..but i know i need surgery for that...how do i deal with my ugliness any longer..sometimes i hurt my self trying to make my looks better...

hold it little miss missyyy. i've been down this trail before and i am putting a sign that says "DO NOT GO DOWN HERE!" (corny i know haha) ok. well first of all.. you are not ugly. i can just tell you that right now. the only reason you probably FEEL ugly is because everyone seems to think the skinny blonde girl is perfect and you have to compare yourself to her. this world is full of crap. you have to be a walking advertizment for holister or abericrombie to fit in, it's a load of shit. hurting yourself doesn't help either. i used to cut myself because of this and i learned scars only make it worse. hun you are an amazing person.. let your personality shine and hold your head up high, confident or not (i know how confidence is hard to have) personality is better than looks. cheer up, you are probably gorgeous.

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Okay,here it goes I think that I am ugly and i have acne and sometimes i think that guys dont like me becoz i am ugly how do i feel better bout myself how do i make myself feel good and how do i feel comfartable around hot guys im always so nevrs bout pimples and i have proactive but it doesnt work that good so how do i make myself feel pretty????????

ugh. everyone is saying "be confident in yourself." but they probably don't really know how hard it is. me and you are on the same page chicka. i have pimples from stress and sweating from running, i limp from shin splints, my clothes aren't amazing and my hair isn't long and flowy and bleachhh blonde. and that is how people make it seem that you have to be. you HAVE to be a certain way or you are not pretty. me and you both have low selfesteme. it's hard to deal with, expecually as teenagers when we are pressured to be perfect. but people tell me it's not the pimples they look at (we are teenagers, we get them) it's our personalities that shine through our skin and make us pretty. be the funny, smart, caring person you are and people won't worry about it. boys are whatever, you should try and enjoy your teenage years without heartbreak. just be yourself, forget your looks and everything and just be happy you have your friends and a good life. you are an amazing person and a couple of pimples are never gunna change that.

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I met a new friend a few months ago. He's pretty cool but we are pretty much exact opposites. He can be really moody sometimes and takes things out on other people. He wallows in self pity and always complains about how life isn't worth it. Then he gets irritated by me whenever I have a different opinion and express it.

I've tried talking about this with him and it isn't working.
I really can't afford to lose him as a friend though even though he isn't much of a friend sometimes.
Still, I can't afford to lose him since he knows way too much about me.
And he is really fun to talk to when he's not in one of his moods.

Any advice on how to deal with him? Besides for talking it out, which I've tried numerous times?

oh WOW. the same thing happened to me too. i made a friend and he was a real jerk to me for a while, just like for no reason! butttttttt now me and him are best friends. and we were talking about it the other day, he said he was like that because he was going through alot of stress of liking a person who didn't like him back and his friends getting mad at him and homework that he would build up all the stress and explode on anyone. basically all i did was take it and give him advice. don't talk to him about it! it will only put him in a worse mood. if you really want to be fiends with him, listen to what he has to say and what he is mad about .. and try to help him figure it out.

hope that helps (=

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13/f
ughh i can never sleep! it's because of my summer sleep schedual, so i'm trying to go to sleep every night a half hour earlier because school starts next week, but it doesn't make a difference. like, last night i watched tv til 1, read til 2(because i still wasnt tired,) and ended up falling asleep around 3. maybe after. nothing makes me tired, i even tried counting backwards from 100 like, 4 times. i told my mom and she was like well go to bed eariler, so i told her that doesnt work and she said to read, and i told her that doesn't work either, so she just like, walked away she doesnt listen to me. everr. so are there any ways that i can get tired? i want to be asleep for school by 11/11.30 pleasseee hellpp ?

instead of trying to go to bed earlier, wake up earlier so your body is used to waking up early. when you do that your body will be tired at night and you will be able to sleep very well. i had the same problem and that's exactly what i did. hope it helps (=

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i am trying to find a cute messenger bag/shoulder bag for school but one thats large enough to hold a couple of books and binders (2" binders)
i am looking for one thats either red or green cuordouroy (dont no how to spell it) or one thats kind of asian looking, japanese fashion style. Something thats cute lol
i would really appreciate it. thanks

i just got one from JCPennys for like 20 dollars and it's pretty big.

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14/f.whenever i try to fall asleep, it takes me FOREVER to fall asleep. even if i'm tired i still can't seem to fall asleep. i always remember all of the things that i forgot to do at night. i just can't seem to turn my mind off. i also can never seem to get comfortable. help! this is driving me crazy!

Happens to the best of us. I get it too. I usually have so much on my mind and think about everything that i am sitting there and can't sleep. like everyone said listen to music and consentrate on the song and the lyrics, nothing else. i also figured out (call me weird) i can't sleep without socks on, no matter what i just can't. maybe you have something like that; not necssarily socks but you know, you can't sleep without something.

urmm i hope i helped a little bit? (=

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my friend is in the shittiest situation. her mom is abitch, she fucks random guys, sometimes hits her, calls her fat and ugly, makes her cry, locks her in her room, and has mood swings. i honestly think her mom has some mental disorder or something. she doesnt deserve to have kids because she is a horrible evil bitch and makes my friend feel like shit. now i am the one she calls after she fights with her mom and is sobbing, and i feel so b ad beacause i dont even know what to say half the time. seh cant live with her dad, grandpa/grandma or anyone else. her mom hates me and my mom for no apparent reason and constantly says shit about us. now i do NOT know what to do and im on the verge of crying because i feel so stressed bcause i feel like it is my responsibility to help her, but i dont know what to do . i told her any time she wants she can stay with us for whatever amount of time, but since her mom hates us we're both afraid her mom would drive over here, steal her, and then yell or hit her or something. im trying to think whats best for my friend, but she doesnt want to have any people that are from like foster homes or anything get involved , and she doesnt want to switch schools or move because it is a big step for her. she is very afraid and i need to know how to help, and i know youre going to say get the police or something involved but i just dont know what to do because what if her mom gets pissed and like beats me up or something or if my friend moves away and becomes depressed and hates me for ratting her out or whatever i know its for her own good but that is the last thing on her mind.
please help me

oh WOW. well this is a REALLY tough siduation that i don't think you can handle on your own. Maybe talk to your mom about it. Maybe the cops or going to a principal is a good idea. You are a very good friend caring about her like this. If you call the cops make sure you explain everything that is going on. But i'm not sure if it sounds serious enough to go to the police. so maybe a principal or a counsilor or something will be better. but if things get too out of hand, cops are the best choice. if you tell the cops or something, she will have no chance to beat you up. and if she does this lady really needs help.

i don't know if i helped or anything because this is a REALLY big deal, but i tried. good luck.

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I know you're supposed to eat breakfast every day, and it'll help your metabolism, but i never have time to eat it during the school year. my bus comes around 7:20 - 7:30 and i'm usually dressed by 7 (i shower at night) so by the time i wash up and do my hair & makeup and stuff its time to go. last year i had those quaker things and a water bottle, but i dont think thats enough for breakfast. i also think my bus driver is catching on lol. so what are ways i can either fit a fast breakfast in, what to have, or something nutitious i can take with me on the bus

thanks

hey there!

yeahh waking up in the morning is mega hard. i hit the snooze button so many times. the thing that i figured out this summer (i've been having to wake up at 8) is if you have an alarm (if you don't, get one) don't look at the time! if you look at the time and realize how early it is, you are gunna go back to sleep. pretend that it is likee 10 or so. that helped me so much. also maybe you should try waking up earlier and taking your shower in the morning.. showers wake you up more.

the whole breakfast thing, i have that problem too. i don't think it really matters how big the breakfast is.. just as long as you have some. i have the same thing as you, those quaker things. BUT my mom found this chocolate milk mix called Carnation Instant Breakfast, it fills you up fast and it has the vitimans and stuff you need for the day. when you are getting ready, doing your make up.. have something small and when you are doing you rmakeup, say you are done with your eyeliner.. take a couple bites, then do eyeshadow. lol come up with a routine and it will be easier.

hope this helps (=

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