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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.

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advice

how can i convince a girl to like me?what can i say to make her like me as a boyfriend

There is no real way to 'make' a girl like you. Just be yourself around her, flirt, be sweet and maybe throw some playful teases (don't hurt her though! ) Joke around, ya know? If she doesn't like you or seem to return the feelings, forget her, because you want someone who likes you for you! xo

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I have this one friend...we've been friends for 2 years. Well, this past year we've gotten closer, but now I think we're getting TOO close. She says I'm HER best friend, but I already have a best friend. And she always makes me hang out with her in the morning at school, and gets mad at me if I want to go with MY best friend even though we just sit in her crushes homeroom. She always tries to make plans with me on the weekend even though I always do things with my best friend. She makes me do her science homework for her, and she borrow my science book every day even though I don't WANT too! It's getting out of control and I'm starting to be very extremely annoyed of her. I miss hanging out with my best friend!! It's like she thinks WE'RE best friends, even though its clear we aren't. I don't know what to do anymore, and I'm afraid if I just keep letting things go on like this I'll end up really despising her. What should I do?

I've definitely been in the same situation when I was younger. Some girls tend to become clingy with someone they have alot in common with and are scared to lose someone. You have to tell her, nicely, that sometimes you want to hang out with your other friend. Explain to her that you cant do her homework because you have your own work to do. If she's a true friend, she won't get all mad but she might be a little hurt. Let her know she is your friend and that you are always there for her. xo

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Ok i have this friend that is like a big drinker and i try to get her to stop but it is just not working what should i do. if you can help write. M.Lee

If she is under 21, you definitely need to get her help. If she drinks atleast once a day, there is a serious problem. Alcohol is a drug that can be easily abused, so she might already be an alcoholic. Tell your parents/her parents about it or write a letter to her or talk to her privately. Don't let this go on, because it's better to stop this problem now than let it go any further & get worse. good luck xo

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I'm going to prom on the 23rd but I haven't gotten my period yet. I think I might get my period by that date. It makes me worry because I don't want to screw my new dress up with blood. It's not tight at the bottom, it's like a layered skirt that's kind of full looking. I'm going to be out from 5:30 PM to 7:00 AM for the dinner and the festive events or whatever, should I use pads or tampons? Pads are kind of gross, they make me uncomfortable because I'm afraid they'll move, but if I wear tampons I'm not sure if I'll remember to even change them during prom and I don't want to risk TSS. What should I do?

I would try a tampon. Bring a cute purse with you, and bring a few extra tampons in there. Trust me, you'll remember to change it. Maybe you could tell a friend to remind you every 4 hours or so to check and see if you need to change it. If you change the tampon every 8 hours or less, you don't have to worrry about TSS. xo

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ok, well i'm an 8th grade girl and i really like this 7th grade guy, and he asked me out and i said yes, but i'm wondering if that's weird or not.. idk, i'm just confused, please help me!
~mandy

Nope, not weird at all. You like him, he likes you. Its only one year hun! Good luck to both of ya ;]

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i like this person and he's 25 and he is kind of a teacher at my school. i can't get over him. how do i get over him?

I had the same problem when I was younger. Hot, young, teacher crushes are so hard to get over. I know there's no exact way to get over him, but start flirting with other guys. Find this guy's flaws and make yourself not like many things about him, trust me, he's not perfect either! The summer is soon & you'll definitely forget about him. You're gonna be interested in summer boys & summer fun & you're going to laugh about this crush. xo

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ok well i shave "down there" and i don't know what to do becasue sometimes i stay the night at friends houses and dont take a shower utnil i go home and sometimes i have the chance to "do things" with the person that i like and even if i shave the day before it's stubbly (sp?) the next day! and i dont want the guy to think that its gross and i also would like to know how much i should be shaving off? and it seems if i dont take a shower the next day i smell down there and then im afraid to get close to anyone and i end up being called a tease.

First (to that girl who asked how old you were) dont respond to someone's question unless you have something intelligent to say. Anyway, back to you hun, maybe you should get it waxed? It hurts like hell, but its smooth and all for a longer time. If you don't want to do that, use lots of shaving cream, a brand new razor, and then lots of lotion after you rinse & pat dry (dont rub!). About smelling, just make sure you wash down there as much as you can & you wont smell, even if you think you might. xo

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My family is know for having a history of skin cancer/moles. I have a mole on my right cheek and i really dont like it.. everybody thinks its really pretty... but i dont see how... should i get it removed? i really wanna ask my mom... but im not sure how... any ideas? or should i leave it?

I would go to a dermotologist (skin doctor) Ask him what he thinks about it, and if it could be connected with skin cancer. Your mom will probably let you see the dermo and if it bothers you that much, the doctor can cut it out. Don't worry, they numb it & it doesnt hurt at all. If everyone thinks its pretty, try to see their point of view. Once you get it removed, you cant get it back though! xo

look at cindy crawford & her mole ;] shes a friggin supermodel! heh good luck hun xo

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ok well i feel that "down there" on me looks different from other people's for some reason it looks loose .? i've only be fingered twice and it looks like i have like 45078 times! im just afraid a guy will talk about me if they see it.

different girls look different down there. all girls do N0T look the same down there, and some are naturally looser/tighter than others. if a guy says something about it, brush off the comment like its nothing and go on with your life. any guy that respects you, wont care anyway! xo

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I like this guy at my school, and I don't know if he likes me. He's shy and doesn't talk to girls, so I don't know if he would like me and how his personality would show it. He always looks at me and stuff, and he's so cute, but how can I find out he likes me without actually asking him? Please answer if you have a solution.

Shy guys are very hard to figure out, yep, trust me. If he keeps looking/staring at you, that means something. Try making conversation with him, like ask him about a class or homework or somethin about school. Show him he doesn't have to be shy around ya, you aint gonna bite em ;] I wouldnt straight out ask him if he likes you anyway, guys get scared easily by that kinda forwardness. flirt, be nice, have fun xo

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ok,when i wake up/when i change my under wear,there is yellow-white stuff in it. is that discharge? and if so how long dose it last/is it a sign of getting my period?

yup, its a discharge and its completely normal. don't get all worried and yes, if you don't have your period yet, that is a sign you're going to get it soon. xo

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I have a really good friend, Madison, who I like alot... & I'm afraid 2 loose her... but I think I don't just LIKE her... I might love her... but I don't know... & her & I have had some problems getting through all of this, cos she said no when I asked her out... & yet I still love her... & its really confusing... & alot of her friends don't like me & try & turn her agenst me & keep her away from me, & lets just say, I'm not the best looking person in the world & I get alot of problems from other people cos I some how look gay or I'm just not attractive... & I really have problems with it... & so I'm trying 2 get my life back on track & try & get through all these problems I have... & I just want 2 know what I should do about Madison... should I try & move on...? or what...?

thanks so much!
-Cameron

One thing you should definitely do is stay away from her mean friends! They have no respect and I'm hoping this girl Madison is nothing like them. If she is ignorant towards you, then move on and find someone better. Never say you're not attractive! Just get your life together, surround yourself with positive, nice people and stay friends with this girl if you can. A 14 year old guy? You needa start flirtin & havin fun! xo

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K, i dated my ex-boyfriend for about 8 months. We broke up for a stupid reason, but we never got back together, but we still hung out and acted like we were dating. I can't handle the fact that we're not together. For example, this weekend, I was talking to his friend, Mike online. He was telling me that he wants to hook up with three other chicks. I got mad because he lied to me, saying that I was his only one. I know he shouldn't feel obligated to me but I don't know. Today at school, he found out I was mad and he said he didn't know what to do and I should move on. I really do want to move on, but I don't know how, or the right way to move on. I know wallowing and watching depressed movies is a good way to go, or finding somebody else, but every girl that's been broken up with knows that doesn't work. Can someone help me?

Oh, and don't say "don't see him anymore" because I have one class and lunch with him every day. I can't not see him. And i always talk to him too. If I don't talk to him he'll get mad. SOMEONE HELP! ill rate 5's for any decent answer.. and sorry for the length.

I know how ya feel hun. This guy obviously likes to play mind & heart games, so its a good idea not to go back out with him anyway, being his friend is good enough! Start hanging out with single friends and try to find new guys. Don't let him know that you still like him, because he'll play on that, trust me. Act like a normal friend towards him and flirt with other guys, have fun xo

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i like this guy... but hes really really shy... weve been texting for the past 3/4 days and i think maybe he likes me... i really like him a lot now, but i found out hes not as innocent as he looks... he told me hes gone to third base... but idk he keeps askin me to hang out.. does this mean maybe he likes me?

Obviously he likes you, if he keeps returning your texts. If you like him as much as you say, hang out with him! So he's been to third base? That's ok as long as you're ok with it. Don't do anything you don't wanna do because you wanna live up to that other girl. You are a totally different person! Just hang out once and things might go really well, good luck hun xo

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my boyfriend just broke up with me and he gave me this necklace while i was going out with him and it meant a lot to me. i want to give it back to him but not to his face, i want to put it in his locker with a note. i don't know what to say in the note. ive thought of everything and nothing feels right to say its got to be short and meaningful. something that says "i'm over you", "its your loss" and stuff like that...but i dont want to say something MEAN b/c i dont want him hating me...i want it to say basically "i've moved on", and "you missed out." something like that Please Help Me. I really want to leave a big MEANINGFUL impression on him....HELP.
(the phrases i put in quotes...i dont want to use those exactly....)
xoxo Arielle

Well, anything you put in there to show him you're 'over him' will be sort of mean. Even if it is his loss (which im sure it is!) two wrongs don't make a right. Before you give the necklace back to him, are you sure you don't want to keep it? Did he ask for it back? If it did mean alot to you, you might want to hold on to that memory. If not, here's something you could write in the note. "I thought you might want this back." It's short and meaningful, straight to the point.

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I bought a shirt from Abercrombie today and washed it when I got home (I don't like how their clothes smell). Well, when I got it out of the dryer, I noticed that I accidently grabed a Large and it's wayy too big. I don't know if they'll let me exchange it since it's been washed. What do y'all think? I can't just forget about it becasue it was a 48 dollar shirt.

I don't know A&F too well, but in most stores like that they won't let you return it if it doesn't have the tag still on it. If you have the tag still on it, try and return it & don't say you washed it. If the tag isn't on it, but you have the receipt, try that too. hope i helped a lil xo

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