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typical question but i want help
K, i dated my ex-boyfriend for about 8 months. We broke up for a stupid reason, but we never got back together, but we still hung out and acted like we were dating. I can't handle the fact that we're not together. For example, this weekend, I was talking to his friend, Mike online. He was telling me that he wants to hook up with three other chicks. I got mad because he lied to me, saying that I was his only one. I know he shouldn't feel obligated to me but I don't know. Today at school, he found out I was mad and he said he didn't know what to do and I should move on. I really do want to move on, but I don't know how, or the right way to move on. I know wallowing and watching depressed movies is a good way to go, or finding somebody else, but every girl that's been broken up with knows that doesn't work. Can someone help me?
Oh, and don't say "don't see him anymore" because I have one class and lunch with him every day. I can't not see him. And i always talk to him too. If I don't talk to him he'll get mad. SOMEONE HELP! ill rate 5's for any decent answer.. and sorry for the length.
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my advice would be to try and look at this guy as a friend and nothing more. from what you've said it seems hes got over you and sounds like a bit of a player! you have to know that all these type of guys are bad news, you know you will get you're heart broken in the end. it will be difficult to get over him (and please whateva you do DON'T watch depressing movies!!) but it must be done. when a guy lets you down you have to turn to those you trust... you're friends, hopefully they will support you! i find that telling yourself off for thinking about a guy helps. if you are day-dreaming and start thinking of him... tell yourself NO and think of something else! once you think you have gotten over him you can start talking to him in the same way you used to but in the meantime detach yourself from him!!
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Well hun the fact that he told you to move on was a very blunt statement. You should probably take his advice. It takes time, it doesn't happen fast. But summer is coming soon so classes with him won't be something to worry about soon.
Watching sad movies? lol watch comedy and talk to friends about it.
He tells you to move on but gets mad when you don't talk to him? Hes playing mind games.. Typical guy :)
Well tell him that if you are to move on and get over him that you can't just keep talking to him, you need your space. Seeing him is one thing but talking to him, hanging out with him is a different story. He can't get mad if you don't talk to him. You aren't obligated to talk to ANYONE .. :) If you need anything, send away .. Im glad it was long and expressed. When people ask short questions its hard to base a good answer on them
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I know how ya feel hun. This guy obviously likes to play mind & heart games, so its a good idea not to go back out with him anyway, being his friend is good enough! Start hanging out with single friends and try to find new guys. Don't let him know that you still like him, because he'll play on that, trust me. Act like a normal friend towards him and flirt with other guys, have fun xo
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