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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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does the EnV come with free unlimited texting??? because thats what everyone tells me. but it sounds too good to be true

verizon makes you pay $10.00 for unlimited texting. but it's not even unlimited. it's only unlimited for verizon to verizon. you only get 500 extra to send and recieve from any cingular t moble sprint nextel etc. users

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i have the VCAST Verizon VX9800. I really want the EnV (which is the upgrade to the phone I have now)

if i switch phones, will it cost me any money? like can i play the difference between the 2 phones?

if your contract is up and you are the primary line (meaning your not under your parents name) you can get it free. to see if your contract is up go to a verizon store and they will tell you when it is up but if your a secondary source you can get the sale price which the verizon i was at was $206

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Does having a cold sore mean that you have an std?? or is a cold sore just a cold sore?

a cold sore is a form of herpies. but you don't usually get them from sex. they are very contaigous and you can get them easily by using the same chapstick as someone who has it or drinking out of soemone's cup who has it

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I have this guy friend that I have a major crush on. I have a few classes with him, and whenever there's a group project, he picks me as his partner, but I'm really smart and kind of anal retentive when it comes to my grades, so maybe that's why. Today I was wearing a low-cut shirt and we were working together and he passed me a note saying 'excuse the crudeness but could you pull up your shirt? I find it hard to work with boobs to look at" so I pulled up my shirt even though I had worn it just so he would look at my chest. a few minutes later he made a comment about distractions helping him think if it was something he liked. I'm a little confused by the situation.

in other words saying the he was distracted means that he liked it ;) but he wanted you to know that you didn't have to show what you got because that probably doesn't turn him on and you should just be yourself around him :)

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Past 2 nights I've very cramped up & light headed. I'm due for my period any day now because of my signs of getting my period- tender breast, cramps, pmsing. Do you think it may be causing dizzyness? I've never had dizzyness like this before. it's not pregnacy either cause i'm still a virgin haha.

yuppppp :) that's your period coming on. many people get dizzy when they are about to get it. your flow is probably goign to be heavier seeing that the sympoms are harsher :)

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ok so im overweight and right under where my fat is on my stomach theres like this weird skin irritation thats been there for a long time. its reddened but towards the center it gets lighter, its along a broad part of my stomach and sometimes it hurts to touch. anyone know what the hell is up with this and how i make it stop hurting?

please, serious answers (preferably no "go to a doctor")

could be chaffing it's the rubbing of the skin. i get it sometimes when i play field hockey on my inner thigh because my legs rub together when i run. when mine hurts i put baby powder on it to help it from hurting. so try that. hope everything works out for you sweetheart.

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okay i was goin out with this girl and while we were goin out i started tliek her best friend then me and the girl broke up... and i still talk to her bst friend and i really like her, every morning she texts me and we talk every day all day and i really really really really like her... and she called me her lil bro and i called her my big sis and then i just opened myself up to her tonight and we were both crying and she said she doesnt know ho she feels and that she was speechless, and n like after 20 mins of this and telighe r how i felt she said she had to go.. like what does this mean does she like me? and how can i get her to be mine? any fuer questions on this please ask i really need hp, thanks

well, you are her best friends ex-boyfriend. but that is besides the point. but i honestly don't know if she likes you, i mean she did leave after you told her, but seeing that she calls you every day and texts you, that puts me in the mind set that she does like you.. but she called you her little bro. so maybe she just sees you as a good friend ?

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I really want my nipples pierced. I've researched it and I know any risks involved.. not to mention I can handle pain pretty well. I just want some stories about yours.. or anything you've heard about them. Did yours get infected? What made them feel better, etc. Thank you in advance! =]

my friend pierced his one nipple hah. alright so heres the deal. he said it hurt REALLY bad and he is also VERY good at handling pain. his did not get infected but he said it's really hard to wear shirts (i'm sure it would be even worse with a bra) with his nipples pierced because it hurt a lot even afterwards. he said just cooling them down with ice made it better. good luck :)

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me and my bf have been dating for 3 months today! and i love him... i really do! and he loves me too! we pretty much been each others first for everything! first real love you know? and well we talked about having sex tomorrow and i really want to but i want peoples oppinions! i'm 14 and he is 16 but we are both fish in highschool!

also how much does it bleed when a boy "pops your cherry"?!

i would wait. you have your whole life to have sex. no need to rush it. it's only three months and i don't believe your ready. don't get me wrong i do not know you. but at 14 i know 89/100 people in my school were not ready. and it bleeds a lot. kind of like you have your period for only one day

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Ok, so I have about the worst luck with guys! It seems as though that none of the guys I like ever like me back. But I'm never happy unless I have a crush on someone. But when I do like someone, I'm really unhappy because it seems as though they just don't like me. Basically, I like a guy, get upset because I can't have him then start to like someone else too distract me from the other person, then end up liking the 2nd person completely. So my question is: How do I just not like a guy? How do I stop liking someone without liking someone else?

you can't controll your feelings sweetheart. if you have feelings for someone you can't just say okay. i don't like you anymore. it's not like that lol i would advise you to just let everything flow. don't go from one boy to the next. just focus on other things like school, family, friends, gaurenteed your going to have a boyfriend in one point in your life, and plus, guys like a challenge not a girl who is head over heels for them alright :)

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ok well i'm catholic but i masturbated and it feels really good even though feel uncomfortable i do it well cause i love the feeling should i stop? my friend doesn't know but we talked about it and she said people encourage it please help me cause i really like doing it

everyone does it. there should be no shame in doing it. you don't have to stop. 9 out of 10 catholics masturbate. promise.

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i been dating this person over a month now and the person is 15 and i am 17 about to turn 18 in a month is that a bad thing because everybody say it is jail bait something like that.

first off. when is the person turning 16 because when they turn 16 they are allowed to consent to sexual contact. which means that there is no 'jail bait' involved because it is not against the law then. other than that there is usually no problem unless the person you are dating parents don't like you then that could cause a problem. but ually no one really pays attention to that.

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how do you go on a date without one of yer relatives driving you around

friends; taxi; bus; walk (if it's close) his/her relatives instead.. him/her if they drive...

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i know its not possible to loose alot of weight in a week, but i want to loose as much weight as i can by halloween. i mean like 5 pounds i guess. what should i eat and about how many sit ups and all should i do a day? i mostly want to loose it in my arms and stomach.

it's possible. wrestlers do it all season to get down to the weight that they want to be at.. i would concider eating instead of chicken to eat boco brand stuff it's meatless (vegetarian brand stuff with soy) it's good and it was less fat and not as much calories, veggies, fruit etc. maybe talk to a wrestler that you might be close to and see what he does to loose weight. usually they just drink water and gatorade(fasting) hope i help and good luck!

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well, i really like this guy. we're really good friends and he's always there for me and stuff. i don't know whether to tell him or not though.
i have a habit of telling a guy that i like him, it's not because i think something would happen but because...well i have no idea why.
anyways, my question is, do i tell him? i know most people would say yes. but theres kinda a twist, he has a girlfriend.
what do i do?!

of courseee! if it messes things up then your friendship wasn't as strong as you thought. honestlyyy if you really like him so much you have to take a risk girl! to get what you wannt buttt since he has a girl you have to decifer if it is a strong relationship because if it is than there would be no chance but if they're constantly fighting etc. then let him knoww.

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my fertile days were 9/29/06 - 10/3/06 i had sex on 10/9/06 but he pulled out is there a possobility that i got pregnet on that day?

theres always a chance even if he pulled it out; because of pre cum which he doesn't feel coming

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Well, me and my girlfriend were fooling around and after we dry humped and i came, i fingered her. Now I don't remember if i had semen on my hand(from touching my damp shorts). She's had her period already, 2 weeks after the event, but she's been showing symptoms of "Morning sickness" at the same time. Could she be pregnant or just feeling a bit under the weather?

if you had seman on your fingers when you fingered her then yes; there is a slight chance that she could have been pregnant but just a weak chance because the amount of sperm was probably very low

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is masterbating to much harfull? i mena i know if you do it , it's not bad, but i do it almost 4-5 times a day and i have been for a very very long time... by the way i am 20...and male, anway, is doing it to much bad, like can it stop your penius form grow? a low sperm count? what, please help

nopee it's healthy =] and very natural.. it's not bad even if you do do it many times a day

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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not?

tell him.. because if you don't then you will never find out if he feels the same way.. and if he doesn't then it should still be okay just tell him that you just wanted to know how he felt about it.. and that you wouldn't want anything to jepordize your friendship.. and that if he doesn't feel the same way then it's still cool

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I flirt alot with this boy, Adam. He told my friend I like him alot, even though I still had a boyfriend at the time. Since he was being so confident about it, I want to mess with his head a bit, leave him guessing and wanting more if you know what I mean. ;) Any tips on how to do this?

- "Playing Hard to Get"

don't flirt as much. kind of ignore him ;] make him think that your not thinking about him even though you probably are =]

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