Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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what does it exactly mean wen a woman i guess says the man popped their cherry?? (link)
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It means that a women has had sex for the first time and her hymen has now been broken. In most womens cases they bleed a little bit the first time they have sex but some don't.
Hymens can be broken even before you have sex by riding a horse, bike, doing gymnastics but the most common is sex. It is up to the individual woman to interperate whether or not she is still a virgin when the hymen is broken.
So getting your 'cherry' popped means the woman has had sex for the first time and she is no longer a virgin.
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does running help get rid of a stomach? (link)
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It does but its a known fact that power walking gives you more results then running.
Simply because you are actually using a lot more muscles while you walk!
Sit ups and things like an ab swing can also help a lot!
:)
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every body calls me a poser but i really skateboard and i love to skate how can i prove im not a poser and i reallly need advise plz helm thanks (link)
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Who cares if you are.. it looks good anyway!
Even if you aren't their probably just jealous because they want to look as good as you while your doin your thang ;)
Just tell them to give it a rest, your there to skate not to be a model so to get over it!
Hope I helped :)
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i go to the gym about 5 times a week. i start off with my legs, i usually do the tredmil, a bike, or this other thing that i dont know what its called but its like running for 20-30min. then i go do some other things that work my legs. the move on to stomich. I want to lose some fat in my legs and get a flatter stomich and also see a change for the middle of april, around the 20th. if i keep doing this 5 times a week will i be able to see a big change or is it impossible for less than a month?
p.s i started going to the gym 5 times a week about 5 weeks ago if that helps. (link)
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Yes it could but then again it might not!
If you find yourself loosing weight or toning up it might be in the wrong places. Speak to your gym trainer and they will guide you with what equipment you will need to use for different parts of your body!
You will also need to change your diet around too (if you haven't already), perhaps throw in some fruit now and then instead of junk foods. This is a big help too!
Try not to burn yourself out too. Too much exercise can lead to a few complications. So just be careful :)
Hope I helped!
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ok..so i am afraid ever since i was little my mom always told me never to have a boyfriend becase they always only want sex. so i grew up(im 15 by the way) hating guys. so i really liked this guy and we went out and i was always afraid to tell him how i felt i was afraid of letting him hug me i dont know why i feel like i look stupid kissing him. or hugging him. and when i would kiss him i would always feel uncomfterable and never want to do it. i never told him how much i liked him. my mom just keeps telling me all these negative things about guys, she also told me that guys just want to have sex and that god will be mad with me if i have a boyfriend so i dont want God to be mad at me! what do i do? help please! (link)
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Oh honey having a boyfriend isn't a bad thing at all. It's a shame you grew up hating boys because not all of them are after sex!
You mum is obviously trying to keep you from having a boyfriend because sometimes, unfortunately every girl does get hurt!
What you need to do now is think for yourself, if you want a boyfriend then you have a boyfriend! You are old enough to think of what the consequences could be and to say no when you feel like you should say no!
Having a boyfriend could be the most wonderful thing in the world, just because you have a boyfriend does not mean you have to have sex!
Take me for an example, I am 18 nearly 19 and my boyfriend is 20 nearly 21. We were together for nearly a year before we had sex and we were both virgins!
Everyone does things in their own time hun so you need to figure out if you are ready to start dating for yourself.. don't let your mum rule your life because you need to make mistakes yourself to learn from them! You can't learn from other people's mistakes!
Then you need to talk to your mum about it.. you need to tell her that you are ready to have a boyfriend and you will find one in your own time and bring him home to meet her!
Hope I helped :)
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Okay, I am a 29 yr. old mom of a 10 year old daughter. Today I was freaked out when I walked in on her in the bathroom and realized she must have started puberty a long time ago. No period or anything yet but the hair is there. OH MY GOD!! I think this is way too soon, I was 13! I'm so not prepared, I love her and want to talk to her about this maturely, but maturely...shes 10!!!!!!!!My mother never talked to me about these things, when i was 13 I had a ruptured appendix and started my period soon after the surgery, I thought it was from the surgery i was clueless!LOL some advice please?? Thanks (link)
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Unfortunately the girls of this world today are maturating a lot faster then what girls did years ago.
Although you are not prepared you really do need to be. As you said she is only 10 so she may not understand what is going on herself.
This is where you need to be there for her and make her realise that these sorts of things happen to girls bodies when their bodies start to mature.
She may have lots of questions for you but is too embarrased to ask. You need to make her feel comfortable and talk to her about this.
Don't embarrass her though!
Considering that she is already growing hair, her period may not be that far away.. you never know!
Hope I helped! :)
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Well, first offf I am on the obese side, and I am looking for a plus sized goth clothing store In the kent county/Grand Rapids Michigan area. I can't seem to find much even as any gothic clothing at all, except hot topic, which there stuff gets worn down easily since they are knockoffs. I can't order online either. (link)
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Why don't you create your own clothes? Buy some black t-shirts and create your own patterns to print on them!
This way you could express your own feelings through your own clothes, you can choose pictures over the internet to print our and transfer onto a shirt!
It wont cost much to buy a few plain black shirts!
Then you could be more creative and make your own accessories to go with your clothes!
Hope I helped :)
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how do you know when you "popped your cherry"
and should i be embarassed that i bled on his fingers?
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I consider having sex for the first time 'popping your cherry' that is really the correct term of loosing your virginity...
But breaking the hymen could happen many ways, don't be embarrased that you bled on his fingers. If he's disgusted then thats his problem.. water and soap will fix that.
He knew you were a virgin??? Then what else would he have expected?
Hope I helped! :)
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i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but he is a couple years older then me and definitely way more experienced then i am. i am afraid that if i have sex with him then thats all our relationship will be about. and i dont want that. so should i just wait to have sex with him? (link)
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Ok first of all you need to think about this a lot before you have sex with him. You are able to say no and wait for as long as you want. If your boy can't understand that and leaves you.. then he's not worth it!
You need to talk to him about this, let him know that you do want to have sex and you feel ready but you don't want sex to over rule your relationship with him because it's not what you want.
The good side of it is that he is experienced, he can guide you but it is totally up to you! Don't feel embarrased, tell him that you want it to be special! Hugs and kisses are just as important too, make sure that he makes it passionate for you and not uncomfortable!
But at the same time ask yourself if you really are ready..! Don't just have sex with him because he got it else were and you feel like you have to give it to him because he's had it before!!!
Just remember to be safe! Wear protection!
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Few things actually.
1) Do you think it's possible to find true love online?
2) Do you think its a good thing, or a bad thing?
ANYWAYS:
I met this guy (online) and we became really close, he became really passionate about me and I to him. But over the past week those feelings began to fade for me and I told him. I feel really bad, he's amazing and he has a heart of gold but I think he deserves someone he can be with physically. I know he's hurt, and I feel really really bad. What should I do? (link)
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Yes I think it is possible!
It could be a good or bad thing!
Just because your feelings are starting to dissolve doesn't mean that you can't be friends and that you can't be close with him!
Tell him that you feel like its for his best interest that you two see other people in your own towns because you feel as though you can't have a relationship without physical affection!
Tell him that he's been nothing but great to you and that you do realise that he is hurt but this is how things have to be now and he should support that!
Just be nice to him though, right now he's probably feeling like his world has just come down but give it time and he should and will understand that this is the best!
I'm sure neither of you are going to move towns just so be together, you may find out your not really what each other want!
Hope I helped :)
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i eat breakfast, snack (small), lunch, snack(small), dinner.
i eat healthy, no sweets or crap food. is it okay to have a breakfast food twice, like if for lunch i order breakfast at a restureant? (link)
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Honey it doesn't really matter what you eat!
Why don't you have like fruit for breakfast then a sandwich for lunch with like cheese on it then your meal for dinner!
Exercise is also important!
It's not ok to have breakfast foods twice a day because your body just wouldn't function properly!
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I cut myself for the first time today. I'm afraid that cutting will become something that I do regularly. I need to figure out how to get over cutting, because i already feel like i'm a crazy person. pleaseee help!
oh and don't tell me to google. i did, and i read nearly all of the search results. reading some of them makes me want to cut even more.
i'd love to hear a response from a person who has gone through this. (link)
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Ok this is something serious, I went through a stage of this when I was a bit younger! It's not pretty!
I used to cut all over my body, even in places you thought were impossible!
Sweety you need to talk to someone before it gets out of hand! This isn't a habbit you want to pick up!
You don't want scars on your body for the rest of your life, you want to be able to look beautiful all the time and scars are painful things that never go away!
Talking and opening up to people is the best way to get your feelings out, I didn't think I had any problems but it turns out the list was endless!
Talk to someone who you know can help, not someone who is doing the same thing! That will just encourage you a little bit more!
When you feel like you want to cut do something to destract you, don't let this take over your life... people die from it and you have so much more to live for!
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Hey hey. Oy, am I in a dilema. I asked this friend of mine to go someweres. But, I forgot to mention other people were probably going to show up, and i'm not sure if he thought that it was just us. He cant go, but still, i need to IM him back, what do i say? Like, oh, no problem, that weekend didnt work out for some other people either? does that sound ok? (link)
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Yeah that sounds cool! Just tell him that its no problem and that so and so can't make it either so maybe next time!
Just keep it cool other wise it may get awkward!
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We are having a dance the day after my 13th brithday. Ive already seen guys asking girls and ive been hoping to get a date. I mean, im not ugly, im average. But no guys ever seem to ask me because im usually best friends with the guys and they only see me as a friend now. It really hurts knowing no1 wants to go with me =( i really want some advice that could maybe somehow help me. thanks please help! (link)
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Well if your best friends with some of the guys why don't you ask the guys who don't have dates yet to go with you?
Just ask one of them and if they get a bit scared about it just tell them that you just really want a date and that you would have more fun going with a friend then some random!
Tell them your going just as mates and nothing further!
But i'm sure there is someone wanting to ask you but their just to shy! ;)
Hope I helped! :)
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why my down part is getting black day by day,,
please tell me,, its turning black, i m a guy, and i want my penis white,, [plz tell me somthing (link)
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Sweetie you need to go and see the doctor!
Here is a site for you to look at, it may make you understand things a bit better and you may be able to relate to some of the symptoms!
I strongly suggest you see your doctor though!
http://www.mothernature.com/Library/bookshelf/Books/16/172.cfm
Hope I helped! :)
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Ok. So, i'm 14/f. and this is kinda a long story, i'll try to make it as short as i can. so when my mom was 18 (she is 37 now) she had a baby. She didn't mean to or anything, but its just one of those kinda things that happend. She knew that she couldn't take care of her, so she gave her to a family that couldn't have a baby. So yeah, my mom told me about all of this when i was about 10 i think, and now i'm 14, obviously. lol. anyways, the agentcy (sp) that my mom went through to give her baby to another family had some rules. and one of them was that my mom and her baby, Becky, couldn't meet until Becky was 18, and until she was ready. Well just the other day they got to talk for the first time over the fone cause Becky is 20 or somethin now. well, she told my mom that she wanted to talk to me sometime, and that she really wanted to be like a sister to me. but i'm not really sure if i'm ready to just let my "sister" come into my life. i mean, one day she talkes to my mom and she just comes into the family? they haven't even met yet! and now my mom is talking about how she could come on vacation in the summer, and how Becky and i could go shopping together and stuff like that. and i'm just like wth? and Becky told my mom that she wanted to talk to me over the fone sometime, but what the heck do i talk to her about? am i blowing this way out of proportion, or not? idk what to do or think. help!! thanx!! (link)
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I guess what your 'sister' is trying to do is include you!
Becky may get the impression that your mum is your mum and she doesn't want to take her away from you and make you feel like that you don't matter!
I say give her a chance! Yes it will be hard to have to start and 'share' your mum and your family to start off with but who knows, she could turn out to be a really cool chick!
But at the same time you need to let your mum know how you feel about this! Tell her that your going to need some time to adjust to the changes and that she needs to understand that!
Good luck hope I helped :)
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this is kind of urgent. ok so my best guy friend just got dumped by his girlfriend that he had for 7months. he really loved her and is really depressed about it. i hate to see him that way because i care about him, alot. in fact i love him. i've been secretly in love with him for about a year now. i told him that i used to like him but not that i still do. ok so anyway he's been really depressed and he's not sure if him and his girlfriend are going to get back together. if they do i'll be really happy for him because i hate to see him miserable like he is now. but i want to tell him that i like him. so what should i do? tell him or let them get back together and just be a good friend and stay out of the way? (link)
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So another sticky situation ey?!
He's been hurt by this girl once, he'll only be hurt again!
Sit him down and give him all the advice you can, just be there for him. Don't move in on him to fast as he's in the 'depression mode' and wants her back.
Make him understand that you are there for him and always will be and will support his desicion 100% then when the time is right make it special and tell him how you feel.
Tell him that you have always had feelings for him and never said anything to him before because he means so much to you and you only wanted to see him happy.
Then you could tell him that it may be worth giving it a shot with the two of you.. who knows he may have always like you too.
Just don't be afraid to tell him how you feel, if you don't say anything he'll never know and you will regret it!
This is your time now but at the same time don't push him into another full on relationship. Kind of tell him how you feel then let him come to you!
I hope I helped and good luck! :)
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This guy I've been dating was supposed to call me to see a movie today. He left a message earlier saying he had to cancel, and to call him back. Fair enough. So he called back just now, saying he as at the movie with his friends. I feel disrespected. Why would he just cancel on me, only to go out to the SAME movie with his friends? (link)
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How rude of him!
I think you need to talk to this guy and let him know that you are upset!
Tell him that you had plans with each other and you were looking forward to it and then was disapointed!
Tell him your upset and that you really like him but this just isn't on!
If you really do like him then don't scream and yell at him to make him run away but you do need to let him know how you feel. Its not fair on you!
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What are some fun, cute things I can do to excite my boyfriend. We're 15, so nothing to sexy. But he likes to feel me up and such, but its gets old after a while. Any games we can play or cute things I can do to excite him? No bj's or anything like that. (link)
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Ok well my boyfriend likes me to touch right near his hip bone, it kind of tickles but feels good at the same time, I put my thumb there and move it around in a circle.
If you do it to yourself you can tell what i'm talking about!
Um.. you could also nibble on his ear and soflty breath in his ear at the same time, my boy crumbles when I do that!
Um then you could ask him what he thinks would feel nice.
Then if you want to get a bit more into it, massage around his pubic area, all the sensitive spots that don't get touched it feels really good!
Then you always have the option of a lot of other things but i'm sure you will be ready for those in your own time!
Good luck and remember you can so no! Be safe!
Hope I helped! :)
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How do I tell my mom I think I have those? 13/f The pain is unberable at night I cannot sleep :( (link)
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Just get your mum on your own and say mum I think I need to go to the doctor I think I have pin worms.
I know you may be embarrased but would you rather be embarrased then in pain?
If you are worried about telling your mum tell her that you would appreciate it if she wouldn't tell anyone else as you find it uncomfortable talking about it and you didn't even want to tell her!
Hope I helped :)
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