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afraid
ok..so i am afraid ever since i was little my mom always told me never to have a boyfriend becase they always only want sex. so i grew up(im 15 by the way) hating guys. so i really liked this guy and we went out and i was always afraid to tell him how i felt i was afraid of letting him hug me i dont know why i feel like i look stupid kissing him. or hugging him. and when i would kiss him i would always feel uncomfterable and never want to do it. i never told him how much i liked him. my mom just keeps telling me all these negative things about guys, she also told me that guys just want to have sex and that god will be mad with me if i have a boyfriend so i dont want God to be mad at me! what do i do? help please!
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Oh honey having a boyfriend isn't a bad thing at all. It's a shame you grew up hating boys because not all of them are after sex!
You mum is obviously trying to keep you from having a boyfriend because sometimes, unfortunately every girl does get hurt!
What you need to do now is think for yourself, if you want a boyfriend then you have a boyfriend! You are old enough to think of what the consequences could be and to say no when you feel like you should say no!
Having a boyfriend could be the most wonderful thing in the world, just because you have a boyfriend does not mean you have to have sex!
Take me for an example, I am 18 nearly 19 and my boyfriend is 20 nearly 21. We were together for nearly a year before we had sex and we were both virgins!
Everyone does things in their own time hun so you need to figure out if you are ready to start dating for yourself.. don't let your mum rule your life because you need to make mistakes yourself to learn from them! You can't learn from other people's mistakes!
Then you need to talk to your mum about it.. you need to tell her that you are ready to have a boyfriend and you will find one in your own time and bring him home to meet her!
Hope I helped :)
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shes probably just saying that because she doesnt want you to be sexually active. she wants to protect you.
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God will not be mad at you for having a boyfriend. Your mom is just being very overprotective, which is understandable, but she shouldn't be scaring you away from guys, because then it will be hard for you to have a real relationship with a guy because you will not be able to open up or trust him. If you really your boyfriend, let him know that you have grown up believing that guys are only interested in sex, and that you should not trust them, so it is hard for you to trust guys in the first place and that you do not want to be pressured to do anything you are not ready for. If he cares for you, he will understand and help you. As for the sex thing, if you do not want it to happen, do not let it happen. People say that you should not have sex until you are married, and your mom probably believes in that, so if you are going to be with the guy, then maybe you should take that into consideration.
So don't feel guilty about having a boyfriend, a lot of girls your age have one. Be careful and do not let him pressure you to do something you are not ready for. Good Luck and work on the trust thing.
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