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i want to be with this guy (we both know we like each other) but my friends don't want to see my with him. But i think every one know we want each other.We are mad cool, last year we got tighter than ever.He left for the summer came back.When school started everyone thought we were togeather. i stayed single he dated couple of girls (one of them was my friend) I love him to death he and everyone knows that.I started to call him baby boo. What should i do?I want him but i don't want my friend to me mad at me also.
Well I say you should do whatever you want. I mean its your life, not theirs and its your decision. There must be a reason though why your friend doesn't want you to date him. Maybe she likes him? Maybe shes heard bad things about him? She just might be trying to be a friend. I'd try to talk to her about everything first, and if there really isn't a reason, explain to her how you really like him and everything. Because she should also be a friend and support whatever decision you make, even if she doesn't like it..just like you should do with her. But just try to talk to her about everything first. I hope everything works out and I hope I helped! =D
how do you shave under your arms without cutting yourself with an eletric shaver.
needs help
just don't use an electric one. Just get a normal razor and shaving cream and whenever you in the shower just ..shave your under arms, basically. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
ok well i need help ok well there is this boy lets say his name is ... John and this would be mi first ever boyfriend. So anyways i satayed after school and he like me and everything and so he pulled me to the side and he asked me if i wanted to go out with him,and so i said that i didnt know. And i really need ur help i. so i think that i like him a little but im really nervous to go out with him! how can i become less nervous(the only reason im nervous is becuase i would be mi first bf and im afraid i will screw something up) so i just need ur help on how to be less nervous!
thanks so much much love
14/f ♥
Well first, it's completley fine to be nervous. I remember I was afraid to screw up in front of mine and make myself look stupid, but if I ever did he'd just laugh at it or not care. I mean he if he likes you, he's not gonna like hate you or anything because you made a mistake. It just shows your not perfect and nobody is. Who knows? He may screw up in front of YOU ( he could even be nervous too but just not showing it ). Just relax, and take breaths.. once you start dating him, you'll feel much better and so much less nervous. So you kinda just gotta ease into it. And then sooner or later, the more boyfriends you get the less and less nervous you'll be. I hope I helped! =D
Love,
MELii
hey! i am like totally in L O V E with this guy named dave.. only problem is... i'm 14 and hes 23... 24 in january.... and like... i'm afraid to like anyone else because i'm afraid that if i go out with them... when i'm older.. i wont get a chance with him.. which i'm hoping for... what should i do? ~Krissy
Hm, this is a really tough situation. You have to think though. Your 14. You legally will be able to be with him in 4 years. Maybe in those 4 years I might suggest try dating other people, see if he really is the one you want to be with. Because who knows? Maybe in those 4 years you could find the sweetest, kindest, funniest guy in the world who you could possibly love forever. Unless you and him are both willing to wait for 4 years for eachother, then I'd suggest just keeping in touch and hang out and everything. Keep the relationship as close as possible and just keep on loving eachother. Sorry if I wasn't much help. That is a really really tough situation =/ .. but I hope I did!
Love,
MELii
You give really good advice! Keep up the good work!!!!
aww thanks so much! =D if you ever need advice, just know you can always come to me =)
ok i have two questions..
1)i dont know what to be for halloween. i was thinking of being teen royalty..like you know how they describe the 3 most popular gilrs in mean girls as teen royalty? liek that and i dont know how to dress up for that
2) ive liked this guy for 3 years && hes a big flirts. he says he likes me && he tells everyone he likes me && hes thinking of asking me out..but hes been thinking of asking me out for over a week now && i dont think its going to happen. well, i like him a lot so..how do i get over him?! cause everytime he flirst with another girl my heart breaks
well...
1) Well just look at how the girls in Mean Girls dress and maybe take an outfit from out of there. And get two other of your friends to be the other two girls. Or I don't know dress like a pagent queen with a crown and a sash that say "TEEN ROYALTY"...
2) Well since he flirts with other girls, he might be considering whats going to happen if he goes out with you. Cause once hes taken, he realizes he won't be you know.. single anymore. And maybe hes thinking about it. It takes guys some time to think of things. So don't go trying to forget about him...just ask him whats up. Just be like," Whats going on? I heard you were thinking about tasking me out.." ( or osmething like that ). I hope I helped! You can alwyas IM me on MELii x MARiiE.
Love,
MELii
I just moved to a new school in florida for my dads job and im really shy, and its hard for me to talk and make friends and be outgoing and loud .I dont know why.
Any advice?
-Sara 13/f/Florida
Aw, it is hard to go to a new school. You kinda just have to be outgoing, because unless people talk to you... your going to have to talk to people. Just go up to them and be like," Hey did you get this problem?" and then just slowly try talking to them. Tell them that your new at school, where you were originally from, ask about them ( maybe how long they've been there, are the people/teachers here nice that kinda stuff ). And then hopefully you'll become friends with people and then you'll be friends with their friends and pretty soon, you'll just be able to make them. I used to be shy. I still am sometimes, but not all the time. I just find somethng we have in common ( maybe i make a comment about how boring this class is and they agree and then I start talking about fav. subject, least subject, school sucks blah blah blah ).. I hope I helped and I hope you make friends! =)
Love,
MELii
hey
well i want to be a dead geek for halloween but im not so sure
Can you give me ideas for costumes you could make at home
Hmm theres a million costumes you can easily make at home. Theres just being like, a dead zombie. Just take some old clothes not needed anymore and rip them and shred them ( and take ketchup or buy fake blood and squirt it everywhere ) um, you can always do a repeat costume. I was something for like, three years in a row. I don't know your gender, so I can suggest much. ( like fairy, dead cheerleader idk ) but those are some other options. Maybe go as a boy..or a girl. Alot of my friends are going as pimps which is just a funny idea. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
how can you keep a tan tan?
Well if your naturally tan, there's nothing you need to do.. it'll just stay that way. But if you aren't then just go to a tanning salon every now and then to keep your tan going...I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
i am 13/f and i want sex is that wrong
No it's normal. Cause for some reason, most 13 year olds just start thinking about sex around that age and stuff. It's also because your bodies changing, going through all the hormones, noticing guys are hot and you might want to do more with them. It's normal. But I'd consider ( if you REALLY want to ) to hold off until your completly sure you're in love with him and he won't be one of those types who do it and then ignore you forever. =/ or wait until your married. Just think about things. Just think of everything that can happen.. pregnancy, STDS.. try reasearching some stuff. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
okays so im 14 and i have liked this guy for three years now. weve made out a lot of times and stuff but then every night he calls this other girl and he tells her he loves her and they've been goin off and on for like 4 years and everyone knows she likes him and obviously everyone thinks he likes her but he swears he doesnt because if he did he would ask her out but like sometimes the stuff he says to me makes me like him soo much and i try not to like him because he doesnt wanna go out because of the other girl so do u think i should keep trying because i really like him or should i just move on and forget about him?
Hmmm he kinda sounds like a possible cheating-type. I don't know.. I mean telling a guy he loves her, but telling another girl that he doesn't like her? I would ask him whats up. Just be like," Do you like me or not? Well then why are you always telling that other girl that you love her?" and if that goes nowhere and he gets all upset/ or you.. I might suggest just trying to forget about him. There might be someone out there better for you, that WON'T go around telling a bunch of people they love them and then others " oh I don't like that person I told I loved..".. I hope I helped. Just try and think this through before you do anything.. but don't just think with your head, think with your heart. ( haha that sounds sappy but w.e ) =) I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Okay well i always go to this huge football games like every friday with TONZ of my friends from MY SCHOOL buhh i hang out with all these ghetto kidds and stuff from this other school who like smoke and stuff buhh of course i dont smoke with them i just look cool when im around with them while they do it.. and then like.. this one guy like he really realy likes me and he is friends with all the gang members and stuff and like i use to have the BIGGEST crush on him and we did go out nd stuff and like he was totally ignoring me at the game.. is that a bad sign????????????????????? And also.. at the end i asked for a hug buhh he said no and then when i got home he like told me he liked me and stuff.. plus that same weekend me and him made out at the park.. bad thing is i have a boyfriend and if my boyfriend finds out he will be pissed.. but another thing is is that the other guy liked me that night like he told me "i like LOVEEE you when im with you buh wen im not i hardly like u at all" and that makes me feel like that we arent made for eachother or something but he like always wraps his arms around me and lets me lean back on him and wen we r walking he wraps one of his arms around my waist and walks with me. He shares like his pops and suckers with me. And he always says i look pretty and stuff and he makes me feel so good.. butt then the other night he was on the phone with his other ex-girlfriend and for some awkard reason it pissed me off.. idk what to do.. butt i thnk im startin to love him.. and my boyfriend?? UHH OH????? =-O
Whoa. Um okay.. well first..
about your ex- I don't know thats strange that he loves you when he's with you but when your not, he hardly likes you. If though you might love him, I wouldn't suggest trying anything with him, cause it'll just porbably end with heart break, cause if he's not going to love you all teh time, then why bother?
boyfriend- Well i don't know.. don't let your boyfriend find out? If you want to stay with you boyfriend, then just stop everything ( like making out adn everything ) with your ex. I might even suggest telling him. He deserves to know. But that's your decision.
Phone conversation - you said so yourself your starting to love him. Your jealous.
.. i hope i helped.
Love,
MELii
Well.. im going out with this one boy.. ahh lets say his name is.. Jack and like i love him soo much like we are PERFECT for eachother and he can always make me laugh buhh lately iv been hanging out with a friend of mine from a different school named ahh.. lets say.. bobby and like i dont kno i started like him buh then today at school Jack gave me bunches of kisses and hugs and then bobby announce that he like liked me.. and now im confused.. who should i be with??
Well you just need to think. Who do you want to be with more? Is there a part of you thats leaning towards Bobby more and wanting to take a chance with him? Or do you feel like you like Jack so much to stay with him? It's just kinda something I can't help you with ; you have to follow your heart. I hope I helped.
Love,
MELii
im 14/f/cali.........
ok well theres this guy.. lets just call him bob, and i really like him. ive like him for as long as i can remember and i have not told anyone.. not even my best friends! i told him that i liked him but not to tell anyone and he said "well i dont think anything would happen". i told him this a couple weeks after him and his girlfriend broke up. they went out for a year. and ive liked him almost the whole time. i dont know what to do. every time i hear his name i like block everything else out and listen to what the person is saying. every time he looks at me i smile. we talk on the phone every night and sometimes about the stupidest things. i tell him everything that bothers me.. when im upset or if im happy. everything that happens to me i tell him. also when i cry he always calls me to make me feel better. i dont know if ill ever have a chance with him again. again is because i went out with him when i was in 6th grade . but i broke up with him a few days after because i think i was scared to have a boyfriend. please help i really dont know what to do! also i just found out today that him and his ex are sorta going out.. not really. i dont think that il ever have a chance with him cuz i dont think he will ever forget her. they had sex.. alot and she gave him head and everything and like i dont know what to do. when i see them like kissing i get so sad cuz i wish it was me. please help!!
signed,
sam 14/f/cali
Omg I'm kinda the same way with my crush. Like I like him ALOT. And whenever I see him and his girlfriend kiss in the hall way, I get pissed off. =/ anyways, this isn't about me. it's about you. What'd I'd suggest doing is not try anything right now, cause obviously nothing's going to happen right now if they're going out. Just be there for him as much as you can, be really nice and be the bestest friend possible. Maybe then next time they break up, and your there to comfort him, he'll realize how much you care and ask you out. =) I can also understand why if he's so attached to her. She might have been his first. And that's a special thing for tow people, and he's probably very attached to her for that and he feels that since they had that it means they love eachother & such. So just don't do anything right now, just be there for him. And hopefully it'll work itself all out. I hope it does & i hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Hey, ok well there's this guy that i rlly lik -hes ma ex boyfriend, nd umm he broke up with his gf lik last week nd hes always lookin at me nd smilin nd stuff nd last week wen he was lik still with his girlfriend he was lik flirting with me nd he lik blew me a kiss,,, sum ppl say he broke up with his girlfrien because he wants to go back out with me,,but others say it was cuz he was arguin to much wit her,,,but i dont know if he liks me or is messin wit ma head,,please help!!thnx
from,
~Always missin ma _xBaby~
well I'd talk to about it to him. Just ask him whats' going on. Just be like," People say you broke up with your girlfriend because yuo wanna go back out with me, and your always smiling at me and blowing kisses and stuff.. is that true?" but don't make any huge facial expression. He might take that as a sign taht your mad or something and say no. I don't see why'd he'd mess with your head. Sound slike he wants to get back with you. I hope he does & I hope you two go out! =D
Love,
MELii
wat are signs of a guy flirting with you?
- he smiles alot
- stares at you
- looks away whenever you catch him noticing you
-tries to show off/be funny/etc.
-compliments you
-pays all attention to you
-touches you ( not like in a bad way ), hugs you maybe..
.. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
I have just joined a new groupof friends at school, I adore it. I am just getting to know everyone. I chat to some people online. I can be very chatty online and i dont really mean the things I say. Anywaays, when ever I sign off I say 'I will miss u' just to be nice. Well I said that to one of the main members boyfriend and he took it the wrong way. Hes a really sweet guy and he doesnt mind. But the girl wont talk me online. I havent seen her yet. I dont want to put a strain on there relationship because I didnt mean it like that. What should I do?
Just next time she signs on, explain yourself before she can block you ( well, if she does ) just be like," I'm sorry about what happened. That's not how I intended it. I was just being friendly. He's just a friend that's it. I don't have any means by it." ( or something like that ) if she doesn't forgive you still, then she must have some problem. Maybe she feels insecure about her relationship cause she shouldn't be freakin' out. =/ So just try talking to her, or having her boyfriend explain everything. I mean he IS a part of the problem lol. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
okay well i am obsessed with my boyfrend i rite his name all over my papers and i rite it on my hand i rite it in my AIM profile i rite it EVERYWHERE!!! do you think that boys like it wen you obsess over them or do they find it annoying? plz help thnx ;)
Well probably half and half. They probably thinks it's cute you write their name on your folders and hand and stuff. But if you do it like every second every day on everything.. that might be over-doing it a little. So maybe chill on it, ok? lol I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
Can youqiut you're job as a person who gives advice?
Well it's not really a job ; it's a hobby. But anyways, yeah. Just stop signing in and don't give out your link like in your profile or anything anymore. Even maybe write on the site where it says "ABOUT ME" in big letters write "IM NOT DOING THIS SITE ANYMORE ". I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
i have a bf (well close friend) long story .. he is in the navy he is almost 21 i will be 16 in a couple weeks .. i want to know if this is okay that we are like in love with eachother when our ages are kinda far apart? also think about the future too when im like 24 he would be 29. he means everything to me. -Nikky-
I don't think 5 years apart is that bad.. whenever your older. The only problem right now is that it's illegal for some above 18 to date a minor, but people do it all the time. I mean, just look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher.. they're like 20 something years apart! Anyways, I think it's fine. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii