I am too old and out of shape to beat around the bush so I'll give it to you straight. If you want sugarcoating go to the candy store, you won't find it here. Sometimes a little good old fashioned honesty is just what the doctor ordered!
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I'm a 14 year old boy. I felt my my penis was small then I got bored and I measured it today. It turned out to be 7in long. Is that good for a 14 year old. I'm not gay or bi. I also have a 6 pack ladies ;) (link)
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For heaven\'s sake put that thing away and stop trying to advertise it! You just focus on that six pack for now. The ladies can wait!
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I am having panic attacks and was wondering if anyone knew any techniques to help with it? (link)
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This is scary stuff! At the time it is happening it truly feels like you are going to die! One of the worst symptoms is feeling like you can\'t breathe. Sometimes it helps just to go outside in the air for a few minutes . It kind of tricks your mind into thinking \"okay air is available now, I can breathe!\" Try distracting your self by putting on a favorite song or tv show. try focusing on an object like a seashell or smooth rock. Just put your total focus into it, what it feels like, looks like sounds like, where it might have come from, what are the names of all the colors in it. Try self talk. Tell yourself you know it is just a panic attack and you are NOT going to die, you are okay and everything is calm and peaceful. Imagine a beach with the soft waves(maybe you could invest in one of those sound machines for this purpose)look on the internet for a list of essential oils that are soothing to the mind. If you have someone with you ask them for a soothing back rub or foot rub, anything you can do to get your mind out of panic mode. Wish I had more to offer! Good luck!
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I've been living with my family for my 16 years of existence. However I lived with my 2nd parents since when I was born up to age 13 coz they had no child and my real parents' house is just next to ours so I really know them. And now I moved to my real parents' house. It's just really weird because sometimes when my mom talks to me I stare at her and ask to myself who is she and I say to myself I can't believe that this woman is my mom without any reason. She is really good mom. I also unexpectedly do that to my 2nd mom and even my dads. I experienced this i think since last year idk I can't remember much. And now I started to worry because I don't go out to my room I just write stuffs, articles and blog and my mom told me that i have a mental illness when she yelled that I'm so lazy. And also rarely when I look at the mirror sometimes I can't even recognize myself or I doubt if is it me, then I doubt if my body belongs to mine. I'm scared about this. And also when I wash my face I forget to turn off the faucet but still rarely. And also one time, when me and my sister were talking, I didn't comprehend what she was talking because I'm seeing her like I'm on tv because she was a far (i hope you get what I meant) but she was not really far from me, she was just a meter from me i think. and also last time when my dad scolded me while he was cooking, I'm seeing him like he was on a frame because I saw him from a far but still he was just few metres away from me and also there was no frame I saw in him literally, I just saw him like he was on frame. Please help me because I can't understand. I know there is no wrong with me because I'm healthy and I'm smart, yeh I'm different from other teens. I don't want this to tell to my parents because they would think im crazy which is am not. I don't want to see a doctor or a psychiatrist because I'm really really afraid I might not be able to get into the medicine school. However, I'm planning to tell this to my 2nd dad about this because I'm super close to him than any other parents but that would be in 4 months because he isn't here. I've researched something about this and I doubt it is a multiple personality disorder. But i dont want to accept that disorder because i dont have it. Please help me. I dont have any other person to ask to because my 2nd dad isn't home yet. Pls im worried coz im going to college and it might affect me much. Thnk you. (link)
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If I were you I would start by making an appointment with a medical doctor. Tell the doctor about all these strange symptoms and get a thorough work up. I don\'t want to scare you but there are a number of neurological diseases that could cause these symptoms. You need to get this checked out immediately. If your Mom is telling you you have a mental illness then for the love of heaven why hasn\'t she taken you to see a doctor? I am very concerned that your problem is physical rather than psychological. Again I don\'t want to scare you but if you have something like a tumor or progressive disease then every day that you delay treatment could affect your prognosis.If indeed the problem turns out to be psychological I feel pretty certain that it would not keep you out of medical school. For one thing your medical records are private and no school would be able to get access to them unless you sign a release. The HIPA laws protect your right to privacy. You need to get checked out as soon as possible. If your parents will not make you the appointment please go to your school counselor and explain what you just posted here. Please DO NOT wait four months to seek help. If you have to, just tell your parents that you feel sick and need a doctor\'s appointment, then ask to go back to the exam room by yourself. Do whatever it takes to talk to the doctor in private and get the medical tests you need.Good luck!
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My mom wants me to help her buy a vacuum cleaner that vacuums dirt and dust AND can also steam and clean carpet. She says that her friend has one but I have been searching for one and I can't find one anywhere. Is there really a "two-in-one" vacuum cleaner that can steam and just vacuum? And if so, where can I get one and which model is the best?
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The object of your Mom\'s desire is probably the Oreck VersaVac! It sells for $212.99 on Oreck\'s website. Happy Mother\'s Day!
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Ever since my child was critically ill, she can't have anything with gluten/wheat anymore. It is really hard to tell a 5 year old child that she can't eat basically anything her friends eat or that she sees people eat on TV. Her little face... :( Do you know of any good child friendly foods I can make that contains no gluten? Bless you if you can help me! (link)
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There is a web site called Pinterest that has an awesome variety of kid friendly gluten free recipes. I went there and typed in \"gluten free recipes for kids\" just to make sure and there was a very yummy looking variety of foods, desserts and finger foods. Signing up is free and no hassles. I love Pinterest!Good luck with your little one! I hope some of the recipes make her feel better!
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im 25 yrs old.i've got a seat in medical school and bcoz of some reasons i didnt complete it and my parents doesn't know it .i didn't even tell them.only some of my friends know it and now a day has come that my parents are going to find out that im not a doctor! i cant show my face to them .want to take away my life!pls anybody suggest me the best way to die?' (link)
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It\'s no damn wonder you didn\'t finish medical school if you need to go on the internet for suggestions on how to die! My God, what ARE they teaching in medical school these days?!! Personally, I don\'t believe you have ever been anywhere near a medical school but I\'m feeling benevolent tonight and I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt. If indeed you are 25 years old then you need to grow up and act your age. Go to your parents and tell them you screwed up, apologize and then do the next right thing and get on with your life. Unless you are from some strange country where parents kill their young for not completing medical school I do not think it is the end of the world. Suicide is the act of a coward. I would rather my parents think I was a screw up for not finishing medical school than a coward for not finishing life! I hope you do the next right thing! Good luck!
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Hi, first I'd like to give a brief history about me before I tell you my story. I'm 17/F. I have 2 older brothers and one younger. I have four older sisters. My parents and my family are not allowing me to date guys until I'm done with school.
My story is... I met a guy who was one of my brothers friend and we became friends for about a year and we fell in love and we have been dating for almost 2 years now. I love our relationship, we tell each other's everything and we are like bestfriends. I feel like I've found the one and I love him very much. Our relationship although has been kind of private. Only a few know about it like his mother and my younger brother. Because his family and my family have been friends, he's always telling me to tell my family about it so it's not private but I'm always scared because they would get mad at me and start drama. Recently I told one of my older sister and she was okay with it at first but then later wasn't very supportive and told me I should break up with him (because of his history) (he was a bit of a player) but I believe he changed. I told him everything and broke up with him but we are so in love with each other's that we can't let go of each other's. We still talk to each other's like we are still in a relationship and I have no clue what I should do.
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I don\'t want you to take this the wrong way but is it possible that maybe(just maybe )your brothers and sisters see a side of him that you don\'t. It is very easy to be blinded by love and only see what you want to see in a person. If that is not the case and he has truly changed then I really don\'t think your family will be that upset. I find it hard to believe that after two years of dating your parents still don\'t have a clue! Either you guys are VERY good actors or your family has turned a blind eye towards you and decided to just let it run it\'s course. I am a parent and none of my kids could ever lie well enough to pull off a two year scam and I don\'t think you have either. I can\'t even begin to believe one of your siblings didn\'t break a leg running to Mom or Dad with the news. When one of mine had a juicy tidbit about another they couldn\'t wait to find some \"discreet\" way of letting me know! Some people deal with an unpleasant situation by pretending that if you don\'t mention it, it will go away. I think your family should all show up at the Oscars next year and take home a few awards! You are almost 18 anyway, you might as well just tell them what they probably already know and be done with it!
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Hi there!
I need some monster truck themed ideas for my child's birthday party. This kinda got sprung on me at the last minute and I am in a tizzy trying to think of things to go with the theme! Can you help me? Please? (link)
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You could make monster truck name tags for each child. You could play pin the tires on the truck(like pin the tail on the donkey). You could also make a monster truck pinata(there are lots of tutorials for pinata making online). For the cake you could buy a small monster truck, attach a Happy Birthday sign on the front,sprinkle crushed Oreos along a path on top of the cake(his favorite homemade cake will do just fine) and then make tire tracks over the \"dirt\". You could place the candles between the tire tracks leading up to the truck or place them all around the truck if the child is older and needs more candles. Give each child a cheap plastic truck, provide lots of stickers and let each child decorate his or her own truck and name it. You could then give out prizes for the most unique, prettiest, wackiest, best name etc(make enough categories that each child gets a prize.) You could give monster truck pencils or other dollar store trinkets as prizes. If the party runs til dark you could put glow sticks on the wheels of two monster trucks and pair off the children and let each pair have a turn at racing them down a ramp in the dark. The other kids will love watching until it is their turn! I hope some of this helps!Happy birthday to the lucky little guy whose Mom loves him so much that she is willing to pull this together at the last minute! You are one great Mom!
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So I have a tendency for being paranoid i'm prego after sex.
I slept with a guy last week Sunday and again on this past Friday... He used a condom. I saw his cum chillin in the condom when he pulled out. I'm not on Birth Control. My periods are not usually regular....
Just a day after having sex the first time, I felt so nauseous on a bus. However, I do get motion sickness. Today, about a week after I had sex with him the first time, I feel so bloated. And I have random cramps.
Last night I think I was spotting barely - i wiped and it was just a little light brown. That's it!
Any thoughts on if I could be preggo? Or am I being SO paranoid!?
Again, I saw his cum IN the condom, never out of it. but still???!?? idk! HELP. and when should I take a pregnancy test??!!? (link)
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It is highly unlikely from what you described that you are pregnant but if you are more than a week late take a test. Then if you\'re not pregnant why not kill two birds with one stone! Get on BIRTH CONTROL! It will stop pregnancy and paranoia in one fell swoop!
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i was just rubbing my penis near pusy n sperm came out i dont knw whether sperm gone inside or not m so much worried but i didnt torn her hyman (link)
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YES, she can get pregnant if your sperm gets near her vagina. Those little buggers can swim! Always wear protection if your penis is going to be anywhere near her vagina!
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So I've had three sexual partners within my life time so far and not a single one has been able to make me climax yet and it's seriously frustrating! Yes I've tried having him rub and finger me, and even eat me out for a decent amount of time before having sex but nothing has worked :( it's not like I don't feel good because I most definitely do but I've never been able to get close to a climax. Are there any women who have had this issue? I've had orgasms before with a vibrator directly on my clit but that is the only thing that has made a difference. Could I have desensitized myself to sex? I can't keep having sex and not get anywhere it makes it hard for me to enjoy sex anymore. Please anyone who can help or give me tips, it's more then welcomed!?
Also any position suggestions for a women who doesn't like being on top but is tired of missionary...?
Thanks ahead of time :) (link)
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I think I can see what your problem is, not by what you said but by what you didn\'t say. Honey you can\'t rely on a partner to do all the work for you! You are obviously not able to bring yourself to climax either unless you have a vibrator! This type of sex relies purely on stimulation of the clitoris, it does not involve fantasizing and getting turned on first. No where in your post did you mention any type of fantasy life, alone or with a partner. Good sex has a lot more to do with the brain than the clit! You have to experiment (without the vibrator) by getting turned on with fantasy. Some women can even orgasm through fantasy alone. Once you find out what really does it for you, you can rely on these fantasies to bring you to orgasm with or without a partner. Women are not as visually stimulated as men so you may prefer reading erotica or perhaps you have a favorite movie star or musician you would like to think about having sex with(it\'s okay to fantasize about someone else during sex, guys do it too, you just don\'t want to tell each other!) Find some alone time with yourself and let your imagination run wild. Before long you will have a whole catalog of fantasy to enjoy and share with your partner. Don\'t worry about sharing your fantasies, men love this! Why don\'t you and your partner check out a few porn flicks and you might get some ideas for new positions. Vibrators are kind of like candy bars. There a great once in a while but you don\'t want to make a meal out of it!
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Can you really fix a dvd with this stuff? I also heard you can use it on other things, but I don't know what. Have you used it? What did you use it on and how well did it work? Please and thank you!
Signed,
Novus Newbie :) (link)
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I first used it for scratched plastic lenses and was very pleased with the result. I have never tried it on dvds. I have mostly used mine on scratched plastic surfaces and it always worked great.
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I have a burgundy room and my grandmother got zebra print curtains for my room. The problem is I don't know what type of bed set to get. I was going to get black or white but then I saw that the curtains aren't a white the white part is like silver. So my question is if I got a white bed set would it look okay? And I don't want black because I fear it will be to much black if my dresser is black too! My second question is I want throw pillows but I don't know what colors or prints. I want to incorporate pink because it's my favorite color but how could I do that either? (link)
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I think a light gray or silver comforter set would look awesome with burgundy walls and zebra print curtains. You could add some zebra,pink, black and/ or burgundy throw pillows and throws. I think the pink will work with this color scheme in small doses like maybe throw pillows or rugs.
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Im 16. so my ex boyfriend is dating another girl and she believes in no sexual stuff before marriage and he was the one I lost my virginity to when I was 14 and he was 17. i wanted to ruin the relationship so I told her that we had sex. So anyway she got really insecure. I said " I hear you're dating my ex, how do I taste?" Every time they kiss I think it's funny cause his mouth was on my vagina before and how shes getting my leftovers. every time she kissed him my friends said its like her kissing my vagina. Was that mean? do you think it stopped them her from kissing him? i had a boyfriend after him so I have moved on I just want to make my ex mad because he deserves it cause he is my leftovers. (link)
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No dear, you haven\'t moved on. Let\'s examine this shall we... you are still angry with him, you are contacting his girlfriend in a stalkerish sort of way and yes, you are being mean. I was your age once and remember feeling exactly the same way when my ex moved on. I hated every girl he dated (although I didn\'t know them)and I made sure to know what was going on with him and who he was dating (in a stalkerish sort of way)just like you are now. I hate to lay the truth on you because it\'s gonna hurt but you are NOT over him yet. Sometimes it takes a while but don\'t let it become an obsession. It only makes you sad and miserable and every one else will be whispering the word \"cray\" behind your back. My advice many years and much wisdom later, apologize to them both and get on with your life!
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I am a female aged 21 and have recently started going out with a guy who regularly calls me a slut, whore, worthless and tells me how he doesn't trust me around any males but yet he tells me he has never loved anyone the way he loves me and he wants to marry me.
Long story short I went out with a guy for 2 years and he broke it off with me as he had been seeing another girl. A month later I had sex with one of my older friends (he knew my ex). A month after that I got back with my boyfriend.
We lasted for a year until I ended it with him for reasons of no trust etc due to what he had done before. About a month later I had sex with the same friend again.
I told my current boyfriend about my past history and he finds it very hard to deal with. He constantly tells me how he can't trust me around anyone. He asks me to send him photos of where I am every half an hour so he knows I'm not lying about my whereabouts.
He sends me messages such as (sorry for the vulgarity in some of these messages):
I bet you looked at his nice hard c*ck and loved it
You f*cked a guy who knew your ex
You wanted him to f*ck you
I find it funny that you aspire to be a mother one day
You really are a dirty sl*t
You used to deserve to get treated better but now you don't
You ruined yourself by f*cking him
Stop saying you're not a sl*t and face up to what you are
You f*cked up and you have to face the consequences
You are a disgraceful human
You are a f*cking whore
You just wanted his c*ck inside you
Do I deserve to get messages like this? I have only had sex or done any sexual activities with my ex, my friend and now my current boyfriend so I always thought I was a very good person.
He also has issues with the amount of guys that I have kissed which is 12. He hates that I have kissed three guys that I met on nights out (separate nights). One I dated for a while but the other two I never spoke to again.
I don't know whether I just hung around with people with no morals but I thought up until now that I was well behaved.
Do I deserve to get treated like this? (link)
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You are 21 years old and you really have to ask if this is okay? When I first read this I thought it was a young teen and then I saw your age at the top and it blew my mind!I personally think you just wanted to post the sexual content for shock value because no one at 21 years of age could be this naive!If indeed you are for real get to the nearest counselor\'s office immediately if not sooner. Your self esteem needs a serious overhaul. My 12 year old grand daughter knows better than this! She would have jack slapped him out of her life before the second text ever arrived! I hope you get some help and drop this loser before you get abused physically as well. Good luck.
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I'm a lesbian, and i'm always getting used by my straight friend. She is always dirty texting me, and touching herself when she's talking to me, but she says that only i turn her on and she wouldn't date me because she doesn't want to be a lesbian. She has a boyfriend, yet she comes to me when it comes to pleasure. I love her as a best friend, maybe more, but only if she accepted. But, it seems like lately, all we've been doing is "making love" and she doesn't even love me.
Is she gay? Why is she using me like this? When she asks me to turn her on, etc, she tell me to "Make love" to her. Does that mean she loves me? because she normally says sex, unless she's talking about me. We've never actually done it, but we talk and touch ourselves. (link)
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I think your friend is very confused. I am guessing that she is a lesbian but just as you said, she doesn\'t want to be. Unfortunately she has decided to use you while she figures it out. Maybe her parents won\'t accept it, who knows what her reasons are, but she isn\'t ready to admit it. You have to make some decisions about this. If you stop letting her use you then you may not be friends anymore but I think you should give her an ultimatum. Tell her either drop the guy and all the pretense and have a real relationship with you or take sex out of your friendship. If she really does care about you she will do one or the other.
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My boyfriend is really depressed and is always telling me he's going to kill himself. It makes me soo upset because my sister has a mental illness and always tries to kill herself. I don't know what I should do about this as his friend told me it was my fault he cut for the first time. Can someone please give me advice? (link)
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Listen very carefully to my words. You are NEVER responsible for someone else\'s behavior. Don\'t ever let anyone try to lay that crap on you EVER! The only thing you can do in this situation is tell an adult what is happening. A school counselor would be a good choice. This young man is mentally ill and he needs help. You can not and should not take on his problems or your sister\'s. They need professional help and it wouldn\'t hurt for you to talk to a counselor either so that you can better understand what is happening with these people you care about and how you need to handle your relationships with them. I am truly sorry you are having to go through this. Good luck.
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I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft? (link)
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I know many young people are looking for answers to their problems. A \"quick fix\" that will make everything the way you want it but that is only in fairy tales. Many people have been led down the path to \"witchcraft\" by believing they will get a magical ending too but in reality all that awaits you down this road is a lot of bad people trying to take advantage of your vulnerability. I won\'t go into personal beliefs about heaven or hell but I can tell you it is NEVER a good idea to enter into any cult type behavior. I know a lot of books and movies make it seem so real and so romantic but there again it is all fairy tales from someone\'s imagination. Real life can be very difficult sometimes and there is no magic or quick fix that can change that. It is wonderful that you are reading but maybe you should try reading some inspirational books for young people that are not so full of magic and mysticism. You seem like a very intelligent young person and I am confident that you will make mature decisions about life without getting involved in this type of behavior!
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Hi there! I have a shower that is really tall, and normal shower curtains don't seem to ever be long enough. I am tired of wet floors, so I bought one on eBay that claimed to be longer, and it was, by about an inch. :) Can you help me find a long enough curtain to keep me from having to mop after showers? THANKS! (link)
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If I were you I think I would lower the shower bar. If that is not an option then you could sew another piece to the bottom of your cloth curtain. If I was going to do this I would look for another shower curtain that compliments the one you have. For example if yours is white with pink flowers you could find a solid pink ruffled curtain and attach it on about 2/3\'s of the way down. Or you could do something bold and unexpected like polka dots and stripes or black and neon. Whatever suits your taste and decor will work. If you only have one bar you may have to hang your plastic liner off of the holes in your shower curtain to make it long enough too or you could just add a second spring tension bar. You do have quite a few options for this problem. I hope it all works out the way you want it to look!
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19 Year Old Female
I met a guy in the beginning of the year of college. We started talking then at the end of the semester it kind of stopped out of nowhere. We came back the next semester and he had a girlfriend. Of course I was mad was mad, but eventually I got over it. I'm not going to lie it took a while but I did. He eventually broke up with her, and I was fine with where we were. Out of nowhere he sent me a text and we started back talking. Then one night he came over and he asked why we stopped talking. We found out that night that for some reason we both thought we did something wrong so we started back again. Trying to make a long story short (even though it really is) I was a virgin and I wanted to have sex with him. From the moment we started talking I knew he was the one. He was everything I wanted head, to toe, to personality. This happened the last month of us being in college. We had great times, and we had no label but we knew what we were. Nobody knew, and thats how we wanted it. But then he told me he wasn't coming back the next year and my heart sunk a little, but I pushed it to the side. But now it really happened and we said our goodbyes and I miss him like crazy. I'm tearing up while writing this. He was like my first everything and I knew this might happened but not this hard. I know long relationships really don't work, plus the temptation is a little more frequent when your apart. But I want to know is it because he was my first or can I really have feelings? I was use to waking up with him by me at least 5 times a weeks and now I probably won't ever see him again. How do I get over this? Do I let this ride out, or is there anything I can do? Any suggestions are appreciated. This is so hard. Thank You. (link)
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Yes,it is hard. He will probably always hold a special place in your heart and you will never forget him. If it is meant to be then he will come back into your life, if not then you have to move on and make a new life for yourself. It is so easy to lose yourself when you are in love and sometimes it takes a while to find yourself again when a relationship ends. You need to think about what you like and what is important to you and focus on those things. You need to bring things back into your life that are fun and enjoyable for you. Pamper yourself a little bit, you deserve it! If you don\'t sit around feeling sorry for yourself and dwelling on the pain it will ease up a lot faster. Get back out there, make some new friends and have the time of your life! You only get to live these tender years once so make the most of it!
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