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I was really late to catch up on the trend, which is probably like a year old, that's why I begged my mom to let me buy a miniskirt. B4 the whole legings thing my mom would never let me look at a minskirt when were shopping. I ended up buying a mini + leggings and was planning to wear it on the 1st day of school. Is this a good idea or would i end up looking like the fashion disaster i can always be when i try to go for a look diffrnt than the usual [jeans + tee]? What i fear the most is what evry 1 else is gonna say. School starts in 2 wks and i cant make up my mind. The 1st day is one of the only days i get to look especially nice. The outfit i was planning to wear looks nice w/ or w/o, IMO. I have to wear the mini and leggings to school or my mom would deem me as wasting her money. This isnt the 1st time i would look at something and say "Oh,that's cute" and buy it and wear it to school, to then realize its not that cute of a shirt or whatever and never wear it again. Like last year when i bought a bright pink cropped hoodie/sweatshirt... Lets just say that color pink was definetly not my color.
Anyways, what should i do? (link)
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A mini skirt with leggings on is on style now so I don't see why something is wrong with that,I believe everyone is entitled to wear what they feel looks good on them,if people say bad things about how you dress it's because they're simply jealous,that's all you have to say to yourself, and you want to wear it go ahead it's your choice no one else's.
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i am EXTREMELY tired. i have to wake up before my mom does (which is pretty early) because i think i have to check my stuff before she does. she gets up, goes to the bathroom, and first thing she does is goes on my computer and checks all my things. i don't really know why i get this way. but, it's like i feel like now i have a phsycological problem. it's like i HAVE to see it before she does! i've tried talking to her about it. she could care less. i've written her letters, she doesn't care. Every time I try to explain to her how i feel, she will say yes and that she will stop, and she never does! she also gets mad when i call other family in the morning. she is so jealous! SHE IS DRIVING ME INSANE! i honestly can't anymore and I don't know what to do (link)
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Try making friends like on chat sites or in person,that way you don't feel lonely,that's really messed up with what your going through,tell your mom you need your space just like everyone it's not fair that she's going through yuor stuff without your permission,that your privacy is being invaded,it hurts you a lot,if she stopped,things will go well between you,her,it's not to much to ask,and she's got to learn to respect others if she wants it in return.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for more than a month now we're both 16... We haven't had the best relationship at least in my eyes... but then again it is our "first" relationship with the same sex... Because once school starts for me it'll be hard for us to see each other, should I ask him if he would like to be in an open relationship, and if he says yes should I dump him? My friends tell me I should since no one is usually comfortable with their partner being with someone other than them UNLESS they themselves have already been considering parting ways and/or have found someone they would be interested in "fooling around" with. Some advice please, thanks (link)
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Yes, you really should ask him that to see if he's really a nice guy,if he saids yes you should because he'll play you,land up breaking your heart,you could find someone way better than that if that's the case, you deserve to be treated with respect, and to be loved.
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Well, school starts tomorrow for me. & My boyfriend promised that before I started work at eleven, he'd take me out for breakfast today, since it'd probably be a while before we saw each other again, since we'll both be going to different schools. ]: I was soo excited, I woke up at 7 to make sure he was awake, but he told me that he was going to go back to sleep because he had a big migraine, I didn't think it was a problem, because we'd still have a lot of time to go out. But, at 8 I called him, because we said we'd both set our alarms, & he didn't wake up, so I tried calling like three times, but then stopped because I didn't want him to think I was a "clingy girlfriend" he always calls me that.
Anyways, I called at like nine to see what was up & he woke up, and asked me what time it was & I told him it was 9 & he apologized, and I told him I was really upset because now I'm not going to see him before school starts, which I'm really nervous about. & It just fucking pisses me off because he didn't put ANY effort into this whatsoever.
What I'm also SO pissed about is that, I'm going to have to call my mom to get out of work [which is impossible] to drive me to work, since I can't drive yet. He knows my mom is abusive, & she's always mad about everything I do, but about this she's going to be fucking pissed bc I said I had a ride, & now I don't anymore, because he's a fucking moron.
Hah, sorry needed to vent. Anyways, I'm really nervous to call my mom now because I know she'll probably say some rude things & hit me when she gets home, but I just don't even know what to do about my boyfriend, like.. should I just wait for him to call me? Or what? I don't even know..
PLEASE HELP ME!! [: (link)
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About your mom when you talk to her say that things went worng,it wasn't your fault,not to get mad,you thought your boyfriend was going to give you a ride but since he woke up late then he couldn't,that if you knew he wasn't you wouldn't tell her that,that your sorry for what is happening,your mom shouldn't be abusing you,if she comes home hysterical,seems like she is coming to hit you then get out of the house for a while until things calm down or just try making sense out of her or try not letting her hit you, keep telling her it wasn't your fault which is the truth so she would get it straight in her head okay ,and one last thing I hope you're alright.
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i sweat a lot. like A LOT. even when im not hot i sweat. but i mostly sweat on my under arms a lot! how can i prevent this?
please help! (link)
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There are some deodarants that help reduce sweat like ban,Secret,another one that controls it for 24 hours,is called active sportswear Addidas,try them to see if they work,and if they don't seek for a prescriped medication for that or if the people that work there say it won't be enough to control then the last option would to seek for professional help.
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im 5'5 and weigh 145 lb. im not fat at all. and very muscular. but am i overweight? (link)
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Like there are some scales that will sent you a receipt,let you know that between 20 and 25 is the ideal weight,more than that is overweight, and the muscle of course makes you weigh more.
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OMG my bf is a total dick, like after we had sex he couldnt stop talking about this girl and I was like wtf I just had sex with you and all you can talk about is another girl? I like cant believe he would do this to me! I'm in love with him!! And I know hes in love with me, how can I make him realize that I'm the one for him, I mean I've given him everything! Like before we met I was a virgin, and then he wanted to have sex so I gave in because I love him and I didnt want him to break up with me! All he talks about is other girls, and he just laughs when I get upset, What should I do, how can I make him realize I'm the only girl he should talk about!!!! (link)
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You should be telling him what you just said,that what you feel is real love,care about him,you always want to see him happy,that those girls don't care about him you do,you'll always be there for him when he needs you,and what more does he ask from you.
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Well see... today I went to meet a friend and do something with her (laycieee) so i was like 5 minutes away from my other friends house so i rode there just to say hi. Anyway i wrote this song and i really wanted Lindsay to hear it. Now everyone knows im a HORRIBLE singer but i really loved the lyrics to my song. So I told her to listen to it on my mp3 player. She started and she started laughing uncontrollably in my face. I felt horrible after that. I mean; yes i know im a bad singer but its like with her laughing in my face like that i felt really bad. Then i feelt bad because i felt like later when i met my other frined (laycieee) i was like wicked out of it and idk i dont think i was my self because of what happened with Lindsay earlier that day.
(just for the record; Lindsay and Laycie hate eachother so i couldnt tell Laycie cuz she'd badmouth lindsay and i'd start alot of shit)
Age:15 Sex:Female (link)
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You really should confront her,let her know how she made you feel when she was laughing at you,if you let it slide she'll wind up hurting you again,she how she reacts,what a good friend would do is apologize,say that she didn't mean to hurt you or anything, and if she gets mad at you then you will realize she isn't a good friend because it was you who got affected not her at all.
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I'm Italian-American and my family is pretty old fashion when it comes to dating. They're not in anyway racists at all but they don't exactly believe in dating outside our race (like any guy that isn't white).
Well I've meet this guy since school started (I've actually met him at parties and stuff before but never really had a chance to get to know him) and he asked me out on a date.
I like him and all and I know my dad would love him (my parents always meet my dates when they come pick me up :/ ). He's Mr. all star football running back, he's smart (top 10% of our class, actually), and he's oh so respectful. But one problem, he's black. And like I said before, my parents aren't into that.
So I'm not exactly sure what to do. I've tried talking to them about the situation in the past, but no luck.
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They are going to have to accept your relationship if they want to see their daughter happy,don't let them get in the way of your happiness it is you who chooses who you want to date or not,they should respect your decisions,when they were like young like you I'm pretty sure that their parents wanted to choose their partners,they didn't like it, and they'll be doing the same exact thing because they'll be opposing the person who you want to be with.Tell them that you respect their beliefs,all but that you just aren't into that not dating outside the race,just as you are they should also respect yours,that race doesn't matter as long as the two cherish each other,want to be together that is what counts,people have feelings you know,how would they feel if they weren't accepted,and to put themselves in his shoes.
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My boyfriend is younger than me. We've been together for a little longer than 4 months and we couldn't be more perfect for eachother. He treats me more like a lady than I have ever been treated before..and he always is so sweet no matter who he is around. He'll tell me face to face how he really feels and how nothing can come between us. (I know it sounds phony, but it's really cute.) We both don't care if people deny we're in love or not, and I couldn't ask for a better boyfriend. But lately, its just little things that are making me feel like he doesn't like me as much anymore. He's just kind of lifeless when I talk to him ... and I'm not sure if it has to do with our friend moving away or if he just doesn't love me as much. help? (link)
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It could be that he is going through a mood change right now,a difficult time since your friend is moving away so that must be it,don't think he doesn't love you as much trust me it'll past as soon as when it passes and you just give him support, and love because he really needs it that's all you have to do.
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Lately I haven't been able to fall asleep til like 6 oclock in the morning.
I don't mind staying up till 12:00 or 1:30 but this has gotten ridiculous. I can't sleep, and when I do sleep I sleep til all hours of the day.
It seems like I can't get enough sleep when I do fall asleep, and I'm very groggy.
HELP? I need advice on how to make me tired, or what is causing this. (link)
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You might have insomnia some people who actually count like a 1000 sheep to see if they have it it's best you seek a doctor to examine you to see exactly what the issue is so you won't have this problem anymore so don't worry it'll be solved I can assure you that.
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hello sir/mam i needed some advice regarding a friend ...this person a girl in the library looked at me for 15 -20 days in the library where i studied i could make out that she will come and talk and she came asked my name and i started wishing her than i had some family problem in the meantime i could see that she was moving out with a guy one of her batchmates so even though i wanted to talk i stayed away as i did not want to interfere..than one day she came and sat just in front of me looking at me that day i put a letter on her car saying that it will be nice to know you and i gave my tel no.. and i heard her telling her friends about this than i sent her 4 e-mails and wished her best of luck fot her exam by sending an sms and told her that i was the one who sent her an sms and she thanked me for wishing her than i called her and asked her on how did the exam go she talked nicely but told me that she was slightly busy i apologized and thought that she will call me up whenever she is free she did not call but after 2days she came to the library all decked up looking nice and looked at me as if to talk and i thought that she would talk as this the first time i sent e-mails to someone like this and i was hesitant and confused whether she wants that i talk to her now and one of her batchmates told me that she had a boyfriend for last 5months a third person i was confused that why than should she look at me and why than did she come and talk ...after that i asked her one of her batchmates she told me that yes she has a boyfriend and she was also went around with another guy in between and she did tell her that i sent her e-mails after that i avoid her but just the other day we have a small cafe and i was standing there she came closee to me in the cafe but did not wish me neither did i and in one of the e-mails i sent her i wrote to her that she looks nice in suits and a white one and she came that day close to me wearing that dress but did not wish me neither did i so iam very confused whether she wants that i talk or not it would be very kind if you could advice whether this person is interested or not or is she someone who just wants to try at each and every one ,we all get many chances like this but we know how to behave how mouch distance to keep and i am a slightly simple guy who values his culture so feeling a bit akward in all this ...thank you (link)
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She's the type who wants to go out with different guys so she' obuviously dangerous,it's good that you are keeping your distance she isn't worth your time,she should learn that things can't always go the way she wants them to,you should find someone who is innocent,that has same interests well at least some,that of course involve in any relationship,and good luck on your mission to finding the perfect girl for you.
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this guy is to younge for me to go out with and he was so flurting with me and i really like him should i ask him out?? (link)
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You already happened to find some you're really interested then go for it,age shouldn't matter to you,do it because it's what you want don't lose this oppurntunity.
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After the break up he seems to look at me alot.. and then ignores me, and then the 3rd day after the breakup he seems happier than i am. Alot of people says that he regrets it, and even my ex said he probably does cause its a guy thing. He aimed me and said that we can still be friends, but when i aimed him back he ignores me. AGAIN. i just found out today that hes 2 faced, and why he broke up wit me..
why?
okay.. well he thought that i was flirting w/ another guy.. when my sister says that shes sorry if i do cause i got it from her.. and thenn i just found out today by his friend.. he could of told me to stop so i could change instead of saying "its over." and he leaves me there wondering why and i try to be friends wit' him but he pushes me away.
i hope he regrets breaking up wit' me.. does he regret it?? if he doesn't, how can you tell.. that he regrets it. Aim:
: what happened?
him: mary
: ?
him: STFU!
: .............
: wthhhh?
PLEASE HELP ME.. ive never been this sad before, and its making me more sad. (link)
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Yeah he does regret like because why does he onserve you a lot,if he didn't care he wouldn't even bother to look at you at all,that it go him very jealous of the fact you were looking at other guys,shows he still has feelings for you, and so be sad chances are he'll most likely ask you out again because he could forgive you.
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sometimes my freinds and i will be watchin a movie and i will say somethin and my one friend will just sit there and not say anythin. like i may say i like her dress on drew barrymore and she will just sit there.
why does she do that and not say anythin? i know she hears me cause other people respond to me. (link)
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You should know that other people have lots of things to talk about maybe because she's like the shy type,you could change that like you too should hang out more,teach her to be social,outgoing,make her feel that she could trust you so she start talking like tell her some things about you that she didn't know,then she'll get used to you more,and you'll see another side of her.
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my birthday's coming up in 2 weeks. i know its kinda late to think about this, but i have no idea what im gonna do. i might just not do anyhting, but i kinda would like to do something with some of my close friends. any ideas? (link)
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You guys can go on some fun rides at an amusement park or have a party at your house or at a club or attend a concert if there is one at the day of your birthday.
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I know this question isn't as important as most of these on here, but this bothers me! Ok, so there's this guy (haha classic opening line.) and we've kinda been talking and hanging out all summer, so uhm..yeah. let's just call him ian. So anyway, I was online tonight, and this guy who a long time told me he liked me (let's call him Charlie.) and he knows I don't like him, yet he told me to call him. Ok. One, I don't like him.& Two, I don't want to like you go behind ian's back or anything..not that we're going out. Charlie has talked to me before and told me to like meet him at Tacobell. (The only places to hang out around here are fast food restraunts, haha.) but you know I don't like him! and when he told me to call him, i told hima lie and said I couldn't. I really hate lying to people!! But I don't want to hurt his feelings and be like look charlie, I don't want to call you because I don't like you. and I don't feel like talking on the phone with you. I mean god I'm not a bitch! So does anyone know anyway I can get him to stop asking me to go places, without confronting him about it? and please, don't be rude.
Thank you so much! (link)
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Maybe have someone invent an excuse that your going away on vacation for a long time or better that you moved to another state so he won't ever bother you again even though it may seem mean but you don't want to confront him,and it's better for him to then to get really disllusioned.
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if a guy says he luves and then wen he wit his friends he starts to act diffrently tease and hurts me but i dumped him but when i did i felt so lonely and empty inside like i'm missing something then i kan't stopp thinking about him should i get back together with him or stay alone until i find someone better? (link)
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Stay alone,find someone better of course,you can't be back with a person who tries to impress his buddies by making fun of others he is not your type you need someone that has a lot in common with you,is very well educated,and who is not a follower.
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I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.
After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.
After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.
Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.
Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.
What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.
I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?
Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please. (link)
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Most men go seeking for that because they want intimacy that they don't get from their partner,that it gives them pleasure like it's the best show ever,as you know it's usually the women that suffer for their bad actions,even though you too didn't have intimacy it doesn't mean he should be scooping around in other places to find that,your boyfriend needs to be spyed on,get taught good morals,I recommend he read the bible it will make him learn the wonderful things about life,other good things,it'll make him see things differently,and trust me it will help a lot, and also that he's got to learn how to earn things starting with his behavior.You just keep track of him,express your feelings to him,how much he means to you,and that you really want the same guy you met before.
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Hi there. This is the first time asking advice like this. First let me start by saying. I am a 31 years old man.
now for my problem.
I have been with the same woman for 12-13 years. we have had 2 children together, one of whom passed away last year and the other that was just born this year. Lately we've been going throughsome rough times. She has been playing with my emotions. A virtual rollercoaster ride. One day i try to cuddle get intimate, and she'll say "We shouldn't do this" the next she's kissing me pationately. The problem i have, is that i have feelings for her how ever dwindled that they are, while exhibiting feelings for another woman. One who has captivated me over the last few weeks.
My issue is i don't feel that the relationship i am in is going anywhere. but with my new born baby i am kind of in a bind. thus my title. I am torn between 2 loves. Or three if you add in my newborn.
please help me figure out what i should do.
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You can't be in a relationship where your not completed as you should be it will make you feel less of a man,if you said that another woman has then that is who you should be with,don't let more time pass by you,then waste your valuable time with one that is a failure,you of course just take care of the baby,let her know that's all you'll be doing but there won't be anything between you too,that you hope she understands your decision,and respects your happiness as well.
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