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Dating a guy outside my race
I'm Italian-American and my family is pretty old fashion when it comes to dating. They're not in anyway racists at all but they don't exactly believe in dating outside our race (like any guy that isn't white).
Well I've meet this guy since school started (I've actually met him at parties and stuff before but never really had a chance to get to know him) and he asked me out on a date.
I like him and all and I know my dad would love him (my parents always meet my dates when they come pick me up :/ ). He's Mr. all star football running back, he's smart (top 10% of our class, actually), and he's oh so respectful. But one problem, he's black. And like I said before, my parents aren't into that.
So I'm not exactly sure what to do. I've tried talking to them about the situation in the past, but no luck.
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it shouldnt matter what your parents are into it should matter what your into
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They are going to have to accept your relationship if they want to see their daughter happy,don't let them get in the way of your happiness it is you who chooses who you want to date or not,they should respect your decisions,when they were like young like you I'm pretty sure that their parents wanted to choose their partners,they didn't like it, and they'll be doing the same exact thing because they'll be opposing the person who you want to be with.Tell them that you respect their beliefs,all but that you just aren't into that not dating outside the race,just as you are they should also respect yours,that race doesn't matter as long as the two cherish each other,want to be together that is what counts,people have feelings you know,how would they feel if they weren't accepted,and to put themselves in his shoes.
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Lol, I know just how you feel. My family (dad, brother, uncles, aunts, & grandma) are very racist. I hate it and it makes me feel like they tell me that no matter what I do, they'll support me, but not when it comes to dating a black guy. I liked a black guy a while ago and my mom & brother found out. Shocked pretty much explains the look on their faces, and I was hurt but I didn't care, I was going to like him anyway and to me, their opinion didn't matter when it came to this. If this guy is someone you really like then your the one who decides- date him? or not? He seems like a great guy and I wouldn't let anyone, including your parents, get in the way. Follow your heart (corny, I know) but it'll tell you what to do. Make sure your parents know and understand how much you like him and how good of a person he really is, other than that there's no real way to change peoples' minds but to keep on trying. Good luck :)
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What i would do is explain to them that there is a guy and tell them all the wonderful things about him except that he is black because they may grow attached to this guy if they find out he is decent first. And even if they say something go with your heart. If he truely loves you and you love him back your parents will see this and back off.
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Maybe you should tell them about his personality first. He has good qualities as a person that they would love to meet him. If you dont have a problem with dating him then they shoudlnt either. it is your choice who you want to date dont let your parents choose for you. There is a chance once they get to know him they would be fine with it. Maybe if you made sure that they understand this is what you want then they will back you up. Do what you heart tells you and believe that everything will be fine. If you constantly think of the negative all the negative wll happen because you believe it will. try to stay positive and strong.
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Okay i can completely relate to this..
My boyfriend of two years is black && i`m white..
I wasn`t worried about my mom since my step dad was black himself..But my grandparents && my father i was a bit worried about..
If they aren`t racist at all then most likely they won`t say anything..&& really mixed relationships is alot more common now then in their days..
I suggest letting them meet him beofre tellin them he`s black thats what i did with my grandparents && dad..
My grandfather loves Micah [[my boyfriend]] he says he`s good for me && he told me himself he doesn`t care what race he is as long as he treats his grandbaby good..
If your family loves you they`ll honestly not care as long as your happy..
♥ ♥ GOOD LUCK SWEETiE
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