I'm a third year psychology student and i love giving advice to those who are in need of it but if you ask me a stupid question you should expect a stupid answer i love hanging out with friends and socialising i can be really conceited at times and if you get on my bad side you might wanna sleep with an eye open!
Altogether I would say that I am still finding myself and my place in this huge world, searching for the great amor and visiting beautiful places
so guys feel free to ask me anything that's on your mind and I will try to give you the most helpful advice
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when my mom was pregnant and I was little she told me that the baby got inside of her because her and Dad kissed.. My parents told me that all of my life.. Well,, I just turned 13 and I never really thought much more of it.. I don''t have a boyfriend or anything and so I never even considered kissing someone or making babies.. Logically I am thinking kissing doesn''t cause pregnancy but I don''t really know how a woman gets pregnant anyway.. I don''t know um so does kissing cause pregnancy for sure or not or..?? I heard sex means pregnancy but is kissing sex then or what?? (link)
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no sweetheart kissing doesn't cause pregnancy you get pregnant when you have sex with a guy its probably gross now but you should really get someone like your mum to explain to you what it's all about just tell her something like they asked you in school to find out how a girl gets preganant and i'm sure she'll explain it to you
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how do you know when your cherry is popped (link)
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well when you have sex you would normally bleed because the hymen tears if you are.... well stretched down there then you lost your virginity
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I work at a fast food place called Captain D's. The females work up front, and the males work in the back. Im 17/F. Ive been working there for about a month now, and I've known my head manager since I was 14, which is how I kind of got the job.
I was talking to my manager tonight, and I told her I felt as if some of the employees didn't like me, and she said that, "If anyone, and Im sure I know who specifically, acts funny to you, its probably because she feels threatened by you."
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? (link)
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theres probably someone at your workplace that has a problem with you and mentioned it to your manager or she saw it in their behaviour so why dont you ask your manager eho it is and try and sort this problem out before it turns into something big
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My title says it all, really. I feel like my crush likes me, I've read when you think he likes you, trust your instinct, you're usually right if you truly believe it. But, I want second opinions. So, I'll bullet some things that make me think he likes me and you can tell me what you think! Thanks so much!
-I was upset that he didn't walk with to class after he walked with me for three days, so when he was in front of me because I got out of class late, he turned around and said he was waiting for me and when I caught up to him, we were walking to class together and he was running into me a lot.
-when we walked to class, he told he my hair looked awesome because I curled it and it looked different than the normal straight.
-I was joking around that he hates me because every time my friends and I make plans to hang out, he has to do something. So, I told him since we don't talk anymore, he probably hates me and he looked right into my eyes and said "I don't hate you at all"
-My crush's best friend, me and my best friend were all talking and I guess he felt left out with his group that he was talking to because he came over and talked to us.
-I catch him looking at me a lot and when I look at him, he doesn't quick look away.
-He was playing with a wiffle ball and a bat with his friend and I was joking with him that if he hits me with the ball, I'm gonna be so mad and he actually did hit me. He put the bat down, held out his arms and walked to me and hugged me. Then a few minutes later, he called me into the room room he was in and hugged me again because he felt bad.
-He came over and told me something and put his arm on my shoulder when he was telling the story.
-My best friend and his best friend (mentioned in another bullet above) were talking and my best friend asked if he knows who my crush likes and his friend said "Why does (my name) like him?"
-My best friend and my crush were talking and she told him that this really weird girl we are all aquainted with has a crush on him and he said "ew, I would never do that." then my friend said he asked if I had a crush on him.
We are both 16, I am female, he is male. Haha.
Do you think he likes me?
Thank you! (link)
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yeah duh he does and the hugging thing shows that he is looking for an excuse to touch you he sounds like one of my guy friends the type of guy that expects everything to come to him and is probably waiting for you to make a move so why dont you? you never know until you try and eventually he is gonna get fed up of waiting and move on so i say take a chance and make a move
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This girl I'm friends with started calling me her "bestie" today at lunch. She said something like "You know what, Bestie? You're the greatest." I don't really know what that means? What does it mean when somebody calls you their bestie? Or besty, maybe? I don't know? (link)
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bestie means best friends oh and by the way do you think that maybe theres a possibility that this chick likes you as in more than friends?
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So at my new job I became friends with this lady. She's about 40, and I'm 18. Anyways, she invited me to her birthday party along with several of my supervisors and bosses. She really wants me to go, but I think it would be inappropriate for me to go because all the people that are going are much older, not to mention, my bosses. Especially since they would all be drinking and I wouldn't be. I know she would be disappointed if I didn't go.
So what should I do? Do I go to make her happy or do I not go? (link)
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go to the party it would be rude not to and if you don't pitch up when you see each other at work it would be awkward so go and make the best of it it would give you a chance to interact with your co-workers which would be good for your job
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About a week ago, I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke. And last night I was using the restroom and when i peed, there was legit little blood on the toilet paper.. and i whiped again and there was nothing? But when the condom broke I was on the back end of my period so I wasn't ovulating or anything i don't think :/ (link)
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well if you're new to sex then bleeding is normal it was probably heeling and you wiped too hard but if the condom broke you should probably take a test just to be on the safe side
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there is a guy in my school and when ever we talk he looks deep in my eyes and sometime at my lips what does it means
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firstly do you know this guy well? speak to him often? do you like him? coz you'll be glad to know that he likes you this is a really good sign if he looks into your eyes he's the serious type, looks at your lips, he wants to kiss you so i say go for it i'm sure he's worth it he just might be the one for you
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Why do men lie to their girlfriends? Don't they understand how much it hurts us?
He asked me about how many guys I've been with since I met him (I've been with just him since we became exclusive though). I told him the honest truth (although I thought he knew because I dropped plenty of hints as they happened, oh and I should add he asked me this question 5 months after we became exclusive). I was ashamed of my past, but I wanted to be honest with him so I told him how many. He called me a ho pretty much and we almost broke up. When I asked him in turn how many girls he's been with since he met me, he said just you, I don't do s*** like that. This made me feel even more ashamed and worse about myself. Anyways he forgave me, everything's good, and then a few weeks later he tells me a girl that he had a one night stand with is having some legal issues with him, a girl he had sex with AFTER he met me (but according to him before we became exclusive). I was really hurt he lied to me after I was so honest with him (I really poured my heart out to him) but he needed emotional support with the legal stuff (not his fault) so I just put my hurt off to the side. I called him out on his lie, but he just blew it off because he felt his legal stuff was more important. I texted him the next day about that his lying to me really hurt me (not that he had sex with her, just the fact that he lied). He wasn't apologetic, just asked me what I wanted to do, and I told him that the only thing I want from him is honesty, and he said he will be.
I haven't seen him in three months, but I'll be seeing him again once school starts (we live in different states). He told me he hasn't been with anyone this summer, and I really hope that's the truth, but I just don't know anymore. He's already lied to me at least once, how do I know he's not lying to me again now?
Any advice is much appreciated. And I can't just leave him because we've been through so much, and I know he has my back at the end of the day. (link)
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as hard as it may be for you i think that you know you need tp leave him because i think he's messing around with you and secretly you know it too problems will just escalate if you ignore it you say you live in different states so you don't see him all the time so you don't know what he's doing when he's not talking to you girls are naturally more emotionally involved than guys are and they tend to be needy after a while in a relationship but do what your heart tells you follow your instinct
good luck
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so during the summer this guy asked me out and told me to text him with the answer. i told him i was busy and couldn't go, but i'm really sorry. the truth was that i didn't like him. i didn't want to break his heart, so i didn't tell him the truth. but he never replied and didn't talk to me for the rest of summer.
ever since we've been back at school, he's been acting soo weird. he saw me alone waiting for my friend one time, and then starting telling me that i'm depressed and emo and crazy(which i am not). then he stopped talking to me again. but then today i saw him in the hall, and he pretty much told me that I think he's hot and looks good. i was like wtf and walked away.
he's really getting on my nerves, but everytime i try and tell him that he just doesn't listen. what am i supposed to do??? (link)
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this guy is all about pride considering you didn't want to go out with him he's mad about it he has a problem and it seems that he still likes you so since talking doesn't work with him start hanging out with some guy friends this will show him you dont care and he wouldn't really mess with you he'd probably be afraid then after just send him a text and tell him how you feel and tell him that just because you dont wanna go out with him it doesnt give him the right to treat you like that you never know maybe he just might respond in a positive way
good luck
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20F.
So for some reason I'm terrified of giving a guy a blow job or even a hand job ..never done it before! But I've had sex ..yeah a little weird. I feel like I've lucked out because I've only had sex with two guys and neither of them have asked me to do that to them before sex. Then I was talking to my guy cousin and he was like you gave him head before you had sex to make him last longer right? Now I'm worried I should be doing this before sex. I just love having sex though and would rather not give a hand job or blow job. Is this normal? (link)
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a blowjob is not the only way to satisfy your partner there are many other fun sex games im sure he wouldn't mind if you gave head but you're not really forced to do it and they should respect your decision but if you want try it out theres nothing wrong with giving hand jobs too you said you only had sex twice which means you're still new to it and quite frankly a bit shy if you have a partner that you know and are open with maybe it will just come naturally
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my bf lives in tn while i live in ga, he's only 3 hours away from me so we get to see each other every weekend. what are some fun dates we can do together? i really want him to enjoy his time everytime he comes to ga!thank you all! :) (link)
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first off try doing things that he likes doing you know, guy stuff like maybe go watch a match together or play a sport with a fun day at the park this way he wont be as easily bored as guys tend to get
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My husband and I are always in fights. He wants things his way and I want things my way. I was about fed up with him and was going to pack my things and leave and he told me he wants to go to marriage counseling to try to resolve this and work our marriage out. I know he wants to save it since he approached me about therapy. Do you think marriage counsiling really works or should I just give up now save us the money? (link)
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the fact that he suggested counselling shows that he cares about you and wants to save the marriage in actual fact no marriage is perfect there will always be problems it will be for the best if you do go for counselling this will suggest that you are trying and shows him you care just be honest and open with each other, trust and honesty is most important and very healthy for relationships so communication is the key
good luck
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Yes i really do want to start smoking. Is it worth buying 10 or 20 (link)
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try out the 10s first just to test out the brand then if you like it you can go from there or even dunhill menthol is a good option
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Im 42 and i want to start to smoke. Where do i start (link)
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firstly do you really think that it's a good idea to start smoking because eventually you will get addicted and this turns into an annoyance every person that smokes wishes they hadn't started but if you really want to buy a pack maybe craven A because it's lighter and just inhale
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14/f
I have two older brothers, ones a senior and ones a junior. Me and my brother who is a junior get a long great we have a wonderful relationship. It's my oldest brother who I have the problems with. Ever since we were little he would always be mean to me and being the little girl I was I would tattle on him. Lately, I've been trying to be nicer to him. I know a lot about him that my parents don't. Mainly, his drug and alcohol use. I definately don't think it's the drugs and alcohol that made him this way not at all he always seemed to hate me. On the contrary acutally, he is nicer to me when he is high or drunk. My parents do often get in more bad fights and arguements with him. And I sort of think that he doesn't want to be part of our family at all! He never attends family parties or anything. (Don't Judge!)Over the summer, I smoked weed with him and he said he felt bad for it but he continued to do it with me about four times after that. He doesn't anymore but he sells me what I need. Whenever I have friends over he likes to stick around and bother us and he's not terribly mean just annoying so I usually want him to leave but he usually doesn't and hangs around with us. When he has friends over and if I'm just hanging out with them for ten minutes he is always so mean to me! I ask him why do you hate me? And he says you're annoying and a bitch and just insults me in every way! He never has anything nice to say to me at all. He always points of my flaws and it doesn't feel to good. When we are just home with my family he usually is up in his room and isn't very nice to me. I do want us to have a better relationship with him but he doesn't.. It makes me sad. (link)
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i think its really just a phase all siblings tend to fight i mean hey long ago i wished my sister were dead he'll grow out of it but it will take some time i guess its just his personality if he is nice to you when hes high this is when they really express their feelings youy know the saying "a drunk person never lies" so maybe he just feels that you two dont have anything in common with each other im sure he doesn't hate you try to find something that he likes to do and spend a aday with him or go to him for advice about something this will help realise he's the person you will look up to and you will probably see a change in behaviour
good luck
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i really like my boyfriend and he likes me. we been dating for and month now, i just dont think him like i use to my ex, i think i would be fine without him... im not sure
were just like mates who happen to be dating
is this normal????
i want to know what he thinks about me i think he just wants the action, and keeping me cause no one else would give it to him (link)
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i think this guy is just your rebound and you dont know for sure that hes just in it for the action but if you've been dating for a month and you dont feel the connection maybe he isn't the right one for you you two just probably need someone to be there for you and you can do this just being friends too but if this whole dating thing doesn't work out think what it could do to your friendship but do what your gut tells you too
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My boyfriend is a good guy, but he does a lot of stuff that I'm really not okay with. I've tried talking to him about it, but the thing is, he honestly doesn't see any of it as a big deal. He thinks I'm overreacting.
First, we hadn't been dating very long when a guy he was friends with made a joke about him having an STD (my boyfriend has slept with a lot of women). My boyfriend got upset, said that he may have acted like he was joking but he really wasn't, and said he didn't want me to talk to him anymore because it would cause problems (he doesn't have an STD, we got tested). So, I stopped talking to this guy. My boyfriend works with a girl who used to be my best friend, but went around saying I was a whore and I cheated on my ex with two different guys (totally not true). Naturally, I was mad and we don't talk anymore, but my boyfriend talks to her all the time at work. He says it's because they work together and he doesn't want her going to the HR department all the time, which I understand, but it's not like they're required to talk at their job, and if there were just talking about work it might be okay, but he's told me some of the things they talk about and it's like they're old friends or something.
Second, he has this gorgeous ex girlfriend. He talks about her a lot, always says how perfect she is. He said they broke up because he didn't feel good enough for her and never really felt comfortable around her, but they were really good friends before they dated, so they stayed friends. I have no problems with them being friends, but he's ALWAYS talking about how perfect she is. He tells her he loves her and he misses her and she's so amazing, and he never says those things to me. I guess I'm just jealous, but it hurts to hear him say those things to her when he won't say them to me, his girlfriend. He's always there for her when she needs him, but it's like anytime I try to talk to him about stuff that's bothering me, he acts like it's no big deal and I'm overreacting. He tells me he doesn't want to be with her, but I just can't help but get upset over it.
Sorry for ranting, but I'm really confused. If I'm overreacting, please tell me, because I really don't know. (link)
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you're not overreacting actually i think you know the truth but you dont want to admit it but it happens to most girls the fact that your boyfriend still talks about his ex and says how perfect she is says that he's not over her and if she gives him another chance he would take it with open arms with his friends making jokes like that shows they have no respect for you meaning that he bad mouths you behind your back its pretty clear that this guy is gonna cause you alot of pain so dump his ass before it gets worse i know its hard but it will really benefit you in the long run
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Less than a week ago, i broke up with my boyfriend of 10 months. He was devastated, and he still keeps calling me and obsessing about what happened between us. I have no interest of getting back with him and i just want him to leave me alone. For about a month now, i've liked this other guy. We've been friends for a while, but we've gotten close and i really really like him. I found out recently that he likes me too. I want to be with him, but i just got out of a long relationship myself, and im not ready for another commited relationship. But i really like him a lot and i dont want to lose him, but im not ready for a relationship just yet. Its not fair to him but its also not the right time. I feel like he's getting screwed over and i feel so bad. What should i do?!? Thanks so much :] (link)
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i think your ex keeps calling you because its a pride thing the fact that you broke up with him kills him, but this other guy i say go for it! it'll be better for you and show your ex that you've moved on and he should too just because things didnt work out between you two just means you weren't meant to be you should probably sit him down and talk to him about it or he'll just keep bugging you
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14/f
About a month ago I went to this concert with my friend. It was an amazing concert and we met a huge group of boys there (like 10 of them). We found out they live in a town about thirty minutes away from where we live and we exchanged phone numbers. So I was texting a few of them but one guy and I really understood eachother and got a long great. We had deep conversations about drugs, religion, and we both thought it was awesome with could be so open with eachother. His name is Alec. About a week or two after the concert we hung out with one of the guys named Zac and only him. That was the only time we seen any other them since the concert. We have talked about hanging out again. I still have contact with all them but not daily, every once in a while. We are supposed to meet up with them at another concert in October. Anyways, lately Alec hasn't been texting me back. Like we had a great thing going and then BAM! it stopped. I will text him and no response at all. A week ago or so I had my friend text him and he texted her back but not me. So the other day, I found out he got a girlfriend. So I thought hey maybe the reason he hasn't been texting me back is because he has a girlfriend. And I'll be the first to admit we did flirt a bit. So maybe since he has a girlfriend he doesn't want that and I don't know. I know if I had gotten a boyfriend I'd still talk to him. So why do you think he hasn't texted me back? (link)
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to tell you the truth this guy alec was just going out with friends looking for a good time and he probably thought that he would get it from you its clear he had a girlfriend this whole time and just wanted something on the side hes the type of guy that moves from one chick to another so screw him honey! delete his number off your cell and avoid all contact with him its for the best
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