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I joined this site when I was very young (hence the ridiculous username) but now I feel I'mn old enough to give out advice.

Ask me anytime. I have had my fair shares of family issues, as well as good at solving relationship problems.

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can anyone give me any good indie bands.

i like stuff like death cab for cutie and bright eyes.

The Kooks
The Feeling
The Foo Fighters
Plain White T's
Scouting For Girls
Hadouken
Snow Patrol
Artic Monkeys
The Wombats
The Hoosiers
[a little] Cobra Starship
The Academy is
Razorlight
Nickelback [ a little]
Boys like Girls
Red Hot Chilli Peppers

Hope I Helped
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my friend is always rude to me even though when she is down i look after her eg i was talkin 2 her and then she said somthing wrong so i laughed and told her then she sweared at me and told me 2 shut up i just walked away i have told her and she said she would stop but she just keeps doin it i dont no if she is a real friend or i could do much better

I personally think that you should tell her AGAIN how you feel really, and let her know you're feeling down because of the way she is treating you

HOWEVER

You friend maybe just hormonal, and may be moany or rude because of things that may be happening at home

You are defiatnly not doing anything wrong to her she is just a very sensistiv person. The best advice i can give is to stand up for yourself, tell her how you feel and if she isn't going to treat you with respect she obviously isn't a true friend. She isn't worth having if all you're going to get out of it is stress and tears.

Give her space when she's angry too. The last thing you need is a happy person all up in your face sometimes.

Hope I helped

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There are so many other girls in my school that are really pretty, but i dont feel like im one of them, because I think that I am ugly...Heres some pictures of me, can you guys please tell me what I can to to improve my appearance?
PS. please dont say that i should be happy the way I look, or that I should look in magazines or whatever, I just really want some tips..ANYTHING, and PLEASE be brutally honest :)
Thanks

http://s298.photobucket.com/albums/mm268/crazii-skittles/?action=view¤t=RandomPics883.jpg

http://s298.photobucket.com/albums/mm268/crazii-skittles/?action=view¤t=RandomPics209.jpg

http://s298.photobucket.com/albums/mm268/crazii-skittles/?action=view¤t=RandomPics266.jpg

You think you're ugly? Girl you are so wrong, i think you are very pretty and the colour of your hair is so unqiue and pretty. I don't think your image needs improving however if you want it improved, put some headbands and cool "emo" bow clips on - i think they'd look really good on you!
Light and dark blues, purples and silvers makeup would really emphasize youe eyes and would really brighten up your image. You're pretty anyways! Good luck XD

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well he didnt learn the first time and they are always flirting and he does anything to get near her and i tried to be a good friend and help get them together but he thinks im jealous but he doesnt know i like him...only 1 person does and thats my best friend and i told him 30 min ago

my friend he likes used him for presents for christmas but he never knew that and they are really good friends still.

i was thinking on the last day of school to tell him so he can think about it all summer like he made me do last year...he asked me out the last day of school and i said no but he kissed me goodbye and told me we would try again the next year but he started liking someone else but on my birthday he was talking to my friend(the one he likes? and she told him to ask me out so he did the next day and we got together but he started to not talk to me and when he did it would be for 1 min and halfway threw him saying something he would leave to hang with his friends. what should i do now that you know most of what happened?

I think the only way to settle this is to let him how you are feeling because it looks like he is in the middle and doesn't know what he wants. Tell him how you feel and let him know because if you don't,you will regret everything after woulds. Beleive me, there is so much you want to say and you never say it - so just let him know how you are feeling. Chances are he'll either like you or not, and if not accept it and be good mature friend - he'll respect that. Ask him to hang out with you instead of telling him last day of school and then tell him there - at least he would of had quality time with you and then would think about the great day you had together.

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My boyfriend asked me out about a week ago. I like him alot, especially becuase we were very good friends a long time before he asked me out. So, im really comfortable around him and trust him 100%. Well, for some odd reason i keep worrying im going to do something to cause him to stop liking me, and then breakup with me. I have no idea why this is bothering me so much...after every time i talk to him ill think to myself, did i say something wrong? sometimes ill even think things like, im not good enough, how could he ever like me. Does anyone have any advice for this, because its really starting to make me sad =/

stop worrying! he is with you because he likes you! You guys have been friends before you guys started dating, so nothing you say or how you act wouldn't really differ. It sounds cheesy but just be yourself, because you both known eachother well. He is with you because he accepts who you are and enjoys your company. Don't worry! Just relax! Good luck

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ive known this guy for almost 3 years and we were in junior high when we met but we are now in high school and we have been off and on since the first week i met him we got together after knowing him for 1 week. before that he was with my friend but she used him. every time i see him it feels like my heart is popping out of my chest and i dont know what to do. he likes my friend that used him 3 years ago and she likes him back and they always flirt and i cant stand to watch him do it...what should i do?

Well he learnt not to mess with her last time after she used him. but if he's stupid enough to do it again let him. Let him make his own mistakes because he'll soon come to realise that she's not worth it. If you told him not to go out with her, he will only see it as you being jealous and being up in his buisness. Leave him to be a taught a lesson. Accept he isn't to you at the moment, just be there for him as good friend when he falls and she doesn't catch him.

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okays well im 14/f. i have been in alot of guy drama lately. i just got over this one guy i liked alot but hes a huge jerk. and then i met this other guy, but i found out hes a huge flirt and goes out with every girl he can get. so theres two guys in a row. then i stared talkin to this new guy. hes really nice and sweet. we talk alot, i just started hanging out with him not to long ago. hes not that cute, like the other two guys i dated before. they were really cute but both jerks. i dont think i have feelings for either of them anymore. im thinkin aobut likeing this new guy, i think he likes me back, but idkk what to do???? help please.

any advice plz and thank you :)

As long as you know you have no feelings for the "jerks" I say see how it goes out with the new guy. It doesn't matter about looks. However, just give it a little time to make any sort of moves incase he's like the other two. You don't want to get your heart "broken" again, so just wait and see if he is genuine.
I hope it works out for you

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I want a new display name for my myspace...Im kind of a scene kid and I want my name to have like "moster" in it but i dont want it to have anything that has scene in it...
ex.scenic monster
or scene moster
moster scene

so can you pleas help me come up with a few ideas::::f/15

did you mean "moster" or "moNster" i wasn't sure?

Monsterator

Oh So Scene

MANiic MONSTER

Retrotikk

M0NSTER NiiGHTMARE

Scene.Kid

That Kidster Monster

M O N S T E R T R A T I K

Kidnatic Monster

MyspaceMonster

I will come back and think of more
hope i helped = ]



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i'm really sickk of all the same music i keep listening to. like i like the style of it but i'm sick of the songs. does anyone know any other bands that sound like:

boys like girls
jack's mannequin
cute is what we aim for
jonas brothers
etc.

please not well known ones because i probably already know them =)
thanks!

Cobra Starship
The academy is
Scouting for girls
Cut off your hands
Razorlight
Fall out Boy
Panic! at the disco
Hadouken
Bloc Party
The wombats
The Kooks
The Plain White T's
The Feeling
The Kaiser Chiefs
Paramore


I hope I helped =]

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hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??

I'm just going to tell it to you straight


I think you are being totally unfiar to your boyfriend for a start. You guys have trust issues and your not making it any easier. That is not very clever. You need to tell your boyfriend the truth. And if he can't accept that then you really should of thought about it.No matter how dirt poor your are. Money isnt everything and if you can't pay for your phone that's it. And don't you think your mum would find out sooner or later how you've been paying for your phone? Unless you've been lying to her too...You shouldn't lower yourself no matter how much you need money and besides, it's just a phone! It would be fairer to give the money to your mum or save it for emerganicies - not to pay for a phone! Come on girl you have respect dont you? Don't lower yourself to anyone ok? If you want your boyfriend you will tell him the truth - it's the only thing that willl even a little justify what you've been doing. And think of the man you've been sending the pictures too. Who is he? Is he married? A peodphile? A porn addict? He could be abusing your pictures in many ways and one could be putting them up on the interent! I think you need to stop what your doing and explain to your boyfriend before the guilt gets to you. Get some self respect and sense! I know you can do it

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I know you gave some ideas for poses and I have done them but I need more, is there any more you can tell me?? Please reply.

You can do anything!
-Peace Signs
- Your hands "clawed"
-Touching your hair
- Looking away from the camera
-Look sad,hapy,flirty etc
-Wear sunglasses - pose with objects
- Look on model websites for crazy poses
It helps
here are some ideas
Scroll down to her album - her poses and pictures are amazing
http://www.bebo.com/Profile.jsp?MemberId=1982272686

Have a look at the people and their poses - their facial expressions and postion should help
http://www.fashion.net/fashion/

Picture's arent always about looking pretty or attrative - its abotu creating a style and sending a message.

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Hey wuts up?? well, i'm 15/f. Our school takes a trip every summer, and anyone who wants to go can go. Well for NEXT summer (2009), they are going to Ireland. I've alwaysssss wanted to go to Ireland. So my parents and I talked about it, and they said I could go, and I'm sooooo excited! But, there are a few things I want to know about Ireland, that I don't know. 1st thing, what kind of food do they eat?? Cause I'm pretty picky.. I've tried to google it, but I'm not findig very many good sites. The trip is a 12 day trip, so hopefully there are different things I can eat that can last me for 12 days.. haha. Anyways, 1 of the days, we get to go shopping. Now I love to shop, it's like my favorite thing ever to do!! :) hehe. Well, what kinda shopping do they have there? Like cute uniqe (?) stuff, or just kinda the same regular stuff. I pretty much know everything else that we're doing and stuff, so... any help would be soo great!! If it's possible, can you include websites pleasee? Thanks so much everyone!!!!!!

I live in the uk so i should be able to help [ i take it you live in the usa or something. anway]
The kind of food ;
Well ireland have normal typical foods like crips, chips, meats,burgers etc
However they do have traditional food like Irish Sausages and Black Pudding
Black pudding is basically an animals blood [ maybe sheep] in a sausage - it is quite delecious!and white pudding [ but dosnt have the blood in it]
You are guaranteed to eat a typical "Fry Up" or "Full Breakfast" which is popular through ireland, england and scotland! It consists of bacon, eggs, sasuages, black and white pudding, toast, fried bread, mushrooms, tomartos etc.

[ if u live in usa i must tell you they do not have as many sugary, salted or fattening foods]

For Shopping! Well! Usually in the shopping centres, they have a variety of shops which sell stylish and chic clothes [ they tend to be expensive] OR there are some shops which sell different styles like indie for example. Some shops i do recommend ;
Primark [ SO popular and SO cheap]
Jane Norman
Debenhams
Tammy
Oasis
Superdrug [ for makeup, deodrants, the nessecaties and bathroom stuff] or boots
Topshop
New Look

The fashions over in ireland are simple yet chic
Accessories sold can be sweet diamond clips, necklaces or small cute earring like button earrings or bow earrings.

it is quite cold in ireland
Websites
http://www.debenhams.com/
http://www.next.co.uk/
http://www.topshop.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TopCategoriesDisplay?storeId=12556&catalogId=19551

[however if you live in uk, its similar to england or scotland]

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Alright here is the deal i need a song that me and my boyfriend can call ours. But i dont want it to be just another frilly love song that has really nothing to do but love. I want a song that has to do kinda with our life and our love. See iv lived a kinda bad life and iv been through hell and back and when he met me i was down in the dirt lower than you can get, and he picked me up and hes my night in shining armor. I want our song to have something to do with life being hard and thinking of the worst and then someone coming to save you. But if anyone can give me any good love songs that will be very well appreciated. Thanks

Short N Punky


Yours - mariah carey [ Romantic]
video
http://youtube.com/watch?v=hBwNBAvUYT0&feature=related
lyrics
http://www.seeklyrics.com/lyrics/Mariah-Carey/Yours.html


OR
My saving grace [ this is more what your looking for]
Video
http://youtube.com/watch?v=lwFMqnjqXXs

Lyrics
http://www.sing365.com/music/Lyric.nsf/My-Saving-Grace-lyrics-Mariah-Carey/FF9B4645A9F7059148256C69000C4E0F

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Ok, last week I was going to confess to my crush
that I liked him....but...I chickened out....I just have no idea what to say to him....

Also I'm the same girl who posted up a question saying that some girl walked up to him and asked my crush that if he liked me((cause she and another girl who is my friend were trying to hook me up with my crush))

Anyways when the girl,Lucy((or whatever name I put up in that question)) asked my crush if he liked me he said no,that he supposedly dident like me in that sort of way...

And I had second thoughts that maybe just maybe he lied.I mean who would tell some random person that they like this guy,or this girl((even if you know thier names but you hardly talk to))besides he gave all the signs saying 'Yea.I like you too.'

anyways I asked him if Lucy said anyrthing about me to him.He said no,that not from what he remembers...so I said thank you...But one of my friends was there((she was faraway from us))Risa
told me that maybe he lied so he wouldent have to confess...or something like that((I cant remember it all happened so fast))

but yea...now i dont know if I should confess or not...I do think its better if I confess...I have people telling me I should ignore him and forget about him and others saying I should become better friends with him and see what happens....

I dont want to ignore him cause he is a somewhat a friend of mine as I am to him and I dont think its right to ignore him just cause he did'ent like me back...

this may sound very cheesy but I think its better if I listen to my heart which is telling me I should confess((usally I dont listen to my heart))

so should I confess???

And if i should what should I tell him???

you should definatly confess because if you both leave it now, you'll have this total awkardness between you too, whilst having everyone around you making comments about how much you like eachother. You'd then both begin to try and avoid eachother the best you can.

If you confess, everything will be out in the open and you can then find out truly what he thinks of you instead of getting others to find out for you. You need to confess otherwise everything will just get really awkard

I think he could be lying, i think he may like you because you don't just tell and random person how you truly feel
Follow you heart girl and let him no! It's the best way to find out the answers and clear the air!
hope i helped!
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What are some good indie artist/bands? Like Albert Hammond Jr and Tegan & Sara. Thanks in advance.

I don't know if you live in the usa or not, but i live in the uk, and some of the indie bands we have

- The Plain White T's
- Scouting for Girls
- Razorlight
- The wombats
- Paramore
- Snow Patrol
- The hoosiers
- The Fratellis
- The Pigeon Detectives
- The Killers
- The Kasierchiefs

All of the bands are really good!! and very popular in the uk!
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hi i am 13/female and am having a real hard time moving on after last night. ok. so i like this guy.a couple nights ago we went to this indoor fun house with 2 of our friends. and we had a lot of fun. then during the last 15 mins we got dared to make out and we did (that was the first time ever for me). then last night he invited me over to his house and my friend was supposed to come and his friend was there. it ended up just being us three (me being the only girl). we watched a movie and ate for a while and then without a dare we started doingg EVERYTHING! we made out, we madeout on top of eachother, he went up my shirt and touched my boobs while making out, i gave him a lap dance (not intense though, just sat on top of him and moved around easily) i pulled up my shirt with my bra on, then at the very end we started making out and i waws pretty much humping him and he was grabbing my butt and pushing it into him and he touched my boobs and yeah thats it. and i dont know. i feel regret causee we aren't even going out and his last gf everyone called her a slut because on the 4th day of their relationship he went up her shirt (same thing as me). and i feel like a total slut. and i like him and i want to go out wtih him and he told me he likes me, but wouldn't he ask me out? i really confused and i only told me one best friend who was supposed to be there about it all and she said she didn't think he was using me but idk i have mixed feelings???? i cant talk about it with my family or anyone else except for my one best friend. please help me. should i regret what i did? am i a slut? is it bad since we aren't even going out? do you think he is using me? he told me he liked me. but why hasn't he asked me out? i'm really sad about this. i need SOME ADVICE FAST!!!!!!!!!!

your not a slut no. But you rushed into things with someone your not going out with!! You guys have rushed things and your not even going out, there wouldnt be anything sacred or special in the relationship because youve already made out etc. If he does ask you out, he would only ask you out for his personal use. Do you think he values your friendship or personality? I think this boy wants excitement and not a proper relationship, where it isnt just making out. You are thirteen and have plenty of time to makeout with whoever you want to, but youve done it with some who I think is using you. You should find someone who values you as your person and sees more than just a "sex" toy. If you made out at 13 with someone who isn't your boyfriend, where you will be in a years time? You need to resepect yourself girl!You are not a slut....YET. Make sure you let him no you play the rules and if he asks you out, let him no there is more to you than making out, ask him what he likes about you. If he dosn't come up with anything genuine, I wouldn't go out with him. It sounds as if he makes everyone look bad..he was the one who put his hand up her skirt, yet she is called the slut. He put her hand up the skirt, after 4 days of dating, you can see he likes a rushed relationship where he can makeout. Is that what you want to be..his little "sex/makeout" toy?

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look me and my mom fight all the time cuz i back talk her i need help to stop i don't want to drift away from her plez help me asap

A LOTof teens fight with their mums. And i cant say to you stop back talking to her because it is one of the hardest things to do when YOU want a say. The way I see it, is you need to see the signs of when a fight is about to accur and stop it. For example, if before the fight, your mum raises her voice, you still need to be calm and talk in a gentle tone. Ask her if you could speak like adults to eachother, and treat eachother like adults.TRY not to argue back. Say what you want to say in your mind. And even if you arent in the wrong, apologize to her to calm the situation. After a fight, go up stairs, breath! Count to ten. Write in a diary or blog! Do something to take your mind off it so you dont hold a grudge. Im sure your mother dosnt want to fight either. So stop everything you can do from making the fight occure just remember to
* keep a gentle tone
* speak in a happy and confident voice
* listen to your mum SHE ONLY WANTS WHATS BEST
*apologize
*Tell her you dont want to fight BECAUSE YOU LOVE HER

hope i helped xx

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15/f

this is going to sound super shallowww.

i really really really like this kid. but, hes not cute. at all. i mean i deff. like him for his personality. hes not the type of guy i would ever date. all my boyfriends were usually football or baseball players or something. this kid is deff. far from that. i wanna like him, and i know he likes me. but, i know.. if i went out with him, people would make fun of me. i dont know if id kiss him or anything, because i'm not attracted to him like that, i mean i kinda am. but idk. do you think its worth it? it seems though, as eeach day goes by, i like him more and more. its like i have a disease.

Yes.It does sound super shallow. If you like someone you like someone and looks shouldnt matter, its about the personality and how much of a beautiful person they are inside. So what if people make fun you YOU SHOULDNT CARE what they think, as long as you "love"/"like" eachother it shouldnt matter. What if you were th ugly one.how would you feel to know that you're just not pretty enough for them. What if he said that to you, how would you feel? Exactly. If he is sweet, kind , loving ,funny, nice, loyal why would you want to pass up such a great guy? You shouldnt stop yourself for liking someone because of other people. They dont CONTROLL you. Besides, they will be the ones missing out on a great boy.

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so i have this friend, he's cool. i have this huge crush on him since i've gotten to know him a lot better now. but he always says certain things to make me feel like he feels the same way. but then other times he's just like w/e. i don't know what he's trying to do.

for example, the other day he went to chinatown and i texted him have fun, he writes back: can't ur not here :'(
what does that mean??
and other times its just like chill, so i don't know what he's doing.

I think he does like you but is afraid to let you know how he feels because he is scared of rejection. He says stuff that make you think he likes you because he hopes for you to say something similar back, he trying to find out if you like him slyly.Boys are weird and they have their own way of dealing with things like we do. If you really like him, ask him out to the cinema.If he asks is it a date? Say yes [ or if you want] to give him the boost to talk to you. Asking him out somewhere will encourage him to make the moves too. He does like you, he is just nervous to find out what you feel too.

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Ok, here's the thing. At school I never be myself because honestly, I act really crazy at home and I'm afraid people are going to think I'm weird. What if they start judging me, or they don't like me? Should I just forget what they think and start being myself? And if I do, what if they start laughing at me?

You should definatly just be yourself and if people dont resepect you as a person well you know at least they arent the right friends for you, just be yourself never be fake because if people begin to like you, they dont actually like the real you and then you'll begin to wonder would people ever accept who you really are. Dont EVER care what other people think who are they? NOONE thats who! Go be yourself and if they laugh , they laugh ! You'll be the one laughing in the end! But i assure you , people will like you. And once you start being yourself, you'll find out so many new things, and will find other people you get on with really well

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