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Im trying out for drama club and we have to do an improv for tryouts. So I have to give a lecture about something(like a mom telling her kid to get better grades, a police telling a driver they're going to fast, etc) But the problem is, the lecture wont be directly to someone else, just thin air! And i dont know what topic it will be on. So are there anyways i can prepare for this? thanks i rate. (link)
Do improv exercises at home. Watch "Who's Line is it Anyway" for some fun ideas. As for the thin air thing, envision a person there, imagine that you ARE that angry mom, or that you are that policeman, and picture as much of the enviroment your character is in as you can, and you have to be able to think fast, just go for the first thing that pops into your mind, MAKE it work, and even if you make an ass of yourself, you can't be blamed for trying.
Also, remember that it's all about fun, so don't be too nervous. And what nervousness you have, project into your performance, because emotions are like energy, and you can convert one to another.


ok i forget some part of my homework like EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it sucks so much! how can i remember all of my homework? i get punished all the time for it and it sucks because i loose half credit like every day in some subjects but im such a good student. please help! (link)
Well, I must say that I agree with the planner thing, make sure you write every assignment down AS SOON AS THE TEACHER ASSIGNS IT, and check back to it when you do homework. Some schools have "homework hotlines" where you can call in to hear what the teachers assigned.


101 ok this is goin to sound slow but please dont judge me for it.
i rilli want to be a doctor.
the proble is tat i dont know wat kind.
i luv kids, but than i am also interested in plastic surgry stuff.
and money is kind of a factor.
so can sum1 please tell me how much or about how much each one makes, and wat u think i should b.
!!!I HATE 5'z FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!!PLEASE HELP!!! :) (link)
Learning to spell will help (sorry, I'm a hypocritical spelling-nazi) I'd think that the plastic surgeon would pay the best, but you never know. If it's all about money, I'd go for some kind of surgery, because I think those are the procedures that cost the most. The most important thing right now is to stay in school and study hard to get good grades, and join clubs so you have extra-curricular activities, because you need them to get into colleges too.

Good Luck!


Ok,Theres this guy I like and his name is John. Ok one of my not so close friends went and told him that I liked him right in front of me!!! I was soo hurt and imbarassed. But I did find out that John has a Girlfriend. I don't even look at him anymore! She did this to me like 3 times!! I can't make her stop! Everytime she sees him she goes " HEY John! This girl right here wants to go out with you!" And Im like Oh shit! What can I do. I didn't mean for thingz to happen like this and I can't even look at him without knowin he knows i like him.

Please Help! I will rate all 5's for really good answers! (link)
Tell her that she needs to stop, she may have no idea that she's EMbarrasing you. if that doesn't work, stop telling her who you like.


If God gives humanity purpose and meaning, what gives God purpose and meaning?

Is God meaningless and purposeless?! If so, wouldn't that mean that humans are just meaningless and purposeless, and that their "meaning" and "purpose" given by God is purely arbitrary? (link)
I'm sorry, but all matters concerning religion are a matter of opinion because there is no proof that he/she exists or doesn't exist. If you ask me, he doesn't exist, and therefore has no meaning or purpose to me, but if you ask someone else, they may say exactly the opposite. I'm afraid that you really have to make this deeply personal decision for yourself. If there is a god, he/she'd be really lame if he punished you for following your heart and making your own decisions.

Do some soul searching, what do YOU think on the matter? You can't let other people make your decisions for you.


really like this boy, and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do

and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him
i don't know what to do and she's always saying how they are moving to california after her degree.

help i am hurt, confused (link)
Your friend is a slut, ditch her ass. As for the guy, sadly, it's probably too late, give yourself some time to recover, then find another guy who's more into you.


I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 26/5 . I know my boyfriend for two months.he is labenese and i'm iranian , we were a happy couple we never had a fight . one day he told me that his family wants him to marry a girl from his own nationality. and when i asked him about his idea he said that he likes the girl but as the same time he does not want to lose me!!!!and i was upset i told him we need to talk but he kept postponing ourdate then we could not talk. I wrote to him that I love him and i can not see him with somebody else , so i will move out of his life and he can go on with his. from that day he is not giving me a direct answer, he keeps saying that he does not want to lose me but he does not talk to me about the whole issue. I even tried not to answer his calls for few days but he kept calling.he is insisting that we have to continue our relationship. I don't know who I am in his life anymore. by the way he told his causine that he loves me as a sister!!! I don't remember being his sister. he does not know what he wants.all i know is that i love him but i want this relationship only if I know that he also has some feelings for me. PLEASE HELP ME (link)
It seems like you feel like you're being jerked around. This relationship seems like it's causing you stress. Is there any fun part anymore? Re-asses what's going on. If you really still love him, tell him that he needs to figure out what he wants. Fast. Or he's going to lose you anyway. And be very firm and serious about it, but don't yell either.


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ah okayy this is really hard to admit but over the summerr when i was staying at my dad's place in california i had this really nice boyfriend or at least he seemed nice. and like we'd spend every day together and everything but then one night he got all different and stuff.. like more aggressive.. we hadd a few drinks, and then he kind of forced himself on me and pinned me up againnst a wall and raaped me andd i was soo scared. i avoided all his calls and stuff and eventually he stopped trying and i havent talked to him since.

and like its really hard for me to even look at guys anymore, which is like the total opposite of who i was last yearr, and noboddy knows anything (except my therapist and my momm). i have horriblee flashbacks and ill wake up in a sweat from nightmares and everythings so messed upp.

i really really want to talk to my friends about it but i just cant. im so afraid they are gonna thinkk im making all of this up for attentionn but im not, its hard and i feel like im fighting this huge fight all alone and they've always been there for me in the past im just worried this is gonna be the straww that breaks the camels back so to speak? i dont know.

asdfghjkl; i just wish none of this had everr happened what can i do. (link)
You can't change the past. If your friends don't believe you, then they aren't good friends, sp if you feel like you need to tell them, go for it. Did you ever consider pressing charges? Because if it happened to you, it may happen to someone else. It's good that you're seeing a therapist, so keep that up.


Okay well my boyfriend and I have recently been having sex through about 3 months and we have been going out for three years. Not once have I had an orgasm, I always have to fake it and I sort of get tired faking it because I want to experience what an orgasm feels like. And I don't want him to give me oral or finger me or whatever, I want to have an orgasm through intercourse. The sex feels good, but there are times when I cant even feel it in me. Does anyone know how I could achieve this? (link)
Uhm, as far as I know, no position is any better than the next, but you could shake it up a bit, try doggie style, or check out www.clitical.com
but most women can't orgasam from intercourse alone, is there any foreplay involved? I highly suggest you read through clitical for some ideas.


should you still have sex with your ex??...if you have feelings for him still but arent sure if he has them for you

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Uhm, NO! You guys split for a reason, it isn't healthy to do that, because if it's only sex, then pretty soon you'll start missing all the other aspects of your relationship, wich'll make the hurt worse once it's completely over, and when he gets a new serious gf, wich WILL happen, trust me.


ok so i'm really flatchested and i don't feel very secure. any suggestions? (link)
Remember that all girls aren't made from the same mold. Try to be comftarble with who YOU are, and soon enough every one else will too!


Ok, my girlfriend is on the Flagline at her school, so she has to be at all of the games on friday. I usually see her on fridays and saturdays. I'm a guy, and she's the first girl I've ever been, lets say, sexually involved with. And friday's I want to do 'stuff' (stuff being seuxal activities) but she says she's too tired. I know she likes to do it, because every time we do, I please her (and I know this for a fact)I guess I just don't understand how you can be too 'tired'. I could work all day and still have more than enough energy to do 'stuff'. Sometimes we do 'stuff' saturdays, but it makes me mad when she's too tired. I just get frustrated and feel like she doesn't love me. I don't understand why I get mad, it seems like a perfectly good excuse. Please help me understand this. Thank you. (link)
No offence (and I realize my ratings are probably gonna take a hit for saying this) but you're a guy, you think with your dick, you are naturally subconciously programmed to "mate" as often as possible (even if you use protection) that's just how you naturally think. Try to take this into consideration and try to be more sympathetic, and invest in good stuf for your masturbation, so you can still get your fix if you need to! :)


hey

well i am 16 and i am having a baby. In fact i am due in 3 days. I was just wondering whats a good song that i can put on for my baby girl katy. Something so that she can fall asleep. I dont want any gay songs from the tv something different thank you (link)
hmm, I'd go for some of the beatles softer stuff, like "here comes the sun" and "let it be" or some blues-y stuff.


I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors? (link)
not always. see where all this takes you.


Okay, I am a catholic and christian. Have been for my whole life. I go to church every sunday, and pray every once in a while, not as much as I should. I do believe in Jesus Christ and have strong faith, but lately I have become obsessed with exorcism rituals, paranormal, and OBE's(out of body experience rituals) I have tried many times to have them and they actually work. Sometimes I feel like something is trying to enter my body when I do this, but before hand I come out of it like Im fighting it off.. I am scared that I could possibly one day become possesed myself. After I saw the movie The exorcism of Emily Rose it really made me intrested...so I am asking is this wrong and what can I do to stop this before I get deeper in? (link)
The exorcisim of Emily Rose is just a movie, it's not a documentary, and I doubt (no matter what they say) any of it's real. But your belifs are up to you, and only you can make decisions about it. I know it's tough, but you need to dig deep inside yourself and truly decide what YOU think about it.


Ok.. i just got a kittie.. but i have no idea what to name her. My kitties a girl.. and she's gray with tan and white splotches on her.. she's very lady - like.. and loves to cuddle and play.. she's delicate and sweet.. her eyes are green.. and she loves to hide under my moms bed.. so can anyone give me any ideas for namess pleasee.. thanks =] (link)
czech out http://www.kittynames.com/


my bf just broke up wiht me, and i am throwing up cuz of it, and i also can't breath wen im crying. what can i do to help? (link)
Try to take deep, slow, relaxing breaths. Try some peptobismol for the regurgitation. As for the heart break, it will pass with time, and once you're over him, you'll find the kind of guy who deserves you.


hi everyone, my name is steph and i have a really really big question to ask ya'll...my boyfriend dumped me at Mcdonalds at school registration...i'm only 14, but i somtimes cry myself to sleep thinking about it, the problem is...his friend is really mean to me and i think he pushed him to dump me...but still i cry about it all the time like today i was bawling....is this pathetic of me not to be over him yet....especially since it was weeks ago??? pleaze answer my sad question.....
~Steph~ (link)
Of course not hun! When a guy breaks your heart like that it hurts, as you well know. Especially if it's only been a few weeks, just give yourself some time to recover. You'll be fine, and there's nothing wrong with you, I promise.


okay, well where do I start? As always, the story begins with "there was this guy.." haha
Well, I met this guy on my vacation this summer. And we got really close and everything..so close that we decided that we'd meet again this christmas (i live in the UK, he lives in the US..he's flying here this christmas - Just to see me (aww, hehe) well, anyways..im working really hard to make sure that he'll think it's worth it when he comes here, ive lost alot of weight, whitened my teeth proffessionally, got my hair fixed, bought alot of sexy clothes, took a seductive dancing class..well, basiclly EVERYTHING! now the only problem is, how do i become sexy? i know there's no specific thing to do/say to be sexy..so i was just wondering if there's any one thing that you remember as sexy. For example, the sexiest thing mý ex-bf said was ' let's give them something to watch' and then he kissed me right infront of everyone! (This group of girls where staring at us, and i was like : what are they looking at, and then he said the wohle ' well, lets give them something to look at -thiing' and i thought that was really sexy! You know, stuff like that..like it dosnt necessarily have to be something that i can do, i wont copy whatever your gf did. I just started thinking about all this..and wanted to know the things you considered sexy. Cause i know what girls think is sexy already, for example : when a guy wears axe, or when he calls you babe/baby, when he touches your hip,when he simply givs you a kiss on the forhead..or when he carries you 'lol, makes me feel like a tiny woman, and he's my strong hero' lol..well anyways, is there anything you guys can tell me that you think is sexy? thank you =)hah sorry if it was long.. (link)
I'm not a guy, but I know that confidence is sexy, no matter wether you're a chick, or have a dick. Just be confident in yourself, if he's flying across the atlantic just to be with you, he probably already into you anyway!


Ok, so there's this site that has free e-mail and everything, but I can't remember what it's called. Typical, right? I know that there are cool endings to the e-mail addresses like @mostwanted.com and stuff. I just can't remember what it's called or anything. Anybody know what site I'm talking about? (link)
It might be mail.com , but I'm not sure...




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