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i dont know if they'll believe me..
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ah okayy this is really hard to admit but over the summerr when i was staying at my dad's place in california i had this really nice boyfriend or at least he seemed nice. and like we'd spend every day together and everything but then one night he got all different and stuff.. like more aggressive.. we hadd a few drinks, and then he kind of forced himself on me and pinned me up againnst a wall and raaped me andd i was soo scared. i avoided all his calls and stuff and eventually he stopped trying and i havent talked to him since.
and like its really hard for me to even look at guys anymore, which is like the total opposite of who i was last yearr, and noboddy knows anything (except my therapist and my momm). i have horriblee flashbacks and ill wake up in a sweat from nightmares and everythings so messed upp.
i really really want to talk to my friends about it but i just cant. im so afraid they are gonna thinkk im making all of this up for attentionn but im not, its hard and i feel like im fighting this huge fight all alone and they've always been there for me in the past im just worried this is gonna be the straww that breaks the camels back so to speak? i dont know.
asdfghjkl; i just wish none of this had everr happened what can i do.
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You can't change the past. If your friends don't believe you, then they aren't good friends, sp if you feel like you need to tell them, go for it. Did you ever consider pressing charges? Because if it happened to you, it may happen to someone else. It's good that you're seeing a therapist, so keep that up.
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I've been there too. I know how you feel. And you have my sympathy.
Here's the thing: the urge to talk about it is natural. In fact, it's a good sign; it means that on some levels you're dealing with the experience, which is the first step in healing. But you need to be cautious. Because if any of your friends have a tendency to gossip, you're going to feel betrayed and MORE hurt. That would only set back your recovery.
If you simply HAVE to talk to friends about it, think very carefully before you do. Decide if you can trust them. And realize that some people get confused and upset when they hear about this sort of thing, and they don't know how to react or what to say. You may not get the support you're hoping for, and if that happens, you need to be able to forgive your friends.
You're doing the right things, so far. And of course you must remember that the rape was NOT YOUR FAULT.
This may not be very comforting to hear, but time is the one thing that will help the most. Give yourself as much time as you need, and the day will come when you feel ready to start in with a relationship again.
I wish you a good recovery and a happy life.
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awww you poor thing,
that must b really hard on you but a least your mum knows so she can support you.It may be difficult to look at another guy again but time and therapist will ease the pain adventully although you may not be as sexually active as you used to be.Hopefully ur flashback will disappear and in time you should recover although you will still have memories.You should tell your friends if you feel comfertable doing so ,if they are your friends they will believe you.This must be really hard for you and at time life may seem unfair but dont let it ruin your life!!Your not alone and some people might of had it worse,but if you really want to make yourself more confident do sumthing that helps other people in the same posistion.Good luck.
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