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I'm danika :) i'm 17 and i've been an advice columnist for almost 2 years i'm not on here a lot anymore but feel free to leave me and inbox and i'll get back to you asap

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I had my period on november 1st and now it is january 13 and i havent gotten my period. Lately i have been having the worst back aches and the last two days i had light cramping that only lasted like 6 min or less and a few headaches but not spotting. Could i be pregnant and how far would i be if i was. i need adv please help

get a pregancy test. you could be pregant and if you were you would be up to 2 months (depends on the last time you had sex) but if you never had sex your not pregant. if you just started getting your period then it could just be that it's irregular

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okay so this might be very long and im sorry but i need some other peoples opinions on this.

so i used to live with my grandmother. for 13yrs then i moved in with my mom and dad only a few months ago and my school work was getting better but now i feel in the same situation as i dont feel like getting up to go or just cant be bothered trying anymore. my mom is ALWAYS at work and when she does finally come home she sits and does MORE work. its not that she has to because he job only requires her to work untill 6pm. my dad isnt working and hes hard to talk to everything is a joke to him and if you have an issue you can deal with it yourself cause its all in your head supposedly which yeah on some things i can agree but a lot of times i just wanna talk. im not allowed to go places therefore i dont have many friends I DO though have a long distance relationship and he makes me extreemly happy whenn ever i talk to him which is usually for the most part of the day after school till some1 has to eat dinner then on the phone again till bedtime or whenever we fall asleep on the phone. he has helped me with so many problems and i help him when hes down too but its not all helping we have an awesome time laughing and making jokes and just stupid stuff that no1 else would think is funny but were weird together so its good for us. :) yea so mostly im in my room from when i get home from school till when its time to go back (except for bathroom and to eat dinner and stuff) and im always sitting by myself and eating dinner and my mom is at work of course and my dad well if he eats in the same room as me,im just not used to talking to him so its weird and he doesnt make any effort to start a convo. i used to try to wait for my mom to get home for dinner but by that time i would have to be almost ready to get myself to bed in order to even try to wake up and go to school. my boyfriend (long dist thing.) of almost seven months now came so visit me with his mom and his grandmom and his brother and his mom and grandmom treated me like so nice! and they gave me a hug and stuff and i almost wanted to cry cause i never get that and his mom loves me and stuff and thats hard to get his mom to approve of any girl for her sons :) anyways i have a therapist and i was talking to her about all this and she thinks it would be good that maybe on school breaks i could get away from everything and go see him and his family and stuff which i would love because sometimes thats all i want is to just get away. ya know and be happy, but my mom wont even let me to the mall with friends cause shes "overprotective" and i dont see why because shes never there. and alex (my bf) and i were talking about all this and he thinks id be wayy better off if i was there with him and his family hes 16 and im 14 btw. but i know my momwould never let me because she thinks ill im gonna do or want is sex or something but im not i just want to be happy i hate feeling alone all the time it sucks. so like does anyone else think it would be a good idea or do you think im being selfish or anything because i dont want to be like that. also i think if i was able to move there i'd be eating better for one thing and my school work would improve tons cause id have some1 there to motivate me and everything and plus his mom is way nice to me and shes fine if i ever wanted to or could do that. but i just dont know. so if anyone knows anyway that i could make it possible cause arent i being sort of neglected? if my theapist person knew all this stuff wouldnt she like be able to let me go there or something?!? ahh im just, i dont know. i need help.

:/

thanks a lot if you ever get to the end of reading that sorry it was so long.

wow girl that was extremelyyy long! haha but anywayy. sadly she's not going to be able to help you get to go live there because you are under the rule of your parents and she has no say in where you live. since you are under the age of 18 your parents are who pretty much control you. what i think you should relaly do is talk to your mom about how you feel neglected and that you want parents not 2 people that don't give two things about you. also tell her you want a social life and let you go have some fun with some friends from school. i dont' know what else to tell you because you would have to take it to court and the judge will tell you the same thing i just did. that you are under the rule of your parents. and if you wanted to leave you would just be put back into the hands of your grandparents or into an orphan home. :(

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i really really like this guy, he gives me just the right amount of attention, but then takes it away by not texting me back or saying he'll message me and then not doing it. he seemed interested in me but then i can't tell anymore. he talks to other girls, too but he talks to me at school in between classes. is there anyway to tell if he likes me? i don't want to ask him cuz i don't want to weird him out. he is kind of lazy and doesn't really make an effort, but i don't know if that's just how he is. if he doesn't like me though, then i don't wanna just be wasting my time. i noticed that he touched my arm when we talked sometimes but i haven't noticed it lately. soemtimes he is quiet and i can't hear him which makes me think maybe he's nervous. but i donno.. help me!

as much as it SUCKS. there is no way you can figure out if he likes you unless you find out by asking him or having someone to ask him for you. you said you don't want to waste your time if he doesn't like you. well if you don't tell him you like him you WILL be wasting your time unless he would come clean and tell you that he likes you then you could do the same. i think you should let him know how you feel and ask him how he feels. and if he doesn't feel the same you didn't weird him out. you just maybe took him by surprize but looking at everything you told me i think that he might kind of get the hint that you like him. the reason why you can't tell if he likes you or not is because guys give mixed signals. hope this helpeddd and sorry i couldn't straight out tell you if he liked you or not :(

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he's always been an assertive charming guy, texting me or calling me or iming me first, and making plans.

currently he's going through a tough time. he lost a lot of his friends and seems to be antisocial at this time.

occasionally he will come online to talk to me for an hour or possibly hours, and he'll always ask why it is we don't hang out because he really liked me. though, i'll text him and he'll respond in very short sentences that sound closed off and borderline rude. i'll ask if he wants to hang out, he won't respond.

he still is always the first to im me, meaning he still wants to talk to me. sometimes he'll send me random text messages after we haven't been talking for an extended period of time, asking how i am, or wishing me a happy new year, or telling me random things about his dream.

i still kind of like him, and have never really gotten over him although i always get over people easily. i'm sick of waiting for him to come around, i'm sick of him ignoring my phone calls but whenever he feels like it he can contact me. i'm sick of that, i'm sick of the mixed messages. if he really wants to be friends like he says he does, then why doesn't he follow through with plans? he always either doesn't respond or says i don't know now, i'll call you...

this last time i called he would've had no excuse not to respond, like last time he said he didnt get the message, but this time his phone was turned on. i left a short message asking him to call me back, but he hasn't.

he'll come online in a couple of days and pretend nothing happened, still being like, i wonder why i never see you.

what should i do, should i confront him (what do i say, without making it seem like i care too much?) or do i ignore him from now on?

HELP!

i don't think he know's what he wants and he is confuzed. because he's going through a lot and maybe he doesn't want to talk to anyone about it and if he talks to you he'll end up having to say something about it. i think he is scared to talk and that when he comes on line it is easier for him to talk to you there. i think you should confront him and just say 'listen i know you're going through a rough time right now but if you don't want to talk to me when i call just tell me, i'll understand' or something like that. just kind of let him know that your here for him. and that you're nto going to make him talk about it or whateverr. and then just ask him the next time he comes online and ims you why he didn't call you back and you know that there is no beating around the bush and tell him just to tell the truth

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I need new aim screenname ideas I want it to include one of the following any of the below in a way

Kendra
Ken
Kenners
Owusu
Barbie
Ken
44
28
21*
36

Kendrababy x21
Xx KeNnErS 21
WhoSaysKendra x
Barbiexkendra 36
Kennersbarbie xo
Xo Kendra 28 oX

sorry. those were all i could think up :(

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how do you delete places you've been to on the computer? i know bc i have done it b4 but i forgot...thnx a bunch

click on start... then run and a box will come up that says browse. type in cookies (sounds wierd but that's what you do) and then delete all the cookies that show up

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how are you suppose to maintain your "area" down there

im a girl and i don't know if i am ssuppose to shave it all down there or leave a strip or just keep it short. i know this is a personal question but I don't know what I am suppose to do, or what is normal. my friend said it is whatever i want, but what do guys like the most? is it ape-like to have hair down there?

whatever you do just don't let it grow. it really depends on the guy.. various guys like different things. it really just depends on what you want... this is going to sound kind of weird haha but my dad got mad when my mom shaved because he doesn't like that. but my ex-boyfriend liked it shaved and clean.. i would say a majority of guys like it shaved because it's more clean down there hope i helped

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well i just started to talk to a couple of girls who i used to be really close to, and well there was a big blowout so we stopped talking for a while, and im glad that we are all talking again and everything but i know that its going to take a while for us to trust each other... if anybody has any ways that anybody knows of for me to be able to gain their trust of for them to be able to gain mine, please let me know...

DON'T tell them secret until you know that you can trust them. and heres a way.:

-tell someone something that is NOT true and then tell her not to tell anyone. if it gets back to you you will know you can't trust the certain person.
- tell each person something different but remember what it was that you said to each person so you know what girl you can trst and what not :)

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i don`t know how many people watch the girls next door.
but briget has a little black dog.
& i wanted to know if anybody knows what kind it is??

i looked it up and was told that bridgets dog is a pekingese :)

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okkkk so i shaved down below and i got red bumps like razor burn, i used a disposable razor and shaving foam, it didnt get very smooth either and i cant seem to get rid of it all because im scared of going too far close to my genitals and cutting meself or sumthing lol and i tried using mousse aswell but it doesnt work on the hairs that are right near my genitals, what do u think is the best way to shave ? thnaks 4 any advice xx

i agree with runawayxlove.. if you want to shave down there you're going to want the high tech stuff ;] because venus is a great razor brand and it is less likely to cut you than a throw away razor. i think that INTUITION will be PERFECT for what you want to use it for it has soap around it in like a block thing and it works very well and gets things very smooth :)

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Bear with me; this is a several part question.

-Is it morally wrong to give advice about a situation you've never been in? For example, give sex advice if you've never had sex?

-Is it morally wrong to give advice you don't follow, even if the advice is sound? For example, an eating disordered person giving nutrition advice, or a couch potato giving exercise tips? What if this information is provided to correct erroneous information offered by another source?

This is assuming that the advice you give is valid, despite it being contradictory to your actions. I'm interested in seeing what people think.

since i have never had sex but i know a lot about it and i'm 16 i believe that it is okay to give advice about a situation you've never been in it as well. cause a lot of times the people asking questions just want to see your input on things and they just kind of guide you along and let you know the pros and cons of the situation.

i think it's okay for a couch potato excercizing tips i mean if they know what they are talking about i think it should be fine if they have the informations the advicenatee (haha) is looking for i'm sure it's fine :)

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Can breakage of the hymen show signs of having sex?

no a lot of people break it from getting fingered too hard haha

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okay question is it normal for my period which by the way I am on the "pill" to help. anyhow it came yesterday and its like really light not flow but the color is almost clear with a slight red...can anyone tell me what this means? if you need more info just answer saying so and i will add more.

it's fine. the pill is just probably slowing down the flow. :)

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how can i lose an inch or two off my hips by may or june? the earlier the better. Thanks

i know there is that thing that along with a balanced diet if you eat a yogurt a day it takes inches off your waist (hips)

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does anyone happen to know the quote ..
that says something like
let's face it, we've all changed.
& talks about how from summer to school
everyone becomes different
but we'll all be best friends forever?

Let's face it... we've changed. We all changed. Somewhere between summer ending and school starting, we've gone in our own directions. Hearts were broken, friends diminished, new love started and new people came into our lives. We no longer spend all of our time in our circle of friends, we no longer talk for hours about nothing at all. We've changed -- some for the better, some for the worse. Some of us are finding love and others are trying to let go. Even though we've changed, we all know that even though we're all finding our own place in the world, that when we find out love, when we let go of a love, when the tears fall, or the happy smile spreads across our face... we'll come to each other because no matter where this crazy world takes us and no matter what happens, nothing will ever change so much to the point that we're not all friends forever.


hope that's what your looking for

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Ive had sex ONE time.
Is my hymen most likely broken?
But, it didnt hurt at all, maybe for like .1 second.
Ive been fingered many times though
Just wondering!

there is no way if you had sex it's not broken so i'm almost possitive yes.

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What is douched?

a douche is what a lot of women use to clean out their vagina.. and douched is the action (verb) of cleaning it out

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I'm not sure if this is a sex question or not, but I'm asking anyways. >_<

When I think about certain things (fantasies I guess), white stuff ends up in my panites. Sometimes, it jsut happenes for no reason. There's is usually some in there every day for whatever reason. It's been happening for years and I'm starting to wonder if it's normal for not. Is in the same thing as "cum"? Sorry, I'm not very educated in the sex category.

By the way, I'm 15/F

i know it's kind of annoying. but it's called discharge. and it's nicknamed 'snail tracks' but every girl gets it when they start there period and even a little time before that

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so yesterday my friend called me up and asked me if i ever had a blood clot the size of a nailpolish bottle come out during my period. i told her no . she said that it had tenticle looking things like a baby octopus. she thinks it might've been a miscarraige .. is this what it is? if you know anything i'll apprichiate it very much.

my mom had a miscarraige and she said it was exactly like that except hers came out while going to the bathroom. make sure she calls the doctor because if it is not a miscarraige it could be something else very dangerous

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I don't know if my boyfriend is controlling. He wants to know where I am and who I'm with at all times. He says he loves me all the time and he wants to get married when I turn 18. I'm just about to turn 17. He wants all my time and he calls me a million times a day and expects me to spend all my free time with him. I don't think hes controlling, but I'm not sure. I love him though. How can I tell?? Is there any certain way?? Please help me figure this out.

controlling would be telling you that you can't go somewhere. or hang out with someone etc. he's not controlling. :) he just wants to make sure you are safe

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