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dont know where i belong.
okay so this might be very long and im sorry but i need some other peoples opinions on this.
so i used to live with my grandmother. for 13yrs then i moved in with my mom and dad only a few months ago and my school work was getting better but now i feel in the same situation as i dont feel like getting up to go or just cant be bothered trying anymore. my mom is ALWAYS at work and when she does finally come home she sits and does MORE work. its not that she has to because he job only requires her to work untill 6pm. my dad isnt working and hes hard to talk to everything is a joke to him and if you have an issue you can deal with it yourself cause its all in your head supposedly which yeah on some things i can agree but a lot of times i just wanna talk. im not allowed to go places therefore i dont have many friends I DO though have a long distance relationship and he makes me extreemly happy whenn ever i talk to him which is usually for the most part of the day after school till some1 has to eat dinner then on the phone again till bedtime or whenever we fall asleep on the phone. he has helped me with so many problems and i help him when hes down too but its not all helping we have an awesome time laughing and making jokes and just stupid stuff that no1 else would think is funny but were weird together so its good for us. :) yea so mostly im in my room from when i get home from school till when its time to go back (except for bathroom and to eat dinner and stuff) and im always sitting by myself and eating dinner and my mom is at work of course and my dad well if he eats in the same room as me,im just not used to talking to him so its weird and he doesnt make any effort to start a convo. i used to try to wait for my mom to get home for dinner but by that time i would have to be almost ready to get myself to bed in order to even try to wake up and go to school. my boyfriend (long dist thing.) of almost seven months now came so visit me with his mom and his grandmom and his brother and his mom and grandmom treated me like so nice! and they gave me a hug and stuff and i almost wanted to cry cause i never get that and his mom loves me and stuff and thats hard to get his mom to approve of any girl for her sons :) anyways i have a therapist and i was talking to her about all this and she thinks it would be good that maybe on school breaks i could get away from everything and go see him and his family and stuff which i would love because sometimes thats all i want is to just get away. ya know and be happy, but my mom wont even let me to the mall with friends cause shes "overprotective" and i dont see why because shes never there. and alex (my bf) and i were talking about all this and he thinks id be wayy better off if i was there with him and his family hes 16 and im 14 btw. but i know my momwould never let me because she thinks ill im gonna do or want is sex or something but im not i just want to be happy i hate feeling alone all the time it sucks. so like does anyone else think it would be a good idea or do you think im being selfish or anything because i dont want to be like that. also i think if i was able to move there i'd be eating better for one thing and my school work would improve tons cause id have some1 there to motivate me and everything and plus his mom is way nice to me and shes fine if i ever wanted to or could do that. but i just dont know. so if anyone knows anyway that i could make it possible cause arent i being sort of neglected? if my theapist person knew all this stuff wouldnt she like be able to let me go there or something?!? ahh im just, i dont know. i need help.
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thanks a lot if you ever get to the end of reading that sorry it was so long.
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Well sweetie, you have one crazy life let me tell you. Life is too short to stay upset and not have fun. I think that your parents are being really unreasonable. They either need to pay way more attention to you and trust that you can go hang out with your friends, or they need to let you go with your boyfriend. He sounds like such a nice guy. If he and his family is what makes you happy and what you want in your life, I think this is what you need to tell your parents. Be honest wih them, because they at the least deserve to know how you feel. I also think if they don't let you go, you should have your boyfriends mom call and talk to them. Either her or your theorpist. Something needs to change babe, You don't deserve this. If you you need anymore help, or have any other questions, please ask me. I would love to help somone as sweet as you. XOXO
Love Meggs
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You defintley deserve more attention from your parents but obviously thats not working out for you. Maybe you should sit down with your mum and explain this to her. Tell her you would be happy living with your boyfriend and it would improve your work and make sure you expain that you just want to be near someone who loves you and gives you attention. Im glad you have someone in your life that makes you happy seeing as your family doesnt realli help. My friends mum never lets her out as well and she hates it but her overprotective-ness is just because she cares about you alot and doesn't want anything to happen to you. If your mum has a day off work try to spend sometime with her, like go shopping. If your mum won't let you stay at your boyfriends you could try and negotiate if you could spend weekend there or something. If that still doesn't work, dont do something like run away. In a couple of years you'll be old enough to move out on your own. Sorry if i couldnt help you but i hope everything works out ok for you =] Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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wow girl that was extremelyyy long! haha but anywayy. sadly she's not going to be able to help you get to go live there because you are under the rule of your parents and she has no say in where you live. since you are under the age of 18 your parents are who pretty much control you. what i think you should relaly do is talk to your mom about how you feel neglected and that you want parents not 2 people that don't give two things about you. also tell her you want a social life and let you go have some fun with some friends from school. i dont' know what else to tell you because you would have to take it to court and the judge will tell you the same thing i just did. that you are under the rule of your parents. and if you wanted to leave you would just be put back into the hands of your grandparents or into an orphan home. :(
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