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theres this guy that I really really like. He's kind of out of my league though. I'm in seventh grade and he is in eight. My friends and I are sort of the popular seventh graders(not trying to sound coinceited) and him and his friends are the popular eight graders. The thing is, at my school, the eight graders think that they are soooo aabove seventh graders, so i dont think he would go out with me but i dont know maybe he would. So I'm gonna tell you about the times we've talked and tell me if he seems interested or not. The first time I talked to him was the first day of school and he was the one who started the conversation. He asked me what grade I was in and when I told him seventh he asked me what school I used to go to and I told him and then he he leaned against the wall I was leaning against. And once I was at this party and he was there and my friends and his friends were all sitting on this wall thing and the police were coming and he walked over to me and asked me if I was drunk or high and when I said no he sat down next to me, but we didn't really talk after that. then at the same party he asked me if the parents were there and I was like yea but they dont care if we drink or smoke and he was like oh ok and then walked away. and the third time he came up to me and told me that this guy liked me and I was like oh ok and then the guy came and said it wasnt true nd then he told me that he had just been kidding and i laughed and he laughed too and yea thats it. so what does it sound like? is he interested? should i try to make him interested? or should I just forget about him? (link)
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Here it is: if you're interested, ask him out. It is either that or you can continue to suffer the stress of, "does he like me or not?" Even if he rejects you (pretty doubtful) at least you will have a clear final answer and can move on.
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So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half, and lately he's been poking other girls over Facebook. He knows that this upsets me, but he continues to do it anyways saying "it's no big deal, it's just poking". I see poking as a way of him flirting and giving other girls attention, am I crazy? Or is it wrong for him to be poking other girls? Especially when he knows it upsets me (link)
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Where I come from, "poking" (not to be confused with "porking") means doing a chick. The guy is either on his way to checking out of the relationship or he is insecure about how attractive he is and wants more female attention to bolster his ego. He is totally disrespecting you and, to be frank, that you allow him to walk all over your feelings like that makes you look needy and kinda doormat-like. Tell him to take a hike.
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18/f. We ended up dating for several months and I broke it off about 6 months ago but we've been friends for about 1 year and a half. I was the one to end things with him because he was lying to me over and over again (about him and his ex and other important things) we stopped talking for a couple of months until one day he called me out of the blue. we tried talking things out but it didn't work so we agreed to being friends. He ended up transferring to my school and I see him every weekday. From the first day I seen him after the break up to a couple of weeks ago I would get irritated with everything he did, the way he talked, the way he looked at me, the way he talked. he used to tell me i wasn't "allowed to talk to other guys" and I started detaching myself from him. We're friends now and we talk every once in a while but for the past week or so, every time I'm not with him I miss everything about him. I miss just having him around me or simply hearing his voice and I'm not sure why. I know I do not want to go out with him because there's too much baggage but why all of a sudden do i miss him? how can i stop myself from missing him? I've tried distracting myself and keeping busy but no matter what I'm doing his always on the back of my mind and it's really starting to bother me. Have any of you ever felt this way towards an ex? how did you guys deal with it? (link)
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Get away from this guy. One should ever be friends with liars, let alone lovers.
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Ok so I'm playing piano at my chorus concert. I'm playing imagine by John lennon and its the finale so it's got to end it a big bang. I'm technaclly composing it as my teacher says. I'm playing for over 2,000 people (parents, family, friends, the adminestration) I need help on makin it one of the best best performances of any chorus concert at my town. Need ideas (link)
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The best things to do is to know the piece so well you can play it in your sleep and then just relax. Unless you guys have pyro and some other fancy effects, the only thing you can do is give a sincere interpretation of the tune and let people make of it what they will. Don't force it because then you run the risk of looking like a douche. There is nothing worse than watching someone try too hard on stage.
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So my boyfriend and I are creepin' up on our 6 month anniversary and Christmas is coming up as well. He is really hard to shop for, everything he needs/wants he gets himself or already has. I am clueless and need suggestions quick! (link)
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Get him an Amazon gift certificate. They sell just about everything under the sun. That's what I tell my family when they ask what I want.
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ok, me and this guy have been talking for about a month and we have kissed a couple of times. He sometimes calls me and we talk a lot on facebook. One day i told him that i liked him but he said he is not ready to be in a relationship because of the things that he sees happening to people, and he doesnt knw when he will be ready. I want to convince him and re-assure him that i will make him happy and i would never hurt him or anythng like that.
Im 17 and he is 21. (link)
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Actually, the guy is right. Both of you should be in the exploratory phase of life and not be in such a hurry to get tied down. Your brain will keep developing until age 25, so your sensibilities are still evolving, as are his. So date around, get some life experience under your belt and then somewhere down the line you will have a much better fix on specifically what you want out of a mate.
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I'm 14, 5'2& a half and I weigh 118 pounds. From my weiste and up is skinny but my thighs and butt are big. Everyone says I have a "nice butt" cause it's kind of big. I hate it. I wish I was like the other girls in my grade. Skinny. How can I lose weight? I wanna get to like 100 pounds. What can I do, to exercise or eat to lose the weight as quickly as possible? Please help me. Thank you. :) (link)
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Chill out. Your weight is fine for your height. Also, your fat distribution is controlled genetically. Losing weight is unlikely to change it. As you get older, your body shape will change and things often even out a lot more. So stay at your current weight and just let nature take its course. Besides, women are supposed to be soft. Relax. You're fine.
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Im 20/male and Im a virgin. I have had 4 girlfriends. My first one was when I was 16 and she was abstinent, we broke up because she said she liked another guy. My second one I met irl but she moved away so we were long distance and never were able to be together in real life, we broke up because the distance was too hard even though we were deeply in love. My third one was a abstinent as well, but she would grind on me alot and I would finger her, we broke up because her parents didnt like that I wasnt white. My fourth gf would grind on me alot and I would go down on her and finger her and gave her hundreds of orgasms(literally), but she said she wanted to wait till college to have sex, and she chose to go to college across country after dating me for a year. I havent even talked to a girl in over a year, nevermind touched one. My sex drive is now insanely low for a young male, and I maybe think about it once or twice a day and only masturbate once a week probably. I dont know how to get out of this current predicament... (link)
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The reason you're having trouble getting with another girl is that you are so desperate to get your dick wet that the girls can sense that neediness in you. That is a major turn off. My advice: relax and just let things happen in their own time. Like yourself and have the attitude that if someone wants to hitch their wagon to you, great, if not, no big deal.
As for sex drive, that can come and go. Don't overthink it. You'll be fine as long as you just relax and don't try so damned hard.
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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks (link)
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I've slept with a subordinate before (we were boyfriend and girlfriend). But when we broke up it made things weird and so I vowed to never mix work and sex after that.
The danger for you is that if you get promoted some of your coworkers are going to think you slept your way into advancement. So approach this issue very carefully.
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My bf is coming over tomarrow and just a while ago he asked me if we could have sex i was gonna hang up but then i startled and said yes! He got happy and said he loves me and wont try to hurt me then he said he was coming over tomarrow! should i trust him ? Should i have sex with him? Im a 13 yr old girl and my bf is 16...and plz no hurtful words i just need advice! :3 thnxs (link)
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You're not emotionally ready for sex at your age. Just tell him that you panicked when he asked you that question and you're having second thoughts. Just remember that it is your life and only you can live it. And when the shit hits the fan your onetime friends will scatter. So do what is right for you and don't allow yourself to be sabotaged or used by others.
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Okay.. I am a Corporal in the USMC and I am currently over in Afghanistan serving!!! She is 19 and I am 20... I love her as if she is my whole world!!! We have two kids and two dogs!! I just need to know how to not make her worry every time I call her back home!!! I call her as much as I can!! But I don't want to make her worry about me while we are talking on the phone and Web cam chatting!! Could you give me some tips on how not to make her worry about me too much??? (link)
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The situation you're in is going to cause a certain amount of anxiety. There isn't anything you can do about it. Just try to keep the conversation focused on light things and on her. Instead of saying, "don't worry about me, baby," go ahead and ask her to specifically outline what it is she's worried about and then recapitulate what she said but in your own words. Once she has had a chance to vent about it and gets the impression you understand her feelings then the better she'll feel.
Good luck.
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how do you know when a guys wants to kiss? (link)
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When you want to. Just go for it. He won't turn you down. Kissing rocks!
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So, there's a guy that I've liked for a long time. Since about a week ago last friday, I've had butterflies not only seeing him, but THINKING about him! Is this...normal, or...does this mean anything? (link)
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This is really, really common. It only means you are in love with him. This feeling, by the way, will wear off a few months into your relationship. So since you're interested in him, ask him out!
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Hey all, 24f here, my boyfriend is 23.
This is such a weird question for me to ask, but why not?
We haven't been together too long (a few months), but we've known each other for almost 10 years, so there's a lot of history and a lot of trust. Being that there's a lot of trust/openness and honesty, we've started talking about fulfilling sexual fantasies. I'm still trying to figure out what mine are, having never had the chance to explore that, but one of his is, as most guys, to have a threesome with another girl.
He wants me to pick the girl so it's someone I'm comfortable with. I tried to be open to a couple of his ideas, but when it came down to it I was uncomfortable, and told him so. So, it's on me.
I've actually talked to a couple of my girl friends about this, but one of them is on a different continent for who knows how long, and another is currently in a relationship, though she's not happy... Don't worry, I'd never encourage someone to cheat on their significant other.
I really actually WANT to do this with my boyfriend. My only stipulations were "she has to be clean and tested."
I'm just kind of wondering, has anyone had experience with this kind of stuff? Has anyone successfully had a threesome and had a good experience? Bad experience? How did you initiate? How did you set it all up? That kinda stuff. I need ideas. I've never done this before...
Thanks for your feedback! (link)
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There is no obligation for you to follow through on your boyfriend's fantasies. And generally speaking, threesomes, more often than not, lead to the dissolution of the relationship because it is like introducing a new element into the chemistry you have together and causes it to blow up in your face.
Look, I have nothing against threesomes per se and I've been around the block quite a bit, But I'm just telling you what the risk is. You have to know what you're getting into. Threesomes for men tend to be centered around having as much tits and ass on them during a sex session as possible. There isn't any lovemaking involved. It is just sex. Now if you're fine with that then go for it. But if not, it might put a strain on your relationship.
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Ok so I'm 13(no age comments please), and me and my BF have been going out for 3 months. My question is this, how do I give him a boner with out being and/or acting like a slut? And with out touching his actual "package"? Thanks! (link)
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Anything can give a guy your age a boner. I'm a guy, so I know, believe me. Sometimes it just spontaneously happens because of the hormonal changes in young boys bodies. You aren't a slut because there is no such thing anyway in a world where guys who sleep around are considered studs. It thus becomes hypocritical to start guilt tripping women with terms such as "slut" on their sexual habits when guys are permitted by society to make a deposit into any vagina they can find at a given point in time.
So stop unnecessarily calling yourself names. It is totally counterproductive. Relax, don't overthink and keep things simple.
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My roommate and I got along fine at the beginning of the semester, but things got really tense around the time midterms started. She stopped talking to me, and started listening to music really loud all the time. I asked her what was going on with our situation and she first said that I was a "know-it-ass" and that I should clean up my side of the room, and then a couple weeks later complained that she didn't feel comfortable in the room because I had been sleeping in late (I had been sleeping in late due to anxiety/depression). She told me that she wouldn't have agreed to room with me if she had known I had anxiety. She also frequently turns my alarm off in the morning. We've agreed to both try to move out for next semester, but I'm wondering if there's anything I can do in the meantime to make things less stressful. (link)
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Tell whoever administers the dorms at your school that your roommate is engaging in harassment and you want to be moved.
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I had bronchitis for over two weeks, my breathing was getting better until now, my dad was working on the (ancient) house and as soon as I get home, I start coughing, now Its hard to yawn and I can't spit the mucus out anymore, is this going to add another month to my recovery? Can i get bronchitis again? If the stairs kill me tomorrow I'm going to be really pissed off. (link)
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I wonder if your house has a patch of black mold (many older homes do), which can cause a variety of symptoms that could be mistaken for bronchitis or a variety of other maladies.
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I am 19 and I've dated 2 guys. Technically, just one because the second didn't last very long. My first boyfriend I was very close to. We had problems but we were very fond of each other, went out for almost a year. I was 18 when we were together. When it comes to dating, I don't want to just date around for the fun of it, I want to pick someone worth being with, worth actually having a future with. The problem is, I don't really know guys like that. Also, the problem is that I'm not going to just date anybody. Religion and culture is very important to me because I was raised in such a family. It is of importance to me, so don't think it's not. I find myself attractive to guys of my same culture and religion as well, because it plays such a huge role in my life. The thing is with the guy I dated, he is of a family that holds my religion and culture, but he's not religious. Also, I am going off to either grad school or med school. I would like to be with someone of that educational standard. I mean, it's only fair to him and to me. These are just preferences, but I don't want to be the girl who has the secret love affair with the mailman, if you know what I mean. My first ex wants to go off to the airforce, and I am not holding him against it. My question is basically, should I hold on to him and forsake what I want in a guy? Or should I wait and further progress my life in the direction I want it to go in and then worry about finding the right guy? I am also not the kind of girl who has guys hitting on her all the time, so it's not easy for me to put myself out there. What should I do? (link)
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There is a book I want you to read:
"Escape from Freedom" by Erich Fromme.
You are basically voluntarily imprisoning yourself inside of a cage created by your religion and culture, which greatly limits your possibilities in life. Moreover, it fosters an "us against them" mindset that causes things like wars and terrorism. And the primary motivation for you being so xenophobic/ethnocentric is fear.
Listen kiddo, there are seven billion people in this world, each with his/her own sensibility, and everything is becoming increasingly globalized. Those who can't or refuse to adapt to diversity are going to be in for a rough ride down the line.
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Hi.
I'm 13 and male. I am so different from all of my peers and most of them make fun of me. Today i found a typo in a book which we were reading and i pointed it put to a person iny group and she said tht is why people don't like me. How do i fix all of this and be accepted? Again, i'm vry different. I overuse the dictionary and listen to classical music. Plr
Please help! Ron777 (link)
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Here's what is going on, dude:
kids your age are really insecure and so they are very susceptible to herd behavior. And part of accepting the ethos of the herd is to be part of the punishment mechanism for that group of conformists. When you get a little older, read Erich Fromme's "Escape from Freedom."
Look, the only person you can be is yourself. You can't allow others to dictate who you are or you will end up one neurotic SOB. I was a brainy kid in school. In some areas of the country that is a problem to other people, in others not so much. I even had one of my bosses tell me that he brought a dictionary to work so that he could look up some of the words I used and this was a very intelligent dude with a college degree.
Yes, everybody wants to be liked because there is a certain security in being a member of the herd. But it is also people who see things a little differently that make this society progress. Look at Einstein: total social and academic loser for the early part of his life. Therefore, the proper attitude to take is, "well, this is what I am, if you want to hitch your wagon to it, great, but if not, your loss."
And by the way, things get a shitload better when you go to college. So don't get depressed because anything that happens before college DOES NOT COUNT FOR CRAP! Take that to heart and get on with your personal agenda.
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I'm 19/f and i have a pretty good sex life. I don't finger myself though is that weird or uncommon? I'm just kind of creeped out by vaginas and id rather not touch it haha does anyone else have this problem? (link)
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Different strokes for different folks. I'm a guy and think vaginas are beautiful, but everyone has their own sensibility. Do what you're comfortable with and stop worry about the opinions of others. It's your life and you're the only one who can live it.
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