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okay so i do gymnastics and i really feel like a complete failure at it and at other things. i feel like people are laughing at me or are gonna when i try to go for skills and mess up or i feel like when i try to dance (because im not great at it) people just think its a joke and it really hurts and is depressing me. i feel like all my friends can do everything better then me and i dont know what to do anymore. please give me some helpful advice. im not looking for sympathy.

do something you're passionate about and you can't go wrong. I just started taking guitar lessons and I know it will take me a while to be able to actually play a song, but that won't keep me from putting forth all my effort. Commit your heart to your actions and nothing else (especially other people's opinions) will matter.

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Has anyone ever used a pedegg before?? If so, I was wondering if it actually works. You know, if it would make you feet nice, smooth, and soft instead of other products like it that make your feet scratchy and hard.

I bought it last week and don't really care for it. My feet aren't ummmm...misused lol so they didn't need it, anyhow...but my friend who constantly walks around streets barefoot gets a lot of use out of it...so only buy it if your feet are really tough.

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Are you happy?

At this particular moment no...just because I woke up later than usual this morning and it made me disoriented, but lately...yes, I've been very excited with the direction my life is taking. (college...guitar lessons...figuring out who I am) It's all left me very fulfilled.

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I'm in 8th grade and I heard a lot of stuff 'bout high school. I heard about cliques (which kinda scared me) and about the work gettin harder and gettin more of it (more school work, that's impossible). So I need some trues or fakes. Are there the cliques? Is the work harder? Is there more work? Will it all be worth it? Am I gonna lose my mind on the first day? (please don't awnser that last one). Ok, 1 more question. What will high school really be like? I fu can help, then thnx. If not, then thnx anyway. Laters!

It took me till my senior year (now) to figure this out, but it'll be the best experience of your life. I wouldn't say I'm the most involved student in school, but I'm in Chorus, Musical Theatre and Yearbook, so it's helped me make friends with all kinds of people. You'll find out who's fake through time...if you feel like you're being taken advantage of then cut ties with that person...live for yourself!

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Hello Everyone. I know this is kind of late notice but please help me. My boyfriends birthday is Tomorrow! and I don't have anything planned. I brought him a gift but I just realizd that tomorrow will be his first birthday without his family and close friends because everyone will be back home. I asked him if it was anything special he wanted to do and he said whatever I had plannd but... ugh thats nothing as of now. Please help me. Any advice will be better than none. Thank you.

the sweetest thing you could do is order chinese take out and eat it back at the house by candle light.
it would also be really cute if you guys ate on cushions and tried to eat with chopsticks.

&&& play some asian music in the background!

then for fun, talk about some quotes you would love to put into a fortune cookie, it's random....but what the hey! lol

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What's the word that means like you're about to do something but you get caught up in talking to someone or something? Not procrastinating, I think it might start with an H? I don't remember.

pre-occupied seems to fit.

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I would like to learn french. where i went to school, French was a maditory class until grade 10. My marks were not very good but I would still like to learn on my own and teach myself for various reasons. I am just not sure where to start. Any suggestions?? How do you think i should start? what books do you suggest?

Go to this site:
http://www.classzone.com/cz/books/french_1/get_resource.htm?ci=1&rg=online_review&at=flashcards&aid=2

there are flashcards and if you press "play" they will pronounce the word for you. Just click on the card to see what the English translation is.

-This is a great way to learn vocabulary.

To change chapters (units) just click on the links to the left of the screen.

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i need some things to do to drive my step sister insane. like pranks or just things to say. it has to be good stuff too and that i wont get caught doing it and it cant come back to say i did it! i just want to drive her crazy and so she will move out!

thanks :)

take an oreo cookie...
remove the icing & replace it with toothpaste!
it's hilarious!

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what is the most meaningful thing anyone has ever said to you when you were at such a low point in you're life? i would really love to know what people say to others, something that they will keep with them forever. any advice that helped you get through some rough times, because right now i'm going through really hard times.

Somebody once told me "don't doubt yourself"...
think it through and it'll make you feel a lot more comfortable with yourself!
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17/f

QUESTION: What qualities does the ideal person possess?

To some extent, I am a perfectionist; however, every improvement to myself or my life is something that I celebrate. I enjoy constantly challenging myself to be better. Right now I am facing several tough social situations which may leave me with a lot of 'free time.' I would like to put this time to good use by working on myself. Thanks in advance, I appreciate your insight!

I am open to suggestions in any area (ie. career, appearance, personality, relationships, intelligence, self-awareness).

I like to do really random stuff like:
learning the ABC's backwards
or
typing with your fingers on the correct keys (I still can't do that) lol
even learn the state capitals.
start with those.
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I was on msn to this girl yesterday, and she is not bad, she is quite nice to me but she had her mate round who doesnt like me and i dont no what i have done. I am really scared because she sits next to me in my german lesson, and we sometimes get told to do partner work with each other and that is really hard to do. So i said to my friend hannah hey. she replyed hey. and i said, so wuu2? going out tonoght? and hannah replyed, no i have a friend round. so i said oh heather? and hannah said yer. so i said hi heather. and hannah said heather said bye. they were on webcam and i could only see my friend hannah. then all of a sudden, they both started to type random letters like dfjgbiabgiaeubgabu so i said haha lol you two! reatarded heather! haha- im only joking heather. because( i was actuallly scared what they would do next and i didint no what to say so i said that) and then heather came on webcam and typed things to me like, no-one likes you so go home and play with mummy! if you call me retarded, then we can have a fight about thisat school ok? so i said i was joking heather. and i dont want to fight with you because that is pathetic.!!

i dont think i can stick up 4 myself very well. it seems to cause more trouble :'( please help someone!!! im really scared of heather!! :(

I've been there. Honestly, she will forget by tomorrow.
She just said all this stuff because it's easy to make threats through a computer screen.
Chances are, she's not going to make a public scene about what happened.
just keep your cool =]

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This year, being my freshman year in highschool, I decided to completely stay away from drama and what not. Of course, I some how got sucked in and spit out, losing my best friend and my personality in the process. It's not that I don't know who I am, it's just that life is so dull, I don't know what to do. I'm not making any new friends, I'm not interested in anyone, I'm just sitting here waiting for something exciting to happen. I used to be the person to cause the excitement. I feel so dull. I guess I'm just sort of thinking a lot. I read "The Last Lecture" the other day, and I guess, corny as it sounds, it go me thinking about life itself. Maybe I'm just spending to much social time in my head? It's just awkward around people now. I feel like I'm losing my friends because of this. I don't know how to snap out of this trance. It's not like it's always like this. I was grounded a few weeks ago for about 2 months from my comoputer, phone, and ipod, and I found that I'm much happier without these material items, but now that i'm ungrounded, I've gone back to being addicted to all of my things. I guess I just want to know what's causing this dullness inside of me...I feel like something really big is going to happen in my life soon but I'm not sure what it is or even if it will, so I'm waiting? I just don't see the point of life anymore (not in a suicidal way). Please help me snap out of this trance.

Here's the problem: you have too much down time.

I just overcame this problem, so here's my input...find an activity that you can really contribute to. Anything that requires responsibility and your time will work out just fine. You learn more about yourself through experience and not just sitting in one spot thinking about every detail of your life. Believe me, just participate.

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Okay, dont ask why but I need the dirtiest song you have ever heard of.
Name and Singer both would be helpfull

Thanks

Candy-by the Pack.
It's also very funny!

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I've been looking for months and I cant find this. People take normal pictures and add this affect to them that's like rainbow/hippieish/acid you know. I think its just some website they do it on. Please help me find it. It looks like this:

http://i76.photobucket.com/albums/j4/carysfaerie/trippy.gif

yes. go to www.lunapic.com
once you have uploaded your picture...
a tab at the top will say "animation"
click the "groovy color" tab underneath it and you're good!
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i luv the show made on mtv. and my friend wants me to help her get a date and help her confidence. were both 16/female. if any of you have any ideas on what 'challenges' i can give her to help her i'd appreicatie it =]

1. have her wear something bright and obnoxious, but with style..it'd make a lot of sense if she did this in public...do this one with her so she won't feel as strange.

2. make her pay compliments to at least three guys within the mall.

3. when she goes to a place to eat...she should ask a male worker what they would reccommend.

those are all I can think of, good luck!

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I was raised Catholic and attended a private Catholic school from Pre-K through my senior year of high school. I just graduated in May.

Despite my Catholic upbringing, I am largely agnostic. I find Christians to be largely (though not completely) a hypocritical bunch crippled by Earthly desires. It pains me to watch churches around my hometown make multi-million dollar renovations, when that extreme sum of money could be used to benefit the poor of the world.

My biggest struggle: Christians will tell you that faith alone will save you. You need to have faith. Blahblahblah.
What if I CANNOT bring myself to believe? I have explored Christianity till I'm blue in the face. I am an intelligent, college-bound free-thinker and at this point in my life, I can't believe in God. If I were born with a less rebellious, more accepting nature, there is a good possibility that I would not have rebelled or questioned my religious upbringing and would still be Christian today.

What am I supposed to do? Pretend? I can go to church, read the Bible, pray yet I am unable to bring myself to believe in something I truly know does not exist.

If God gave me this personality, would he really damn a person to hell for being unable to believe because it went against their nature and conscience?

You're very lucky.

Maybe you don't need religion to lead you. You're a leader yourself. You can't force yourself into believing something that will cause you to feel discontented.

live your life. don't label your values...just say they come from experience rather than the bible.

I hope I was helpful!

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im going back to school in a couple of days and im gonig to be wearing the same clothes i wore last year. im really worried cuhz people care about that kind of stuff. and i can only afford a couple of jeans and a few shirts. i also only get about 200 dollars a month, but that's not just for clothes, it's for everything, my parents don't give me additional money. i really wish we could wear uniforms so i wouldnt have to worry about this. ive been trying to get a job so please don't tell me i should do that, my towns population is a million and jobs are scarce. ive been spending about 5-10 dollars on shirts, and 10-20 on pants. is there anywhere that could be cheaper? also if you're in the same situation, please tell me how you deal with this. haha, im dirt poor :/

Seriously, go to yard sales. They may also be called "garage sales". You can get someone's used or maybe even unused clothes for about a dollar a piece! It's astonishing, really.

...so the person who suggested you steal gets a 5. brilliant?

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how cn u tell if ur horny or not

If you convince youself that you'd do something sexual with someone, but normally you know you wouldn't do that kind of stuff...you are probably just aroused.

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I really need babysitting jobs but i don't know anyone who has little kids. how should i get more people to ask me to babysit? i have red cross training. help me please! 14/f

Go to a website called www.craigslist.com
There are people posting ads saying that they need a babysitter or you can even post one of your own to let others know that you're available. You can search by area which makes it easier. Just get some help from an adult because it's important to stay safe!
Good luck!

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