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ok i have this problem where i like to masturbate i only do it like 4 times a week but i want some tips like what is good to use and what feels the best...i dont want to go out and buy a sex toy by the way (link)
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As you have learned by now we can't provide tips or how to information about sex and sexuality here. At your age you wouldn't be able to purchase adult novelty items as they only sell those to people 18+ Also, what feels best or pleasurable for one girl won't for another.
Our bodies all respond differently. The best thing you can do is continue to explore and learn what sensations you enjoy. That's about all anyone can tell you regarding this question.
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hey so i really like this guy and we have been flirting for a couple months now and nothings really happening, so I decided im going to tell him how I feel.So I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how I should tell him. We sit next to each other is one of my classes and his locker is near mine. Oh and I want to do this in person, no AIM, txt,or stuff like that. thanks in advance for your help! (link)
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Tell him that you've noticed that you both have been flirting with one another and that nothing's happened since. Tell him you're interested in a relationship if he is or at least trying dating. That's all you have to tell him. No need to make this complicated as the dialogue and conversation will develop from you having said this.
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my boyfriend wants to dance with me at my sweet 16. i dont know how or what to do. my party is in less than 2 weeks! what should i do. any tips on how to dance like people do in like clubs & slow dancing? (link)
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Consult your mother first of all or an older female you trust and tell them he wants to dance with you but you can't dance (yet).
They should be able to at the very least slow dance. As for the fast stuff talk to your friends and watch what they do. If you have an older sister, relative, friend's mom etc. talk to them about it as I'm sure they can help you learn.
The other option is to be honest with him and tell him that you would love to dance but never learned. You both might have a better time and more fun if he taught you. There's nothing embarrassing about not knowing how to dance.
We all have to learn sometime. It seems as though you have a supportive group of people around you so it shouldn't be difficult or an area where they would pass judgment. Hell, Phil Collins made millions with GENESIS off the fact he couldn't dance. If you don't learn how to dance there could still be a financial windfall ;)
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ok
lets make this short.
my best friends bf likes me.
he has liked me before and they broke up.
and now they are back together,
i dont want them to break because of me again
what should i do?
how do i get im to stop liking me?
thanks for the help (link)
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You don't and you can't. You have no control over whether he likes you or not. What you do have control over is telling him that you only want to be friends and aren't interested in anything else.
If you tell him this there's no way anyone can get hurt and he as well as she knows where you stand. You also can't control if they break up or over what even if it is you. But I think if you let him know you're no longer interested and have your eye on someone else that will tell him all he needs to know.
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Ok, so here's my situation. One of my friends and I have been fooling around for a while now (about 5 months now). She's fully able to have sex and all that, but the problem is that she wont relax enough or let herself go enough to actually have an orgasm. She's been like this all her life. I can get her close, but when it starts to get too close I guess she realizes the situation and either A) loses the feeling, or if she's really close B) Pulls off me. It's not intentional that she does this, her body just convulses because of the shock and ends up with no climax. So far we've tried a few things. I'm getting her to do kegal excersizes, and we've gotten muscle relaxants (the muscle relaxants actually worked really well considering she had her period at the time, but her legs gave out and she fell down >_>). Anyways, any advice would be appreciated. I'm starting to run out of ideas and I know that the longer it takes for her to have an orgasm the harder it gets overall for her to actually have one. Plus I just feel bad when she doesn't get to finish.
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In most cases when someone has this problem it's never physical. Usually, this has to do with something psychological or a fear be it rational or not associated with climaxing.
In some cases it may be related to childhood sexual abuse or being sexually assaulted. In others it could be as simple as fearing losing control of one's body or perhaps it's a fear of pain. Maybe she fears adults (her parents or yours) or even roommates will hear her or walk in. Some women may fear it's messy (G-spot) or fear what you'll think of them and their reaction.
You need to ask her if there's anything at all she's afraid of when it comes to sex and just letting go. Then once you figure out what her fear may be you can work on it together. Let her know you're there for her and there's no pressure and she can trust you to let go. See if it's mental first of all before looking strictly at physical causes.
I would suspect if she can reach orgasm on her own through masturbating that it's not a physical problem when it comes to inability to orgasm. If she can do that than it means she definitely has the ability to be able to from my perception.
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im writing a thank you card to my cousin and his girlfriend. they got me these earrings (they are college kids so it wasnt anything AMAZING)also i wanna thank them for coming to the little party cause it is always nice to see them. i also wanna say that im excited for this summer so we can get together and go on my grandparents boat and go to vermont (where they live) cause we had fun last summer.
i just wanna write it so it doesnt sound corny... (link)
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You just wrote it if you look above. "Thanks for coming to my party and for the gift. It's always nice to see you. I'm excited about this summer so we can get together at our grandparent's on their boat in Vermont because we had a lot of fun last summer.
Beyond that you don't need to say or put anything else unless you want to clutter it up which you don't. They aren't going to be judging your writing anyways. They'll just appreciate the sentiment and proper etiquette in sending them a thank you note.
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well there is this guy i like and he happens to be a good friend of mine.he likes me back but hasnt asked me out.we kissed once because a dare but he wanted to before that so i know its not just because of the dare.he always flirts with me but im not gonna be innocent and say i dont flirt back because trust me i do majorly lol.well i thought at first he didnt want show other people he liked me but today he kinda proved he didnt care infront of 1 his ex 2 who is still his friend and last 3 the girl who has the biggest mouth.i think its a sign but i dont know and i only think it is because he used to NEVER flirt with me infront of other people besides a few so ya.i dont know what to do so what do you think i should do about him?
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Tell him it's stupid to keep trying to ignore the obvious that you both like each other equally. Make it official and become a couple already. That's all it takes really. Take the bull by the horns and tell him you're ready if he isn't. Just do it. Don't think, just do. It will work out perfectly from what I can tell. Otherwise, you're both wasting your time posturing. Somebody has to make a move here.
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For the most part I think I am a pretty good looking guy and I know I am funny and out going and really easy to get along with. There is this girl that I like and we talk and stuff but I want to go a little deeper than talking about sports whitch even though is a turn on but I want to go out with her and it be a little more deeper. I just need to know what I should do for dressing the right way I am fashionable challenged bad. Also what I need to do make her like me. I want to be able to be comfortble around her and be able not to get nervous. Ihave all the qualitys i just dont know how to use them. It makes me mad to see my friends woth there girls and i am on tje sidelines wishing i had a girl to and i really like her to. I need tips to help my dating life a little something. By the way i am 14 and i will be in ninth grade and i have been single for almost 15 years and i want to break the streak (link)
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Just be yourself. It sounds cliched but that's who she likes bad dresser and all. As far as dressing goes ask a girl you know or a female relative or your mother to take you shopping. That's an easy thing to do. If you want to go out with her ask her if she would like to join you and some friends at a party, a movie, bowling etc. etc. See what her response is. If she's not down with the idea then you'll know to move on.
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okay so on april 10 me and my friend cut the last 2 periods of class. i really dont cut but that day we had a sub so i did. i felt really guilty btw for that so i know i will never cutt ever again. and also in the morning i missed 1 class like 2 times becuase i woke up late and i didnt know that was considered cutting. so they sent me a note frm the school my mom read it and shes really angry. i feel so guilty. she said if its true she will ground me for the whole summer! so she said she was going to go to the school and check. i dont know what to do im so scared shes really against cutting. i know i did wrong i learned my lesson im not cutting again i tried to talk to her to tell her that but she wont listen what should i do i think if she finds out it was true shes going to hit me with the belt since shes so old fashioned.
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She can't by law hit you like that ever. That's especially so considering your age. Explain that the first two instances should have been recorded as an absence because you slept in and didn't phone them about it or explain or produce a note.
You can admit you left the other class early and tell her you weren't feeling good unless of course someone saw you at the mall etc. etc. She can't prove that you didn't leave early for that reason or an appointment unless someone can nail you having seen you where you shouldn't have gone.
I believe in honesty though. Tell her that the first two were due to the alarm not going off and that the second was for ditching class. Accept the consequences and see what happens. If you are honest she will respect that and may not be so harsh.
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i have a band teacher that wants to be serious but is always acting like a five year old. I don't like the way he acts. Can you help me? (link)
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Tell your parents about how he/she acts in the classroom and how you think it reflects negatively on him/her, the class and the school and whether other people are uncomfortable in his presence. They can then take it up with the principal, PTA, school board etc. if they see fit.
Don't confront the teacher yourself about their behavior. Nobody will like a kid telling them that they think their teaching is awful or that they are unprofessional. That will make you an enemy right there and you may be treated unfairly or marked unfairly from then on by them.
Let your parents and other adults take care of this concern for you. If the teacher is doing something wrong other adults will come forward after your parents do and the principal and board will monitor the classroom to see if the teacher needs to be removed or not.
If you do this on your own or approach the principal on your own they're liable (as they blame kids/parents for all the problems) to be seen as a brat who has a beef over how they are graded etc. or something like that. With adults bringing up the concern you can bet it won't be swept under the rug easily at least.
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i have recently been self medicating myself and ive been acting very weird like should i jus stop takin all of it completely or wat??Also ive been cutting for 5yrs and ive tried stopping by using my coping skills and everything but my body has been giving up on me.There are times now that when i get mad i feel suicidal and i hear things>>>>HELP (link)
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What you are doing could kill you. You have no idea what having all that medication in you can do. If you are acting "weird" it means you are in crisis or on the verge of one. This is something very stupid and potentially deadly that you have done. The damage here to your health is substantial.
What you need to do and you must not hesitate on this as you should NEVER screw with your health is head to an emergency room. Don't delay, do it immediately.
Tell them what you have taken, why, when and the weird feelings and behavior you have experienced. Mention it's in relation to cutting and that you have been grappling with that unsuccessfully for 5 years. Don't BS them either as a psychiatrist will evaluate you at the hospital and they'll look into what you did with the drugs.
Bottom line you need immediate medical attention and a visit to the ER. You will likely be held 72 hours because you pose a risk to yourself and simply cannot be sent home if you have been self-medicating. They'll determine in that window of time the kind of help you need as this is a mental health issue and what you need from a psychiatrist, counseling etc.
You're quite sick right now whether you can see that or not. Do the right thing and get immediate medical treatment and tell them the truth about what you have been doing and why.
Should you just stop the drugs immediately? That too could have a very bad effect on your health and stability. They at the hospital are the ones who are going to help you get the drugs out of your system and monitor you and you shouldn't do anything at all without seeing them in an emergency room tonight.
You also have to be brutally honest with them at the hospital about your suicidal tendencies, attempts etc. and ABOVE all VOICES in your head. This is a sign of a mental health problem and a dangerous one at that if you're self-medicating and hearing voices on top. This is some pretty dangerous stuff to say the least.
So, go to the emergency room as this indeed an emergency and let them assess you and get you the help you have needed all this time.
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hi well im 16 female and ever since i was little ive wanted to model. my grandmother was a model, my mom was, and now.. well its only natural for me to do it - its my passion, and i used to do alot of pageants and stuff. but im not just one of those girls who thinks its all posing and glam. i know the dark side of it, how hard it is, etc. i have the face & body for it, but my question is.. does anyone know of any place in virginia where i could get my start? im not talking about virginia beach, because i know there are numerous schools and agencies there, but thats pretty far from where i live, and i dont get my liscense for a loong time.. (next year) but i live up in the country, about 2 hours away from D.C. (harrisonburg) but right now my family doesnt really have alot of money, (dad got laid off) so the cheaper the better :) and i cant go to modelscouts.com because i dont have internet, just mobile, & it wont let me. so if anyone could tell me of anyplace around where i live, id be soo grateful :) thanks! (link)
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Forget the dot com place you just told us. It's likely a scam as real agents, casting directors, directors, photographers don't go searching the net looking for the next big thing for movies, TV, modeling gigs, photo shoots etc. That's just not how this industry is run.
Professionals will NEVER cast a model/actor in any kind of gig using the Internet. It's A HUGE scam also with these modeling schools, lessons, courses etc. to get your money and you'll never see a legit gig from it.
This goes double with so-called agents wanting you to spend a ton of money on lessons, their school and putting your picture on the Internet. These people prey off of what you don't know about how the industry really works to rip you off. Same goes for those talent shows advertised in local community papers.
So, how does an attractive gal like yourself become a model or get into the acting business? The safest and best way if in Canada is to log onto ACTRAs web site (their the actor/director's union) and hit their link for reputable agents. In the U.S. you need to go to SAG (Screen Actor's Guild) or phone them to send you a list for your area of reputable agents (a.k.a professionals that operate under the union's guidelines.)
Select a Background Talent Agency from the list of those near you in Virginia. Meet with the agent with your parents present. This agent will be able to find work for you in TV and film being shot near you or in the largest city nearest you. This will help you see whether you like the 18-20 hour film shoots or not as an extra in crowd sequences.
Also check out the agents on the list for Kids/Teens as their the ones until you are 18 at least who can get you the print ads, commercials and modeling gigs. DO NOT hire anyone that SAG or ACTRA hasn't recommended to you directly or on that list. It's bad news otherwise.
Agents NEVER charge you to find you work. Well, not quite true. There's only TWO KINDS that can ever charge you. One is the Background Talent Agent and the other is the Kids/Teen Agencies.
They're allowed under the guidelines of ACTRA and SAG to charge a $60-80 fee PER YEAR because kids, teens and extras just starting easily walk away from everything when they see this is often 18 hour shoots on movies. They flake out.
The other thing you'll need is someone with a car willing to get you to the set and back at all hours of the night in the case of being an extra in film and TV. There's no set hours a shoot can start or end.
Not to brag but rather to illustrate I've been an extra in Hairspray, Man Of The Year (Robin Williams), Dresden Files, Long Kiss Goodnight, Blues Brothers 2000 and more. So yes, you do get a lot of opportunity if you live in a major area or near a major city to work.
Piece of advice once you get an agent check periodically with the Clerk's Office in your town's government and ask if they know of any productions that will be shooting in town and if they've filed permits recently to begin shooting.
If there's a production happening take that info and then ask your agent if they can get you work on it or not. Never approach a production on your own with regards to that. There's a lot of stuff being filmed darn near everywhere these days.
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hey so i have to write an essay for school on the sciene fictional novel Ender's Game.
the question my essay answers is "is imperialism justifyable"
i am saying imperialsi is justifyale when its in order to save the world
can anybody find me quotes (and page numbers) that support my point of view!!!
IT WOULD BE MUCH APPRICIATED!!!!!!! NO IDEA HOW MUCH I WOULD THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I hate to point out the obvious but THAT's YOUR JOB. This is one of the reasons the teacher gave you the assignment. They want to see if you understood the book you read and not us. They want to ensure you come up with your own thesis and find quotations, verse, page numbers to back it up.
We can't do your homework for you nor should you expect it of us. The best thing you can do and you'll thank me later is to re-read the novel over again and approach your teacher about the essay. Get a real sense from him/her about imperialism and what he/she wants in the essay.
Make sure you understand it so you can then write your essay. Ask your parents for help and classmates and then you should have no trouble writing this up.
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I recently got a job that my friend "but her butt on the line for me" to get,but I dot like it. What should I do? (link)
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Few people like their job. That's a fact of life. Those who do are lucky to have found something they enjoy doing. You're making contacts and earning money.
Your employer may also like what you're doing and eventually give a reference to someone else looking to hire you that makes all the difference. Stick in there and don't quit. You may not enjoy doing what you are doing but you're getting valuable experience and learning a lot of skills.
You're also developing character and not backing out when you encounter something hard or you don't like. Thank your friend and keep going. If after a few months you wish to move on than do it then but not now. She risked her reputation for you so you darn well better stick in there longer than this and gain all the experience you can from it good or bad.
It will make you touch and give you a thick skin to handle any situation you aren't comfortable with. You need that. Believe me.
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was jenifer love hewitt in any rush hour movies? if not, which one was it when i think she was with jacke chan?
p.s. when did she bcome a singer?!? (link)
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She has been a professional singer since 1991. Most of her albums were featured only in Japan starting in '91 straight through recently. Arguably, one could say she was a professional singer/dancer before then from 1989-1991 on a Disney Channel production called Kids Incorporated.
Ironically, it was there that she would meet future co-star Scott Wolf who pretended to be younger than he actually was to get a part on this show.
You must be thinking of the Jackie Chan bomb The Tuxedo (2002) where she has a lead role. She hasn't according to her filmography appeared in any of the Rush Hour movies.
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Hi, For those who have subscribed to the BIG BROTHER LIVE 08 thing on your mobiles, Does it charge the "6 dollars per month" from your credit, or from your bank account?
Please answer as soon as possible and thanks in advance.
Kronix (link)
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I couldn't find the answer anywhere on the official Big Brother site for Australia. It tells you how to sign up for the service but not how you are billed. Usually in these situations you'll be charged directly to your monthly cellular bill.
However, it would be in your best interest to call 3 Mobile yourself and ask how you're billed for their Big Brother promotion on the plan you have with them. They're the experts on it and will definitely be able to give you that answer.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help but after searching the Big Brother web site (which is poorly designed) for Australia I turned up nothing. That site is www.bigbrother.com/au
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Does anyone know if instantcast is safe. I really want to know cause they already have jobs for me and they haven't even seen a picture of me. HELP!!! And thank you
xoxoxo
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Avoid this agency like the plague. I assure you it isn't on the up and up. If they have jobs for you already without meeting you or seeing a picture that's a dead giveaway it's a scam. No agent can promise you that kind of thing.
If you want to get into acting and hire a legitimate agent here's what to do. Call or log onto ACTRA's site in Canada or SAG in the U.S. and get their list of reputable agents. If you know of an agency not on that list don't approach them.
You'll want to look up BACKGROUND TALENT AGENCIES on that list. Meet with an agent you select off of it and they'll work to get you cast in TV shows and movies being shot in your city or a large metropolitan one within driving distance. You'll be cast in crowd scenes as an extra.
You might also be able to get a Kids/Teen Agency from the same list of reputable agents willing to work with you. You won't due to lack of professional credits be able to get a principal agent.
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so im very excited, i just got tickets to go to both days of bamboozle!
and if you dont know what it is, its basically like warped tour except 2 days in a row.
basically i need advice on what to wear/bring
i went last year for one day, but it was my first big show ever, so i wasn't really sure, and i'm still not.
i was thinking of wearing like a bathing suit, (shorts and a shirt over) and i could just take off the shirt when it gets too hot
but i remember last year it got like FREEZING when it hit night time, i should pack a hoodie, but my legs would still be freezing.
also i need a good idea on what to do with my cellphone, i cant have it getting lost anywhere, but my pockets arent reliable
any ideas, tips, or suggestions would be appreciated!
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One of the most important things you need to have is comfortable footwear and socks. If your shoes aren't comfortable or your socks aren't the right size or bunch up a lot it will hurt badly after hours of standing as it's General Admission which usually means no reserved seats.
The next key thing and perhaps the most important of all is drink lots of bottled water. You're allowed only ONE bottle according to the festival which is just beyond stupid. You'll have to purchase the rest but you need to.
This helps with thirst but also keeps you hydrated when it's hot or you're on your feet for hours in an arena. You are allowed according to the festival's web site to bring it in.
As far as carrying your cell phone goes you are allowed to bring in a small purse or a fanny pack to hold money and phones but no backpacks. If you buy merchandise on site from the festival you could also put in the bag but that's risky and easy for a thief to take.
You CAN'T take a blanket so if you are cold be sure to have a sweater, track pants and a T-shirt. I would not take shorts and a shirt over top your bathing suit as sooner or later you'll freeze your ass off. Wear a shirt, track pants, comfortable shoes and take the sweater off it hot.
I think you should look at the festival's site for info on what you can/can't take in and tips. www.thebamboozle.com Also check your 7 day weather forceast on the news or the Internet before going so you know what all three days will be like.
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i'm going to get my tongue pierced soon. does it hurt a lot? and is it really hard to eat after? and say if i got high and THEN i went, how would that affect it? thanks! (link)
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A professional piercing studio/tattoo parlor will NEVER pierce anyone who appears to be under the influence of alcohol or any other type of illegal substance. It makes it unsafe for them to do so and they don't want to be liable if something bad happened.
They'll send you packing and won't even consider re-scheduling you for later. There's a zero tolerance policy on that as well as a chicken out fee applied if you make an appointment, show up and then tell them you had a change of heart. Know that this piercing is what you really, really want.
Will it hurt? Well in a nutshell yes. They are using a clamp on your tongue and then driving a clean needle through it before attaching jewels you chose to it. It will hurt but we can't tell you how much because everyone experiences pain differently and has either a high threshold or a low one. What hurts like hell to you may not to me and vice-versa. I am told however, that this one doesn't hurt half as bad as others do.
Here is a link you need to see/read before going through with this. This first one tells you what you need to do when choosing a shop to pierce you, what happens there etc. http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/skin_stuff/body_piercing_safe.html
When you call the studio tell them it's something you were thinking of having done but before you commit to it would like more information on that kind of piercing, what to expect and perhaps watch one being done on another customer. They're more than happy to consult with you and provide all kinds of information as they don't want to try piercing anyone who shouldn't be or isn't a good candidate for it.
The other thing you need to know is even if you want the piercing and book an appointment doesn't mean you'll get it done. In some cases with this and other piercings they require your parents to sign off on it if you are under 18.
It also goes without saying don't let anyone you know try to do this to you by themselves with a piercing gun or any other way. A lot of people do this and wind up in bad shape for trying to improvise.
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kay so im running for student body in a week or so, and i still dont know what i should do for my speech? I want it to be fun and creative, something that no one else will come up with! The speeches can be up to 2 minutes long..and we need to cover what we want to do and why we should be elected. I want to include those things, but not in a boring, telly way. If you know what i mean. lol any suggestions?? (link)
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Go with reality. Your opponents don't know how much what they want costs. Find out how much it costs to stage dances, trips etc etc. and tell them why you aren't promising anything you can't deliver.
Find out how much control the school administration actually gives you as student council president and why you're a cut above. Hit them with the fact that no amount of catchy slogans, poster, banners or free candy, promises or bribes will result in a good president. It's just a distraction so people don't focus on the fact they're not suitable for the job. Lay out the other candidates good qualities but emphasize weaknesses that would make them a poor choice.
Talk about real life leadership experience outside of school that makes you the better choice. And yes, you can get this all in under 2 minutes or even less. Pick 5 key points and stick with them.
How to make it creative? Don't go on creative or visual overkill. Use humor and lightly mock the other opponents (be careful though do it nicely). Also ask for a microphone that you can use so you can walk across the stage like a real politician does and drive home your points.
There's nothing saying you can't write up a series of index cards with student concerns on them and pull them out of your pocket and tell them "these are an assortment of things students have told me are key issues of concern." and then answer every single one of them as your speech.
Will this work? I can't say it will 100% but I can say you're looking at someone who did most of this and was student council VP for three years running and president in the fourth year of high school.
I was acclaimed because nobody else wanted to run against me that last year. I'm not saying that to brag at all. I'm just saying if you really work hard and do the kind of speeches and back them up like that you could win.
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