Hi there :)
Okay so for my boyfriends present for christmas I decided to get cute n creative seeing as money is tight.
Im making him up a box with his favourite things after shave chocolate,a photo frame with a picture of the two of us plus 100 reasons why I love him written on baby blue paper his fav colour.
I'm also making a c.d with some cute love songs cos we don't have "our" song yet.
So what are some really cute love songs?
I have some the more famous ones I'm looking for something more modern? if anyone has any suggestions at all that would be great! Thank you
"love song" by 311
there's three songs off of "the sound of madness" by shinedown that are pretty damn good, but due to the way I get my music, I don't have any names.
nickelback has some good ones on their most recent album too.
-Gunner
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19/F. The other night I slept over my friend's house who happens to be a male. The only reason I slept over is because he lives a distance away and hanging out with him and going home all in the same day would be silly...anywho, as we were trying to fall asleep in seperate beds, I felt this really strong urge to cuddle with him, but I resisted. I didn't know how to bring it up or how he'd respond to it. I didn't want to do anything freaky lol I don't see him as anything more than a friend and he shows no indication of liking me. So...what's the appropriate way to initiate cuddling in a situation like this?
been there, done that. my girl-friends usually just stated "hey, I need a cuddlebuddy" and crawled into bed with me. girls are warm, so I was okay with it just based on that. I like staying warm.
-Gunner
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I am still extremely close friends with my first love. I never really stopped loving him. We lost contact for 2 years, but we have been back in contact for a few months now. We both moved on after we separated. Both of us have been married and divorced, and I have a 4 year old. He lives in another state, and we have not seen each other in person (just video chat and talking on the phone) for a little over 8 years now. He is in the army, and is going to be shipping out after Christmas. I want to tell him that my feelings for him are still here before he leaves, because if something happened to him and I never said anything I would severely regret it. What is the best way to tell him? I don't want to compromise our friendship, but I have to tell him, so how should I do it?
fine, just tell him. my girlfriend told me, and having her through my deployment made dealing with that hellhole a lot easier. try to ease it into the conversation if you're not sure how he'll react. it took about two months of conversation for mine to work it in, and we had known each other for six years. but you've already done that footwork, so the next time you're talking with him, just sneak it in. you have plenty of time, just make sure you're not spending the deployment worrying yourself sick about him. thats not healthy.
good luck
Gunner
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Hello im 19 and my husband just deployed to Afghanistan. We just said goodbye about 3 hours ago. My mind just seems so cloudy and i feel like my life was just ripped from me. I didn't think it was going to be this hard. I knew it was going to be hard but it was alot more difficult than i thought it was going to be. We've been married almost a year and he's only been home for about 4 months. When he left for basic and AIT it was hard for me but i feel like that was nothing compared to what im feeling now. I wont see him until around next Halloween. I need something to keep my mind off of him. I just feel so stressed out and i dont know what to do, or how to feel. I basically just want to know that everything im feeling is okay. Has anybody else been through a deployment? Thanks for listening. I'm just having a really hard time :(
ahh, this is an excellent question.
I've been on the other end of this before, I've watched spouses, and entire Family readiness groups fail or thrive depending on how they deal with the deployment. first off, I am assuming you're in contact with his unit's FRG. A family readiness group can make or break the deployment depending on whether the group as a whole is mature enough to succeed. If you go to an FRG meeting and you don't feel more relaxed about the situation you're in- stop going. if you can, make some friends among the spouses in your husband's unit. the older women in the group have been through this many times before, and they can help you. if you don't already have hobbies, find some. My buddy's wife, Jaime, spent the whole time we were downrange cooking and baking stuff, and she's bring the food down to Squadron HQ and got all of our rear-detachment guys fat. she showed me her schedule for the week that she kept up, it was like a war plan, every day, she had something to do from wake up to bed time. If you're into sewing, there's quilt guilds everywhere, and boy, do they have some activities for you. My mom's a master quilter, and spent both of my deployments volunteering for an organization called "Quilts of Valor" making quilts for dudes that got hurt downrange. Everywhere you look, you can find an activity or hobby to keep you occupied. don't let yourself have any completely free time, thats your enemy because you will fall into a thinking trap and get worried sick about him. and when he calls home, don't focus on the negative. sure, if something's messed up, he needs to know, but his calls home should be focused on the positive. "oh, I just spent the week working on this really cool project, I'll email you pictures" is so much better to hear than "the electrical bill is late, the car broke down, the dog died..". That one thing can save a marriage. I chatted with my girlfriend every chance I could because I missed her, and I wanted to hear about her day so I could forget the absolutely crazy situation around me for 30 minutes.
there's not much else more I can say without beating a dead horse, so I'm going to leave you with my favorite statistic-
as a Cavalry Scout, I was more likely to die in a car accident driving through philadelphia than I was to get hurt in afghanistan. he's got 100,000 close friends out there watching his back.
good night, good luck, and have fun this year.
-Gunner
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helo
i need help applying to colleges overseas but i dont have a clue to start i am currently in grade 11 and live in s.a. also not a very expensive place
plz help
I agree with the ninja, and though drunk as hell, I'm gonna fuck you up with some truth-
I live in germany, its bloody expensive. but, if you attend heidelberg untiversity(located in Tiffin, Ohio), you can spend your junior year here in heidelberg germany. and let me tell you, there is no more awesome place to party and expand your mind. My commander found his biologist wife when he was stationed in heidelberg, I've been to the place several times, and I can tell you with full confidence that you MUST go there at least once in your life. you're about eight hours away from every hot location in europe, munich, switzerland, northern italy, paris, amsterdam, brussels.... If I didn't have the love of my life back in the states, I'd be hunting for her in heidelberg. wow, I'm really drunk. anywho, if you want to explore europe, do it on the cheap by going to a place that has a "Juniors abroad" program. its expensive, but well worth it. there is nothing like living in europe.
-Gunner
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Is if reasonable for a guy to give a gift to his girlfriend at christmas if they started dating in Novmeber?
you're god damned right its reasonable. I've been dating a chick for four months and just bought her a fur coat for christmas. you sir, need to ranger up and buy your girl something. I spent 150 euros, so divide that by four, and you have a budget. thats around fifty US dollars. have fun, be thoughtful, and good luck!
-Gunner
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wow, way to go me.
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so if Im pregnant and having sex is that bad?
is something going to happen to my baby
please help!
as far as I'm tracking, its fine until the third trimester. OBGYNs will tell couples to have sex in order to induce birth if mom's having trouble getting the kid out
-Gunner
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So i am 17 and i have NEVER actually baked something by myself. When i have to i cook with friends and family, but only really basic stuff like: a cake, cookies, pancakes, etc... But i am really not the talented girl in the kitchen.
Any of you know any good cook books for teens? Any fun tips? Sites? ANYTHING helps, thanks(:
google is by far the most awesome internet resource ever. use it. I learned to cook by feel, I just grabbed what I had on hand and threw it together, and you can do the same, as long as you know what ingredients do what (ie: eggs hold the baked goods together, or yeast in pancakes make for really fluffy flapjacks). just look at some recipes online, and after you get one down to where it tastes good, start fiddling with the recipe and make it taste great. ingenuity in the kitchen has given me an awesome set of skills, but at the same time, I've had a lot of spectacular failures. still, the fruits of my creativity more than make up for the disasters.
have fun
-Gunner
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i was getting really into it wth my bf and we were both drunk. really drunk. he couldnt get a boner n he clearly had "whiskey penis" lol. does alcohol make a handjob not feel as good to a guy. or does it jst make you not cum? thanx
actually dealt with this a while back. alcohol really fucks things up, like bloodflow. Things still feel great, its just the hardware has been sabotaged. never had a problem getting an erection, its the whole orgasm thing that gives me a hangup, which has got to be the most aggravating thing I have ever had to put up with. though I must say, going at it for three hours straight was pretty fun. booze affects every dude differently, hell, for some dudes it only takes 2 minutes to get the whole act done while drunk. and those are the guys that get the awkward pregnancy scare phone call a few weeks later.
-Gunner
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where can i find a cheap northface jacket for wemon online?
easy. go to the north face website. there's about two dozen different jackets to choose from, I just bought the three layer men's jacket for my upcoming adventure to alaska for about $250. inexpensive is relative though, and really depends on what you'll be using it for. but don't worry, theres a guide table.
-Gunner
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19/m One day i was helping my friend study for a psych test and he had to know what a sociopath. I didnt hear him say all the symptoms but at the time i realized what he was sating pretty muched summed me up as a person. So my question is could i be a sociopath? also is that bad?
that you are concerned about it, shows that you are not.
-Gunner
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20F Ryan- 19
So I seen this cute guy that's on my friends hockey team. We've been texting and he seems like the sweetest guy ever. I don't think he knows how tall I am but I'm a taller girl -I'm almost 5'6 and he's about 5'7. We haven't met in person yet, I'll be going there to watch them play again in about a month. But we're almost the same height. I don't know why it bothers me so much but I can't wear like anything with any sort of heel or I'll be taller than him and it's just awkward, don't you think?? I hope he's not weirded out either that i'm almost taller than him. Ehhhh, what should I do? Has anyone else gone through this issue. Do you think it really matters?
unless the guy is that insecure, I don't see the problem. I love chicks that are my height, it simplifies things, the girl doesn't get a kink in her neck, and neither do I. besides, horseplay is much more fun when you don't have to worry about hurting your partner in crime. here's a good example- my buddy, god rest his soul, was 5' 10". his girl was about three inches taller. in no way did this affect their relationship, and if he hadn't passed away, it would have been a "happily ever after" story with lots of kids. its not about looks or height, its about confidence.
-Gunner
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I saay fo sho
are you serious? way to overshoot the landing strip by 26 miles, ace. Run DMC. all the way.
-Gunner
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Alright here's the situation. I am on birth control, and take it everyday at about the same time. Last month I missed my period so I am worried I am pregnant. However, I took a pregnancy test when I didnt get my period and it was negative. I have been having really dark urine, and I'm not sure what that is from. I have been taking pain medication because I recently had surgery. I had a week where I felt really achy & I'm pretty sure I had a fever, I was getting the chills and hot & cold all the time...I'm really confused by all of this..any help?
you're dehydrated, and sick. dark urine=drink more water. the only other cause for extremely dark urine I've found is burning large amounts of fat reserves. in that case, you are literally pissing out the shriveled husks of fat cells. and last I was tracking, biological extremes like starvation or dehydration will throw off your cycle.
in either case, drink water. lots and lots of water. if you're pissing once an hour and its still dark, then you're either burning off lots of fat or there's some new bizarre reason.
-Gunner
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Hey,
How do you get blood stains off of a white down comforter. i cut my finger and it bled all over it... I looked at the instructions and it said wash in cold water only with mild soap.. but that's not gonna get a blood stain out.
It also said do not bleach.
WHat do I do???
So I asked my buddy "how do you get blood out of things?" and he said "with a knife"
aside from that tomfoolery, I would suggest Oxyclean. I've used it on blood stained uniforms and its worked for me, though my standard of "clean" with regards to blood covered uniforms is whether I can get away with wearing them again in the field.
-Gunner
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I'm looking for an Advicenator here who has some basic knowledge in Philosophy and is also able to help me understand how a good, strong Philosophy essay should be constructed. I am in no way asking for you to do my homework, or to explain any philosophy to me. I am only in need for an explanation of how I should structure my essay.
If anyone is interested, it would be much appreciated, and I will provide more information in a private question.
Thank you! :)
the art of philosophy is having a great logical argument, and an essay is a literary tool in which to explain why you're right. they're perfect for each other.
all you have to do is follow the basic structure of an essay- first, establish your thesis, say for example, Solipsism is real, and the whole universe, including you, is just a construct of my mind.
then, in the next three segments, have three good points as to why the thesis is true, for example- due to the universe being a construct, there is no such thing as hard evidence that the universe truly exists, things like that.
the last segment of your essay should be a summary, something that brings your three points made together. Philosophy essays are too easy, as long as you follow the golden rule of logic.
Good luck, Aristotle
-Gunner
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how do i leave my life
those are two very different topics, but I'll answer both.
ethics: there's several different outlooks on the subject, in Japan it's honorable to disembowel yourself with a really big knife, while German officers would shoot themselves in the head with their pistol. the trend being that it's socially acceptable if you are either A: a warrior in an untenable situation, and must kill yourself to either prevent dishonor, or the enemy from capturing you alive, or B: you're a hapless female civilian in a city about to be conquered by an army with a nasty reputation for Gang-rape, like the Soviet Army. of course, its fashionable in certain job fields at certain times, like a stock broker in october 1929, but for the most part its socially unacceptable. You can't be buried on consecrated ground, body's not allowed in a church, its a pretty hardcore level of unacceptable.
As far as doing it, girls tend to use pills and poison, while guys tend to do it in an spectacular and viloent manner. rates of success are also interesting- around 30% of the girls succeed their first try, while about 90% of dudes pull a first-time-go. the numbers are telling- not just in the numbers of sissies just doing a "cry for help", but also for the number of failures that fail even at killing themselves.
Moral of the story: Are you doing this as a "cry for help"? if so, talk to somebody. if you want to do this, and there is no talking you out of it, then fine, choose your method. its pretty easy, you can kill yourself with anything that surrounds you. But keep in mind the following: suicide is fucking messy, no matter how you do it. Lay down Tarps. Make sure somebody finds your body within eight hours- I'm sure your family would not appreciate having to deal with a three-week decomposed corpse on top of the emotional bullshit you're putting them through. There won't be any insurance payoff for them either, so they'll have to pay for your cremation out of pocket. trust me, getting rid of a suicide body is a shitty ordeal. Thankfully there is always the option of throwing the ashes in the city dump.
have fun with that, I'm sure your friends and family will be thrilled to have that ordeal dumped in their laps.
-Gunner
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All of my friends are really enemies. But how can they stop doing this to me? They do really mean things. How can I stop them?
simple. get new friends.
the purpose of friendship is to help each other and grow from the relationship, not to feel resentful.
-Gunner
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Ok so there is this cute guy that goes to my school. My friends boyfriend is friends with him. Should I have him say something to him? .. If so what? .. Or my friends friend
knows him but that ones a long shot. I don't have classes so I can't talk to him there. What else could I do...?
a proxy agent is how most relationships start. use the friend's BF as a minion, and it may bear fruit. but be sure he presents it in the right way ie: " hey buddy, there's this cool chick I'd like you to meet, I know her through my girlfriend, and from what I've heard, you guys would hit it off." of course, me being a kooky old bastard, you might want to change the wording to the present day slang.
-Gunner
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I'll start my story:
Been friends with this guy since highschool. He's very insensitive, a future pastor, a smarty pants whom girls adore.
He and I had same issues with our exes: they were so possessive and jealous.
So last year after we had breakups with our exes, we decided to fake a relationship so that our friends would stop worrying about us. It's been 11 months, and it's been going wow despite long distance.
He really treats me like real girlfriend, so sometimes I get confused: this is fake, but it feels so real.
Our best friends have been telling us to make it real, they go "make it official, go for real relationship! you guys are there already" and even my parents keep telling me to "make it real".
but it's really strange. because I try to be consistent. I always remind him that he's my good "friend" and no more. even though I have to say, sometimes I get carried away and treat him like real boyfriend too.
Lately though, he's been doing things that are really romantic, like singing, reciting verses, playing guitar for me,,, and he's been missing me, calling me, telling me that i "got special privilege for being a wonderful girlfriend"
And I feel scared. I mean, I don't want to forget that it's just fake. And I don't know what and how to respond to him sometimes because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know what to do... and I'm not even sure what is going on...because apparently I do enjoy my special privilege...
insensitive and future pastor don't really sound like they should go together, but let's get to the point.
whats to feel scared about? if you want to stick to the original battle plan, then stick with it. stay firm and remind him of y'all's little drug deal. keeping up the public facade should be maintained, but if he tries to do the same things when you're alone with him, draw the line. however comma- look at it from a different angle, what is a romantic relationship? it is, boiled down to its essence, a friendship that is extrememly close and has a physically intimate side. I don't favor blind dates because of this, I tend to keep friendships for years and develop the situation, let my perspective mate get to know me as a friend, establish a baseline rapport. and that may just be your beau's battle plan from the beginning. perhaps he saw you as out of his league, and due to the numerous relationship issues, saw an opening to get to know you, and you him.
from a military perspective, everything is METT-TC dependent.
what was your mission?- clearly to get guys off your back
who was your "enemy"?- prospective mates
your time table?- a year, maybe two of single life I'm guessing
the terrain(a loose term that includes the people around you)- your family, friends, the unknowing public
and as far as troop considerations, I'm sure you're not concerned about food, water and ammo.
His answers to the same questions may be very different. specifically his mission.
good luck, stay sharp, we men are crafty too.
-Gunner
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