about

I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.
I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.


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Hi, I am recently 15 years old and have been suddenly feeling selfconcious about my body. I am about 5'6'' 5'7'' ish and i weigh 130 pounds or so. Is this considered over weight? I exercise constantly (cheer practice, running, abs, etc) but im still terrified to get cellulite ( back of my thigh area) Is there any way to prevent cellulite? and is it true once you have it you cant get rid of it? also what are some exercises that slim up you abs(under belly button) and the back off your thighs. (right under your butt) any answers are appreciated =)

p.s. i am in no way anorexic/belimic just for the record.

You are deffinatly NOT over weight, infact your weight is perfectly healthy for you height.

You can see from this chart that you are in the OK section, you are miles away from even being slightly over weight

http://www.food.gov.uk/multimedia/bigimages/weightheight.jpg

You dont need to lose weight or excersise constantly or be worried about cellulite, you are only 15 and if you keep worrying like this and doing this to your body then you will end up making yourself ill and make yourself look discustingly skinny or over toned.

just relax and be thankful that you have the perfect body! :-)

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I'm going to see an adolescent psychiatrist for the first time in about a week and I was wondering what I should expect. I'm going for depression and self-injury, if that makes a difference. I just wondering what I cn epect when I go there. Thanks so much. I'll rate high.

In your first session they get to know about you and your background. They ask you what things you like to do, they'll ask about your friends, your homelife, school, boyfriends/girlfriends.
They dive right back into your early childhood, i was suprized when i went and she asked me what my earliest memory was, i dint think it would matter but even though you are getting asked loads of questions that might not seem relevent to you, they are important you answer honestly as they will help the psychiatrist to build up your profile and see if theres a trigger that started your self harming off and help them to work out the best way of helping YOU as every case and everyone is different.

If you go in with your parent/guardian at first, they wil be asked to leave the room about half way through the session once you have relaxed so you can open up more and talk about things more openly and honestly.

The sessions last between 1 and 2 hours, first sessions usually last longer that the ones after though as it's more of a getting to know yoy session, the ones you have after are tackling the route of your problem.

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i don't know exactly what i'm asking. & i don't know if anyone will be able to help. but i do need help. and it'd be appreciated if you do try.

i have depression, in addition, i'm most likely the shyest person on planet earth. i don't have too many friends because of both of these. in feel really insecure about my social life as well as myself. each time i attend school i feel like everyone's judging me & in a terrible way. In a way, i'm scared to show up to school. the idea of it really scares me. i psyche myself out for it. each day i think i'll go to school, but i get ready in the morning, can't find the right thing to wear & break down. See, i haven't exactly been to school for two weeks now. usually my dad would make me go to school; but in a sense he's given up. & i have to. each day i don't show up for school i realize that it will be harder to go back. but i can't bring myself to go. i haven't been in contact with friends in days & feel like i'll use the few i have, and i'm in the proccess of doing so. i don't know why i feel so bad, and i don't know why school is so scary for me. i want to feel better & be better but i'm doing nothing to helo myself.

so i guess i'm asking a few things.
1. why is it that school is scary to me?
2. how can i make it less scary?
3. ... just any advice is what im looking for. thought - or anything. just ideas as to what i can do.

... just ideas as to what i NEED to do. 5's for anyone who bothered reading with a sensible response. xx

i used to have this problem too so i really feel for you and understand how hard it is for you.
I know it sounds the obvious thing to say but talk to your friends, even if you just do it one on one so it's less scary. maybe invite a friend round for tea or just talk on the phone and explain to them exactly how you are feeling, how panicy you get about going to school and how much it is upsetting you. Tell them you want to go back but you need their support and understanding so they can make you feel more at ease when you are there and take care of you, you might not want to say "i need you to take care of me" though, just make sure they understand how important it is that you get their support.

You also need to go into school with your
parent(s)or they go and you stay at home, they need to talk to your head teacher or head of year, and explain to them your worries and how frightend you are of school and see what can be done to make things as easy as possible for you.
This could include your teachers being aware of your situation and keep a close eye on you, you may be given a support teacher who can sit in lessons with you, you may be able to have a friend sit with you, or even attend school but dont go to the class but just sit in a different classroom (this is what i did in my sports studies class because i was so uncomfortable with all the horrible loud people in there).

There is a thing called school phobia and you may not be the only student in your school suffering with this, your teachers need to be aware.
My boyfriend who was a student teacher had a booklet given to him by the school which in it listen the names of some pupils and what phobias they had that needed accomodating to, one of them was school phobia. So your school should have a policy and a way to deal with this.

Have a think what would make school easier for you and then see if you, your parents and your teachers can come up with a plan to get you back into school and feeling more at ease.

love chakra x

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20/F.

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. We have a great relationship and we usually tell each other everything. However, two weeks ago I found out that he has been hiding something from me throughout our entire relationship (that’s not the problem though...).

I was at home when it happened. My boyfriend’s college suite mate called me and asked me to come over right away. He seemed worried, but wouldn’t tell me anything over the phone. I drove to their dorm room, and just as I was about to go up the stairs, I heard someone mumbling. I looked underneath the stairwell, and there was my boyfriend. He was sitting on the floor, with his head in his hands, crying, and freaking out.

It took me almost an hour to get him to calm down. Once he finally did, I asked him what had just happened. He told me that he suffers from mild depression and anxiety. He had been having a massive panic attack. He takes medication for both conditions, but he told me that recently his anxiety had been getting worse.

I’ve never seen him, or even anyone, have a panic attack before and I don’t know anyone else who suffers from anxiety. Nonetheless, I tried to be as supportive as I could. He told me that he had been having trouble sleeping because of the anxiety but that talking to me usually helps him calm down. I ended up spending the night in his dorm, and I haven’t left here since.

He’s been to the doctor, and all they’ve done for him is increase his medication.

He has told many times over the past two weeks that my staying with him, in his dorm, makes him feel more at ease. That when we’re together, he’s able to function like a normal person. However, he still has anxiety when he’s about to go to bed, and sometimes we stay up and talk for hours before he’ll finally fall asleep.

I feel immensely guilty for saying this, but I’ve never been so exhausted, emotionally and physically, in my life. I work full time as well as go to school and this whole situation has really taken it’s toll on me. All of my attention has been focussed on him and I’m constantly worrying about him when we’re apart, but five hours of sleep a night (sometimes less) cannot be healthy.

I’ve tried to tell him that eventually I’ll have to go home, but then he starts to get anxious about the thought of me leaving him alone.

I love my boyfriend and I want to be there for him when he needs me, but I would like to have somewhat of a life of my own. Ugh. I feel selfish saying that...

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Any input would greatly appreciated.

I too suffer like your boyfriend with depression, anixety and panic attacks so i know how hard it is for him, but having a boyfirend myself, i also know how hard it is for you too.

It's only natural you feel exhausted and of course you will have to go home and do your own thing, this will be hard for your bofriend, but you have no reason to feel guilty.
I'm sure he wants you to have a normal life too, but he's frightend of what wil happen and frightend of panic attacks because they are a really awful experience, especially the huge ones like you saw your boyfriend having because you just feel so ill and helpless and don't know what to do.

It's going to be hard for him but you need to talk to him and prepare him for when you go home, because also with anxiety problems, you need to know everything thats going to happen, what to do if you panic. The unknown is a very scary thing for people with these problems.

I'm guessing you must have left him at some point in the day to go to school and work so that would be practice for him.

Maybe try something small to start with like you just go home for a night, then build up to 2, then 3 ect.

Make sure he knows he can text you when he wants or call you, and that he has plenty of distractions.

When you are anxious and especially panicy, you need plenty of distractions.
I have a stack of magazines and puzzle books that i can read and do as they help with the panic, i also have to watch tv or videos/dvd's.

Alot of people who have anxiety have a comfort video which is just something we like, thats easy watching, nothing intense, something calming.

It will be hard or him, but he needs to learn not to rely on you because that can tear relationships apart.

As long as he knows you are there for him and he has plenty of distractions to help him through it will get easier.

When i panic, i need to be alone so if he has his own room that he can go in o de-panic that would be great.

if you need anymore help you can always mail me as i've been this way for 5 years, i was severly agoraphobic because my panic got so bad but i'm overcoming that now and i'd be happy to help :-)

Remember, don't feel guilty or selfish, you need your own space just like everyone else and it sounds like you've been really fantastic with your boyfriend in helping him :-)

love chakra x

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Hi Chakra! I'm very interested in color therapy and would like to know how you became qualified. Any information on schools, programs, or web sites would be appreciated!!!

I found a website that has lots of hostilic therapy courses on,

http://www.naturalhealthcourses.com/home.htm

You can hearn from home which was great for me, you get sent workbooks through the post and then you study in your own time, once you've completed you work, you then send it back and you get graded.

Once you have completed the course and get a certain percentage in your exam and overall course work, you get a certificate and you can then use the letters SNHS (school of natural health sciences) after your name :-)
It can be quite expensive but if you chose "self tutor" it works out cheaper.

There's lots of other colour therapy courses online, but they are very expensive, search in google for ""colour therapy" home study", unless you want to study it at college then you can see if there are any colleges nar you that do it but i think it's more of a distance learning subject.

Love Chakra x

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it began in january of 2006. i felt really weird at work one day. i asked my boss to go home i dropped to the floor 2 times. shaking really bad and feeling sick to my stomach.it is the most awfulest feeling a person can have.i was so scared. instead of going home i went to the hospital. they told me my blood pressure was 220 over 98 and my sugar was way low.they told me i was hypoglocemic. i said okay and came home. everyday when my feet hit the floor i start shaking and feel like my heart is racing. i have never felt anything like this before and it really scares me.my doctor put me on prozac and celexa.its worked for about 2 weeks . you know i get to the point to where i feel like im going to black outand i start freaking out. it scares me so bad i dont trust myself driving unless i have someone with me at all times.when i feel really bad i will call my dad and tell him to come and watch me so nothing happens. i also call my husband and if hes able he comes home to be with me until it passes.i will be 37 this year and i really dont know this is happening to me ive always done for everybody andput myself on the back burner and now im trying to care of myself but i feel im failing.is there anyway to get around this and maybe some good advice for me.im not working now because of this problem and i am starting to slack with my housework and its really getting to me.

It deffinatly sounds to me like you are experiencing panic and anxiety attacks, i suffer terribley with them so i know how awful they are and how badly hey can affect and disrupt your life.

With these attacks you feel sick, shake uncontrolably, your stomach feels wierd, your chest feels tight, you can't breathe properly and you feel dizzy and faint.

Like me, your panic attacks started with a bad experience of feeling unwell and they are already affecting how you live, relying on your dad and husband, being too scared to drive.

I deffinatly think you should talk to your doctor about these attacks and how they are disrupting your life because if your not careful you may end up becoming agoraphobic, that is where you are too scared to leave your home, in extreme cases, too scared to leave your bed.

I have no knowledge of blood pressure or hypoglocemia but your doctor should know how to control this, i really do think it's the anxiety and panic that are making you feel so much worse.
He might also refer you to a therapist to help with your anxiety and depression, most likely a Cognative Behavioural Therapist, these kinds of therapist work woth you to change your hought patterns so you no longer feel terror in certain situations.

There are also tablets and natural remedies that can help with this though and support groups.

I've been severly agoraphobic for nearly 5 years, i was bedbound for most of that and completley housebound but i joined a support group online called "the phobic nest", a fe months ago i couldnt even go to the bin without having huge panic and anxiety attacks, but with the support of the people on this nest (it's a small close group so everyone makes friends very quickly) and alot of hard work i managed a 2 day break away and managed to go in 6 shops in one afternoon, something i have not been able to do since 2001.

Also, the people on the nest all have anixiety and panic and depression so they know what medication helps and what doesnt.

The address is;

www.phobicnest.com

You have to sign up but its free and once you are a member you have access to all of the forum, theres loads of sections. (my name on the forum is miss_moose)

I hope to see you on there :-) and i really hope you get the help you need.

love chakra xxx

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my bf wants me to lap dance with him. well. not really but he asked me if I'd do. and he asks me alot of nasty questions about sex and strip with him. i dont want to do anything with him except makeout. what do i do?? help!!

If he is trying to push you into to sexual things that you obviosly aren't ready for then it he's not the right guy for you.
DO NOT do anything that you don't want to do, you don't have to do anything you are not ready for.

Tell him how you feel, tell him that you really like him (if you do) but you don't want to do the things he's wanting.

If he gets mad or tries to make you do these things again then dump him.

if he wont respect your wishes then he's really not worth it and only using you.

love chakra x

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Is there any website were I can upload a picture of myself and try out different hair styles/colors? Or can anyone think of a search term that can help me find this? Thank you!

Here's a free make over thing

http://beauty.ivillage.com/makeovers/mom/0,,8q75,00.html

you have to sign up but it's completely free.
you can upload your photo and check out different hair styles and colours, makeup, contact lenses and glasses. it's the best free one around :-)

love chakra x

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I think I may have social anxiety(sp). Whenever my friends do something without me I start to think they don't like me and and start to get very depressed. I've been depressed a lot lately for different reasons also but I was thinking I may have social anxiety. I'm starting to feel separated from my friends and that I only have one tru friend. I'm also getting depressed more easily. The slightest thing makes me force back tears. Does anyone have an idea as to what this might be? Thank you.

No, this isnt social anxiety. Social phobia or anxiety is where being about people causes you to have panic and anxiety attacks, so much so that you avoid social situations as much as possible.

You are feeling left out by your friends, which is really upsetting. If you had SP then you wouldnt want to be with your friends because you'd be too scared and have panic attacks even just planning to be with them.

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i sweat like all the time! it's really emabarresing to have these huge sweat stains in school. i don't know what to do, i mean deoderant and antiperspirant just don't work. i went to the doctor and there's nothing wrong with me, i just need good deoderant and/or antiperspirant. does anyone know the name of a REALLY good one? thanks!

I gave this advice to someone else on here but i think you would benefit from it too.

Every morning before school take a shower and if u dont have time then at least have a really really good wash under your arms with lots of nice smelling shower gel. try and do that after pe aswell, even if its just in the toilets. A good idea is to take a bottle of water to school then if you get a bit self concious about your odour you can go into a cubicle and have a little wash and freshen up.
Then you can use lots of anti persperant. you'll smell nice from the shower gel and not have to worry about sweating

love chakra x

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Okay so I've got these horrible cramps. (hello -time of the month-) Is there any way to make them go away? I don't have any medicine to take. I can't go to the store. I tried putting a pillow on my stomach but the pain got worse. It feels like I'm going to puke. Is there anything I can do?

A hotwater bottle is good for easing stomach cramps. i've always used a hot water bottle when its my time of the month. make sure you wrap it up well in a towel though so you dont burn yourself x

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ok i know i have wrote to ya'll before about me being worried about my period but now im really worried. i have only gotten my period once because i am 13 and it first started in the last week of October. i bled for 2 & 1/2 days. now it is the 2nd week of march and i havent seen it sinse october. is something wrong with me. my friends say that i shouldnt worry about it because it will be eregular but it had been almost 5 MONTHS! no im not pregnant because i havent had sex but the day that i did get it i was masturbating but i know i didnt pop my cherry because i bled for 2 and 1/2 days. do you think i cut myself or something? anyway please help if your can and dont give stupid answers!
i rate high for good answers!

Don't worry, when girls first start their periods they can be all over the place, it's takes about a year for a period to setle down be regular, then they can last between 4 - 8 days.

When you bled, that could be that your cherry popped, or that you cut yourself. Its happend to me sometimes when i've been with my boyfriend, it can bleed for just an hour or sometimes for a few days. Just give yourself time to heal.

love chakra x

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13/f i feel soo bad my bf whos 13 is gettin me all this stuff i found out bi my friend and i dont have any money to realy get him anything he asked me to mesure mr rist size and i was okay w/e i thought it was goin to be 4 some tackey bracelett but no he took my bff sarah with him to a place like tiffanys to buy me a real dimond bracelett and he got me a wicked lott of there stuff but i dont have anything for him and i cant even goto the store bc i got like 4 feet of snow so im like screwed what can i give him would burnin a cd work helpppp and fast thatx illl rate the highest

before valentines day (i'm guessing this is why he's bought you all these lovely gifts), tell him that you are really sorry but you cant afford to buy him expensive gifts or very much at all, i'm sure he'll understand because he seems to really like you and think alot of you. Try and buy him something cheap but that looks expensive...thats what i do ;-) See if you can borrow some money off your parents to get him a little something, maybe they'll give you some pocket money for chores or just lend you some money. If you cant get to town, order something online, i'm always doing that, you can get some lovely valentines gifts for a good price.
Or like you said, make him a cd of all his favourite songs. you could even make a special cd cover for it.

love chakra x

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Every guy in my grade thinks im prude. They Think im pretty and hot and all, but they wont date me becuase they think i wont do anything. I WILL though, i just am relly self consious and i always think there is something on my face or something when boys talk to me. How can i change this?! please help me :]

if they wont date you because they think you wont be sexual with them then dont bother trying to change and impress them because they will just use you. they dont like you for you, they want you for your body and the moment they think that you are easy they'll use you and tell all their mates about it.
dont let them treat you like this, you deserve better.

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before you get all eww...this is kinda gross...

i lay on the deodorant twice a day: in the morning, and during pe (5th hour). but i still hyave b.o! its not awful, but its kinda gross. what should i do?
btw im a 13 yr old girl

Every morning before school take a shower and if u dont have time then at least have a really really good wash under your arms with lots of nice smelling shower gel. try and do that after pe aswell, even if its just in the toilets. A good idea is to take a bottle of water to school then if you get a bit self concious about your odour you can go into a cubicle and have a little wash and freshen up.
Then you can use lots of anti persperant. you'll smell nice from the shower gel and not have to worry about sweating x

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Please don't delete this question, because I am actually very curious about this. Why do people join this website who aren't even serious about helping people or receiving help? People who need help come here and some ignorant people joke around and even insult these people in need. Don't you think it's time we suspend or expel these rude people? I'm sick of it myself.

i dont know, some people are so cruel. i asked how to go about getting a disabled parking badge and Madi replied "haha criple"!
some people on here just find it funny to make fun of peoples problems, they're nothing but cruel bullies. Theres alot more nice and good advice givers on here though that shallow bullies.

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Hi! Ok, I really need ideas of what my class can do for fundraisers! I'm in 8th grade and we're trying to raise money for 8th grade graduation & our trip to our state capitol. We need to make more than the meager cents we get from bakesales, car washes, and ballgame concession. Does anyone know of any ways we can make money? Time is running out! Thanks!

customise t-shirts. make them really cool, put slits in them, knots, bleach bits of them if you can.
you can do it to old clothes that you dont want too, see jeans and tops hat youve customised.

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I am in a relationship with a certain guy,but it happens that i am hemoglobin AS and he is hemoglobin AC.We are close to getting married,but my problem is, is it advisable to go ahead with the marriage or should i forget about it taking into consideration the children that we would be having.Please advice me.I am 24yrs.

If you are in love with eachother then yes, get married. give yourself that happiness.

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so valentines day is coming up and i dont know what to get my boyfriend of 2 and a half months. has 15 and im 14 so i dont want to get him anything sexual ya know. so what are some good things i can get him? i rate high.

you could get him a photo frame with a nice photo of yourselves together.

a cd, or a mix ta-pe or cd that you can make for him with his favourite songs on and songs that remind you of him.

a wallet, if you get one with a photo holder in then you can put a nice photo of the 2 of you together or get a personalised wallet.

valentines chocolates

Candlelight dinner

Jewelry. it doesnt have to be expensive. you can get some lovely necklaces and earrings if he has any piercings for very little

hope that helps x

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I REALLY want to be a model. Like, I've never wanted anything so much bebfore, in my life. I am 5'2 and a size 5 (short) in jeans. I weigh 115. I'm working on the weight, I'm trying to get down to a size 2. So I'm not asking about that. Is my height a problem? Because I'm a fan of Tyra Banks and watch her talk show. I went to that sight and in her "So you want to be a model" part, she said you have to be 5'9 to model. So is my 5'2 height going to restrict me from modeling? I'm a 13 year old girl and probably still growing.

If you means that you are 115 lbs then you do not need to lose weight. you weight is healthy for your height. you are the equvalant to about 8 stone. http://www.food.gov.uk/multimedia/bigimages/weightheight.jpg

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