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scared of school. scared of life. scared of losing things i
i don't know exactly what i'm asking. & i don't know if anyone will be able to help. but i do need help. and it'd be appreciated if you do try.
i have depression, in addition, i'm most likely the shyest person on planet earth. i don't have too many friends because of both of these. in feel really insecure about my social life as well as myself. each time i attend school i feel like everyone's judging me & in a terrible way. In a way, i'm scared to show up to school. the idea of it really scares me. i psyche myself out for it. each day i think i'll go to school, but i get ready in the morning, can't find the right thing to wear & break down. See, i haven't exactly been to school for two weeks now. usually my dad would make me go to school; but in a sense he's given up. & i have to. each day i don't show up for school i realize that it will be harder to go back. but i can't bring myself to go. i haven't been in contact with friends in days & feel like i'll use the few i have, and i'm in the proccess of doing so. i don't know why i feel so bad, and i don't know why school is so scary for me. i want to feel better & be better but i'm doing nothing to helo myself.
so i guess i'm asking a few things.
1. why is it that school is scary to me?
2. how can i make it less scary?
3. ... just any advice is what im looking for. thought - or anything. just ideas as to what i can do.
... just ideas as to what i NEED to do. 5's for anyone who bothered reading with a sensible response. xx
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I know what it feels like to be scared to go to school. With everything going on and people going to their own classes and not really seeing the people around them, yes it can be scary.
To make school less scary the best thing to do is to work on communicating with people in the same classes as you. Try getting over the shyness, it'll be hard the first few times but once you make at least one friend you'll get to meet their friends and won't be as hard.
*remember worrying about what you look like isn't the most improtant thing, meeting people that don't care about that will help.
-hope everything works out--if you need any further advice just ask-
~Sam
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i used to have this problem too so i really feel for you and understand how hard it is for you.
I know it sounds the obvious thing to say but talk to your friends, even if you just do it one on one so it's less scary. maybe invite a friend round for tea or just talk on the phone and explain to them exactly how you are feeling, how panicy you get about going to school and how much it is upsetting you. Tell them you want to go back but you need their support and understanding so they can make you feel more at ease when you are there and take care of you, you might not want to say "i need you to take care of me" though, just make sure they understand how important it is that you get their support.
You also need to go into school with your
parent(s)or they go and you stay at home, they need to talk to your head teacher or head of year, and explain to them your worries and how frightend you are of school and see what can be done to make things as easy as possible for you.
This could include your teachers being aware of your situation and keep a close eye on you, you may be given a support teacher who can sit in lessons with you, you may be able to have a friend sit with you, or even attend school but dont go to the class but just sit in a different classroom (this is what i did in my sports studies class because i was so uncomfortable with all the horrible loud people in there).
There is a thing called school phobia and you may not be the only student in your school suffering with this, your teachers need to be aware.
My boyfriend who was a student teacher had a booklet given to him by the school which in it listen the names of some pupils and what phobias they had that needed accomodating to, one of them was school phobia. So your school should have a policy and a way to deal with this.
Have a think what would make school easier for you and then see if you, your parents and your teachers can come up with a plan to get you back into school and feeling more at ease.
love chakra x
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You're very inscure. Very self concious, and that's not healthy. You need to RELAX!! Don't need to worry about what other people think.. now when I say that let that sink in really, dont worry about what anyone thinks because it makes your life TERRIBLE!! as you can see. I really dont mean this mean in ANYWAY!! but no one cares what you look like or what goes on in your life.. and no one cares about ANYONE's looks/whatgoes on. in yours, mine the girl that sits next to you in class, NO ONE! only when theres a HUGE deal like you lets say you got Herpes from a guy, then they talk but really they dont care they just like gossip.
YOU MUST GO TO SCHOOL!! if you dont just think how bad you will feel when graduation comes around and everyones leaving for college and you're stuck there because you have too many absences it sucks real bad. so be smart because you sound smart just because you cant find anything to wear doesnt mean you dont go to school. you're acting immature and you need to wake up and smell the coffee because life is passing you by and you're letting it.without any thought or care in the world. WHAT YOU DO NOW REFLECTS ON YOUR FUTURE!!! and you need to focus on what your goals are in life. stop focusing on your looks. when high school ends NO ONE WILL CARE WHAT YOU WORE!! they probably wont even remember, ESPECIALLY if you're not there. you need to go to a therapist and get your problems solved and get that depression under control.
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I know what feelings you're experiencing. I feel the confusion of what you are feeling, you aren't sure if anyone can help and you aren't even sure what it is you are asking for, I know those thoughts and feelings.
I think you aren't going to school because of your depression. When you are depressed and those feelings are constantly eating at you, you just want to stay home and sleep or get your mind off of everything instead of worrying about school or anything else going on. School is a scary place for you because it's where everyone is, everyone that knows you and judges you and it's a place where you don't want to end up crying because it's a bad experience to cry in front of everyone.
The truth of the matter is that these feelings can't be ignored because it's affecting your life and because it's depression. Depression isn't something that will heal or go away on it's own. You have to take care of yourself and find out why you are depressed or get on some medication if there isn't a reason.
What you need to do right now is treat your depression and ask for help. If your dad won't help you, find someone else. It sounds to me like your dad really cares a lot to have tried getting you to school, but it's time for you to reach out to people for help. When you are depressed, all you want to do is sleep, and be alone all of the time. You don't want anyone around and that's probably why you may not have a very strong social life. But don't be ashamed of it. The only way to truly heal yourself is to come out of the dark room your mind is in and get some help.
I am currently homeschooled because of depression. I had been trying to go to school and stay in school since I was about thirteen and I am now a freshmen. I had tons of struggles with staying in school or sometimes even going at all. I'd wake up and start crying, I'd end up begging my mom to let me stay home and I was a mess. It was horrible and I felt alone in everything. You probably don't have the option of getting homeschooled, but you have to tell people your feelings. If you feel like you are going to cry in class, get to the counselor or ask your teacher to sit out in the hall to yourself and try calming yourself down.
If you feel like the crying won't stop and you need to go home, don't be afraid to go home. Your school may give you crap about it, but it doesn't matter. If you are feeling depressed and upset before you even get to school, talk to your dad or mom about it so that they can know that you aren't doing well. If they do end up making you go to school, just go straight to the counselor to get some help. Let them know you are struggling and let them help you. The key to not feeling as depressed or as alone is to tell someone when you start getting upset.
I really hope that all of this has helped and please let me know if you have anymore concerns on depression
-TheTeenGirl
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I HAVE THE SAME EXACT PROBLAM
THIS IS WEIRD
I HAVENT BEEN TO SCHOOL IN TWO WEEKS
and my dad just stop bothering me about it because he just gave up
and when ever i do go to school i feel like everyones judging me or talking bad about me behind my back
like idk
and i break down at myself when i look in the mirror
and once im ready or on my way to school its like my heart is beating really fast
its not really nervousness but its kinda like that
i think we have A.D.D
you should go to the doctor and ask them for that medicine
it helps you concentrate
and social anxiaty
ask your dad to take you to the doctor
for A.D.D pills
and social anxiaty
im so relifed im not the only one with this problam.
i thought i was.
lol ok i hope my advice helps
if you need someone to talk to im here
because i have the same problam
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I have to say this. I used to have yur problem. Actually I kinda still do. I feel that people judge other people too much and their standards are unatanable so I just give up trying to impress people. Some times I go so far as not even brushing my hair. I think it would help if you had someone to listen to your problems without saying anything.
If you want to talk more email me: indie_chix_rule@hotmail.com
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