I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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What is a good age to let a kid date? (link)
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40.
Only kidding. I suppose it depends on where they are going and with whom. I would let a 14 yr. old go to a school dance or activity as long as it's supervised and they were going to be picked up directly afterwards by myself or another parent so they couldn't sneak off somewhere and get into trouble. Anything involving alcohol or a group of unsupervise youth would be off limits,in my book. At 18, they should be free to date, but, the whole key here is to ensure that they know the boundaries of acceptable behavior. If they haven't learned that at a young age, then at 18 they will just go do everything they've been prohibited from doing early on. Sex and alcohol are a bad combination. That has to be drilled into their heads. The best way to do that is to watch every move they make and let them know you are watching.
I'm glad those days are over for me!
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Are there any websites that you can make money from by putting their ads on your site? I've researched but can't find any. (link)
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Are you the one who has a website and want to attract advertisers? If so, you could just put an ad on your website for advertisers. Explain how they can advertise on your site and how much it costs for an ad. Bigger ads cost more than smaller ads and are charged monthly.
Not sure if that is what you're asking.
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Our 8 month old Westie Schnauzer cross has been housetrained since he was 3 months old. He's never had accidents since. We crate trained him until about a month ago, and then decided that he would be fine wandering around the house.
About 2-3 weeks ago (around the same time he got neutered), he started to defecate in the house at night. He doesn't urinate, and he doesn't go during the day, even if we're away during the day and leave him out of his crate. He also picks rooms that we seldom use. We do let him out often enough, so that's not an issue.
Every time, he acts funny in the morning and hides from me. I know you're not supposed to scold the dog unless you catch it in the act, but I'm scolding him anyways, because he shouldn't get away with it!
My question is, how can we stop it so that he can roam the house freely (we like having the dog out for security purposes), but not have to clean messes every morning?
He is also in perfect health. He has been checked out by a vet.
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You may have to lose sleep for the first few nights, but if you stay awake and catch him going for it, then you stop him and let him out and praise him afterwards. He'll learn that he needs to do his business outside.
Perhaps you should pay more attention to his eating habits. What time does he get fed? Dogs have very long intestines and it can take a while for food to work it's way through their system. If he eats at 5 o'clock, that food stays in his system until the next day, but the previous nights food is coming down the pike and that's probably what he's leaving on your floor. It sounds to me like he's just gotta go at the wrong time and since no one is there to supervise at the time....
I feed my own dog at 3:30pm. That way, by 8-9 he's ready to go. The food he ate the night before is ready to come out because they can only retain so much. (Lovely subject, huh?) Exercise also, helps to move the bowels. If he eats more that once a day, that complicates things.
I would say it's just a matter of timing and that he needs to get a better routine established.
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I'm a model / singing looking to find my model look.
I was wondering if anyone knew of sites where i could look at current colors and styles models are rocking now adays..
I need to bring a picture of a color to my stylist as soon as possible.
please help. Ill rate high! (link)
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Great site for fashion and color forecasting...
http://www.fashiontrendsetter.com/content/color_trends.html
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a few friends and i want to start a shirt company. we're located in southern california. we already have a brand name and desgins, but i was wondering if we need anything to start it up. for example do we need a license? and how do we get the shirt designs copyrighted? and typically how much does it cost for all of this plus the first print? thanks! (link)
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You need a business license, which isn't that expensive. The major expense will be manufacturing your line. To get a copyright or trademark, you'll need a lawyer and a few thousand dollars. $2000-3000.
How much does all this cost? Well, that depends. You don't say if you are actually designing shirts or if you are buying shirts wholesale and just printing on them. Very big difference in expense.
If you are buying ready made shirts and just putting your design on them, you could probably get them printed for 1.00 a shirt, but that is assuming you are having at least 100 shirts printed. You'll be charged more if your design uses more than one color. The more shirts printed, the lower the charge.
Then you have the expense of buying the shirts. Let's say you buy tees. You are looking at around $5-6 a shirt, again, assuming you are buying at least 100. You could probably get shirts cheaper, but price is reflective of quality.
If you manufacture your line...$$$$!!
Manufacturing costs are very high and almost prohibitive. You need to be sure you can actually make a profit on the shirts and that is hard to do in the USA. You may not be able to charge high enough prices to justify manufacturing.
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How can you make money fast? i need like 300 dollars but i have no job. HELP!! (link)
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Circulate flyers for housecleaning. Set your prices based on what needs to be done. Charge more for floors. Many people want their windows cleaned, but have a hard time getting housekeepers to do windows. You could charge by the window. $8 a window, perhaps?
I have a friends who has her own housecleaning business and she makes $40,000 a year, part time!
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Ok abouta year ago this guy messaged me on myspace. I went to his page and decided that I didn't know him so I just told him that I didn't know him and then ignored him.
A year passes by and about a half of a month ago he messaged me again. He said "I like it to write to u because u had my old url and I thought that maybe we could be friends". So I did some research on him.
I looked on his myspace and learned that it was a musician's account. He is a musician and he lives in Germany.(I listened to some of his songs and they really aren't that bad. I especially liked travelogue and hard to be a girl).
I can hear the german in his voice (for some reason he likes to sing in english better?) and so I'm pretty sure that he is actually not a 40 yr old rapist from Alabama that is putting on a show. I went to his youtube account and looked at his pictures, everything seems legit.
But here's the catch. I'm 16 and my myspace says that. He is 26, which I learned from his youtube account. That is a 10 year difference. While I don't believe that he is a rapist, I also can't imagine why he would be talking to me. He keeps starting conversations and asking about my interests and stuff. My pictures on myspace aren't like the hottest pictures ever or anything and he doesn't hint at anything like that. I'm actually pretty bitchy to him because I still don't trust him.
So my question is, what are his motives? I'm pretty sure he isn't a rapist so don't suggest it. I still have it as a possibility so don't worry. Maybe he just wants a fanbase? I have no idea. If anyone could help me figure out why he is bothering to talk to me then please it would be extremely helpful. I have been racking my brain and I still can not figure him out.
If you want to help me look into it, his myspace is www.myspace.com/edwardstockton
You can see for yourself that he seems harmless. Also he's extremely nice and sweet in his messages. He calls me "fraulein" and he always wonders about how I am doing and stuff.
So in conclusion, what do you think is driving him to talk to me? Tell me if you need more information. (link)
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Does he know how old you are? I would cut off communication with him. You are considered a child if you are under the age of 18. Besides, what possible interest could a grown man have in a child? This doesn't sound wholesome to me.
Pedophiles are out there in numbers. Please, be very careful as they are shrewd and crafty and will never let you know their true intentions unless they truly believe they can get away with it.
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paris hilton is my rolemodel! i idolize her! everyone makes fun of me because of it. they say shes aslut and everything. but im reading her book and its really telling me awesome advice. like how to be confident and stuff. i think she is a good rolemodel. what is you guys' take on her? do you think she is a bad rolemodel? why or whynot? thanks in advance (link)
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Paris Hilton is an interesting character. She's funny, pretty and knows how to market herself.
That said, when you're a gazzilionaire, it's fairly easy to market yourself. If your only goal is to be funny and pretty, then she's an excellent role model. If you want to own a hotel chain, then I'd look elsewhere for a role model. She's inherited everything she has. Now, her sister, on the other hand, seems to me to be the better role model. At least she is trying to make a name for herself in the business world. She has a big advantage because she is a Hilton, but, she's a serious worker with a vision.
I haven't read Paris' book, so I don't know what she's telling her readers about confidence. She may be giving good advice, but I don't know. If you take her advice about confidence, you may succeed in that area. Keep in mind that it takes more than self confidence to advance in this world. It takes hard work, diligence, endurance, wisdom and knowledge.
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I was dating this guy for a year and everything was going really well and we got on so well. But about a month ago he dumped me he said he couldnt go out with me eneymore as becouse me being mixed raced confuses things too much and he wants to now stick with his own race which is white. I dont know where it came from as he is not a racist has he dated me and I really love him and I dont know what to do. Should I have it out with him or not. Or maybe he thinks I am weird. (link)
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I would't bother. He's a real creep. If race is an issue, then there will never be anything you can do to make it work anyway. Maybe he's not a racist. It could be that the customs of your culture clash with his. It really doesn't matter. If he really cared for you, he would overlook these things. They certainly wouldn't be an issue.
Have you met his family and/or friends? Perhaps they are pressuring him. You don't say how old you are. If you are young and he is young, then he is easier to influence by family and friends. If you're both older, then he has no backbone.
Either way, if he was a man and if he really cared for you, race would not be an issue. I know whereof I speak because I, myself, am in a mixed relationship and my husband would move mountains for me and disassociate himself from anybody who didn't accept me.
Be glad he dumped you! He did you a big favor! I know you're hurting now, but, in the long run, this is the best thing and you will get over him.
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okay so i do gymnastics and i really feel like a complete failure at it and at other things. i feel like people are laughing at me or are gonna when i try to go for skills and mess up or i feel like when i try to dance (because im not great at it) people just think its a joke and it really hurts and is depressing me. i feel like all my friends can do everything better then me and i dont know what to do anymore. please give me some helpful advice. im not looking for sympathy. (link)
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You suffer from low self esteem and because of it, you are very self conscious and are probably conjuring up all kinds of thoughts of how people are looking and laughing at you.
You must forget all of that and get on with life. Obviously, you've got the guts and determination to go and pursue the things you are interested in! That in itself says alot! There are many, and I mean many, people who have interests that they never pursue, over their entire lifetime because they don't feel they will succeed. Don't be hard on yourself! You may not end up being the best gymnast or dancer, but then....you may. Point is, you will never know until you try.
The heck with anyone else or what they may think. You will regret it if you don't pursue your interests in this life. You only go around once. I admire you for going for it despite your insecurities! Here's a little clue...it is not possible that your friends can do everything better than you. If they are better dancers, fine. Better gymnasts, okay. Maybe you are a better equestrian. Tennis player, golfer, political debater. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. You will find your niche. In the meantime, brush it all of and do what you love!
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I'm trying to teach myself guitar with the help of the internet. Its not going well.
Keep in mind, I'm an absolute beginner, I don't know the difference between notes & chords. I've tried several websites, but some places jump right into chords and other places start with some octave thing or whatever.
Does anyone have a great website they used or maybe some tips? This isn't going well because I can't find a site that will start me from the very, very beginning.
Thank you :)
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The first step would be to learn the basic chords. This website will help.... http://www.zentao.com/guitar/lesson1/music.html
Memorize two chords at a time and practice moving between the two until you can do it at a fairly good speed. Then add another and another.
Once you know these basic chords, you can play a multitude of songs. You can find songs on http://www.chordie.com/ Pick songs that are easy for you and use the chords that you know. Obviously, you won't be attempting Classical Gas right away, but there are many songs that use the basic chords. Print out the songs so you can practice.
As far as notes, well, you'll have to learn to read music to read notes, but if you know chords, Chordie is a great place to find just about any song you want, without having to read music!
After you've practiced the song you've chosen (hopefully it's in the same key) you can go on you tube and see if it's posted. If so, you can play along with the band!
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I have a huge fear of bugs and anything gross really, like bats or rats. Mainly just bugs, because people come in contact with those more often. Whenever a bug is around me and i can see it, or it touches me, etc.. my breathing gets heavier, my heart starts pounding faster, my eyes get watery, because im about to cry, i have this empty sunken feeling in my stomach,then i start feelings nauscious, i feel like im just about to die because im so afraid, and i start breathing so fast its like im hyperventilating. Is this like a anxiety or panic attack? or just a big fear? Is there anything I can do to not have such a big reaction? While i am in school bugs dont come around often but if there was to i wouldnt want to make a big scene and embarass myself. (link)
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Entomopobia: Fear of insects
Any irrational fear is called a phobia, regardless of what triggers the fear. There are groups you can join that deal with phobias. Perhaps you should look into it because phobias can get way out of hand and control your life.
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I was wondering, AM I AN ALCOHOLIC?
Well, I've been noticing my weird behavior this days. And i really wanna know if i have a problem.
I love partying and drinking.
I love jack daniel and black label. I also drink wine sometimes but i drink beer more often.
I miss school sometimes because of my hangovers and for not sleeping well.
I don't communicate with people like before, i barely answer my phone, it's weird that i have new friends i don't talk to anyone.
I sometimes drink alone in my room, and sometimes i pass out.
i drink literally everyday, not drunk but even having at least 3 or 4 beers.
I do homework while drinking. I drink at school sometimes.
Sometimes i'm dying to get home from school to take a drink.
I hang out with friends more often than before, like i never stay home if i dont need to.
And when i say hang out, i mean chilling at a friend's house just drinking, and others smoking up hash.
I spend all my money on drinks. I would drink and not buy food.
And i've noticed that i drink more everyday to get my head fixed like the night before.
It's bothering me, the need for my drinks and everyday i woke up and go like "CRAP i did not do that yesterday" , or sometimes i just don;t remember some parts.
I got kicked out of a concert for picking a fight with a girl (im a girl), IT WAS embaressing
I made out with zillion of guys when im drunk.
I LOVE DRINKING, i love it's advantages but i can't deal with it's disadvantages, and my lifestyle is shit right now so i can't ask for help from doctor/parents, and if you're gonna suggest a close friend, EVERYONE DRINKS but not as much as me and my close friends.
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Wonder no more. You are an alcoholic.
You "..love it's advantages." Pray tell, what are it's advantages? I see none in your post. Your entire post is composed of disadvantages. You pick your friends because they drink. All alcoholics do that.
If you can't ask for help from your doctor or parents, then what are you looking for? There are no magic bullets in this kind of problem and your problem is quite severe. If I were you, I would run to the nearest AA meeting without hesitation, since you can't go to your doctor or parents.
PLEASE, do it before you destroy your life. You're young enough to get past this and leave it far behind. If you wait to tackle it, it'll be a problem for the rest of your life and it won't get better, it'll get worse.
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No guys like me at my school. I guess Im pretty, all my (girl) friends always say Im sooo pretty and that they wish they had my looks and I never even ask them if Im pretty they just randomly say it. But all my friends that say that, have boyfriends or a bunch of guys like them. And all of my sisters and her boyfriends friends say Im hot behind my back. Im not popular but Im not a geek or anything either, just in the middle. Everyone knows me or knows of me, even all the popular guys! I just dont get why no one likes me. I have a very outgoing personality. Im average in body size. I mean whats going on?
Sorry if its long, and thanks for reading!
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Yours is not an uncommon problem. Guys often think pretty girls are unapproachable, so they don't approach. They may think you'll reject them because they aren't up to your standards as they assume a pretty girl has higher standards for the guys they will consider. Happens all the time.
Be friendly and warm and hope that someone feels brave enough to ask you out.
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In more recent times, the business that I have been working for has been firing employees every day, because sales and new contracts have been low and they can't afford to keep them around.
Unfortunately, because they don't want their unemployment payments to go up, they've been firing people over the smallest of reasons.
Now they're going after my job, for NO reason. I have no written warnings, never had any workplace performance problems, and up until now was actually rewarded for my skill at what I do.
So... I'm in trouble. I might be getting fired, for reasons that are complete lies.
What should I do? And after I'm fired, then what should I do next?
Your advice is greatly appreciated.
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Fired or laid off? If you have no written warnings, it would be hard to justify firing you. Lay offs, on the other hand, are happening now because of the economy.
Get your resume together now and start your job search. If you get laid off, you'll be ahead of the game. Being pro-active is the best defense against anxiety.
If you do get laid off, ask your boss if he will write you a letter of recommendation. Stay on good terms with this company and do not leave with an attitude. Be polite and professional, otherwise, you won't get your letter of recommendation and will not be able to use them as a reference. You may even tell them you've really enjoyed working with them and if ever things turn around in the future, they should feel free to call you.
I'll tell you why I say this...my husband was fired from a company because of company politics. He left there with a very good attitude and guess what? A month later they hired him back as a consultant and doubled his pay. As it turned out, they couldn't function without him.
So, never burn your bridges. You don't know what will come out of all this.
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okay so usually i can qo to sleep HAVING to pee like crazy and i can hold it throuqh out thee whole niqht. soo basicly what im tryinq to qet at is , i have qood bladder control.
well the other day me and my friend were at this qym place and we were runninq around havinq a qood time with all our friends.
butt me and her had split off and went and chilled because i was a little tired.
while we were sittinq i noticed i was peeinq my self a little and i couldnt feel it , nor could i stop it.
do you have any idea what that was?
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Urinary incontinence can happen for a wide variety of reasons. You should see your doctor and if he dismisses it, see a specialist.
Here's a website you might find helpful...
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/urinary-incontinence/DS00404/DSECTION=causes
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What does it mean when someone responds to something you say by saying, "Word."?
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It means they agree with you, or It's the truth. Sort of like saying, "Amen".
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For summer I really want to get into better shape. I'm not fat or anything, but I guess I have some chub on my stomach and I want to get like a six pack or something. What should I do to get one/how often? And when will I begin to see results? (link)
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Sit ups, with knees bent and crunches. You can find exercises for the stomach, online.
Keep in mind that if you do these exercises for a month you will really get toned nicely. If you still have chub after a month, you have a layer of fat on your stomach which you will only get rid of by cutting calories.
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I just got a bible as a present, it's an NIV version. It's purple and green and soo cute, and I'm feeling...inspired. I really want to start sitting down and studying, reading, whatever you want to call it.
My family has a strong Christian background, but we don't go to church or anything like that.
It's such a big book! So...where do I start?
In the back, there are some lists of versus about Jesus' healings and things like that.
I just don't know where to begin. Some versus in the New Testament are in red. Should I start with those?
Do I even read the whole Bible word for word, in order?! Gahhh! I'm so overwhelmed. Please, help! (link)
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Start at the beginning, where God started. Read a chapter a day, or more if you're inspired.
I would say a prayer for God to speak to me through his word and reveal the truth to me before I start reading.
God will bless you!
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I'm 15, female, and am very skinny. The only place on my body that's "fat" is my face. My face has always been a bit bigger, but ive been looking at pictures of myself from throught the years and i noticed my cheeks just keep getting fatter! i'm on zoloft (for depression) concerta (for ADD) and ampicillin (for acne). Do any one of these medicines cause weight gain in the face? And what are some things I can do to get rid of my face fat? (link)
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How long have you been on Ampicillin? Have you ever used ampicillin before and had a reaction to it?
Is your face swollen or just chubby?
Penicillin and other penicillin antibiotics (ampicillin) can cause facial swelling if you are allergic to them. Talk to your doctor.
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