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I'm 16, female.
My boyfriend of 2 years recently cheated on me. he was at a party and had sex with a senior from my school.i broke up with him. he now says he regrets everything and wants me back.He told me he loves me and only me. So, my question is should i believe him and take him back? i mean i love him and everything, i just don't wanna get screwed over.
thanks in advance :]!

I have had this same thing happen but more than once. I know how you feel, you think about how he hurt you and you think that you should hate him but you dont. You still love him and you think about the sweet times more than the bad. Its really hard. But this is completly up to you. Talk to him and tell him that your dead serious and he better not mess up again or you wont even talk to him anymore, tell him that you will act like you never knew eachother. If he cares about you this will scare him and most likely he will change.

But there is a big chance that it will happen again. So be careful.

Hope i helped. And if you need anything else feel free to go to my column and ask me =]

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hi guyz

im really confused w/ this guy. we are both 16. basically i told him i liked him and he told me he liked me too (more than friends we made that clear) we have kissed and i have known him for a couple of months now.

&&basically i sent him a text and he just didnt reply. and hasnt yet. i wont text him again b/c he obv doesnt want to speak to me, but why would he do this? his friend says he does this to people sometimes but why would he do it to me if he likes me?

A lot of guys dont want to seem like they are too into a girl. They will get a lot of crap from their guy friends and its just not the cool thing to do.

So he doesnt want to be seen talking to you all the time or seeing you a lot.

Just talk to him and tell him that if he is going to be like this then your not waiting forever. Even if you like him. If he likes you enough he will start to treat you normal. And if not then he wasnt worth your time to begin with.

Hope i helped =]

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Yeah, I'm working on a playlist of confident songs? Such as shutup and drive by rihanna and 'like this' by kelly rowland. i'm not focused on the genre, but those are the only two i have haha. thanks (:

Im not sure what music your into but these are my good mood songs. ha
Tangled up in me- Skye Sweetnam
Dont Trust me- 3oh3
The Middle- Jimmy Eat World
My Life Be Like- Gritz
Still Waiting- Sum 41
Weightless- All Time Low

Hope I helped =]

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The pill and the morning after pill

are they the same?
Because I swear both of them stop your period , so they must be the same?

And as for the pill, when does it wear off?

They aren't the same.

The pill is a pill you take everyday to stop you from getting pregnant, and it doesnt stop your period you still get spotting.

The morining after pill is for when you have unprotected sex. You take it and it makes you start your period so you relase an egg so you dont get pregnant.

The pill doesnt wear off. as long as you take it at the same time everyday then you should be fine. If you miss a couple of days you shouldnt have unprotected sex for a week so you can make sure it works.

Hope i helped =]

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I'm old enough and want to get the pill.

If I go to a doctor, what should I ask

Should I just ask can I go on birth control?
Do I have to give a reason? I mean its self spalanatory isn't it...

If I get the pill also, you have to take it daily right? If you decide to stop taking it, what will happen?

Can you guys help me out in what to ask my doctor and just give me some main facts on the pill

please dont give me any links?

Ok well if you go to your doctor you dont have to expalin yourself on why you want to get the pill. Just bring it up and ask about the different types of birth control.

Yes you have to take it daily. If you decide to stop taking it, it really messes your body up. I wouldnt recommend it. i stopped taking it and my emotions, my period and everything was just all messed up. So i wouldnt reccommend getting off of it after you are on.

Hope i helped =]

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i recently used a tampon for the first time. I was fine when inserting it, but it hurt when i removed it.. why was this?
thanks

Well it normally hurts the first time a girl uses a tampon. Your body isnt used to it so it hurts and is really uncomfortable for the first little while. You will get used to it i promise.

Hope i helped =]

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hey i have minnior acne and i am 13 and im so afraid that i am never gonna get a boyfriend and i want my first kiss and i keeo reading thease first kiss stories and listening to thease love songs WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

Dont worry about it. Acne is part of being a teenager. Everyone gets it sometime. Plus your only 13 you still have atleast 70 years to live. I promise you will get your first kiss. Dont even worry about it. I promise it will happen. And most likely your acne has nothing to do with you not having your first kiss, you just have to be at the right place at the right time.

Hope i helped =]

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i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.

17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.

oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.

Well it sounds like you still mean a lot to him, especially if he says he still wants you in his life after being in a relationship with you for that long. There is a big chance of him falling for you again. The summer, The beach, its all perfect. Just take him to dinner and to the beach and splash around in the water with him and just flirt and be the way you used to be with him.

In my opinion i think it is very possible. Just sit on the beach, listen to the waves and look up at the stars. Maybe even lay and cuddle with him if you feel its right.

Hope i helped & Good Luck! =]

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Okay, so to start off with I'm really white and I shave my vaginal area. I hate hair down there but more then that, I hate that after I shave I get i guess you could say 5 oclock shadow. How do I get rid of that or reduce it?

Use shaving cream or a lotion. It gets really close to the sking and most of the time you wont have little stubbles or whatever you call them.

Hope i helped =]

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How do I get a guy to get me praegnent? I really like this guy and I want his babys but we haven't really done anything like sexual or anything. Is there some way I can get him to have sex with me but make sure I get praegnet?

Ok well first of all whether you like him or not, whether you have his baby or not, it doesnt mean that you guys are going to be together forever. Your obviously young and having a baby is really stupid especially if your not "with" this guy. And if he doesnt want a baby he wont support you and he will leave you. No one wants that responsibility at your age.

I know you probably like kids and you want someone to love you unconditionally. I understand. We've all been there but having a kid isnt the right thing to do and i promise if you have a baby you will reagret it.

Im not trying to tell you what to do, i mean that is my opinion. But if you really want to have his baby talk to him about it and maybe there is a slight chance that he wants one too. But im doubting it.

Hope i helped =]

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any way to make hickies go away fast besides make-up? your answers will all be rated 5 and greatly appriciated, im graduating soon and dont want the whole world to kno i have a hickie!(one is on neck, other on upper part of breast) PLEASE HELP ME!

When you are in the shower let hot water run on it and the put your fingers on it and rub it. This releases the blood and it will clear up a lot faster.

Hope i helped =]

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Okay, I know you get these a whole lot! And I will tell you as a columnist for years here I have seen them pop up daily. Well my situation is a bit unique; bare with me.

So, I last had sex like last week. Usually my period is regular (I start every 34 days), and I last started mid-april (week of 13th). Well I receieved no period when I should of started last week.

So I looked and looked and looked over the internet about when to test. Some websites told me to wait another month; other said wait until your missed period. It has been a short time between sex and a scheduled period which confuses me.

I am getting weird symptoms.. nausea, fatigue, bloating, and irritability. Sometimes on some random times I start cramping real bad.

Stress couldn't be much of a factor.. I have a little stress but everyone has stress. I am happy for the most part.

So any help here on what I should do? Thanks.

To take a test i would wait about 2-3 weeks. It just depends.

If you stress about being pregnant you will get the symptoms of being pregnant like nausea, fatigue and you may even start to get a belly if it gets bad enough.

Try not to stress about it. it will just make it worse.

Plus even if your period is usually regular it can get messed up with no reason. If it doesnt show up in about 2 weeks i would go take a pregnancy test.

Hope i helped =]

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i have an LG Shine.
i tried setting the security codes on my phone. but it messed up and wont work.

and on my screen it says " PIN Code Blocked."

and it's asking me to put the PUK code in. i cant find the manual book for my phone. so does anyone know what it is?? i've tried using " 0000 " cause i read in my book to do that. but it still didnt work.

this had happened before..and i really cant tell my mom about it. cause she dosent get technology and stuff. and she'd get all mad and confused.

PLEASE HELP.

( i have a go phone plan if that helps.)

I had this same thing happen. It locks your SIM card because it thinks that someone is trying to take info out of the phone. I had to go to the nearest AT&T store and they had to give me a new SIM. if you tell the guy that it just came up with a code and you tried to put your personal code in and it locked, most likely he wont make you pay for a new SIM (i didnt have to) If you do have to pay for it its about $25. Just have one of your friends take you or have your mom drop you off by one (like if there is a store by target) tell her you want to go shopping at target and after she drops you off go to the phone store. Good luck!

Hope i helped =]

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I've just started taking TriNessa and I'm still getting used to taking it at exactly 9:00 every night. I've been on it for about 10 days now and a few of those nights I would forget to take it at exactly 9:00, but I would remember around 9:15 or 9:30. Will it still be effective if I take it just 15-30 minutes late. (I obviously will try to take it at exactly 9.)

Also, I was wondering when it will be safe for me to have sex without using a condom?

Thanks!

Yes it is still effective if you are 15-30 minutes late. Its not that big of a deal. Just try not to forget it for more than an hour.

After a week of being on birth control (without missing a day) you will be able to have sex.

Hope i helped =]

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so i'm still inlove with my first boyfriend. After I broke up with him, he went onto one of the girls that I had told him thought he was cute...this was during the relationship. They never went out...but i'm really close with the girl now...and she would tell me all about their converstions. He always brought me up and talked bad about me. their conversations would based on how weird or whatevever I am....just basically talking shit....i don't get it....so what do you guys think this means? i know sometimes people on here try to say things just to make a person feel better, but straight up honesty for me wont hurt at all! so please, i don't care how much it will hurt, but at least I will know the truth of what this sutuation really seems like.

Honestly he might not be talking shit on you but she is just telling you that because they have a "thing" or whatever. So she is saying that because if he was telling her that he was still in love with you, that would mess up her chance with him. Im not sure if this is whats going on but it could be.

If he really is talking shit he is stupid. What good does that do for him??? So if he really is when she talks about it just act like it doesnt bother you. Dont ask questions just be like haha thats funny or whatever and just blow it off. Then most likely she will stop telling you because she knows you dont care.

Hope i helped =]

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I have been with this guy for a few months and we've friends for a few years. Our relationship is different from most people our age,we don't play games and we both know that we'll always be together. I really love him but a lot of things have been happening lately that I'm worried about. Tell me what you think;
He gets mad really easily and says that he's not good enough for me and he's an idiot and all that.
When he gets upset he really hurts me, he'll just leave without saying goodbye and he won't come over.
He always thinks that I don't care about him as much as he cares about me and that he shows me how much he loves me but I act like I don't love him.
HELP! Has anyone ever been with a guy that does these things?

Some guys will do this to get attention and for you to be like "Baby why would you say that i love you more than anything" or something like that. A lot of guys just need reassurance that you care. But some guys will say that just to make you feel bad and make you think that you have to make it up to them by doing "things" for them. Unfortunately a lot of girls have had this happen. Just talk to him and tell him how you really feel and see if that fixes things and also tell him that when you fight him not talking to you isnt going to fix anything and that it makes you sad. hopefully he will straighten up haha Hope i helped =]

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what do you think about cousins dating?

I personally think that it isnt very smart. If they planned on having kids there can be a lot of complications and if they are blood related i just think thats weird... actually its called incest.

I know a lot of people do it my bff is pregnant by her second cousin, blood related and i just think that it is the weirdest thing but that is just my opinion.

If the people both agree that it is ok i guess its ok. its their life not mine.

Hope i helped =]

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where does being shy around guys come from?
practically every guy i tlak to i can't seem to tlak to them. small tlak it easy. but like...everything else doesn't. i know i'm suppose to tlak to them like i talk to girls but then i get all choked up and shy

It doesnt really come from anywhere, some girls are really comfortable around guys and others are just really shy it all depends on your personality.

I know that this will be hard at first but you have to be comfortable with yourself and then you will be more comportable around guys. When your friends are with guys just go up and start talking to your friends and then jump in the convo that they are having with the guys. The more you talk the more comfortable you will get. Hope i helped =]

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Im a female 15.
My ex is a male also 15.
We recently broke up for something really stupid. So stupid that I have no clue why we broke up. He pretty much said I was bringing his grades down, and that I wasnt the girl that he liked because ive changed a lot and then after blaming everything on me, he said, im sorry... its not you, its me.
We went out for 5 months and I like him a lot. And this time im not going out with a guy because of looks, but because he is who he is. And im a really pretty girl, once guys found out i was single again they went crazy. Not ugly ones, but cute guys, But the only guy I like is HIM. Does anyone know some advice so that I could get him back, or how to forget about him ?
Thanks in advance.

Well think about it this way. School is out soon, summer is here, forget your ex and have fun. Thats the best part about summer is having fun and messing around. You can go to one party and kiss one guy and then the next night kiss another guy just for the heck of it and no one can say anything because you have a boyfriend. I know that it will be hard but keep yourself busy with other guys, flirt a lot and just live life. Your 15 im sorry but your probably not going to spend the rest of your life with your ex so i say dont worry about it. I know its easier said than done but if you keep occupied it will be a lot easier. Hope i helped =]

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Iam 20 years old and I have a problem with trusting people a little bit to easy and I want to know how to be not so trusting?

I honestly think that it will take someone to really lie to you and hurt you for you to be a not so trusting person. I was the same way. Then i got lied to over and over by my boyfriend and now its hard for me to believe what anyone says. I dont think there is any way you can change how you are with trusting people you will just have to find out that people aren't as honest as they seem to be. Hope i helped =]

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