I have been with my boyfriend for about a year 1/2 now. Lateley he has just been getting up underneath my skin so bad he never wants to go to the places tht i want to go to. I have this weekemd planned for all my friends and him at thsi island near cedar point i asked him if he was gonna have fun and party he said no cause he doesnt want to spend the money. I dont understand i dont think were so much alike anymore he never has fun hes always talking about his car that hes fixing up. he put a body kist on his car rims and all that stupid stuff its always about his car hes constantly always talking about and doing something to it. im happy hes doig that instead of drugs but come on its a getting alittle out of control how can i get him to let loose and be more relaxed hes always so up tight and worrying about his money situtaion he has a good job but hell still ask me to pay something because he wants to get something for his car i dont know what to do its getting to the point where im not sure if i even want to be with him what can i do to relax and stay with him even if it ends up not happeing how can i let him go without hurting him??? please help im going to go insane!!!!!!!!!
It sounds like you're just getting too used to each other. You've been together for a while and now the appreciation for each other is going downhill.
Have you tried flat out telling your boyfriend that you want him to have fun with you instead of working on his car all the time? You shouldn't be paying anything for him just so that he can get more stuff for his car. You need to let him know how you're feeling and why you're feeling it.
You have to be understanding if he doesn't want to go party. Not everyone is into that. But he should let that go and at least have a good time.
Don't attack him with it and make him feel like he's doing everything wrong. But let him know that you wish he would focus on things other than his car every once in a while.
Sometimes people change and grow apart. Maybe you guys are just going your separate ways with your different priorities. But I wouldn't give up on him just yet. You've put a lot of time into this relationship, so before you do anything drastic, ask yourself some questions.
What are his positives? Is he sweet, romantic, dependable, helpful, nice, understanding? Why have you guys been dating so long? How would you feel if he was no longer in your life?
It may seem like him going out with you and partying is the most important thing right now, but it most likely isn't. Maybe you guys just have different definitions of fun? Maybe going to parties and getting wasted isn't fun for him? Try to compromise and find things that you BOTH like to do and that you can do together. Do you both like a certain type of movie? Make a trip to the movie theater. Try to spend a night out with just the two of you. Do something that will re-spark the love and appreciation in your relationship.
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Im moving to another state and i really need hlp. im gonna have to make new friends and last time i moved i couldn make any and i only had about 3. how can i make new friends? plus, i like kiddy shows (nick, cartoonetwork) and im going to be in 7th.
Just try to be as friendly and sociable as you can be. The good part about moving now is that you have all summer break to make friends before school starts. It's much better than moving in the middle of the school year.
When you move, scope out places around town to go. If people hangout at the local pool, the skating rink, downtown somewhere, a cafe, an ice cream shop etc.. Go there.
Let your presence be known by talking to people. Don't be irritating and interrupt people's conversations. But just say 'hey' to a few people that don't seem to be too busy at the time.
As far as the cartoons go, you don't have to meet people and say, "Hi there. I'm (insert name). I like to watch cartoons on Nickelodeon and Cartoon Network." You don't have to mention that at all.
Also, unless the shows you're watching are Blues Clues or something, it's really not that abnormal. Plenty of people that are much older than you like to chill out and watch cartoons.
Darby(:
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the grad is comeing up and we have to ask some body i was going to ask my crush but then my friend asked him and he said yes but he likes me not her he just said yes to not be mean and 3 of my other friends like him what do i do ?
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If five of you are crushing on the same guy, neither of you should go for him. You don't want to get into a huge competition with all of your friends over the same person. I'm sure you could all find good guys to go with, other than this boy.
Plus, your friend is already going with him. If you try to take him from her now, you can guarantee your friendship will be permanently messed up. She won't trust you anymore and she'll be angry that you took her date. She got to him first. Just steer clear and find another guy to ask.
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what do you think hurts more vacines or blood tests??? because when i took blood out it didnt hurt dat much! but i want you to tell me which one do you think hurts less??
please answer backk!!
It depends what vaccine it is. The last vaccine I had was a couple years ago and I didn't feel it much. I don't think either of them hurt much. Even if there is a small pinch/sting, it goes away as soon as the pull the needle out. The last blood test I had was last year, and it hurt worse than the last vaccine I had.
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My ex boyfriend recently told me he would like to keep contact with his ex's child. This ex he dated 6 years ago and it has been over for a while. As weel, he only knew this child for 1 1/2 years. What is his mind set?
He probably got close to this child and became a father figure to him/her. A year and a half is a long time to know a child because they grow up so quickly in that period of time. Children also tend to latch on to the adults in their lives. Since the child knew him for a year and a half, I'm sure the he/she looked up to your boyfriend. It's hard to disappoint a kid like that by disappearing from their life completely.
I can see where this would make you very uncomfortable. But this is most likely his mindset at this point.
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How much does this boy like me? (im a female and 14)
1. Helps me with anything i need (serisouly) he's even covered the heater thats next to me in science bcz i said i was freezing
2. Has geuinely thanked me for coming to his soccer game and watching him
3. Holds the door open for me and walks down the hallway with me (even though we dont say anything) its kind of cool :)
4. Laughs (nicely) when he pulls out a pic of me and friends acting like losers from my backpack. he looks in my backpack all the time and finds that picture
5. (most important) but hes shy :(
LOTS OF FEEDBACK PLEASE!
It sounds like he likes you, but he's too shy to come out and say it. I can't give you an extent to which he likes you, but I can tell you that he probably has a bit of a crush. Try to talk to him and get to know him more. The more you talk to him, the more you get to know each other, the more comfortable he will be around you. If he's comfortable around you, his shyness should subside and he might be able to tell you how he feels about you.
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well...it prooves the guy aint just worth it...
this guy asked me out after we slowdanced every song at a dance. i said yes, and we kissed and stuff later in the day. i had been waiting for that moment for so long, as we had been friends for 2 years now. then after a day and a half, he dumps me, saying he still loves me. i ask him out again, but he doesnt reply propley. then at the last dance at school, he totally ignores me in front of all his friends.
but this 8 grade girl, who thinks shes all that, says to me it was only a dare to ask me out, and that he never liked me, though its obvious he did...she was just jealous, cause, they went out for 3 weeks and didnt do anything, and in 1 day, we had already kissed....
but i know it aint a dare, cause one of his close friends told me he had told them he would ask meout before we go to bed, but he had just dared the guy to ask me at that moment!
and my 'friend' kept on flirting with him, THE MOMENT I BROKE UP.
i mean she kept flirting with him, hugging him when we were about to dance and stuff. and when we were about to kiss, she'd start talking to him!!!!
she'd basically tried to break us up.
i hate her for that, seeing as it was my first kiss and all..and he was really sweet to me...
im now ignoring this friend and i really dont know what to do about this guy...i still love him, but hate him for what he's done!
and i try to flirt with him, but he doesnt respond, and then he starts flirting with me!
-- Mrs. captain jack sparrow
I would hardly call him your ex if you only dated for one day. Yeah, your friend shouldn't flirt with him, but this is just a mixed up situation. Whether or not it was a dare to ask you out, this guy isn't worth the drama. He sounds like he's about eleven years old and doesn't want a relationship. Also, I'm not so sure that you guys 'love' each other. If you 'loved' each other, you would most likely date for more than one day.
Did he give you any particular reason as to why he wanted to break up after dating for one day?
Either way, you need to move on. If you don't trust your friend that flirted with your ex anymore, just don't talk to her. If she asks why, tell her that you don't appreciate her flirting with her exes that you don't trust her anymore.
As far as the guy goes, stop trying to pursue a relationship with him. It's obvious that he's not interested. Especially if he doesn't even respond when you talk to him. He ignored you in front of his friends, he dumped you after dating for one day.. He's just playing games and unless you want to play games too, you need to move on.
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My gifriend and i are thinking about having sex
were both virgins both 16 and im worried because ive got a small penis and im a bit worried that i wont be any good or satisfy her can you please a girl with a small penis?
Yes, you can. You didn't specify size, but it really doesn't matter. Since she's a virgin, she's not going to have anything to compare it to. It's all about how you use it, not size. Plus, being her first time, it would hurt more if you were bigger.
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what kind a questions do they ask at interviews and how do i answer them so i can get the job
also i heard that asking questions increases the chances of getting the job so what questions can i ask them
They ask questions like:
-Why do you want this job?
-What are your special qualifications for this job?
-What is your past work experience?
-What are your hobbies?
-Where do you see yourself in five years?
-What career are you looking forward to as an adult?
-What times are you available to work?
-Can you work weekends? Holidays?
Just answer these questions honestly while still making yourself look good. If you like to go out on the weekends and get wasted, don't mention that in your list of hobbies. Make sure you tell them you can work weekends. If the job is something having to do with computers, tell them that you have good typing skills/computer knowledge (as long as those things are true).
If the job requires you to run a cash register, tell them that you've ran one before (if you have) or that you're a fast learner and you will catch on quickly.
Be friendly, smile, be likable. Don't act stuck up. Just take a deep breath and be honest (within reason)
As far as questions you could ask, ask any questions you may have. If you're wondering what your exact job description would be, ask them. If you're wondering about policies/uniforms/money, ask them. Don't be rude, of course. Don't just waltz in and say, "Yo, uh, yeah.. soo how much you gonna pay me??" I'm sure you know this, but some people need practical advice (ha). Just ask things politely and make sure you don't just sit across from them, completely silent the whole time.
Employers like to see personality, enthusiasm, and spirit in potential employees.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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Well, there are two problems with that. One: Around here, i am the only person my age that does what they are supposed to do. Putting myself around bad influences will corrupt my morals for not only now, but the future as well. And two: I get along with no one at my age. My profession requires me to ask mature and mannerly. My teachers and administrators respect that. The students? Not so much. So, that explains why I hang out with older people (with sense). Oh, and me and my partner don't have sex. I believe in abstinence, and he said it was fine with him.
The problem with that is that you're going to go through this same pain every single year then. If you plan to only become friends with people that are five years older than you, you have to understand that they are going to be leaving and you are going to be staying.
I understand that you're mature for your age. I was extremely mature when I was thirteen as well. It's great that you feel as though you're mature. However, it is far from impossible to find mature people that are around or only a couple years older than you.
I understand that people in your grade are probably less mature than you. But you can still find people that act 'mannerly' and are mature. There is no possible way that you are the only thirteen year old in your area that doesn't break laws, party, drink, smoke, do drugs, drop out of school, cut class, etc.. Whatever it is that you're speaking of, I guarantee you're not the only one that does 'what you're supposed to do'.
You just have to scope out people that are getting good grades, staying in class, acting in a mature fashion, etc..
Unless, of course, you want to become friends with the upcoming seniors and feel this exact same pain at this time next year.
It's great that your boyfriend is okay with you being abstinent. It doesn't meant that a long distance relationship would work. But if you think you're prepared for that, go for it.
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I have a child that was "terminated" from his preschool on Thursday. We pay at the beginning of the week for the entire week. I asked for reimbursement for the Friday he is not allowed to attend and they informed me we would not be reimbursed. I informed them that it does not state anywhere in the contract that "terminations" will not be reimbursed. It talks about the termination reasons. The very small preschool informed me they would go to court over the small sum of money and informed on Friday that my child made a hole in one of the walls on Tuesday and they would consider the last day payment as coverage for the damage. Again, I was not informed until today (3 days after the apparent damage) that my son damaged a wall. I just want the reimbursement for the one day out of the week he is not attending due to termination, am I correct in asking for this?
I don't think it's wrong for you to ask for your money back. If your son had really made a hole in the wall on Tuesday, they should have told you on Tuesday.
However, if the contract doesn't state that they have to reimburse your money if the child is terminated, I am not certain that they are legally obligated to give you your money.
Plus, they would have to get the cost of damage estimated. They can't just assume that Friday's payment fee is equal to the cost of the hole in the wall. They would also likely have to prove that it was your son that did it.
If you are willing to pay money to go to court for the money, you'll need to speak to a lawyer. Either way, you'll need to take the contract to a lawyer, have him/her review it, explain what happened, and they will tell you whether or not you are entitled to your money.
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hi. i'm really a go-getter. i've listed all the things i want to experience before turning 20 but i don't know where to start!!!
i want to do lots of things but i just can't start on something!
i want to learn baking, photography, driving,volunteer at a charity,mountain climbing,change my fashion style, etc.. and etc!!
i just don't know where to start! pls. help. i don't want to end up having lots of these goals but regret them for not being able to do them. LIFE IS SHORT.
~dreamer.18/f
Just takes things one or two at a time. It's summer now so it's the perfect time to start some of these things. Take driver's ed classes or have one of your parents teach you how to drive after you get your permit. To get the permit handbook, go to your local DMV. Study the book, then take the test. It's very easy.
At the same time, you can volunteer somewhere. Taking the driver's permit test won't take much of your time. Study for a week, take the test, you'll get your permit, you can start driving with a parent. It's a quick process. Then you can focus on volunteering. Go to this site to find volunteer opportunities near you:
http://www.volunteermatch.org/
That would be two things off the list. Then changing your fashion style would be easy too. If you typically dress preppier, get some grungier shirts and get a haircut. Where your makeup a tad bit darker and there your style has changed completely. If you typically dress grungier, get a couple name brand shirts and lighten up your look a little.
Darby(:
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What is the best pain killer for hangovers?
Thanks! :)
Don't take Tylenol or anything else that is acetaminophen-based. It causes damage to your liver when mixed with alcohol.
The best painkillers for hangovers are either aspirin or ibuprofen.
Also, if you have it, drink a tablespoon of pure honey. It absorbs the alcohol in your system.
Once you do that, lay down in a dark room with a wet, cold washrag on your forehead or neck. It works wonders.
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can people tell we your not a vigin..?how?
how can you have sex .but without popping your cherry..?
can you loose your virginity if your getting fingered?
People typically won't be able to tell that you're not a virgin. If they could, it would just be in the way that you act while you're doing it.
You can't have sex without popping your cherry. It just happens.
And to the last question, it all depends on your definition of virginity. If you think a penis has to be in a vagina before the virginity is gone, then no getting fingered won't make you lose your virginity.
If you think that when your hymen breaks is when you no longer have your virginity, then you could lose it by getting fingered.
There is no way to have vaginal intercourse without losing your virginity. No matter what your definition of virginity is, if you have vaginal sex, your virginity is definitely gone.
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I'm old enough and want to get the pill.
If I go to a doctor, what should I ask
Should I just ask can I go on birth control?
Do I have to give a reason? I mean its self spalanatory isn't it...
If I get the pill also, you have to take it daily right? If you decide to stop taking it, what will happen?
Can you guys help me out in what to ask my doctor and just give me some main facts on the pill
please dont give me any links?
When you go to your doctor, just say, "I'm wanting to know my options of birth control pills." He's not going to freak out and say, "Why? Why do you need birth control?" He's a doctor. He deals with waaay more personal stuff than that every day. He's just going to then tell you your options and you're going to pick one.
Yes, you have to take the pill at the same time each day. If you decide to stop taking it, you could get pregnant and your cycle could get off track. This is another thing that you can ask your doctor. It depends on what brand of pill you're using. So just ask your doctor what will happen if you decide to stop taking it. He will know what will happen with that particular brand.
As far as main facts about the pill: It usually takes your body a month to get used to it. It can make you moody. Sometimes a certain brand won't work with your hormones, in which case you'll go back to your doctor and try a different kind. Your doctor will give you all of this information. He will trace back through your medical history and determine which pill will probably be best for you.
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hello, just to give some background info: im 19, female, just finished my freshman year in college. before i went to college, my urine was usually colorless and my vagina never smelled like anything (well, nothing noticeable at least). i'm a very clean person yet after a few months into college, the odor/color of my urine is stronger and so is the smell of my vagina. it's not necessarily bad, but it's something i'm not used to. i went to get it checked out by the nurses at school and they tested me for hpv, yeast infection, etc and they said i was totally fine! what gives? thanks for your answers.
Your urine has most likely changed because your diet has changed. In college, you probably don't eat as healthy as you did when you were home.
If you don't drink a lot of water, start doing it. Strong odor/color in urine usually indicates dehydration.
Also, if you're drinking a lot of soda, coffee, energy drinks or taking vitamins that could be the cause of the sudden strong odor.
Darby(:
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Okay. Let me start off by explaining myself. I am 13 years old currently. I am dating a senior in high school who is seventeem. (Please don't criticize me asking why I am dating him. I didn't ask to fall in love) We have been dating for about a year now, and its safe to say that we are in love with each other. In a couple of weeks, he is graduating from high school. I also have about 11 other friends that are graduating also.
Now, on his birthday (August 11th), unfortunately, I have to break up with him. The reason why, is because I don't want to become jailbait for him, and it's also very difficult keeping a long-distance relationship. The day after his birthday, he has to leave to go to college.
I've been really depressed lately, and it's all going downhill from here. Can you please give me tips on how to cope with the pain of losing my boyfriend and my closest friends leaving me? I would really appreciate it. Oh, and by the way, my parents have no idea i'm dating him.
Unfortunately, you seem to have gotten yourself in a situation where you're hanging out with people that are too old for you. Yeah, I know, you don't want to hear that. But there are several reasons why you shouldn't hang out with people that are five years older than you when you're thirteen.
This is one of the big reasons. Now all of your friends and your boyfriend are going to leave for college and they're honestly not going to have time like they do now. They'll probably in class, doing homework, working, partying, or sleeping at all times. They're not going to have time to call you up on the phone and talk for 4 hours straight.
Even if you try a long distance thing with your boyfriend, he's not going to be able to call you every night to see how your day was and talk to you for a prolonged period of time.
I think it's a good idea that you are breaking up with him after he turns 18. Not only because he's not going to be a minor anymore, but because once he goes off to college, it will most likely be only pain for you. Since you've been together for a year it would be very difficult to switch to a long distance relationship. Especially since he's going to be in college, and I said before, most likely very busy.
You'll make new friends and find a new boyfriend. It sucks that they're all leaving, but you had to know that was going to happen at the end of this school year. Try finding friends and guys that are near your own age. If you just become friends with the upcoming seniors, you're going to have this problem all over again next year.
As far as coping with the pain, hang out with the people you hang out with at school over summer break. If you have some girl friends that are your age that you hang out with, try to get closer to them over break. That way, when school starts and everyone else leaves, you'll still have a support system out of the friends that are your age.
Darby(:
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18, F.
This guy I talk to on and off, R, asked me to his prom 3 weeks ago. We talk a lot and get along well.
Well... I have been liking my other friend forever, B. We talk everyday and have a million classes together. We went to prom together and I had the best time. So basically we are kind of together now (this just happened this week!) and confessed our feelings for each other and kiss and all that mushy stuff haha. I'm really more than happy with him.
Well, R has no idea about B and really likes me, I like him too but not as much as B. So I know R is going to want a kiss and be a couple at his prom, but I dont know what to say to R to tell him I don't want a kiss and all that? Should I tell R before hand? I don't know how to let him know without hurting him or ruining his prom. AND I don't want to hurt B, either. I would be hurt if he did that to me. Also, B knows I'm going to prom with him, but doesn't know we talked before.
You should definitely tell R that you're dating B before you go to prom. If you don't, you might get caught in the moment and end up kissing R at his prom. Just say, "Hey, I still really want to go to your prom as friends, but I just started dating this guy so I don't want it to be anything more than friends."
R is going to have to find out sometime and it will be much easier if you tell him beforehand. If you wait until you get there and he's wanting to kiss and then you're like, "Oh, wait, no, I have a boyfriend now." It's going to be a lot worse. It will probably make the whole evening awkward.
Just let him know as soon as you can, that way the thought of it will sink in and he'll already know in his mind when he's getting ready for prom that this is just a friend thing. You really don't want to wait and end up kissing him. Cheating on your boyfriend the week you start dating him is not a great relationship builder, haha. I'm sure if you just tell R what's up in advance he'll be understanding.
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hi, for some reason, my vagina has been itchy for the past day or so. the itch subsides most of the time, but usually at night the itchiness sometimes will get unbearable or it'll be a light itch. i'm a very clean person and i'm just wondering why it's itchy! i doubt i have an std (trust me). there's no weird discharge and it doesn't sting when i urinate (if that helps). but because i itch so much, sometimes my vulva and lips turn red and swell. thank you so much in advance.
I agree with the person below me that it could be a yeast infection. However, if it's just your lips that are itching, it might be something else. Because you said the itching subsides and there is no discharge, it makes me think that it's not a yeast infection. Yeast infections make your actual vagina hole (and the surrounding area) itch unbearably bad. But I've never heard of it stopping and starting again at night.
Keep an eye on it for the next couple days. If the itching becomes persistent and you get any weird discharge, get Monistat 3 :
http://www.monistat.com/monistat-3-day
Darby(:
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I have heard that there is a news story calling the famous "Whack-a-Kitten"(Actually "Whack-A-Kitty" but people seem to have taken over using the other title) video on YouTube animal cruelty!
Is this true? Have you seen it yet? Here is a link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_udqEp_YR4
I think it is cute as heck, and I don't see the cruelty in it.
I also can't seem to find that news story. Anyone?
Thanks!
I had never heard or seen it before.
I think it's really cute too though.
It's obviously that the person is barely even touching the kittens. But people get really hyped up over animal cruelty. They'll consider a lot of things animal cruelty, even when it's blatantly obvious that the animals are not being hurt.
Here's a news story about it:
http://www.myfoxorlando.com/dpp/news/offbeat/dpgo_whack_a_kitty_video_controversy_lwf_052809_2521511
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