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Prom & "Boyfriend."
18, F.
This guy I talk to on and off, R, asked me to his prom 3 weeks ago. We talk a lot and get along well.
Well... I have been liking my other friend forever, B. We talk everyday and have a million classes together. We went to prom together and I had the best time. So basically we are kind of together now (this just happened this week!) and confessed our feelings for each other and kiss and all that mushy stuff haha. I'm really more than happy with him.
Well, R has no idea about B and really likes me, I like him too but not as much as B. So I know R is going to want a kiss and be a couple at his prom, but I dont know what to say to R to tell him I don't want a kiss and all that? Should I tell R before hand? I don't know how to let him know without hurting him or ruining his prom. AND I don't want to hurt B, either. I would be hurt if he did that to me. Also, B knows I'm going to prom with him, but doesn't know we talked before.
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you need to tell R that you will still go to prom with him, but that just recently, you started going out with someone. if you're still up to it, tell him you'll still go with him and have a good time and just be a friends thing.
and if B doesnt know you're going with R, you should really tell him that it was made before you two got together.
R will have fun, you'll have fun, and B will still be with you. its a win-win-win. :)
have fun!
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You should definitely tell R that you're dating B before you go to prom. If you don't, you might get caught in the moment and end up kissing R at his prom. Just say, "Hey, I still really want to go to your prom as friends, but I just started dating this guy so I don't want it to be anything more than friends."
R is going to have to find out sometime and it will be much easier if you tell him beforehand. If you wait until you get there and he's wanting to kiss and then you're like, "Oh, wait, no, I have a boyfriend now." It's going to be a lot worse. It will probably make the whole evening awkward.
Just let him know as soon as you can, that way the thought of it will sink in and he'll already know in his mind when he's getting ready for prom that this is just a friend thing. You really don't want to wait and end up kissing him. Cheating on your boyfriend the week you start dating him is not a great relationship builder, haha. I'm sure if you just tell R what's up in advance he'll be understanding.
Darby(:
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