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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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can i delete my Advicenators account? if so, how?

You can't really delete it but go here. http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=38

i weigh 200 pounds...and i'm 15 and a girl is that fat? ((this is serious))
please help♥

i dont want advice on how to lose the wieght, cause i didnt ask for that advice.i just want to know if that is seriously overweight.

I'm not trying to sound mean, but yes. For age 15, you should be around 135-140.

does any1 have some laguna beach quotes? some of them r really cute.. thanks

and theres 1 like.. "its not that you want to be with him, its that you miss what you two had" idk but please give me some quotes

1. I used to think a lot about what people though of me. I learned I defenetly can`t please everyone.Some people will like you & some will hate you. Eather way, I don`t really care. I`m not loosing sleep over it. 2. It`s not that I still like him ;; I just miss what we had !! 3. Keep your friends close, boys closer, and your enemies as far away as possible.

Hi my parents found out I look at porn and they said they knew it was normal and stuff. Does this mean I should stop watching it?

You don't have to stop watching it. It is normal so no worries. Carry on. :D

Well i like this kid or i think he is very hott! ow ow. haha well anyways i was just wondering how i could get his attention :)

You have to talk to him. Just say heyy & you will get his attention.

What are some signs of anorexia, or signs of going in the path of anorexia? also if your heading in the path to anorexia what are way you can stop yourself? thanks. ill rate 5s for good anwers

I've been reading a lot about anorexia lately and it's really interesting. People who usually go through it or are on the way, think that they are very overweight or just little. They plan to loose maybe 5 pounds by starving themselves, then they will think they need to loose more because that didn't help. So on & on. It will become an addiction and they will never see themselves as skinny no matter how skinny they actually may be. If you think someone might be anorexic, they will always say I'm not hungry, & they won't have much energy. If someone is heading towards this, they need to realize how dangerous it is. You can really die from this. It's an illness, not a diet. That person needs to stop and that there are SO many other ways to loose weight and be happy with yourself. Bulimia is also bad. It's kind of like anorexia, but also very oppisite. It's when you eat but you throw it up. That can damage your lungs VERY badly, your throat, teeth and mouth. Anorexia nervousa is one of the worst things you can go through. They feed people through tubes, people won't have engery and they will just be put in a hopital. If you know anyone who has it, and they didn't tell anyone, I suggest you do something about it because that person is putting their life in danger.

Hey --

I want to sneak a Christmas present in my crush (lets just call him Matt).. but the problem is .. he has a girlfriend :'( .. and I dont know if it is right to give him a present .. but i think im just gonna give it to him as a friend .. so .. do u have any ideas of presents fer just a "FRIEND"

kk thanks aidrianna

It's fine if you give him a gift. No one says you can't. Just get him something little. Like a shirt & cologne.

how do i make my tummy flatter and get skinnier thighs? please help. what can i do?

It's simple. Exercise. Go to www.toneteen.com click on the body part and you will get exercises for that part. It's very helpful but you also have to change your eating. Don't eat as much fats. Replace chips with a fruit. You will adampt to a healthier eating plan and you will start to loose the fat and gain muscle.

I'm going to a surprise birthday party on Saturday. I was told I have to bring food or snacks. Do you guys have ANY ideas on what to bring? Recipes would be helpful. Thanks:)

It's better to buy something then to make it. Bring snacks. Chips, soda, something sweet. Things that people would like to eat. Have fun at the party!

Well.. there's this kid I'm like.. in love with at school.. and we're always flirting with each other. But like, I don't know if he likes me back. I'm too shy to tell him i like him. Any help??

If he always flirts back then there is a chance that he might like you back. Keep talking to him and then when you feel like you are ready to tell him, do so.

hey im on my period for the second time.

everytime i use a tampon.. i get weird nerve like pains in my leg.. its so weird. and really annoying.

wat should i do?

I don't think it's from the tampon but make sure you read the instructions on how to put it in.

thanks for answering the question! lol it helped..cuz i knew that i wanted to stick to my decision of not having sex and you just reminded me why i shouldnt :)thank you so much!

well goodnight love

You're welcome!! & thank you, you too. :D

ok here is the question lol. so today a speaker came into our class and was talking to us about sex. and how it would be good to wait until you are married and yes i am a virgin :) but then she also was like you should wait because you dont want to face the consequences and get all these diseases you are capable of getting. and i was thinkin YEAH itd be kinda nice to wait and prove to myself that i can do it. BUT then.. the really hott guys that im always interested are into sex and like they will get to know you but then like a couple times after they will want to do somethin with you. and im not good with pressure at all. and i think that if a guy wants sex from you-then hes no good you know? but wut if a guy wants me too.. like im gonna be so persuaded to because of his cute looks and just because i want him to like me..but then after hed probably leave me you know and be like oh on to the next girl. so i dont know what to do..how can i help this? im attracted to the bad boys.
thank you so much!

This is a situation where you could eather let them treat you like your nobody, or you can just say.. I'm way to good for them. I mean, think about it. Why in the world would you want a guy who only looks good but only wants you for a certain reason. Why would that make you feel better about yourself? I don't think it would. I understand that you want a cute guy, but all of the ones you want, want more from you then you are willing to give. Lets just say you did go out with one, you had sex you get a disease, you wish you could go back and fix things. Don't be so desprate for a guy, just wait for one to aproach you and a guy who actually likes you for other reasons besides sex. Just think about it and then it will all make sence.

well in one of my classes there is this really cute guy! and he flirts with me sometimes (somedays) and then somedays he like totally doesnt talk to me at all! i dont get it..and then there is this "popular" girl that he hangs out with sometimes and i think she gets jealous of me sometimes when he flirts with me..but then the days he doesnt talk to me he goes and talks to that other girl. rawr do you have any clue what might be going on? because sometimes i catch him looking at me ..or i think its me? haha. but yeah i dont know if its just him liking to flirt or if he has somethin goin for me? i dont know.

I'm not sure why he might be doing that, but people do that a lot. I know I do but I never know why. It's really difficult to explain, but he might just flirt with you in a friend way. He seems to like you and that othe girl just as friends and I don't really know what else to tell you. Just keep flirting with him and keep talking to him and see what happens.

hey did you get my question about how i wanted to wait for sex but then it was hard for me becuause of the boys cuteness, etc?! thanks

No I haven't. Are you sure you asked me?

sooooo.. i straighten my hair because i have to otherwise yeah. lets not get there but umm i havent gotten my haircut ina while but im gettin it cut in like 2 weeks! but for now i have SO MANY split ends and it looks horrible especially my bangs there really bad and im kind of embarassed i just bought this stuff to put on before straightening but thats not gonna make the ones that are already there goo away.. and im gonna be seeing alot of people this weekend and im embarassed of my hair! my mom cant get me in any earlier either for the haircut its all booked. any suggestions on what i should do? sorry its kinda tough but just do your best

Hm.. there really isn't much you can do. When my bangs were like that, I cut them myself lol. I didn't mess up or anything, I just cut it a little so it didn't look all that bad.Just do different hair styles for now because you really cant do anything else. Also, if you curl your hair you won't see the split ends as much, but use those ones you sleep with.

what do you think an average weight would be for a 15 year old girl about 5'6 - 5'7 ?!

Uhm, I'm not positive but around 135-140.

this is a personal question so if you dont want to answer i understand.

so ive been reading your previous advice and it youve said that you were shy? well what grades were you in and like how long did it take you to become more outgoing!? because like if im shy and im trying to be more outgoing wont people think there is something wrong with me? or trying to act like someone im not.. its not like im not gonna act like i am its just i wanna become more outgoing and like not care what people think of me. which i really need to work on but thanks for your time sweetie

Since I used to live in Europe for 7 years, when I came here I was oo shy because I didn't know English, I didn't know ANYONE or anything so I basiclly had to start all over. I was shy to talk to people because I didn't want them to think bad about me. The more I got used to it, I just didn't want to be bored & I got tired of not knowing people. So once I started school, I was still shy. I wouldn't just go up to someone and just be like HEYY!!. When I started 5th grade, I kept talking to people and made new friends. I will always be a little shy at first, but if I talk to you for about 5 minutes I'll see what kind of person you are and then I'll decide on how I want to act towards them. If they seem nice, I'll be nice and I'll just start to have fun around people because that's just how I am. If you are shy now, and all of the sudden you have to have fun and become outgoing people won't think your weird or think that there is something wrong with you. No matter what you're doing, make it fun! If you have confidence in yourself no matter what the situation is you are outgoing! You shouldn't care about what people think of you. People will only say something bad if you are a really mean person or if they are jelous of you.

WeLl.. when i have my period i dont wear tampons i wear pads and yeah i dont wanna sound like a bitch but IM NOT gONNA TRY TAMPONS so please dont suggest that.. lol so anyways..when im around a guy and i have a pad on its kinda like i dont even wanna go anywhere because i feel like if a guy wants to get close to me or touch my butt or hit it that they will feel it and i feel really insecure!! its really bad..sometime i go to school and dont do anything for the whole week/weekend i have it. any suggestions?! thanks alot

Just wondering, but why exactly won't you try a tampon? They really are comftrable and there isn't anything bad about them. If you don't want to wear them, that's fine but there is no other option besides pads. When you have jeans on or some pants, you shouldn't be able to feel the pad. It's suppoed to go in the front, not all the way in the back. I personally don't think that pads are comftrable. It makes me feel like I'm wearing a dyper. Lol.

OHH!! so you know how you were telling that krissy girl that if you get layers your hair will look shorter and it will be hard to straigthen. well uhh ive had my hair like layered alot in the front... for maybe a year or a little less and i want it to be all one length because i want long hair and the layers arent helping and like it really doesnt straighten it always curls in and it bugs me!! how long do you think it will take for it to grow back to one length? there isnt anything you can do to help it or anything is there haha :)

That's what I did with my hair. I got soo tired of having layers because it fliped out like crazy and it never stayed straight. Choose what lenght you want. When I got my hair cut, I cut it from my longest layer and now it's all one lenght. If your layers are long, cut it up til that layer. It might take a while for your hair to grow out, but it will. Just keep it healthy.

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