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Q: well im 13 years old and i dont get that much money from my parents cause were not that rich! however i really wanna buy an e-quitar and i need about uuhh 60 more dollars so does any1 have a good idea how to make money?? like i said im only 13 but please help me! im so desperate with quitars :-D i'll rate 5's for any good advice!

there's a limited amount of jobs for 13 year olds but, you could babysit (what most people do). that's hard if you can't find babysitting jobs but you should send out flyers to people you know/in your neighborhood. also, you could offer to do "odd jobs" for people, or clean up people's houses (or your own if your parents can spare some money) or something like that. walking dogs, watching people's houses/pets/plans while they're away, mowing lawn, yard work, etc. are all ideas. you may be a little old for this but you could also make, like, jewlrey or some specific thing & sell it. (:

&& im not sure if mcdonalds, dairy queen and your local supermarket, etc. hire at 13 or 14, but you could check that outt too.

Q: My 2 best friends [who arent even that good of friends with each other] went out last night with a few guys and this girl who are considered cool. My friend invited me to go, but I didnt want to because i wasnt exactly invited by the others. So my best friend went and asked my other friend, and they went and had a BLAST. they then had a sleepover afterwards and couldnt stop repeating how FUN it was. It got me pretty pissed, and they left a message on my fone saying that they didnt think we could be friends anymore because we get in to many fights? Im not sure if they were kidding but I dont know what to do. My friend is really not that social, but over AIM last nite she basically told me that she was sooo cool becuase she is friends with them and im not. what do i do. i need advice.

those girls are mean and superficial. they're getting big heads because they think they hung out with "cool people". if you really can't bear the thought of losing them, i would talk to them. but it sounds liek they're just being rude & mean and if i were you, iwould start to find other friends that i could hang out with more. that message on your phone.. if it wasn't a joke, and even if it was, that is so rude. really, i think you should try and develop better friendships w/ other people. they're getting big heads because they hung out w/ "cool people" which is superficial and dumb. and dont worry, what goes around comes around and pretty soon maybe those "cool people" will dump your friends. basically, just distance yourself from them and try to develop better relationships w/ other friends.

Q: I have had this friend for 6 yrs. She told me that she had started smoking and asked me to also. What should I do to help my friend

No I did not start smoking.

First of all, don't give in to peeer pressure or smoke. for your friend, since she has been your friend for so long you probably do not want to give her up. and you don't hvae to. try to help her to quit smoking. explain why its bad for her, how bad it is for her health, and everything. if she needs help, there are quitting tips & programs. or get a trusted adult to help you guys.

when she pressures you to smoke, tell her no & dont give in just because your her friend. smoking is really addictive, and even if oyu just smoke once or twice you can get addicted. and quitting is very, very difficult. its so bad for your health, and a big waste of money (think of what you could spend a year's supply of cigarettes on!). dont start.

Q: Can you get an infection or disese or anything if you leave your pad in too long?

no you cant. the only way to get a disease is from tampons (toxic shock syndrome)

Q: Tomorrow is this dance. I will see my crush there. I don't call it a cruch though cause we both like e/o. Well, today my best freind told me she can't go anymore cause she is grounded. There is like a 5% chance she may be able to go. My crush is getting my ticket. I know it wil hurt him if I don't go. I really really don't want to though, I won't know anyone, just like 5 poeple. Should I just suck it up and go? Or do what I want to do?

Well in my humble opinion only go if you feel the urge of calling.

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Q: Does anyone know any sites that are similar to Greatest Journal or Myspace?

xanga.com && freewebs.com

Q: What is douche? What is it when someone douches?

a douche is something a female uses to clean out her vagina. also, people use it to call others like jerks, asses, etc.

Q: ok hey. so, i'm in highschool (i'm a sophomore.). i'm a female (pretty obvious?) and i need advice. duh. i haven't dated/liked ANYONE since llllaaaasssssttttt year. i really want to find someone that i can like and will like me. all my friends have boyfriends, and they are neglecting our friendship to hang out with their stupid boys. this isn't just about them, though. i really want someone who i can be with romantically. do you have any advice to help me when i don't have a boy, or to help me get one?

yess, i know what you mean.. thanks for dropping one in my inbox im happy to help hahaaa. to meet guys, you really have to put yourself out there. i know it may be hard but if you don't, they aren't just gonna pop up. flirt w/ guys you think are cutee, and talk to them about stuff they like and such. before you know it you'll find that guy that you love flirting with. get his s/n/# and talk to him, developing a relationship. then start hanging out w/ groups of people. pretty soon, if not already, he'll like you & you'll have a good friendship/relationship. i hope that helps

Q: I want to lose at least 20 pounds before summer

am i waaaay to late to start a diet right now? will it be like impossible to lose 20 pounds before june 1st?

I really don't think that there's a truly HEALTHY way to loose 20 pounds in less than 2 monthes. yes, there are diets that say you can do that .. but most people on those loose the weight & then gain all of it[or more] back. what the person below me said .. thats just loosing water weight, its not loosing fat like you probably want to do. its not healthy to loose more than 2 pounds a week, but all you can do is eat healthy, exersize, etc. and the weight will come off and you will notice a change. drop one in my inbox if you need any more help!

Q: Things have been really not too good lately. I'm 15, female and I know this is the time when everybody changes. But OK I have 2 BFFs - like, I have other best/close friends but these 2 are like my best best friends if that makes sense - well anyway, I am not too fond of change and seems like everything is changing. Last week was our spring break, these 2 girls and I usually would have done everything together, but we didn't hang out that much by ourselves, only in bigger groups and only sometimes. We don't feel like BFFs anymore. And another thing, one of them is switching schools next year to go to a private school, so IDK. Can someone just help me, explain to me whats going on? The one girl, Michelle, was kinda being mean to me and they don't seem to tell me stuff anymore. Should I just forget about them and hang with other friends? But they're my BEST friends and I will miss that. Also, not Michelle but the other one, her dad was just diagnosed with cancer so maybe thats making her act weird and I want to be there for her but Michelle has no excuse. I'll rate 5s for anything that helps, sorry if its long and confusing! But tomorrow in Italian we're supposed to pick partners for this big project and Michelle's in my class so I don't know how that will go .. so just help me please! Oh, and I haven't talked to them about it and I don't think we could really TALK about it. But, anyway, Thanks!

things do change a lot.. yah, its hard to get used to. i would just say stil mantain your relationship with your best friends, but also meet new people and start becoming better friends with others. start spending more time with your other close friends. yes, it will be hard and you probably will miss them, but hey, it's michelle's fault for treating you like that. her loss, right? the other girl, she may just be having some personal problems w/ her family + such and she may need you to be there for her now more than ever. it might be good to talk to michelle, because if she is your best friend, won't it be worth it? but, like i said, start hanging with your other close friends, too. if you need any more help, drop one in my inbox. good luck.!

Q: i've been googling all day and i cant it anywere,so i want 2 noo ..
whats ther average weight of someone who is 4"8 1/2?
whats the average weight of someone who is 5"3 ?

for 4'8'', i'd say anywhere from 80-100 or 105 pounds. for 5'3 like 95 or 100-125. it varies though; those are just estimates found on a health website.

thats for girls & for guys it would be different (more)but, for both of these, it really depends on your body structure, and other things. you should get a doctor's opinion.

Q: I think I might have depression, I have been depressed for a while. I have been cutting myself and feeling completely lost and hopeless. Everything is being affected by this and I have been having suicidal thoughts. I am scared and I think that I need to see a therapist to work through some issues, but I don't know how to bring it up with my parents. Does anyone know how I can bring it up with them? I know that I need help and my friends who know about my cutting think I need it as well. How can I bring it up? Thanks.

pick a time when you all can talk together. talk calmly and explain to them how you are feeling & what you are doing. it's best to be completley honest and explain. they might be surprised, or they might already have a feeling. but remember, they are your parents & they love you and want whats best for you so don't be scared to talk to them. by telling them that you think you need help and you WANT to stop, it shows maturity. and the fact that you already know this is a big step in itself. you are on the way to recovery.

good luck =] i hope everything works out for you.

Q: i need to eat heathly because i need to lose weight in less than a month, plz help me what should i eat?

eat protein (nuts, cheese, meats, etc.) because it will keep you full longer. you need carbs, but limit yourself & dont go crazy because they don't keep you full. if you have carbs for lunch or something, make sure that there's protein to go along with it. watch your calories. it may help to write stuff down because it'll keep you honest. set goals that you can actually reach, and reward yourself with something non-food when you reach each little one. for example, say that you wanna loose 3 pounds by the end of this week. if you do it, buy yourself a cute outfit or shirt or something. exersize is also important - try to get at least 60 minutes a day. but you can make it fun by doing it w/ a friend or whatever! this will all help you loose weight - but you have to be motivated =] the hardest part is starting. so good luck!

Q: So I like this guy a little bit but I rarely am able to see him. Also I am almost positive he doesnt think of me in that way even tho he says im cute and hot and stuff.
I really want to hang out with him! but if I invite him over i kno my parents will emberess me.
How can i hang out with him and what can I do when I hang out with him?

go to the movies, skating, a mutual friend's house, invite him to a party, bowling, outside since it's now getting warmer, etc. there's a lot you can do! go in a group (at first) if you wanna keep it casual

that way, you can get closer by hanging, flirt, and it will become something more w/o worrying about your parents ... ;]

Q: My Junior Prom is coming up in June. And I really want to look nice. So I want to know if any of you know any stores or websites that sales nice dresses. Even pictures of specific dresses would be nice. But I want to make sure it is a dress instead of a gawn. My price range is anywhere from $40-$60.

thanks in advance
I WILL RATE!

For your price range, any department stores like JC Pennys, etc. would have dresses. Also, DEB, Charcoal, Rampage & those types of stores have good ones for your budget. Good luck! =]

Q: we've been daten on and off lately. im 15 and he is 19 i know its illegal but we feel strong feelings for each other. and i owe him the chance of being with him since he is putting everything on the line for me. so my question is should i be with him or avoid a relationship?

it is not illegal for you to DATE him so dont worry, its just illegal if you guys have sex. however, 15 & 19 is a difference in age, maturity and expierence. you should go with what YOU feel comfortable with. don't go farther than you want to go, and if you dont want to be in the relationship, then don't. its really up to you =] hope i helped.

Q: what kind of motivation can help me loose weight???

first of all, set managable goals for yourself (not too much at a time) so that it's attainable. then, give yourself non-food rewards when you reach each goal. for example, say your goal is to loose 6 pounds by May, and if you reach the goal, buy yourself a cutee skirt or something that you like. also, buy yourself a bathing suit and tell yourself how comfortable & good you'll look in it once you loose your weight. once you start loosing weight, its a motivator in itself, so the tough part is getting started =] good luck! _drop one in my inbox if you need any more help.

Q: Ok guys...well you see...I think I might be pregnant....I haven't had my period since like Feb. so I'm pretty sure I am..but my problem is..that I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19, and I really actually want this baby, because ya know if I was able to lay down and have unprotected sex..then I am able to take care of my baby...but, I'm just afraid that my mom is going to freak out and call the cops on my boyfriend and he is going to get thrown in jail because of the age difference. I'm so confused and I don't want an abortion and my boyfriend (whom I love) to be in jail...so, if any one has any advice..it is GREATLY appreciated!!!!

it's responsible of you to keep your baby & decide that .. i would say talk to your boyfriend for support & then talk to your mom. sit her down and be very calm. explain your feelings & tell her that you know she thinks you made a big mistake, but that you are willing to take care of the baby and you love your boyfriend. while 15 is really young for a baby, if you feel like you can take care of it that is your decision. problem is you are still under your parents rule. so, just explain to her the situation & how you feel & everything, be respectful and calm, and hope for the best. goodluck!

Q: theres this kid in school whos "somewhat" popular becuz hes really good looking. I want to become friends with him but i dont want to just go up to him and say "hi i want to be your friend"..how weird is that..what should i do??

if he's in any of your classes, other activities, you see him at a party, etc. you should try & strike up a conversation with him. start w/ something you have in common, and ask him questions about himself (good way to get a guys attention). smile because its more friendly. just start talking to him and gradually maybe start hanging out or something. =] good luck hope i helped.

Q: what kinds of food help make you fell full longer. I'm tryin to loose weight????

nuts are great, eating just a little will make you feel full. protein (meat, cheese, dairy, etc.) fills you up, too. carbohydrates are NOT very filling (fruits, breads, etc.) it doesn't mean you can't have them they are just not very filling. proteinnnnnnnnnnn is the answer! =]