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is it ok to date
we've been daten on and off lately. im 15 and he is 19 i know its illegal but we feel strong feelings for each other. and i owe him the chance of being with him since he is putting everything on the line for me. so my question is should i be with him or avoid a relationship?
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it is not illegal for you to DATE him so dont worry, its just illegal if you guys have sex. however, 15 & 19 is a difference in age, maturity and expierence. you should go with what YOU feel comfortable with. don't go farther than you want to go, and if you dont want to be in the relationship, then don't. its really up to you =] hope i helped.
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Well, you can be together, but dont have a sexual relationship because of the age difference. THink to yourself, is this the guy your going to marry. He is putting everything on the line for you, your 15, you cant get married and you probably wont marry since your so young you'll want to experience other relationships. Noone can tell you to be with him or not, because it is a personal issue. But, I can give you my opinion on this, don't let him put everything on the line for you, he needs to have his "stuff on the line" because he needs to still be himself. Good Luck!!!Hope I helped!
-Brina
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It may seem like you're very close and have strong feelings but there is a huge difference between a man of 19 and a child of 15. Yes, 15 is still a child.
If you both pursue a physical relationship, he can be charged with statutory rape and if found guilty will serve time and be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. Do you really want to do that to him? And does he want to risk all that for you???
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The first rule of a healthy relationship: you don't 'owe' another person anything. That's not the right reason to be with someone. You should be in a relationship because you choose to be there.
While this guy might seem great, you are correct in pointing out that sex would not be legal. Aside from that, there is quite a difference between 15 and 19 - you're still in high school and have a way to go, while he's presumeably been there and done that.
It's usually best to date people in the same stage of life as you. If you find someone who's the right person, at the right time, you won't even have to question it. The fact that you're questioning this possible relationship makes me think it's not the best choice for you, and you know it.
You totally deserve to be with someone because you all-the-way want to, and age is always a complication.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck!
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I think that if he respects you and listens to you and isn't too forward with you and if your happy you should stay with him....age dosn't matter if your happy and he respects you so yeahh hope this helps
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ahh its not if you hvae sex, its if you get caught having sex hes in trouble. but if the legal issue is the only thing hodling you back, then go for it.
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Actually, so long as you don't have sex he won't get into trouble. If you should though, he could go to jail.
I don't think letting a guy go to jail for you would be a very good idea. So, if you think sex is something you won't be able to avoid then I wouldn't pursue the relationship right now.
If you think you can muddle through as a couple who abstains from sex until you are legal then it would be okay. With parents okay, of course. :)
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It is something you should discuss with him. If the temptation will be to great you could always date with other couples around until you become "legal". If you are both committed to making it work it can be done. You will just have to be tough and determined! :)
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