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Ok I started this advice site to help out others. My friends say I give good advice but they could just be saying that to be nice lol. Tell me what you think by rating me (1-5, 1 l worst, 5 best). Good or bad, your rate will be appreciated!! Thank you!!
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Basically I'm 13 and i love to draw, swim, play volleyball and soccer, dance, sing, and hang out with friends. i love collecting purses haha, i have this huge purse collection in the back of my closet, most of them i never even use lol. i also like the shop and travel. i make madprofiles and i LOVE movies haha. i pretty much like anything non-academic related lol..god i'm so glad summer's started. anyways that's pretty much all about me!!
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Hey i think this advice column is great but i need some help. Here's my story. I am on track at school and i am on a medley team. (two laps around the track split up but 4 people) there is this girl who is not a good runner who says that she was signed up first to be on our team for 1 lap. and she wasnt here yesterday so we had this other girl go it with us. She is amazing and we all want her to stay. My whole group doesnt know what to expesially because one of our runners is best friends with the girl who isnt that great. What should we do? our meet is on monday!
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did that girl (the amazing runner) sign up? are they allowed to be on the team without signing up? if she did sign up, but that let's say "bad" girl did sign up first, it is fair that the bad girl gets to join the team. but she wasn't with you during a meet so that's a minus for her. maybe you could kindly suggest for her to join another sport she's better at? or could you just make this special and add her in? maybe you could make her a sub? i'm sorry those are bad...
if that amazing girl didn't sign up, you shouldn't have her join the team.
if she did sign up, but she signed up last then you should probably not have her join. it's just not fair to that bad girl then...(i know, it sucks but that's life )=)
if the amazing girl didn't sign up last but did sign up, maybe you should instead get rid of the person who signed up last? if you signed up last then nvm lol
ask the bad girl if she really wants to join track for the sport. maybe she only wants to join b/c one of her friends is in it. that could probably explain why she's bad.
sorry you may think i give horrible advice but i'm not really good in these situations. try browsing some of the highest rated advicenators. sorry!! i hope i helped though...=)
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okay so here is my major problem... My old friend (whom i haven't been friends with for a while) all of a sudden met this guy who is like my best friend & i do have feelings for him.... and this girl well too make it nice is sorta trashy?? but so now they both like eachother and i confronted her like why would you do that.... and she went all off on me... so we started going at it harshly.. & my best friend is still friends with her.. & when we were fighting the girls goes well rachael( my best friend) doesn't even like you and blah blah she always talks behond your back... & now my x best friend (rachael) like wont even talk too me anymore & she hates me??? I just dun get why she would ? i never really did anything too her but shes like taken this girls side ( who took the guy i like ) ??? Im soo confussed! please help... (link)
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ok i'm a little confused? let me make this clear, so your old bff went out with ur guy bff and now you two are fighting b/c u like that guy bff. and rachael, your other bff, is mad at you b/c she's friends with your old bff. if that's wrong i'm so sorry, i'm not sure!! please make it more clear...and i'll help ok? i'm sorry i'm stupid lol
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i`ve been goin out w| my boyfriend for exactLy 7 months today. im onLy 14 (gurL) so i think maybe i shouLd date around & not get into such a LoNg reLationship. but then again i Love him w| aLL my heart !! shouLd i stay w| him or date around ?! (link)
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i think you should keep going out with him, because you love him and if you dump him, you may not be able to get back with him if you don't find the right guy. also you're only 14, you still have like 12 more years to date!! (until you're 26, 27 and after if usually when women start to marry). hun you still have 12 more long years to go so i would stay with this guy...and you most likely won't be with him for 12 years. so then you have like 10 years to date around!! that's what i think, but it's your choice lol. i'm just hear to give advice =)
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I'm 14 and i was dating this guy and we broke up but like 2 days before we broke up we had a very hott makeout session and i gave him head. Now even after we've broken up he still wants to do stuff like that , and the thing is i still like him a lot..i've liked him for 4 years..but i know if i continue doing things with him then it'll just tear me up, but i want to in way. what should i do?!? (link)
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tell me why you two broke up in the first place anyway. it seems like you two still like each other a lot...well anyways if you want to do it, but you know its the wrong thing to do, try avoiding him at school or wherever you see him. the more you see him, the bigger urge you want to do stuff with him again. try to not sit by him at lunch, but don't be really rude in trying to avoid him. just don't TRY to be with him all the time, at least for now. also look out for other guys, once you're with another guy you like, you may start to worry less and less about this...
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hey i dont really consider myself fat but def not skinny and i need some ways to get alot skinnier for summer...(bathing suits.. i dont wanna be embarrassed wearing them) and i need some ways to get like rock hard abs and to tone my stomache and my legs (esp thighs) please help!
p.s. i run/walk 30 mins on the treadmill everyday, 45 situps and 35 pushups each day (girl pushups..i cant do a real pushup...any suggestions?) well thanks!!! xox (link)
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well that's good that you exercise so much! keep on doing that =). and you should try eating less junk food, eat more fruits and vegetables (i'd prefer fruits b/c i hate vegetables! haha). let's say you used to eat 2 pancakes, scrambled eggs, and orange juice for breakfast every morning. instead, now just eat 1 pancake and orange juice. but don't do that right away...first cut down a bit on the eggs, then stop eating the eggs, then eat 1 and a half pancakes, then eat only 1 pancake. trust me, that works a lot better and doesn't feel like you're starving yourself as much!
also NEVER go anorexic!! it's really common these days with girls who think they're fat. it's so unhealthy for you and it doesn't help!! duh it makes you skinny but eating nothing or throwing up is so totally gross and bad for you. i'm sorry i'm really against girls trying to go anorexic who don't even have that disease. lol anyways good luck!! =)
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Okay, see i really like this guy....a lot but i dont really WANT 2 like him because theres no point! bc he like totally hates me! ((well i ThInK)) and when i try 2 get over him, and tell people i DONT like him they never belive me! and everyone thinks hes like on drugs bc he has bags under his eyes ((well i think he does bc he stays up 2 late)) and hes like "bad" and gets like a lot of detintions and stuff. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
LoVe,
mE
ps- im in the 7th grade (link)
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don't worry, every girl falls in love with a "bad" boy at least once in her life. i hate it when people don't believe me when i say i don't like someone, that's why i only tell my closest friends who i like. you're in a really tought spot because you want to try to get him to like you, since you think he hates you. but you also don't want people to think you like him. maybe you should try being nice to him, but to make it "non-suspicious" try being nice to more people so it sort of blends in. and don't you know, it's totally hot these days to go out with a bad boy! (hehe) just don't let him get you into too much trouble or pressure you to take drugs or have sex or w/e...but that's a completely different story =). good luck!!
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okay so.. yeah! i have a problem.. theres this guy that i like soo much! i mean like i dont obsess over him but i still really do like him. but theres a few problems.. like we dont go to the same school so we dont really talk other than when we talk on the computer.. and like i dunno if he likes me because he acts like he does sometimes but then he doesnt other times.. and its really confusing. i cant really talk to anyone.. except like my two best friends, but like i cant talk to my parents about it because they dont understand.. they bug me about it and then act like its no big deal. me and my parents dont really have a good relationship that much. but like i dont know what to do cause i really like him and i dont think that hes gunna like me but im not sure. i know it sounds stupid but its really bothering me. please help! (link)
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i'd hate to say this, but it's really hard for you to go out with someone you only communicate through the computer with =(. it's normal, i don't tell my parents anything about my crushes. they wouldn't understand at all, it's called a generation gap. ok does he constantly IM you when you get online? always email you? that could say something. if you're the only one IMing or emailing him, maybe you shouln't do that so often since it makes it pretty obvious you like him then. just keep talking, don't stalk him or anything, if you do make sure he doesn't find out!! and maybe you could meet somewhere? maybe he's friends with one of your friends so you could meet him? then you could become real life friends and then someday date!! dude it could happen...hope i helped!=)
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hey i really like this guy,and like i know he thinks im hott and stuff... but i know if we went out all he would want is head. what should i do? i dont wanna be a prude b/c im not just i never done that b4 and like i wouldnt want him telling people about it.and i am only 13! just i really really like him!! (link)
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ugh, from what you said, he sounds like the type of hot, gorgeous guy who takes advantage of his looks to do sexual things with hot girls. those type of guys don't turn out to be loyal bfs and end up dating several girls at the same time. i don't think you should really, and if he brags about sex with girls, he's a total perv. i'm sorry, it's not like i know him but it sure sounds like it. plus getting head at age 13 is just wrong, don't lose your virginity to this guy who probably doesn't even love youu.
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ok there's this boy and i like him i think i dont but im not sure like we always talk when we see each other and online but see we went out already and the first time i really didnt like him and he really wasnt a good b.f but now he changed but i stil dont kno if he did i mena she says he did but how do i kno if he did (link)
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if you don't know if he even changed, why would you think he even changed in the first place? if you really want to find out, you could go out with him if you feel brave enough or you're very willing to. you aren't dating anyone right now, are you? so it shouldn't really hurt that much...but if he didn't change and you go out with him, then you might dump him right away and that might give you a mean reputation. i'm really sorry, i don't really understand your question that much?? :( sorry try explaining it a little more and i could help out!
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ok i have a boyfreind who i love with all my heart and i dont wanna let him go but then theres this boy who i used to be obbsessed with and he likes me now and i dont wanna let my babie go but i think i still have feelings for this other boy what should i do? (link)
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i don't think you should dump your bf at the moment, since you don't even want to let him go anyway. just stick with that boy and see what happens. for the other guy, if later on, you start to have more feelings for him, then maybe you should go out with him instead. if later, you start liking both boys, try to imagine going out with each one of them, and see which one you'd like to date better. if you dated your present bf for a long time, maybe you could just tell him that you'd like some alone time and maybe you 2 could come back some other time. and definitely don't date both of them at the same time! you could totally risk losing both of them! hope i helped =)!!
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ok if a boy gives u his number and says call it if you wanna talk and then gets off the computer does that mean he wants me to call him or no lol it might sound like a stupid question but i didnt know (link)
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does he have your phone number? if he doesn't, then you should probably wait a few hours or maybe even a day before you call him, so you don't sound too desperate. unless of course you're going out with him =). and did he say anything like call it right away? or liek tomorrow or something? if he did, then you should just call it at that time. but if he does have your number, you could wait like 2 days to see if he'll call you, and then call him since he told you to call him after all. do w/e, it's your choice! good luck!!
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im 15 and im going out with this guy that i really really like. hes so sweet to me and theres nothing wrong with him that i can tell.. but its like im scared to let myself fall for him and really like him because ive been hurt so many times with other guys and even though i kno that i do really like him it scares me and makes me want to push him away even though i knothat right now hes good for me and i need him. i dont know how to make my fear of being hurt by him go away or how to just let myself be with him and not have to worry. please help me with what to do or how to make myself comfortable and not scared with him please. (link)
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well, how do you know he won't be the one? like the one you marry and spend your life with? how would you like it if you just dump him because of your fear of being hurt when he could be the guy you'd love for the rest of your life? if he's good and sweet, etc... you should consider yourself blessed, because most girls can't find the "perfect" guy and some never even do. so just stay with him, take the chance, because you could be losing a lot more than you'd think... just keep saying that to yourself. good luck!!
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Me and my friends Kristen Beoncka and Denielle have been friends for along time now. wev been doing baton together and its so much fun. Well me and Kristen just resently quite but this year Denielle has been hanging out with a new group of people..and has been blowing us off .. big time. like everywhere we invite her shes lyke no sorry im going out with Victoria or whoever. We like basically talked to her about her changing and about her ditching us and leaving our whole group out but she seems like she doesnt care at all. shes all like "Yah im sorry im just busy" yah i mean were all busy to but can she not make time for us .. wev told her that several times even keep getting in fights with her and Victoria and them.But still it feels like we lost a portion of our group we have tons of people in it, its just that were all lyke sisters and brothers and once one is gone..it feels like theres a whole yah know? i really need help on getting her back with us.not to ditch her other friends becuzz we all have other friends to its just wev tried everything..do you have any more sugestions..? (link)
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that really hurts when a friend does that. i think you and kristen should have a maybe a one-on-one girl talk with denielle about this. just tell her what you just told me, how you hate losing her, how much you miss her, etc.. if that doesn't work and she really doesn't want to be friends anymore, maybe she just moved on. sorry but that's what happens sometimes and not all of your friends are going to be bffs. but the serious girl talk should probably give her her senses back, unless she truly 100% ditched you. but if you need more advice, IM me or just ask again. good luck!! =)
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my bff liked him so i had to break
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well your bff can't control who you date or not, and that wasn't really a good idea to dump him when you still like him in this situation..
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Hi, i am new to this place but i do have a question. My girlfriend wants to be friends cause she does't have the time in her schedule. She doesn't call it breaking up. And i feel like huh? When did she first feel like this. And now i am doing my best to get her out of my head but i still like her very much but i don't want to talk to her about it cause shes tired of hearing it. So for now i have been staying away from her. Ever since then i have been in a depressed phase and i am cranky as hell, but i do not think she cares enough about me as i do her, cause it seems her life and career are more important than i am to her. Can you tell me what i should do? (link)
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well she's probably really busy these days and she wants to be friends, not because she thinks her work is more important than you..but maybe because she wouldn't have time to hang out with you anymore. and what kind of girlfriend would that be? she might have to miss out on all the cool stuff you'd like to do because she's so busy, so she's trying not to have you suffer through that. but i know that you're upset and all, but it's not like she hates you or anything. she didn't even truly call it breaking up. but you can still hope that when her schedule isn't too hectic, she'll go out with you again=). for now, don't try to interfere with her. but also don't try to avoid her, because then she'll think you hate her or something. good luck!
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I dated this guy, and he was nice. But i thnk i still have feelings for him. And i broke up w. him! (link)
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why'd you break up with him in the first place lol? make it up to him and maybe you'll go out again idk..you didn't really make this very clear lol
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hey listen this mite sound weird but im in 7th grade and i have been goin gout w/ a boy for 6months and i truely love him but we have only kissed on the cheek..i rly wanna kiss him but im afirad i have never made out with anyone befor & i dont no how . i mean i no this sounds so gay & everything but will u please tell me (link)
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well i'm sure you'll get to kiss him sooner or later if you keep going out =). but i don't really think you should make the first move. it might scare him off or something. it's actually usually the guys who make the first move, but you don't always have to follow it that way. but if i were you, i'd wait for him. and the first kiss probably isn't going to be that serious, like frenching or something, so don't worry, just like a peck or something. and make sure you take a mint beforehand :). good luck!!
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heyy ii heard yur g0od aht advice . i need to talk see im in 10th grade & all my friends r well doing it . if u no wat i mean and my bf is always presuring me to do it and he bought protection and he asked me to i mean hes the caption of the foot b. teem he has a 6pack and i cant restsits him & now idk wat to do with him
Yes*or*no please help me Thanks (link)
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i can't say yes or no, because it's really your choice after all. plus if i give you the wrong answer, you might track me down lol. but seriously do you truly love this guy? would you like die or sacrifice yourself for him? if you would, you should do it because losing your virginity to a man you don't even really like isn't worth it. it's a big deal losing it, and if you want to lose it, lose it to someone you love. and you seem like you want to do it. but do you think you're ready though?
also do you trust this guy? what if you got a baby or STDs? would he be by your side helping you with the baby or when you're sick or something? it's not a high chance if you just do it once that you'll end up with either of those, but it has happened. it's a really tough decision, and i can't tell you yes or no. if you want to, you trust this guy, you love him, you've been dating for a long time, then maybe yes. if you're not sure you trust him, you sorta like him, and you've only been dating for like 2 months, then probably a no. sorry if i didn't give you exactly what you wanted =(. good luck!!
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here's my problem:
well.. i'm ALWAYS being concerned about my weight. that's all i really think about! i'm always thinking "OMG i'm soo fat!" and sometimes i think about going anorexic, but then i remember what my health teacher taught us about it. like, all my friends are skinnier than me.. and it makes me feel soo insecure about myself! i want to lose weight, and i personally don't think i eat too much, and some people actually DO think i'm anorexic. my brother is always calling me anorxic, as well as some of my guy friends. i dont know whats wrong with me! help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
signed,
I NEED TO LOSE LIKE 20 POUNDS!!!!!!!! (link)
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anorexic is a disease, so you can't really just go anorexic all of a sudden. idk how many times i've said this, but it's when no matter how skinny you are, you keep on thinking you're fat. but i get what you mean by saying that.
people call you anorexic probably because you worry about your weight so much or you eat so little. and also there's nothing wrong with you, a lot of girls worry about their weight and it's perfectly normal.
ok so here's some tips to help you lose weight...
1) avoid fatty foods or junk foods (eat like vegetables and fruits, food that's good for you) try dieting
2) exercise regularly. do like 10 pushups every morning and night. trust me, that does make a difference, plus you have PE during the school day.
3) see the doctor for these pills, i forgot what they're called but they like help you lose weight
also 20 pounds overweight isn't that bad. you aren't fat, you're just a bit chubby, which is fine. also going anorexic or w/e isn't going to help, like eating only an apple a day or throwing up. those just make your body worse, and plus it likes makes you depressed and stuff. good luck!!
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My best friend and I are really close. We always fight its not like a huge fight, there just little fights. I mean we have alot of fun together. But like, we can rarely go a day of school without arguing. I mean I think sometimes she has an attitude but its not like I help. I try to ignore her but sometimes I just get so mad. She always acts so smart I try to do good in school but then when I do good shes like "i dont care" then when I do good shes like showin off the whole day uhh and its soo annoyin! I dont want to loose a friend b/c were really close how can I prevent thesse fights ?? thanks!!! (link)
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i think you should probably say something like "ok whenever i do good, you don't care but whenever you do good, you always keep showing off. it's getting a bit annoying, and i'm not trying to offend you or anything but could you please stop showing off so much?" or w/e. but i'm sure you've probably said something like that before to her anyway.
or maybe when she does good, you can act really excited and glad for her, even though on the inside you could care less. that'll show what a good friend you are to her, supporting her. but if you say good job to her and she replies "i know duh" or something, then that is pretty annoyingg but if you're best friends you should totally support her. well that's a way you can prevent a fight, i mean how could she get mad at you for being nice to her lol?
also btw it's normal for best friends to fight =). my bff and i fight (not a lot, only little ones too). good luck!!
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