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Okay. is a 7 1/2 penis size. Small, big or average?

and what is considered big?
and what is considered small?
and what is considered average?

because my boyfriend says hes 7 1/2 at FULL length (like hard) and will that give me pleasure?

i always wondered this.
if your not going to be nice with answering this question please don't answer it. =/

thanks in advance! =]

Average is about 6 inches.

Below Average.. is well below 6 inches I guess.

Big seems to be 7 and up.

My boyfriend is almost 7 inches and it's great. I think it depends on skill because my friend's boyfriend is 5 1/2 and he seems to know how to use it very well.

It really depends. I've heard stories from some girls that 7 doesn't give them any pleasure. So yeah.. it seems to take a while to give you pleasure. After the first few tries .. experimenting with positions will help.

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okay so i just got my braces off and i have a permanent retainer behind my like 5 bottom middle teeth and behing my two front teeth on the top. you can't see the retainers because theyre like inside my mouth, behind my teeth. do you think it's going to be a problem when i'm making out with someone. like do you think they'll feel it?

Yeah no one will notice. No one's going to touch your teeth with their tongue. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and he had no clue I had those! It's behind my front bottom teeth so i was sure he knew.. but i had to show him.. and we do makeout with tongue and such. No problems. I've actually had these for nearly 5 years now and no one has pointed it out.. so I'm assuming they don't even know.

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Hi ppl im 18 and i have thought about going down on a girl and muff her pussy ,i just want to knw what a pussy taste like

Well it's different for every girl. Apparently it may taste a bit like what she ate. I've read up on some sites about it before and it's like.. if she eats fruits, it will be kinda sweet. Otherwise, some guys have described it as bittersweet.

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18/f

ok so im still a virgin but the guy i like isnt. do guys care if a girl they date is still a vigin or not.

You know. It really depends. Some guys like to have sex with a virgin because they can take their innocence away, blah blah, and because it's tight. The other half would probably want to date someone who is also experienced but not too promiscuous. If you're with a great guy.. You'll see that he would take things slow with you when you are ready. If he can't handle that, then he's not mature enough for you.

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i can never find makeup that makes my skin look nice.
i have acne (not bad) just a few pimples here and there and uneven texture + tone (it's especially dry in some spots to the point where when i put a bunch of moisturizer on my makeup still flakes but thats just in the winter) at the moment i use superstay silky and milani minerals from the drugstore, neither of which are too useful.

my friend uses bare minerals and says it works really good but she doesn't have any skin problems so idk.
i want something that will make my skin look smooth and nice without wasting money.

so:
1. is bare minerals good for acne prone skin
2. will it last throughout the day
3. will it work good on dry skin
4. is it worth the money

thankss

Bare Minerals is worth the money. It comes with a moisturizer to prepare your skin. I had very bad skin with various break outs, dry flaky skin and scars. If you buy the set, I think it's $70. You get 2 foundations, a bronzer type thing, mineral veil, concealer/application and kabuki brush. it comes along with a CD. I got mine at Sephora's so maybe it could've changed.

It gives you great coverage and makes your skin look smooth. People said that their skin has improved by using it. My skin become less dry and had more a glow instead of that blemish look after a few weeks of use. It does last through the day. It comes off easily with water. I'm sure you can find before and after pictures of people wearing it.

http://www.bareminerals.com/

Look under "Your Stories" and click Skin Condition. Click the drop down menu and choose.. whatever applies to you.

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is it normal for girls to have hair like in the chest area?

I feel like a MAN! I tried wearing a v-neck top but i couldn't could you could see hair at the V section!

It's normal to have hair all over your body. Some hair is darker than others. Even I have some hair there but it doesn't make you look like a man at all. You won't grow a hairy chest like them. i doubt anyone could see that you have hair there. Since you are so aware of your body and it's detail.. you are up that close.. I don't think anyone will lean over closely and stare inbetween there pointing out hairs.

I'm sure if you wear a shirt and ask someone how do you look in the chest area.. No one would get it.

It's almost like coverup. The good kind, you have to look super close to see that someone is wearing it. So unless someone is weird enough to get a few inches away from your chest, don't worry about it. A lot of people have darker hair down their belly but no one points it out. If anything, someone would point out a freckle.

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Does anyone think a 14 yr old having sex would be slutty? If she has been with this guy for a year, or even less than 12 months, but more than 4? and them knowing each other for 2 years?



This is not about me, I'm just wondering, and no offense to any 14 yr olds, it's just that some people call sluts now-a-days for wearing skirts, or too much eyeliner.

Anywho...you think it'd be better if she was 15? And she knew the consequences, and had was taking birth control, had condoms, etc.


Give me your opinions, thanks!

Well it's not slutty. Only if you go out of your way to have sex with every guy. I don't think it's a smart thing to do at a young age. Most girls don't know what they are getting into. If you are a prude, then you could be dumped. If you have too much sex, it takes away all romance and nearly turns into a friends with benefits thing.

I think it would be better at 16. To me it's just in between and almost there to 18. Honestly.. i think it's best to wait because sex puts so much strain on a relationship! even now, for me it's hard to have a little break without my guy being a bit antsy.. If you knew the consequences and were protected then at least you are being responsible.

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i have cover up that i use but it always comes off in the middle of the day. do you know any long lasting foundation/cover up?

I used Loreal's Ideal Balance foundation. I went through many foundation before so honestly, this is the best thing that has worked. It stays on the whole day especially when I use Loreal's true match powder.

It looks natural and makes your skin look really good. You might have to put on two light layers of foundation and powder it to make it set for the rest of the day. You could always carry the powder around and reapply. But so far, I didn't need to reapply yet.

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if you and your boyfriend is going out for 3 weeks and you guys were arguing a lot and he breaks up with you even though he still likes you and he wants you back after 5 days of break up would you still get back with him?

The keypoint is.. arguing a lot. especially so soon in the relationship.. Which is a sign that the relationship wasn't going to work out. I've been in a couple relationships.. honestly, we have never fought. It just sounds bad since it was under a month.

He may like you but, if you fight again... there's a chance he will break up with you again. So it all depends. If you want to give it another chance then try and compromise something if you argue. remember you need to communicate well if you get back together.

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i know my boyfriend masturbates to beautiful girls on the internet, hes even told me. im just crying right now because i looked at the insanely pretty girls he has as his favorites and who he probably masurbates to. im not pretty like them and i never will be, and it just really hurts because i feel like he isnt happy with me and would go with a beautiful girl if he could. we have been together for almost two years, and we have had our issues, but i just feel really low right now. is this normal? do i have anything to worry about? any input or experience like mine is appreciated, especially from a guys point of view!

I guess it's how you view it. I don't think masturbating is cheating. Unless there's an actual person in the room with him. Guys will always sneak a few nude photos you know. It's just something you'll have to get used to because some of them grew up sneaking up porn mags. You don't have to like it but don't constantly bring it up. They think YOU are beautiful but they need an instant satisfaction because they probably can't undress you with their eyes. My guy needs pictures sometimes, so I gave him some pictures of me instead [nothing nude btw]. Haha. I really don't mind my guy looking it up. I think some of those girls are pretty too but the chances of him actually meeting them is slim and he wouldn't do anything with them. besides, I doubt he would leave you for some porn/ scene chick because nobody wants to use the town's bike. You don't have to worry about anything.. just as long as he isn't obsessed with it..and i mean if he's going out of his way to avoid you and try to hook up with some of his favorites. if it bothers you that much, you should find some favorites of yours. not neccessary porn or anything, but those gorgeous male models :] Maybe that will put him in your place. you are beautiful and he thinks it. most guys don't think much about saying it especially when you've been in a long relationship. you don't have to feel low about it. if he wasn't happy with you, he would have left you a long time ago. so be happy until something comes up like meeting these chicks.. if not, then don't get jealous. guys will always look. in that case, it's okay for you to look too.

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16/M
ok well I really really really like this girl and I really think I love her. I went out with her for 2 months and we broke up a month ago from today. I was soo happy with her. All i had to do was be next to her and I was happy, as long as I was wit her I was happy. I only see her at school and I see her possibly once a month outside of skool =/ so its been a month but since that day that we broke up she hasn't gone a day with out kissing me. We are pretty much friends with benefits. She always gives me a kiss before leaving skool and she told me that she was thinking about goin out with me again. The same day before she told me that, a girl came over and ummm... she jerked me off and I just touched her 2 parts but over her clothes. After the girl left I didnt even like how I felt afterwards. I felt weird every time I kissed her.

-So u think this is cheating ? Even though I'm still talking to my ex I was getting physical with someone else even though me and my ex don't go out anymore but still talking and most likely going to go back out ?

-You think I felt weird after kissing her because I didn't like how she kissed or because my feelings for my ex ?

Tell me what you think ?

It's not cheating since you aren't dating. You broke up, it would be different it were one of those "breaks" You aren't with your ex so it's okay.

You probably felt weird about it because you felt guilty or that you wanted to kiss your ex. If you have feelings for her, of course you're going to feel weird about kissing someone else. It only feels like cheating because of how close you were and still kinda are.

It's not cheating but I'm sure if she found that out.. she wouldn't like it. So it's best to keep those things in the past. Especially if you want to get back with her. It might not be the good thing to do.. but just don't bring it up. you probably know she wouldn't go out with you again.

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people say different things about the shampoo mayne and tail
does it actually make your hair grow?
is it bad for your hair like give you split ends?

It works really great. People don't like it or notice the effects of every other day use. It thickens your hair, it's full of protein and it makes your hair extremely healthy.. since it was made for actual horses. you can see and feel the difference in a month. if you already have split ends, get it cut. the conditioner is great too. it doesn't make your hair grow exactly. nothing does! it just makes it a lot more healthy so it could grow. if you use that.. get a vitamin bottle called biotin. my hair was damaged and up to my chin last year.. and by the next year.. my hair was to my shoulders... it doesn't give you split ends, just ...your hair is a lot healthier and it grows a bit more each month. :]

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does having sex hurt?
and how much does it bleed the firt time you have it?

oh and does it hurt to be fingered

It depends since it's different for everyone. I don't think it's wise to jump into sex if you haven't been fingered. You need to be wet so fingering doesn't hurt and he should have his nails trimmed, and use only one finger then move up to 2, 3 in time.

my first time didn't hurt. i didn't bleed either. so it really depends how much you were fingered or how tight you are. whether you broke your hymen before or not. just take your time. be relaxed and it shouldn't feel like somebody's splitting you apart.

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I'm getting my haircut soon. I want to get my eyebrows done as well. I want to get it done on a school night, so my hair is done for the next day. Would it be a bad idea to get my eyebrows waxed for the first time when I have school the next day? I've tweezed them before, but never waxed. I just don't want them to be all red the next day at school.
Thanks.

It won't stay red until the next day. I've only gotten one eyebrow waxing and it was only red for an hour or so. It goes away pretty quick.

I even took a picture after I got it done. Since it looked pretty good haha.

http://i11.tinypic.com/8722io9.jpg

So yeah no redness!

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do you think it is okay for a freshmen and a senior to go out if theres only a 2 year age difference?

Possibly but those relationships usually don't work so easily. You have to consider the thought that the senior would be leaving soon to college. Since that's a huge step in life.. most want to experiment or freely date others. A freshmen has ways to go to get up to be a senior.

But if that situation doesn't bother you, then the age difference is okay.

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I know you girls love guys and...

I know their has been this myth going around that asian guys can't get white girls..which is not true,since I'm asian and have a white gf,but I want to know what you girls think

Question1: Would you date an asian guy? considering he has good looks and personality

Question2:Have you ever liked an asian guy?

Question3:Would you marry an asian guy?

Question4:Where does the asian guy stand among the whites,latinos and blacks?Your preference?
Example:Black>White>etc.etc

thank you

i would date an asian guy. it hasn't happened though because none of them over here seem to consider the thought of going out with white girls, you know?

I think asian guys are no different from any other guy. They are just as attractive, maybe even more. I like a guy to stand out though and have a great personality. I've liked some but as i said, they don't consider going out with me.

I don't think I would marry an asian. I mean, if I were single then possibly. But since I'm planning to get married to someone else, no? :P


My preference is mixed. It's not how they look but their personality and attitude. :]

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Just wondering,would girls date or go out with a bald dude? Like completely bald,assuming he has a nice personality and all

p.s:also do you girls like buff guys,thin guys,chubby guys,overweight guys,lean guys or guys with defined muscle(surfer kinda muscle,not too much,just defined)

Every girl's taste is different.

I'm dating a guy who once was bald for about 4 or 5 months early into our relationship. I think bald guys are attractive just like any other guy. Your eyes usually stand out more. And I love eyes that grab attention.

Every girl wants their guy to be healthy. Whether they are chubby or look like a stick with a high metabolism.

personally, I don't like buff guys. they usually don't realize how strong they are and i've gotten hurt by playful punches [big bruises] and hugs because their arms knocked into my chin/head. I've dated people with different sizes and it doesn't really matter as long as they are healthy and eating right. personality matters most.

you could work out a little but if you find the right girl, she would like you for your personality and body the way it is. :]

so every girl is different. they would like you for your personality first anyway. it's not like you are walking down the street with no shirt on. maybe i don't know haha.

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If I have a big oval shaped head, poofy hair but getting a little bald at the front, is it a good idea to get side bangs?

If not, what style would look probably the most decent?

Basically any style works with the oval shape. I've rocked different bangs. Blunt straight across, side bangs and razor cuts. You can try side bangs and see if you like it. If you don't, go for the straight across just at your eyebrows.

Since your face is well proportional. You don't need heavy bangs because that might add weight to your face.

http://www.visual-makeover.com/images/celebs/heather.jpg

You just need to avoid short layers that add height to your head. It will only make your face appear longer. So if you want a new hair style, go for long layers. Maybe face framing layers starting near the chin.

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16/f
i really want an emerald green since ive got red hair but im afraid my eyes will be popping out since ive got really dark eyes. what would be the best color to get if i have dark brown eyes?

My friend has dark brown eyes and the green does pop but not much. In my opinion, i think blue pops out a lot more than green. I'm sure a stranger will mistake green as your natural color since you have red hair.

If you don't want to go for green, try a lighter brown or hazel.

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heyy! i was just wondering if anyone has ever used nair and if it works? because i shave my legs but it usually leaves red bumps...and i definitely dont want to wax!!! too painful!! but anyways if anyone could fill me in taht would be great!! thanks!!

When shaving with a razor, try to avoid shaving twice in a week. Trying to shave stubble will make things worse and make sure you don't press too hard on the razor. You have to be .. uber gentle. But sometimes it's just not that easy.

So that's why we get nair that's for 3 minutes. The original one was made for 10 minutes, but no one wants to wait. Haha It really works well. You have to do a test though because it may irritate your skin. There's a raspberry nair and I got a bad reaction to that. So test the products out. It makes your legs really smooth when you wipe it off with a warm-hot washcloth.

It may tickle or burn though. It seems to burn for everyone even if they aren't allergic to it, so you have to tough it out.

It's not bad on your legs but on your upperlip, the amount of time given seems to be too much and your upperlip would look like you nearly rubbed it raw. So just leave it on your legs or armpits.

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