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I am a very emotional person, and moreso, I am a teenage girl. In my past relationships, I was left heartbroken and abandoned, cheated and lied to, promised so many things that were never fulfilled. I know this will be a long question, but hear me out.
My first boyfriend was fake. I was a freshman, and he was a sophomore. I met him at church one night and thought he was the most amazing person. However, I quickly learned he wasn't who I thought he was. He manipulated me, used me, and brought me to the point where I ran away from home for him. He pretended everything in our relationship, constantly on and off, always using me for his needs and not caring about mine. I finally broke it off for good with him.
My second boyfriend was my friend at first, and he was the same as my first. He was fake. Never kissed me, never touched me, and always talked shit about me. He faked the whole thing. It hurt, but I moved on quick.
My third boyfriend was my best friend at first. I liked him a lot because I could talk to him openly. We eventually went out for about three months, but he was very overbearing, obnoxious, and pressuring. He would always pressure me to show him my boobs. I was hurt and then thought he loved me and accepted me for me, but then he was a coward and broke up with me with a lie, saying his dad hated me. I've never even met his dad... But later found out he broke up with me because I was negative.
My current boyfriend is probably the best thing that has ever happened to me. We had a lot of hardships before we got together. I've known him since I was a freshman. Our friendship started on Facebook mostly. He would always cheer me up, and we started texting each other over the summer. I quickly fell for him, but I was so scared to tell him, so I was stupid and dated another guy. That relationship lasted three weeks, because I broke up with the other guy because I was in love with my current boyfriend. It was hard for him to forgive me afterwards, but we worked it out. He then decided to date a girl that lived by him while I was on vacation, and he called me, telling me, and I cried, telling him I was madly in love with him and I only want him and he can't date her. He earned my trust back, and we've been dating for about five months now. He is everything I have wanted in a guy. He is so patient with my insecurities, my negativity, and my sensitivity. He makes me laugh and makes me feel loved. He never yells and goes out of his way and spends every moment with me. He is so thoughtful, funny, and witty. I fell so hard for his charm and I continue to. I sometimes think I don't deserve him, but he treats me like gold. I can be my true self around him, not afraid of revealing my secrets or goals. He embraces the things I like, and he even got into a few bands I love, and he bought their merch t-shirts and such at the mall. It made me really happy. He never gives up on me when I get insecure. He sticks with me no matter what, and he never ever pressures me to do anything I don't want to. I just feel so comfortable and beautiful around him. I can't believe I found this amazing person who truly loves me for me.
I cried just a few moments ago, because I love this person so much and I'm so glad that I have him because I don't know what I'd do. I see him in my future and in my dreams and in everything I do. Is it normal to get very emotional and tear up when thinking of how lucky I am to be with him? (link)
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It's perfectly normal :) you finally found that person that treats you well and makes you happy! you totally deserve somebody amazing after having to deal with all those other jerks. keep this guy close, and if you ever disagree, remember why he's so important to you. good luck with everything :)
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Hi!:) im 13 and i feel like dying(even though i seem very happy in this article XD)... ok first off, his name is andrew and his in every one of my classes(how ironic). he's pretty nice to eveyone, or thats at leat what i thought. at the begining of the year, i sat next to him in homeroom, he found out i liked him so he talked to me and was nice to me. Soon he became my friend. i would call him if i forgot homework, get a ride home if my parents forgot. but soon to my surprise, he actuly hated my guts! one of my friends asked him if he liked me just as a friend, and he said not at all. So, of corse i got upset, but soon after that, he was my friend again. So i trusted him and just thought he felt bad. but he made fun of me and hated me again:(. then he was nice to me. this happened like, 5 times! Part of me still likes him and wants to be friends but the other part wants me to get over it, hate him, and never talk about it again! which side do i choose?
p.s: he makes fun of me when his friends are around so i think he may be doing that 4 attention or somthing. (link)
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You are too good for this guy! He's just a jerk and he's probably not going to change. Especially if he's making fun of you around his friends. Girl, you do not need a guy that would treat like that for attention. You should go out and find a guy that won't waste your time and make you sad.
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How to tell her over the phone that i have feelings for her,but im shy to visit her how do i get over my shyness and stuttering, (link)
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I know you're shy but it would probably be best to tell the girl face to face. It shows that you care enough about to her to courage to say something like even if you don't know how she feels. Most girls can recognize that it does take a lot of courage. When you're telling her, keep eye contact, don't think too hard about it (which might help with the shyness and stuttering) when you tell her that you have feelings for her. Congratulations for having the courage to do something like that. Good luck with everything :)
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My boyfriend told me I'm his soul mate and that he considers me tied with his family as a first priority. He even told me he would never get rid of me, but said ' i'd get rid of you as a girlfriend but make you something else." I asked what and he refused to answer. Then he finally said wife. I asked him why he didn't say it and he said he was 'scared'. I truly love him. I'm 24/f. He's 25/m. I just want your thoughts, ideas, and opinions. (link)
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One thing you didn't mention was how you feel about him basically saying he wanted to marry you. You say you truly love him, but do you want to marry him? Either way, talk to him about. It sounds like you have a good relationship going. Good luck with everything.
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I just wanna understand how women look at guys and what qualities they look for.
Physical qualities like how they look and how strong/attractive they are. How much does money matter? Do you like guys who are more aggressive or laid back? Do you want a man to be territorial and maybe even jealous over you? Protective?
Do you like guys who are more mature? How much does sex matter? What kind of style do you like in guys? All that kind of stuff.
Everyones different so I like to hear all different answers no matter what age. (link)
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Everybody is different. It depends on the specific girl. Personally, I prefer guys who have a sense a humor, somebody I can hold up long conversations with, somebody who has stuff in common with me yet is still completely different, someone who is as smart as me but not smarter, somebody I can see often, most of the time, somebody who is somewhat attractive, someone who isn't abusive in ANY way, someone who won't force me to do some thing I don't want to do (this is extremely important to a lot of girls), a guy that will show me affection, hang with me in public, deal with my crap on my bad days, mature but at the same time, not too serious, and most importantly a guy that loves me for who I am and treats me well. A few of these are things that most girls look for like the last few. I hope this was helpful.
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Me – 20, rapidly approaching 21 in less than 3 months
Him - 22
I will be approaching my one year anniversary with my boyfriend in April, he is my longest relationship. I have always believed that he is the one, but currently there seems to be something lacking from our relationship. I think that this has to do with the fact that he hasn't been giving me a lot of attention lately, which has upset me.
We met online in November after being broken-hearted over my first love, but I had chosen another guy over him at first. That guy and I broke up after less than two months of dating, that night my boyfriend told me that he still liked me and we started talking a lot more in January. He would call me, we would text, we both enjoyed your talks together.
Back then I was hesitant in getting into another relationship, however I still had the desire to talk to him. We became phone sex buddies, because I wasn't interested in pursuing another relationship since I didn't feel ready for one, I realized that I needed to work on building my life quite a bit more.
Finally we met in March, it took awhile for us to meet for various reasons, one of them being that he lives out of state from me. After our first meeting, we decided to meet again, he also decided that he wanted to come down to celebrate my 20th birthday with me.
There was a bit of drama with my first love at first, who I started talking to again around the same time as my boyfriend. He had admitted to still being in love with me, that I was his first love and had wanted me. I decided to choose my boyfriend over my first love because even though I still had feelings for my first love, I liked my boyfriend a lot and I didn't want to hurt him again like I had in the past.
Fast forward to where we are now, we're in love and discussing a future together. However I feel like I'm not getting as much attention as he used to give me, hence what's lacking from our relationship, he no longer calls me every day. The last time that we hung out, we had sex a bunch of times, and watched Conan together. I was spending the night at his house, and at first he had wanted to fall asleep with me, but he had decided to play his new Star Wars MMO for a little bit first. He lost track of time, something that he shares in common with me, and ended up playing 3:00.
I do somewhat feel like his video games preside over me sometimes, I do not mind him playing his video games. I do mind after I hadn't seen him in over a month, because of the holidays, and he's playing World of Warcraft for hours which he had warned me about. He's in a guild that's very “strict” and he had told me that he may have to play, and he ended up having to play from 7:00 until 11:00. And when he would rather play a video game than fall asleep with me.
Since I feel so deprived of attention, I feel like my only option might be to start distancing myself from him and end up breaking up with him. I have always said that before you start distancing yourself from someone, you should break up with them. This isn't something that I want to do though, I really do love the relationship that we built together. After saying that and emailing him about how I felt, explaining how I want more attention and I assume that it's because I'm needy, I felt really bad afterwards.
I don't want to break up with him, and I don't want him to change anything about himself. I don't want to give him the ultimatum of it being either his video games or me, I just want more attention from my boyfriend.
Note - I wouldn't mind so much if we lived together and he played his video games rather than spent time with me, as long as we spent some time together. Sometimes I get in the mood where I really don't want to talk to anyone, and him playing his video games while I do something else really wouldn't be an issue. (link)
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You should talk to him about it. He might not realize that you feel this way. A lot of times when relationships aren't working out, it's because of lack of communication between people. Other then that, there isn't much else that you can do. Good luck with your relationship
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i have been cutting myself for a really long time and i wan tto stop i tried but i cant i just have to itz like an addiction i have been cutting myself for about 8-9 monthz (link)
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I did the same thing. I started cutting out of depression and I ended up being addicted to it. The thing that helped the most was talking to my friends about it. I even found that a few of my friends were in a similar situation. We talked about it together and it really helped. You could talk to your parents about getting a therapist. If you don't feel like you can do that with anybody else, then leave in my inbox; I'd be happy to help. Cutting isn't healthy and you could really end up hurting or killing yourself. If you feel suicidal at ANY time, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You'll be in my prayers and good luck :)
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I like this girl. We have been friends for two years now and we are in 12th grade. I dont know if she likes me or not. My name is Josh, but she recently started calling me Jojo. Its kind of irritating to me, but nicknames are supposed to be affectionate expressions.
I told her I dont like it when she calls me that but she says she likes calling me that, and I like her, so I just let her do it. Would a girl give a guy that she liked a nickname? And if not why give me a nickname at all?
I dont get it. Any advice? (link)
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Being a high school girl myself, I generally only give guys nicknames if I'm messing around with them (if we're friends) or if I like them. Most of the time, it's both. In your case, it could go either way. Just pay attention to the way she acts around you. Girls are really hard to understand especially with stuff like this mostly because they're not always sure of it themselves. If you have more questions about girls and our weird ways of life, feel free to leave a message in my inbox and I'd be happy to help as much as I can. I hope this was helpful :)
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im a freshman girl there is this junior boy in my art class! he is from sweden(he speaks english well though)!!!!!! i really like him but ive only talked to him 5 times i would talk to him more but hes so intimidating! that and he sits on the other side of the room so he is looking at the back of my head and i cant see him at all ! he only here till the end of the year! i really want something to happen but im to scared to talk to him or hes bussy listening to music etc! i dk if he stares at me but every time i smile he eather just looks at me ignores me or smi-smiles he accepted my facebook request but he doesnt get on that much :( what should i doooo! (link)
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Most people would say that you shouldn't bother at all because first he's older than you and second you already know he's leaving at the end of the year. But I know that that doesn't always matter so if you really want something to happen, then try talking to him more. You said he's intimidating. Just remember what draws you to him in the first and use that to make yourself more comfortable with talking to him. Before people get into relationships that last, they have to be close and comfortable with each other or it'll all just be awkward. If something does happen between you two, just keep mind that a long distance relationship probably won't work. I hope this was helpful and good luck :)
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My friend cuts herself.She did a couple of years ago too,but stopped.She has started again.I noticed today in math on her wrist she had about 10 tiny slits.I asked her what happened,but she said her cat attacked her,but she looked and answered nervous.What should I do? (link)
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Talk to your friend about it. I used to do the same thing as your friend and what I needed most is support from my friends. Most likely, she wants somebody to talk to and she needs a friend that she can rely on. Be that friend, and try and help her through it. That was one thing that my friends never did and it was the reason why it was hard for me to stop. If it gets out of hand and she gets suicidal, definitely get her some help. Just don't leave her because you're scared. You and you're friend with be in my prayers. Good Luck.
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Ok so you know how every unpopular girl envies the popular people?well, I'm one of those envy people and I'm getting tired of just standing off to the side,watching the popular kids walk by like "hey i just got home from a French photoshoot" or something. So here are my bad sides:acne,bags under eyes,dark circles around eyes (i look like a racoon), and i have scars all over my body. :( so yeah... if you are a nice popular person, please help me! (link)
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All of those are some of my bad sides too. I've tried make up and various acne stuff (find what works best for you) and you just be comfortable with your scars because there's not too much you can do except some minor scar cream (it kind of helps). Just keep in mind that those aren't the things that make you popular. If you're friendly and helpful to others, it easier to make friends. I'm not sure if it's like this at your school, but at the high school I go to, the "popular" crowd are some of the most hated people and most everybody else has their share of friends. It really depends on your definition of popular. To some people, being popular is being super pretty, having the hottest bf, and treating anyone else not like you horribly. Is this how you want to be viewed? On the other hand, being popular could mean having true friends who care about you and being comfortable about yourself. In this case, I could be considered popular, and it's not bad. If this how you want to be, the tips above should help. Good luck :)
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My bff is moving away how am i supposed to cope with her leaving me FOREVER?! We were bffs since 3rd grade or something. And now it's 6th grade and she is leaving the summer before 7th grade! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! :( (link)
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I know exactly what you're going through. My best friend moved away after 4 years of us being friends. She ended up moving back and now (5 years later), she's in boarding school on the other side of the country. Best friends moving aren't easy, but it's also a test of how strong your friendship is. Enjoy the rest of the time you have left. Depending on how far she's moving, you both could plan visits and stuff. You should continue contact with her, but don't expect to much. After she leaves, you both will always have those years where were bffs, but the current friendship won't be as much because you both will have to move on. It'll hurt a lot, but hold on to those memories and try and find some other friends. It's the best thing to do in a situation like that. I hope this was helpful and good luck :)
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This person makes me feel like he likes me but I'm confused because I'm not sure if he likes me or does he act this way because of our closeness.
I have this guy friend. We're very close but we often fight.
He's very sweet, biased, and thoughtful when it comes to me.
I think he likes me because..
1. He likes playing with my hair and writing things on my back using his finger.
2. He overreacts when I get mad at him.
3. He randomly hugs me.
Wait but there are more. :(
There are times when I tease my friend about being in a relationship with him and he goes like... I'll rather date (my name).
He really likes playing with my hair he also likes drawing at my back when there are classes. The teachers even caught him.
When my friends tease us he doesn't react.
He says a lot of sweet stuffs and when we play games he always choses me. Like who would you give your most special treasure? ...
He makes sure he talks to me and he gets mad when I don't talk to him.
He gets emo when I don't talk to him. It's like his mood changes.
He also randomly hugs me and there was a time I hugged him and he wanted me to hug him again.
Our eyes usually meet and there are a lot of times I think he is looking at me.
I'm really confused. Does he like me or are we just really close? :(
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I was in a situation like this a few years ago. It's actually how I ended up with my first bf. Then, I realized that I did only like him as a good friend and our closeness. When people are friendships like this, it's hard to tell where the friendship ends and more begins. It can go either way. If it's really bothering you about knowing, just bring it up casually and see he reacts. Just remember that if you end in a relationship with him and you break up, it puts your friendship in a VERY awkward stage that might not ever recover. Good luck :)
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OK so I still have my first amazing boyfriend but the other guy still has been saying he wants to kiss me and so on. I try to explain to the other guy that I already have a boyfriend and I love him so much. Im 12, and my boyfriend is 12. The other guy is 13. So i absolutly love my boyfriend and would do anything for him. Im kinda falling in love with this other guy too who says he wants to kiss me desperatly. We were playing truth the other day and he asked 'Which would u do if I kissed you? A.kiss back B.push away C.slap me D.hate me' I wasnt remembering the fact that I already have a boyfriend and told him A. I didnt know what to do. Then last night, i asked him 'which would u rate me? A.blehh B.cute C.hot D.sexy E.beyond' He answered with B and C. And I couldnt speak, I was amazed. I need help though because I like both my boyfriend and this guy almost equally and the desision is killing me. My boyfriends sister asked me the other day 'Do you even like my brother or are you getting paid to date him?' I really do like him but I like this other guy too. Please HELP!! (link)
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I know it'll be hard, but you need to decide between the two. It's not fair to either guy to lead them on. If you pick your bf, then you should probably break things off with the other guy. If you pick the other guy, then you should talk to your bf and try to let him off nicely. I hope this was helpful and good luck :)
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Thanks a lot.. i saw him today, i just got home and jumped online to write you.
We were in a restaurant with my sister, his friend, and my sisters boyfriend, so my sister and her boyfriend get up to go get something and he sits next to me, and he does the whole "can i get your hand gesture" idk how to explain it.. so i got all nervous, like I dont know what i was suppposed to do!!! tell him no? that wud be just soooo akward!! :S so then he started intermingling our fingers together and stuff, in a passionate way, and since we have the whole "were married " joking thing he kept caling me his wife as a joke and stuff, but i dont know... i tried being sneaky and asked him if he still talks to his ex and he told me he still does just not much, like once or twice every week or so.. which was a lie im guessing =/ like i dont know what to do.. i cant just say no to him that wud be so akward :s and i dont want to hold his hand if hes not boyfriend! =/ i get that ofcourse he still cares for his ex and all thats just normal they were together for 2 years, and grew up together.. but what am i to him? and i cant ask him. its not like that between us yet =/ so what do i do? sorry if this is long!! (link)
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Sorry it took me so long to answer. If you don't feel comfortable with anything he does or says because you aren't dating, then all you do is kinda pull away. I know it might be weird, but it's important that you don't let him control you like that. Even if he thinks it's okay and he's not doing anything weird. If he asks you what's wrong, just tell him that you don't feel comfortable with it, and if he's a good person, he'll back off. That's another way to tell good character which is important. If you a tell a guy that you're uncomfortable with something, they'll either back off (like a respectable guy) or they'll bother you (and then you can tell you're too good for the guy). This isn't just for this situation; it can work for any relationship, so just try to remember this. Other than that, there's not much else you can do except keep me updated. Good luck :)
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My boyfriend is 30 and I'm 23. We've been dating for almost 3 years now and have been living with each other for a year. In the beginning of our relationship we would have sex all the time. Usually 1-2 times a day. Now we have sex maybe once a week, if that, and I'm the one who initiates it. Just recently he started turning me down more and more. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. He's making me feel unloved & unattractive. Is there a way to increase his sex drive? I don't want to have to beg him for sex... (link)
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It might not be a problem with you. Have you noticed if he's been depressed or distracted lately? That might be the problem. I would try to talk to him about it. There might be some things that's going on and you might be able to help him.
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How do i get over cleaning? I do it so much. Fucking help me. (link)
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Maybe you could try finding something else (like a hobby) to do when you feel the urge to clean.
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what are some things that girls do to show that they want you without saying it? (link)
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Some girls won't show any signs. It's just a girl thing. If they look at you a lot and talk to you often. Watch the girl whenever you talk to her. There are bunch of different signals a girl gives when she talks to you. Some of those are smiling at you a lot, flirting with you, making an effort in conversations, etc. Also, try looking at the website below for other information.
http://www.sosuave.com/halloffame/hall341.htm
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how do i get a man back that i love so much but family keeps breaking us apart and making my depressed and hurt what should i do (link)
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Since I don't know how family breaks you apart, I think the best thing to do is trying to talk to them. You should explain to them what they're doing (if it's unintentional) and tell them that you love the man. Communication is really important in this because both relationships seem important to you. I really hope this will you and good luck :)
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i love her but she seems not to be intrested (link)
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There isn't enough information for any specific advice, but I'll try to help. First off, if she's already in a relationship, you would just move on and forget about her. But if she is single and isn't the kind of person to toy with other people's feelings, then you should try to talk to her and spend time with her. I hope this was helpful and good luck with the girl :)
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